Relationship Escalator

First -- it's a man, not a male. It's cringe to talk about women as "females" or about men as "males", don't do that. But secondly -- you have more agency than this. You say that ***"I feel it will m…

The first two points are big red flags for me now too! The third isn't a big deal, because I like to take things slow, but I'm also not trying to get on the relationship escalator. 4 & 5 are not gre…

Im ambiamorous, I can do either non monogamy or monogamy, they are the same thing in my head the rules are just different and I abide by whatever the relationship model is. I am dissatisfied with l…

You mirror a lot of my thoughts on the matter. I've been thinking for a long time that probably a lot of "avoidants" (either self-labeled or not) are just very naturally independent people, who are at…

So … why are you with this person? No sunken cost arguments allowed, or “We’ve been together so long”. If you met them today, would you even be friends, much less grow into a relationship? Because I’…

I think it might be your ego?  My last partner was CRAZY intelligent. And that's the main thing that initially got me interested. He was also hesitant to go too fast due to a nasty divorce.  I app…

Check out /r/polyamory. But ethical non monogamy is the relationship structure youre looking for. More specifically solo polyamory if you're not interested in standard relationship escalator esque pri…

You're probably right about this guy wanting something casual given having a primary partner and his current time commitments, but I do want to point out that less frequent contact partners in the ENM…

The first two chapters of this post are okay, but this sounds like something that can easily go overboard in the other unhealthy direction: >I want consistency and the relationship to be moving forwa…

Slow your roll? Psychologists are pretty clear that waiting a year to introduce your kids to the person you are dating is the way to go. Let me underline ‘introduce’. That does not mean integrating yo…

There are lots of options. Casual committed (no relationship escalator), Monogamous fwb, Fwb with rules etc.. Eg below. Communication, consistency and predictably are hardest things to get IMO.…

Exactly what I came to suggest. Plenty of people want sex without climbing the relationship escalator. Best way to find them is a profile that’s charming but clear. Good photos, a recent STI test an…