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Exactly (although I wouldn't say "fear," except in jest). She told him straight up that she doesn't have sex outside a committed relationship. So yeah, "weekend at the lake house" at least has *some…
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…
Starting a startup. (i will not promote) — I have several ideas for applications (social networks), but all the hassle with opening a company and paying taxes to the authorities makes me give up on the idea; I simply don't have the energy for …
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
How does avoidance "feel" in your body? — Been thinking about this one for a bit because I see people frame avoidance as a fear, like you're afraid of love and intimacy . It doesn't always feel like a fear for me? If I were afraid I'd have a …
When is emotional control actually suppression? — In reading Epictetus and Seneca, I’ve been reflecting on how Stoicism distinguishes between emotional mastery and mere suppression. the texts emphasize that destructive emotions, anger, fear, resentm…
Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…
Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…
Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …
Release and Recharge — Going back through Wave 1 right now after a hiatus to prep me for Wave 2. I wasn’t really vibing with Release and Recharge though. Anyone else not like this one? Idk what it is about it, I think I…
Did anyone else find an odd sense of peace when COVID hit and we all had to self isolate? — Small confession: when the pandemic hit and we all had to self isolate, I found an odd sense of.. happiness? You wouldn't believe - (well maybe you guys would) how hard it is to explain my symptoms …
Help clean room’s energy — Hi, I am completely unsure if this is the best place to post this. I am currently working on opening my chakras, energy, thus changing my behaviour and habits. Recently, after becoming a bit higher…
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…
Seeing lizard-like eyes and being healed? — Hi everyone, I recently meditated for about 45 minutes to an hour in the \*very\* early morning a couple days ago (I never meditate that long) after waking up before the sun rose. I was in a supine…
Why keep on livng? — First of all, let me state that I do not have intent to take my life. I do have some ideation thought, but I'm doing therapy and I know will be fine. I just genuinely want to know, why keep on living?…
Creaking and Cracking — # Do you get unusual noises in your vicinity during experiences? **Such as: Creaking, cracking, popping, thudding, snapping, etc.** **These noises occur in synchronistic-timing** with my thoughts an…
I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca. I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…
So Called "Punishment" or "Discipline" My Parents Did To Me — Hello fellow Asian folks, I have been lurking here for very long time, and I want to share with you all about some of my early life. (Trigger Warning) I (17M) did have some of happy moments in my…
My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…
How do you approach talking about sex in a new relationship? — I (23F) have recently started dating someone (25M) for around two months now, and we recently had a conversation explicitly about us being exclusive. Our sexual chemistry is definitely there, but we h…
Broke up with her, need to talk about it — Well, as the title says, she broke up with me two days ago. At first, I didn’t really feel anything, but ever since then it’s been a complete emotional rollercoaster. About a month ago, I was going t…
My nervous system is ruining my life. — I'm 28. I live in a constant state of fight or flight (and sometimes fawn/freeze). I also carry a large amount of shame, which manifests in different ways. My nervous system is incredibly sensitive a…
You are BIGGER than the situation — Hi guys, I wanted to share some tips that helped me manifest a success over the weekend. Lately, I’ve been reading ***Your Faith Is Your Fortune\[1941\]*** from the Neville Collection. >*"****In th…
the veil dropped — So, I am in a new layer of integrating my dimi break through (3 months ago), and the experiences and lessons (hell) I had are revealing themselves to me in new ways, expansive ways, however there is e…
Uncertainty gave me happiness again. — Feel like I've been waiting around the last few years, and I'm not even sure what I'm waiting for. I'm just hoping life will fall on my lap one day. But life is out there, and it's also waiting. T…
How to get over the fear of entities ? — So I’ve been getting pretty deep into AP lately, and I had an experience a while back that I didn’t fully understand at the time, but now it makes a lot more sense. I didn’t put a ton of effort into …
We were together for 9 years, how do I cope? — I (29F) and my ex (28M) broke up about 5 months ago. We have three kids, 7, 5, and 10 months. He cheated on me from day 1 but I didn’t know until baby #2 and then he promised to get help and do better…
What changes did you notice once you started taking actions ? — I’m learning nothing is wrong with me, all I’m doing is just avoiding actions and habit of extreme overthinking which has lead to fear, embrassment feeling to ask someone for help or seeking advice, a…
Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters — [**Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters**](https://youtu.be/aPMjZJDOfis) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/78ywlpbo7zsg1.jpg?width=1604&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bac3d50493e2b7125956…
You have the answers — ​ Hello folks, hope your day is going well! Below i'll post the final chapter to a short work I put together. while out of context it does provide some useful tips on how to be. A dedicated …
Real of fake memory? — I need your help to understand whether I might have had contact with alien beings in the past. Ever since I was a child, I’ve been extremely curious about this topic. My father says I used to constan…
Finally got the motivation to improve myself — I used to drag myself into a deep hole, full of self criticizm and avoidance. Due to a harsh childhood and several health problems and stress in university, I have made myself feel like the problem, w…
A dream that felt like normal life, not a dream” — About 2 years ago I had a dream that felt completely different from normal dreams. There was no fear, no curiosity, no strong emotions. Everything felt completely natural, like normal life. I didn’t…
The method I used to reach the I AM state. — After my previous post, I noticed that many people were curious about the exact method I used to enter the state of I AM. I didn't think going into much detail would be useful at first, since any met…
How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED PART 2 AND 3 - GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESSSS!) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need y…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED **PART 2 AND 3** \- GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESS) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need…
I get immediately anxious around him. — Except for one year, ever since moving out over a decade ago I’ve lived (usually) one thousand miles away from him. He doesn’t visit, namely because I’ve never asked him to and we aren’t close enough…
Tip on how you can report your abuse when you have "easily triggered" parents which makes it difficult to tell secrets to parents? — How to tell someone about abuse safely if you have social anxiety If you have social anxiety, selective mutism, or just find talking about serious stuff terrifying, here’s a step-by-step way to tell …
Breakup advice for me 21M and my gf 20F been together for 1.5 years — Hello everyone, I just found this subreddit because I need some advice. I would greatly appreciate someone's help, as I am currently unsure what to do. For context, I have been with my gf for 1.5 ye…
Starting a carer job where I previously underperformed.How do I deal with fear, overthinking, and hesitation?
What’s wrong with me? — You guys :,((( I’ve been feeling so on the edge lately I feel empty so afraid and confused I have anxiety disorder and gerd and I feel like I’m not progressing to do better I feel like so Alone I don…
F17 I’m confused about my feelings for my best friend M16 after everything that happened — Hi Reddit, I need some advice. I’ve been going back and forth in my head for months and I’m really lost, so I’m just going to lay everything out. I’ve had a male best friend, let’s call him Apple, fo…
Resources for complex trauma as the result of parent with bipolar 2? — Hi everyone/anyone - I've been reading a lot of people's experiences on this sub, I was hoping to share my own, maybe there's someone out there who can relate and help, even in the smallest way. I'm …
Meditation on the present moment and what it means to be a human experiencing the moment — Disclaimer - \*\*Hello and please note, this is my “own” interpretation of the information I received after having meditated and formulating the totality of the information that I had received. If any…
Lucid Dream. Cause and effect — So last night I had this wild lucid dream. I'm on the rooftop of someone else's house, watching a crew build a second floor. They're working for me apparently — I'm sitting up high just watching them …
i was encountered shadow beings.. For me, astral projection was just a bs. until I unintentional left my body during a state of loop paralysis — I never believed in astral travel.. I always avoided the subject because I thought it was just a myth. Over the past year, however, I’ve been experiencing loops of sleep paralysis in one "sleep" in t…
My 30m girlfriend 25F of 5 years just told me about her cheating over a year ago — TLDR I don't know what to do now that I know I've been cheated on. For the last year our relationship has been off, I couldn't figure out what was wrong because nothing on my end had changed and no m…
I went somewhere else and I can’t stop thinking about it. Have you been here? — I never lucid dream. I can recall one other time when I was younger. 2 weeks ago I was sleeping and I began having a common reoccurring nightmare. My teeth were falling out, blood pouring from my mo…
Struggling to Start Therapy Because I’m Embarrassed About the Age Dynamic. — I’ve never been to therapy before, and I’m finally at the point where I know I need to start. But, amongst other deterrents, I keep getting stuck on something... I’m in my late 20s, and for some reas…
NHI encounter and message from astral projection — This recent post (https://www.reddit.com/r/aliens/comments/1s2gjly/does\_anyone\_know\_where\_this\_picture\_came\_from/#lightbox) depicts almost exactly the NHI I met about 3 years ago in the astral.…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
I'm like you. I think for APs a few embarrassing collisions and losses are necessary to wake up to the fact that life can't be lived this way. My parents are both extremely anxious people and my mothe…
The feeling of attraction by the way disappears with fear, and we are all afraid of good relationships. Thats why, since in the past Ive almost always been in avoidant mode, I dont trust my feelings o…
Well my post was more about my experience with learning to take space and regulate myself and focus on myself instead of my previous behaviour of being completely focused on him instead. Security is a…
Honestly? It's mostly up to her to resolve that issue, not on you. But somethings you can do to help is tell her you like when people are being real, it doesn't matter if that's a bit imperfect. I al…
My ex and I have been apart almost four months. I realize now I'm fearful avoidant. When we got together, I actually kind of didn't want to. I had left my last relationship a few years before and felt…
Its very simple but not easy. For starter, you try to find the longest time you can go without losing your mind and ask for reassurance. Then add +30 minutes each time. Do it like how you lift weights…
This is pure bullshit to the tenth power and weak minds will eat this up and wonder why their life is fucked lmao. Thoughts don’t magically bend reality but your beliefs, focus and mindset shape how y…
I’m kind of embarrassed to admit this, but after many years of cbt therapy that didn’t help, lots of journals that had prompts and other attempts, I use copilot (chat gpt) I say “ act like you are a J…
Don't worry, it's a very common response and I've also struggled with that. It's understandable - our nervous systems don't know what safe love feels like, or at least, it's because we did not experie…
u/samsworkinonit You are not alone. We are human. Anyone in your situation would feel the same level of fear, sadness, and emotional heaviness. As a military spouse, I resonate deeply with what you a…
I initiated a breakup almost two months ago, and now my attachment system is in full panic mode. We’re still in light contact and see each other about once a week, and I really want to reconcile but e…
It shouldn't all be guesswork on your side and he should be leaning in and making plans with you as well. You could give him space to do so, and then take that as a "difficult opportunity" to find o…
It's like my whole spirit recoils...the internal "me" screams to get away, and if it's not something I can physically or literally distance myself from -- like an emotion I find uncomfortable, or a si…
You’re thinking of the feeling of panic, but anxiety is a type of fear, too
when i'm alone, i feel immense peace. when im with someone who i don't want to be with, it's either visceral disgust, hyper irritation, and the need to leave. when im not with someone and just thinkin…
Have you ever been evaluated for OCD? I also have AA & hypervigilance and this sounds like it has a bit of an OCD flavor to me. ETA: regardless of the OCD thing, there are a couple of things that hel…
That's very interesting, thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'm curious what else I will find out. I could also imagine that shame plays a significant role in this, particularly the sham…
Rave warning. I’ve been dating someone for the past few weeks, our communication styles and expectations match on word 100%. He seems absolutely wonderful and makes me feel positively safe, and most …
First off… Congrats! Sounds like things are going well and that’s awesome :) I just try to remember that the fear, at least for me, is usually because I have or am starting to develop real feelings f…
I'm perhaps a bit biased because I do have some avoidant tendencies myself that I am working through after growing up the child of an alcoholic, but I agree. If my instinct is to withdraw, it's out of…
For me, the guilt hasn't entirely gone away. I honestly don't know if it ever will but I have found that with practice it's gotten a lot less... weighty. I was bad about this too. I grew up with an …
Everyone is suggesting therapy because a therapist can help you identify where these avoidant tendencies are coming from, how they inform your decision-making, and how you can identify when you're ope…
I’m working on this too. A couple shifts that have helped me: -Realizing that relief isn’t the same as joy. Keeping things in to avoid conflict feels calm in the moment, but it builds distance. -Accep…
the fun is hiding underneath the terror, like roller coaster anxiety. but the more you practice relaxing through the fear, the more you'll notice the fun again.
I tried to do the normal thing of going to talk therapy, working out, eating rights, getting good sleep, socializing etc but was still firmly stuck in thinking about my ex day in and day out. Eventua…
ACIM* A Course in Miracles. It’s a channeled work that dispels illusions about ego, fear, and separation. Have read the full 2000 page manuscript twice and it’s the most impactful thing I’ve ever r…
I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…
>Sometimes my mind slips back into old anxiety and fears It doesn't matter because you have already made your choice, let anxiety just be because it doesn't mean anything unless you decide differentl…
I don't know if I grasp this. I mean letting go is about letting go of the fear, anxiety, lack related to the desire. Being ok with not having it sounds different, it comes with a little of resistance…
In the pop psychology world it does, but not in the clinical world. Avoidants inhibit feelings from consciousness. That is the hallmark of an avoidant attachment strategy. Their brains learnt from a …
You need to be on r/raisedbynarcissists - this level of fear, control and walking on eggshells is not normal for any relationship.
I can't argue any points of your realization as it's my own way of thinking as well. It seems like a life time ago that I realized that as well, although for me it started in 1974 when I was 14, it s…
I wish I had something helpful to share but reading your post feels like looking in a mirror. I’m in a relationship a lot like yours (going on 7 years). I’m afraid I’ve reached my breaking point. I’m …
There’s no way i could possibly type out what’s been happening to me over the last 2 years but ill just say that it’s been A LOT 😂but i am looking hard at Isis and her potential “role” more so than H…
Let's say you see someone else's car getting stolen. You're not personally involved, and you can clearly see what's going on, and what you have to do. Let's then say that instead it is *your* car bei…
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and backstory. It helps a lot to know that others have been through this too. Through yours and other comments I think I'm getting a better understandi…
Thank you so much for responding. Your perspective was really helpful. I've put it in the update. But I'll put it here too: Through yours and other comments I think I'm getting a better understandin…
I would like to clarify, but also draw a connection between two phenomena in this parent child dynamic. I was speaking to both but with the knowledge of the earlier dynamic that occurs during divorce…
For what it's worth, I think the kind of person who goes for it even in the face of the horror stories is exactly the kind of person who should. It means your curiosity and desire to experience and le…
I am so, so sorry you experienced this. It must have been so painful and traumatic. Thank you for sharing, it must have been so hard to open up, even online. I had to give my daughter (@ around a yea…
*Dont want to sound mean but maybe it will I'm sorry* >Part of me thinks I’m doing it because I want closure or confirmation that she moved on. She is not with you anymore, she moved on. That's it.…
I had this shadow demon I called it (but it could have been a shadow person) that tormented my dreams for years, they only stopped when I would show no fear, face them and approach in the dream. I gue…
It gets crazier. If that shook you. The best advice I have for you that has done wonders for me is use the feeling of love towards entities and experiences where u feel anxiety or anger. When these g…
English is my second language, so wording might be bit off sometimes. What I'm noticing in your post is that you're focused on thing you want to manifest, but you're trying to manifest from place of f…
Basically this. When you’re crying and begging, you’re in a bad place and focusing on it. The universe brings you what you focus on. It mirrors you. If you are projecting sadness and fear, it brings y…
I always had trouble falling asleep. I would stay up really late and my parents were okay with it (I’m talking like when I was 6). Around maybe 7, 8 yrs old I very distinctly remember experiencing the…
There are Many World lines to choose from, perhaps even infinitely many, ever branching, again and again . The world that you manifest within you will depend much on where your awareness focuses its …
I struggle with insane body armor. I also have big sleep issues because of this. I have tried a lot of things and I have now realized that it is my body holding on for dear life to stored emotions and…
I’m at about a 4.5 on this scale. Been doing the tapes since 2020 regularly and have never sensed or seen a thing. I’ve felt the vibrations starting years ago but that’s it. I’ve never seen anything w…