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Dating over forty and living separately

I can certainly understand the appeal towards living separately for the reasons that you point out. But ultimately when you look at it, things like "are we concentrating on each other right now" is a…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Ex is back on dating apps looking for a ‘life partner’ 4 weeks after

Ex is back on dating apps looking for a ‘life partner’ 4 weeks after — He (33m) ended our 1,5 years relationship (34f) as he said he can’t commit to anything long term 4 weeks ago. Prior to that he asked me to move in and said how beautiful our kids would be… it was a co…

r/ExNoContactpost3/23/2026
Move to a city to find love ..

Move to a city to find love .. — Hello, I've spent the last few years in a beautiful small city on the Mediterranean. The lifestyle is great, but dating is pretty abysmal; it's mainly students, old people or tourists, and as a queer …

r/datingoverfortypost3/30/2026
Dating someone who was single for a long time

Dating someone who was single for a long time — It's early days, but I'm in a relationship with a promising guy who was purposefully single for a decade. We connect well intellectually, spiritually, physically. I am taking something personally t…

r/datingoverfortypost4/4/2026
Unique Potential Divorce Situation

Unique Potential Divorce Situation — I actually can't believe I am typing this post out. Something I never thought I'd ever do. My wife and I are in what I would think is a very unique situation that I don't think a large percentage of t…

r/Divorcepost4/7/2026
Ending a 1-year relationship: Self sabotage or gut instinct?

I’m going to go against the grain here since most are telling you to reexamine yourself (which, fair, it sounds like he’s a great guy!) but I just can’t see yourself logic-ing your way into “this is m…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation?

You’re being avoidant by staying with this guy that you know isn’t right for you and that you have plenty of justified reasons to break up with. By staying with someone you suspect it won’t work out w…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

This. Caretaking is sometimes a fine place to visit, but you don't want to live there. It was easy for three months because she was new and shiny and, frankly, you weren't expecting much of her. She w…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

So I think I've hit a stage of dating where I no longer am dating in the hopes of finding "the one" or even a life partner. I am still selective and am refining my standards to the height I would like…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/22/2026
I(F28) have to have a tough conversation with my bf(M30), but I’m scared.

My concern with your deadline conversation is that it gives him time to make the easier changes. Buying the ring and proposing, going yeah OK let's have a baby. There's then going to be a backslide wh…

r/relationshipscomment3/8/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 10, 2026

I 100% agree. A lot of this is out of my control. But in order to plan a future (at least for me) i need to feel confident in what my partner does and how driven they are. Career path is kind of huge …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/10/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

I'm in a similar situation, only 5 months actually separated but mostly dead relationship for much, much longer. How did you know you're not ready for a relationship, or what happened when you tried i…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
33f. Divorcing, plenty of love, no infidelity, almost 20 years, just incompatible.

i resonate with you completely. so much love, no infidelity or cheating. but just growing in different directions. met when we were 23 and we're now 32. My wife is also very avoidant and sounds simila…

r/Divorcecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Someone who forces you to compromise for their beliefs/needs/preferences and then refuses to compromise for yours isn’t a life partner. He’s letting you know that it’s always going to be his way or th…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship?

>I found out the full extent of everything that happened that he ghosted me and never responded to my last email Let me know tell you very frankly, given the circumstance, nothing better could have h…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/15/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
my (26f) 4 year relationship coming to an end. when will I find “the one?”

By 2028 you will find your life partner..you past relationship will be a lesson for you

r/vedicastrologycomment3/17/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 17, 2026

Had a dream that I was dating the right man and he hugged me and it felt like my life was complete. My life is fine, but it can feel empty when there's no one to share it with on the deep level of a l…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/18/2026
Are My Expectations Too High?

Date younger. I am very high libido. I got tired of men struggling with ED they don’t address and started dating younger. I am 43 and will go as young as 36. Those men have no issues. I am not wanti…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/18/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

Absolutely I want a life partner. The whole enchilada. Any place online is going to have a gamut of perspectives. There are people here who have never been in a relationship and there are people thri…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

You're not imagining the change. People at our age seem in less of a rush to marry than back 10-20 years ago when we all either wanted kids or had young children. It's not that they don't want a life …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

I want a ltr/life partner. No marriage though and dont fancy living with anyone permanently either.. I cant do casual, it was fine when I was younger but now it doesnt work for me. I tried for the sak…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

I’m looking for a life partner. But at this point, I’m a lot pickier. I would much rather keep dating or be alone than be with a guy who doesn’t improve my life. I think a lot of women this age end up…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

I'm also looking for a life partner. Trying not to lose hope. I don't want to be dating endlessly.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

I'm nearly 42F (also divorced) and I still want a monogamous life partner. But after what I've been through, I don't want to get legally married again, mostly just to protect myself financially. Prenu…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

People of all ages, whether single/divorced/widowed, gay or straight want a life partner. While visiting my Mom at her senior residence, she introduced me to a man and woman who met and coupled up s…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

I feel in mid-40s is difficult. Some of us are still working through trauma within our past relationships resulting in being guarded now. Both parties have to come all in if you want a life partner. W…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Do people eventually want marriage/long-term partnerships, or is it mostly just dating at our age?

I’m looking for love and a life partner. I enjoy life more when I’m sharing experiences with a partner, it’s more fulfilling to me. I think so many of us are on different paths. There are definitely p…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected

It makes me so mad when people say “you’re too picky” As I should be! There are too many things that matter for me to just give someone a “chance”. Sure I’ll give that 5’7 a chance but my non-negotiab…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

That’s a fair point! Definitely want to find my life partner. So hopefully that tracks with the vibe of the profile!

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/24/2026
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical

Divorce is not a simple decision for most, and especially with children so it is perfectly normal to think this through. Donot catastrophise the future about your children. Kids are very resilient a…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/24/2026
How do I F21 fix my relationship with my F21 twin sister after her M22 fiancée SA’d me?

First and foremost iam sorry you are dealing with this. After reading through all the comments I imagine what he probably said to your sister was along the lines of, he got too drunk and thought you w…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically

I think its a mistake to assume the gf you have at 20 will be your life partner. You need to do some living first. Travel. Educate. Be solo for a while. Be with two or three or more other girls ( one …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation

You can't trust her so it's fine to move on. The next betrayal will be worse. D O N ' T. E V E R. T E L L. A N Y B O D Y. E L S E. A B O U T. Y O U R. M O N E Y. E V E R. A G A I …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/27/2026
Burned Haystack: I Break the Rules

> The last thing I want is someone dating me because they’re looking for a caretaker in old age. Interesting. If I'm in love with someone and going through life as we age, I'd WANT to be her caregiv…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/27/2026
I understand getting a divorce is normal and you will finally move on after some time. But its different when it is your turn and you lived more tgan a decade together. Especially when you have to give up the custody of your kids and all the life to begin again at 40, from zero again.

I mean marriage shouldn't be "normal" either but here we are. People get pushed to marry as basically kids with little to no life experience and there is somehow an expectation that in your early twen…

r/Divorcecomment3/30/2026
Move to a city to find love ..

Original copy of post by u/Frequent_Intern_2659: Hello, I've spent the last few years in a beautiful small city on the Mediterranean. The lifestyle is great, but dating is pretty abysmal; it's mainly…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/30/2026
My wife (f38) wants me (m42) to be okay with her going speed dating with friend?

She won't talk about it because she knows her plan is: - inappropriate for a married person, - unfair to her life partner and, - in the eyes of your friends and community makes you look like a cuc…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 29, 2026

I have the same issue with picturing people, and what I try to comfort myself with is how impossible it was to picture any of the men I've recently dated. Like even if it lasted three dates and went t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/30/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026

I totally agree because I’ve been that person in the past, which is why I give the grace but it’s crazy-making being on the other side. If you want to go and be free and have no obligations maybe don’…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/30/2026
Men without children

Omg girl! Of course it’s not too much to connect with kids of a life partner. This is a package deal and any guy worth having should respect that and embrace it. It’s actually less than ideal for me b…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Men without children

Interesting side note. On our first date (we met online) my current partner brought her kids to the dinner. I look back and wonder if it was a way of seeing my reaction. It truly did not bother me. It…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
Would this make sense?

Welcome to the hot girls looking for casual club babe we are so in demand and have our pick. So just be choosy. Demand condoms remember if he doesn’t wanna use them with you he doesn’t use them with o…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
My (M27) Best friend since High School (F26) told me she cheated after we got engaged

Why on earth did she tell you now??? Its just bizarre. And I'll say it once again.... friends are friends to have fun with, relationships aren't for "fun" theyre as a life partner. Americans seem t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
I 24 f got a dm that I think is about my 28 m husband and idk what to do. How can I bring this up to him without sounding accusatory?

This person is trying to sabotage your life. Ignore this garbage. Your husband is your life partner. Don’t let these random messages get in the way of your happiness

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
I 24 f got a dm that I think is about my 28 m husband and idk what to do. How can I bring this up to him without sounding accusatory?

You got two choices. Put stock into some random message from who knows or trust your husband who you trust enough to be your life partner. Give your husband the benefit of the doubt. Don’t trust some …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
My (M27) Best friend since High School (F26) told me she cheated after we got engaged

In theory, there is a difference between forgiving and condoning. In practice, though, the distinction tends not to be respected by offenders. It's hard to respect a man who will accept conduct like h…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
Vegan Men as a Deal-Breaker

Despite being vegetarian for two years and vegan for one, that's definitely a part of my past. Sure, I don't have a problem waiting vegan or vegetarian meals. Heck, some of my favorite recipes are v…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Men: how do you know you want to get serious? What changes for you?

A guy who doesn't already want to get serious in his forties probably isn't going to change. I was dating for a hopeful life partner. As soon as I saw a deal breaker I was out. I expected to see a…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

>I do call him out on his behaviour. Every day. Especially if he criticises the kids. You are making your kids live with a bully. What the hell does it matter you defend them?? They still hear those …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
Where to find the time??

I think our definition of “dating” may be different. I want to genuinely DATE. Go on dates. Meet new people. Have new experiences. Dating is a spectrum not exclusive to finding a life partner.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/3/2026
Dating someone who was single for a long time

Original copy of post by u/One_Net_1282: It's early days, but I'm in a relationship with a promising guy who was purposefully single for a decade. We connect well intellectually, spiritually, physic…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
What to do; My spouse (M43) called me (F34) a c***

She needs to leave her husband because he's an abusive misogynist who is derelict in his parenting duties and has zero respect for someone who is supposed to be his life partner.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026