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No, but it would probably be best to stay out of online dating apps for financial reasons. And bc they are quite shallow...So shallow in fact that even women like my friends who have everything in ord…

Best tool for getting my brand more exposure on Streaming TV apps — Hello. I am in charge of digital marketing for relatively small e-commerce company. The owner would like more presence on streaming media, possibly Roku TV content and Maybe Paramount plus and peacock…

Where to get started — Hello, I’m a long time admirer of this form. I’m a “junior devops engineer” in the financial field that was a previous mid-level, sulfur engineer, I’ve been doing so-called devops work for about a yea…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote — Hey all, I'm working on a B2B SaaS platform targeting a specific form of fraud that's draining revenue from e-commerce and logistics companies. It's a blind spot for many, but the financial impact is…

What concerns, besides price, would you have as a home owner if offered window cleaning services? — I'm just starting out and the only experience I have getting new customers for thos kind of bussiness is by neighbour's walking up and asking for a quote. I'd give a quote and 90% of the time they'd …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

How am I supposed to deal with the "ick" without leading a person on? — I don't get emotionally attached easily, so the early stage of dating is often a long game for me where the other person is trying their best to win me over, and I'm trying to be a good sport and go t…

42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …

Shame has dictated my entire life for 41 years — And I didn't know it until now. It was the silent background noise, the "I'm not good enough," "Don't do that or you'll fail!" "Look how stupid you are, you can't do anything right," "Don't notice m…

Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it) — **DISCLAIMER:** Only do this if you are physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically separated and safe from a narcissist. The following will probably not be applicable if you have to mai…

The feeling of spring. — This may or may not be related to the sub, but I have felt that the energy/essence of spring and summer came a little too early this year. It was around late February/early March when this feeling cam…

Rant about Asian American access to education in NYC — This is specifically about NYC schooling so YMMV and may not be applicable anywhere. But for context, NYC has these "elite" specialized high schools were Asian Americans disproportionately make up the…

Why do most victims survive the harm, while perpetrators can’t cope with a slither of accountability? — Victims live with the pain. The fear. The long-term fallout. Not being believed. No justice, or having to fight for it. Being made the aggressor through DARVO. The loss of safety. The way it rewires y…

Does anyone else find that exposure therapy and putting yourself in social situations literally fries your brain instead of making you stronger? — People often say things like "just work for a month and it'll get easier," "don't give in to your avoidance," "go where it scares you." I really tried to follow this advice, and it didn't get easier.…

What's an anxiety hack that has changed your life? — okay 11 years of anxiety. here's what actually works for me. no bs. the biggest thing first I named my anxiety. we call it Lisa. when my brain spirals I literally say "Lisa stop, none of this makes …

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

Asians in Sci-fi — Besides Bruce Lee and Kung-Fu movies, Hikaru Sulu (Played by George Takei) was my ONLY exposure to Asians in media as a kid. (I'm Gen X/Millenial) He actually didn't even have a 1st name in the show f…

Has anybody here got crushed that their dreams didn’t work out and it finally worked out in ways you didn’t imagine? — I had a dream since school to have an experience of doing my masters in the UK or Europe mainly for two reasons - the exposure and the pure joy of having an experience of living there on my own terms …

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

Case 3: A shift in Perspective — **Background Info:** [Nature of Dreams & the abilities therein](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1s5zpt7/the_nature_of_dreams_the_abilities_therein/) **Case 3: A shift in Perspective*…

Why are koreans so class/status conscious? — \*\* here, 'koreans' mean korean-koreans or first gen korean immigrants, not korean americans who tend to be more chill in my experience. I'm a first gen immigrant. I'm posting it here in a hope to ge…

32 years old, 4.5 years into the healing journey I've literally JUST realized I was sheltered — I can't believe this has only just hit me. I'm 32 years of age. THIRTY-TWO! It's literally just in the past hour hit me that I was extremely sheltered growing up and it's lead to me lacking the skills…

Im sick of this shit — For some context, im 17, male, i have a stutter, genetic, but triggered by anxiety, i can speak normal when no one is around. Walked in to school to take an exam and leave, out of nowhere my hands st…

I 20m love her 19f and feel peace with her, but I’m unsure if I’m ready for this life or holding myself back from a version of life I haven’t lived yet. met 2024 oct — I’m really stuck and I’m trying to explain everything as honestly as I can because I genuinely don’t understand what’s going on with me anymore. I’m 20, and my past has a big role in all of this. I wa…

Avoiding Your Real Work Is Costing You More Than You Think — # Avoiding Your Real Work: The Hidden Cost of Staying Busy Without Progress ***“I’ve been noticing this pattern in myself lately and wanted to share it here because I’m curious if others deal with th…

Welcome! Read Me First. — # Welcome to r/Stoicism. This community exists for serious discussion of Stoic philosophy. It is not a forum for general self-help, motivation, validation, or professional therapy. It is also not a p…

Meditation with OCD — I wanted to share something about my experience with OCD and meditation, because I feel like it is often portrayed in a very one-sided way A lot of people talk about meditation as something calming a…

Where Did you Go to Find Your Therapist? — I am a very experienced clinical psychologist with a PhD from a very strong university. I have recently left an agency where I was pressured to do unethical things (for example: record things in the m…

Parents completely oblivious to how dysfunctional and harmful our relationship is — Sorry in advance for the long post. My latest family drama started at the beginning of this week when I noticed my mother's chronic cough had gotten worse and sounded different and my mother casually …

It's OK to be alone — I just wanted to say that I'm glad that this sub exists. I wanted to share how there are many people with what I'm thinking are N traits based on how they respond or react in some other subs and it ma…

My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it? — I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years, and for most of that time, he has been clean-shaven. Recently, he decided he wants to try growing out a mustache "for a little while." The problem is not…

How do your Lucid Dreams Feel? — For reference,today i think i had my **first** “long” lucid dream(basically longer than 10s)and i had one question since morning Is it a real lucid dream? It felt foggy,the colors were off and throu…

Feeling empty and numb — Hey everyone, I’m going through a really heavy time right now and I feel like I’m stuck in a mix of survival mode, dissociation, and burnout. I’ve been dealing with numbness, a heavy chest, and just …

Feeling empty and numb — Hey everyone, I’m going through a really heavy time right now and I feel like I’m stuck in a mix of survival mode, dissociation, and burnout. I’ve been dealing with numbness, a heavy chest, and just …

Feeling empty and numb — Hey everyone, I’m going through a really heavy time right now and I feel like I’m stuck in a mix of survival mode, dissociation, and burnout. I’ve been dealing with numbness, a heavy chest, and just …

Inappropriate exposure — So, my parents didnt have loving relationship. They didn't seem close or enjoy each other's company. The only act of love was when my my father would grope my mother. In my presence. Never a kiss or h…

Idk what to do. Pls help — ​ I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because…

I'm stuck, dont know what to do. Pls help — I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because deep down…

I'm stuck, dont know what to do. Extremely anxious.Pls help — ​ I’m 25 and feel deeply stuck in life. My biggest issues are shame, avoidance, overthinking, emotional overwhelm, fear judgment, and a long-term pattern of not really building a life because…

I'm really confused regarding my career — hello, currently I'm feeling really stuck regarding my career, I should prepare for govt. job or join private job, on one hand in private job the culture and exposure attracts me... on the other hand …

Cheek Fat Permanent? — At 19, I’m currently navigating a fat-loss cut while trying to figure out why my face isn’t reflecting the work I’m putting in. If you’re wondering whether cheek fat naturally disappears as you age, t…

any luck with imaginal exposure therapy? — i'm currently struggling i'm on week 3 of doing imaginal exposure therapy where i have to go in depth about what happened to me and listen to it for 30 minutes a day. i have only listened for 17 minut…

i think i was groomed, hes now working where i get therapy, im overwhelmed — a few months ago i was homeless due to fleeing dv and moved into a mental health group home. there was a team lead who acted weird: \- invited me to have frequent private conversations with him when …

27 F, govt job, parents forcing arranged marriage but I don’t feel compatible with anyone they find — what should I do? — Hi everyone, I’m a 27 Year-old working woman with a government job. I’m financially independent enough to take care of myself, but not to the level where I can manage everything (family + personal goa…

How should I (22M) bring up my porn problem to my (21F) girlfriend? Should I at all? — Just a bit of backstory, I already had a problem with porn coming into this relationship. Not necessarily an addiction or a problem so bad that it actually took away from my life, but more so that it …

Mom upset me and my one month old won’t spend Easter with the family — I gave birth one month ago via C-section. I am tired, sore, breastfeeding, haven’t slept a full night in more than a month and the fact I had major surgery in order to give birth doesn’t help. It’s be…

Im lost unsure of what to do next — This is intentionally my burner account. If not applicable to mods, I understand. I'm 35 M. Gay. Jewish heritage & struggling or trying to cope with Nmom & how to "mentally let go" from her fear of …

Not being understood but they think they do - PTSD symptoms — I've been having a really hard time functioning. I don't fully know what's going on because I'm "in it" and that is part of my issue. I suspect "it" is probably just full blown PTSD symptoms causing m…

After three years, I just realized that not everyone with C-PTSD has the same type of hypervigilance. — So without getting too deep into my trauma, to sum it up I was exposed to gun violence and loud, volatile noises growing up. As a result, since my CPTSD developed three years ago I've struggled with h…

Just found this sub, I know I'm a little late commenting. One thing that I think can be added in relation to how emotional neglect can cause PTSD: People think of PTSD as something that is a threat …

If that's how you want to look at it. I quit smoking this year after 15 years. It took constant "affirming" in my mind that I was no longer a smoker. Same with losing a ton of weight. I decided I was …

It can help you by managing your triggers, but it does not mean healing. Years of exposure to emotional turbulence sounds like a disruption to your nervous system, your attachment style. In fearful …

Start focussing on the higher level things. Where something runs isn't where you get your sense of accomplishment it is from the broken thing no longer being broken, or creating something new. I sta…

I’m in a similar situation, little exposure to DevOps in my current job, and I watch content outside working hours. I even considered starting to look into freelance work just to keep improving my kno…

Hey there! I'm Josh, and I'm a **freelance copy and content writer** specializing in writing web copy for US-based SMBs and content such as articles and blog posts. Let me do what I do best--which is …

Honestly? It's mostly up to her to resolve that issue, not on you. But somethings you can do to help is tell her you like when people are being real, it doesn't matter if that's a bit imperfect. I al…

This is a great question. I was in therapy for 10 years and also went to countless coaches and therapists. There are a handful of things that actually helped me significantly: 1. Creating deep, meani…

So I (38M)'ve just been dumped again by someone who picked up on my attachment anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated because I'm pretty far along my healing journey, but not finished yet obviously, an…

That’s such a smart distinction because as anxiously attached we think we aren’t avoiding, but we are. Avoiding the feeling because it feels endless through food, alcohol, romance. When really it’s ac…

I second this! I also loved that book and was able to read it during the pandemic. It was my first exposure to the attachment theory lol and it really helped me gain insights as to how I could determi…

Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…

So relatable! It’s super important here to work on regulating your nervous system. The reason logic fails in these moments is because your body is convinced of a threat, and your logical brain quite l…

What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…

It’s kind of normal to go through this with a lot of mental health treatments. People finally understand themselves and others better, there’s new skills to implement, but the outcomes initially swin…

this isn’t about them it’s about the chemical storm your brain fires when it senses rejection or replacement your body’s not wrong - it’s just conditioned every time you saw “connection” disappea…

Hi! Sure, this is my own healing journey, nothing more, nothing less. Everything here comes from sources that I have listed, I relied on their status in the scientific community and didn't go as far a…

I love that you’re practicing vulnerability on purpose. It’s exposure therapy at the emotional level, and honestly one of the hardest things someone with FA wiring can do. Sharing, staying present wit…

I dont think youre ever truly ready, i think you just need to get out there, get that exposure therapy and work on self regulating yourself when those triggers occur, you can prepare and get better wi…

You don’t need to be arsey or defensive about it. I was just asking what your exposure or experince was with PD’s. As someone who is learning about them I’m sure you’d agree that there is a lot of mis…

Panopticon dynamics lol. Even zoo animals will develop unhealthy behaviors if you don't give them a place to hide sometimes. Constant exposure and being perceived 24/7 is psychological torture. Peop…

This is possibly an unpopular opinion, but what's been helping me a lot is an exposure therapy approach -- doing my best to embrace the discomfort of the situation (in this case, I'm assuming it would…

okay so I actually think I lean more towards anxious preoccupied attachment now… not that ChatGPT is always right but I used it not too long ago when I questioned my attachment style tbh and it made s…

One thing you can do is exposure therapy. Your brain is doing that because it is associating the new person with safety and making you think you can't be safe without them. This likely means that your…

Exposure therapy is going to be key for most people, in my opinion. I have OCD and I learned through treatment that for anyone with anxiety/OCD you have to learn how to tolerate discomfort. Now I don’…

Oh yeah. That's so interesting as exposure is used for OCD and, in a way, anxious attachment is similar (it's not OCD though). One other thing someone said is get a pet as that can help calm down ou…

hmm ive never thought of it as exposure therapy before but that makes sense. challenge accepted then lol

I hear this a lot, and I absolutely agree confidence helps definitely, being miserable doesn’t help anyone be more attractive, but like at the same time social isolation and being treated as not worth…

Most people would suggest trying to find an activity group to join. I attend certain support group meetings and most of the people there are women, I feel absolutely no general anxiety talking to a wo…

This is what I'm dealing with in my relationship. I believe (personally) that love isn't something you exhaust or run out of. I love lots of things and people, and I like to tell the people that I car…

Echoing the online dating thing, I didnt really start dating until my late 20's and that's what it took to get over that hump. That and finding regular out-and-about coed hobbies could be helpful, no…

So basically you've learned that maintaining relationships means losing yourself, and you've realized that's too high a price to pay. And you're right, it is! You deserve to be protected and to feel s…

\^This. This is all it is! Idk if you're using OLD but meeting people through it, you're going in cold...imagine if these women had gotten to know you through repeated exposure in some non-dating cont…

I think, especially as I get older, it really takes more exposure and different environments to feel connected. OLD isn’t super conducive to building that connection because you basically finding comm…

>... you've been on apps full of those people and what is your swipe right rate? What is your match rate? Idk if I'd compare real life to a dating app *designed* to limit men's options and keep their…

Each thing here is linked and addressing one will help you to address the rest. Start with the social stuff. Put yourself out there and work on your social anxiety. Joining a social hobby will be the…

Shower thoughts inspired by a post yesterday. I have been thinking a bit about how daters feel like there is not sexual chemistry if kissing hasn’t happened soon enough. I have kissed on first da…

Three methods I know to work besides therapy(seriously). The first is exposure therapy via asking strangers for the time. Just the time. Take your watch off and hide your phone. "Um...could I get th…

I used to have this problem a few years ago when i was super introverted and had chronic anxiety at 20. But I did a lot of cool exercises/games that built up a skill where I could talk to most beaut…

27-28 landing right on the progressed lunar return tracks perfectly. and taurus sun with scorpio rising is one of those combos where the shift is especially noticeable because the two energies are so …

what are you actually looking for in a relationship? Like what traits of the other person do you need in order to succeed in a healthy LTR? personally I wouldn’t suggest saying to your friend I’m loo…

Currently I cannot, because the exam is nearing, but I have thought about taking up a non clinical job after I give this attempt. Reason is : my med school was peripheral and private, so clinical expo…

Epigenetics is the biological mechanism for genetic divergence. Environments chemically modify gene expression, meaning each twin's body and brain develop differently based on unique experiences, even…

I actually know exactly what this guy means. I do, however, admit that it sounds sus. I’ll explain… I (female) have also only ever had 1 outbreak to date. But I can tell when the virus is active. I w…

Original copy of post by u/Bastard_of_Brunswick: I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I…

Been to therapy, it always ended up in the nasty cycle of anxiety, panic, loneliness, depression, damage to self esteem and confidence, etc. all feeding each other unless the cycle is put to a stop by…

There are a lot of other kinds of therapy besides exposure therapy! If what you’ve done in the past isn’t working, do something different! Go see a new therapist that has a different modality of treat…

There is a lot of finality in your list of three /4. To me, the biggest one is the mental health issues which is two of your bullets. These are quite serious and I have experience dating and marrying …

Like lots of us, the apps probably won’t work for you. Get yourself in a position where you meet people and you won’t be setting yourself up for the rejection that you fear. Do you have Meetup in Aust…

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