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Hm, to me, I would take his stance on your male friends feeling and thinking a certain way toward you as projection of his own thoughts and feelings toward women. If he lacks either the imagination o…

Practicing acceptance while anxiously attached? — Hi all, I don't always see myself as AA, but in one specific friendship, I am definitely anxiously attached. I have felt the same way with former friends, so I definitely know the problem is my attach…

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…

Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach. — I’m 28 and my wife is 26. We’ve been married for 4 years and we have a 1-year-old child together. Before we got married, we had a lot of conversations about values and expectations for the future. On…

Can You Change a Toxic Relationship? - Is this the right place to post this? — Hello, I am a long-time lurker of this sub first time poster. I’m not sure how to even start this post all I can say is I am completely at a loss. I am so afraid to be alone. Actually, I am horrified.…

I'm insensitive. — Me and my ex friend got into a fight after I made a joke about him which he got triggered and while we fought in the group chat my best friend saw it. She dm'ed me and said she doesn't be in a group c…

Any other Women on here whos dad suddenly started hating you as you grew older? — I’m watching a video about toxic fathers, and the daughters they leave behind by Patrick Tahan on YouTube, a lot of you probably know his content And I’m wondering to myself, if I’m the only one who’…

My long distance bf [21M] hid a pretty significant thing from me[21F] for months. — Please help with your (hopefully older and wiser) advice. Context: We are both each other’s first love. My boyfriend has never been serious/exclusive/talking with anyone before me, much less in a rel…

My bf [21M] hid a pretty significant thing from me [21F] for months. — Please help with your (hopefully older and wiser) advice. Context: We are both each other’s first love. My boyfriend has never been serious/exclusive/talking with anyone before me, much less in a rel…

I still miss her. — We dated for about a year and it was simply magic until the end. She was 20 and I was 19. I remember seeing her for the first time at work (they had hired her without me knowing), seeing her for the f…

I don't know what to do. — Hey, I'm 14 and stuck in such a bad spot. I was crying to my mom (My super manipulative mom) about issues I have with my dad never being here for us. She took that situation and my vulnerability as a …

Me 22m and my ex 21F what do you guys suggest — I’m looking for some honest advice on whether a second chance at a relationship can actually work, and what it genuinely takes for it to be healthy again. Me and my ex recently broke up after a perio…

How to heal from an ex? — 19/F I recently got dumped by an ex-boyfriend about 2 months ago and I still find myself reminiscing on moments we had with each other. He says he lost all romantic feelings for me and only cares for…

How to heal from an ex? M20 F19 — 19/F I recently got dumped by an ex-boyfriend about 2 months ago and I still find myself reminiscing on moments we had with each other. He says he lost all romantic feelings for me and only cares for…

I (22M) love my gf's (21F) family and friends... but not so much her. How do I proceed with our relationship without burning every bridge I have? — I (22M) have been dating my gf (21F) for almost five years now, and this is my first serious relationship. We started dating in high school. We continued our relationship over long-distance when I wen…

My therapist decided to end working with me after coaxing me to talk about my sexual relationship with my wife in more detail. — I started attending therapy because I was struggling with being a 'Girl Dad' after having a history of treating girls poorly and also because my wife acts more like a dependent then a partner. I fl…

You need to hear this — I feel like in this generation everyone is so pro "get back together with your ex". When do you guys even take a second to reflect on what happened and why you guys ended and think that maybe you shou…

"Suggested for you" — it's truly over I guess and it just ends on a random day. it took me a month to get a hold of myself to grieve the relationship and last night a notification popped up.. It was an email from her and…

The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…

Boyfriend hit me/ left me, mother doesnt give a flying fuck how Im doing, life's just absolutely amazing (Vent) — Boyfriend hit me for the first time, then said its over, told me to leave the apartment Im renting from him, and is ghosting me since then (long story how that happend but Imma try to explain shortly…

Mushrooms have lost their magic for me — I'm 26, I've been taking magic mushrooms on and off since my early twenties, so ultimately not a long period of time, however I have done a 5-6 large doses ranging from 8-12g, and once even with a 200…

Extreme Selfishness and delusion — Since I’ve been dealing/ dealt with other narcissists in my life, I’ve started wondering whether this person might also have been a narcissist - which is why I’m posting this and asking for perspectiv…

I'm(29-FtM) thinking about breaking up with my BF (31-M). How do I know thats the right choice? — TLDR: I (29-FtM) and my boyfriend (31-M) have been together for the past 10 years and shared our friend groups and families with eachother. After some tragedies in my life, I am considering a breakup …

Text of original post by u/Fine_Pineapple_9150: Hi all, I don't always see myself as AA, but in one specific friendship, I am definitely anxiously attached. I have felt the same way with former friend…

It’s not even funny how badly I need to see what people’s responses are to this, lol. I once was fantasizing about someone, so distracted, that I backed my car up into a dumpster and totaled it 😆 th…

I want to date again so bad but I can’t bring myself to do it. Honestly I’m a little afraid of men in terms of I’m afraid they won’t be accepting of me - I’m also afraid of all the work it takes to ge…

Sigh... I'm stupid. Delusional even. I guess with my 33rd birthday fast approaching, I'm naturally in a morose state thinking about my utter lack of success with romance. And somehow mulling about mis…

Now my ex hates and avoids me bcs I kept reaching out to make peace with him. I’m the only ex he has blocked everywhere. He didn’t block his toxic ex lol. And reacts and likes her posts still. He said…

Everyone around me knows that I never once was obsessed with him. They know how I act when I’m obsessed with someone. Also I didn’t wanna have sex with him. That’s one of the reason why he ended it cu…

You're the same age as my LDR partner, who I met on this sub. We've been together for 14 months. We've definitely had those ups and downs regarding the afterlife of our respective ended marriages. Ou…

Part of the reason I broke up with a dude once was because his house was a fucking disaster. Camping equipment stayed in the living room (he camped maybe twice a year), cats litter box in the coffee r…

I think that dynamic can be happy for both of you but it doesn’t seem like you’re on the same page. Why is he testing you? If he told us how much he thinks you desire him would it match up with this f…

I went on my ex’s instagram. I never do, he also doesn’t really post anything on social media, but today I was curious. I scrolled through an album posted a year ago and saw he photographed our dog …

man, I've been feeling the same as of late, it's unreal. today especially. me and her were together for almost 4 years. domestic. marriage talks at some point. it's about to be 3 years since she walke…

Oof, this brought back some bad memories. I remember telling my mom "I wanna try out for American Idol some day!" and she said "im sorry honey, that's for people who can sing well." I listened to a …

i still have my engagement ring from a past ex. it's nice to take out and look at sometimes, and remember fondly the version of myself i once was (beautiful, mean, 105lb). i've had a long life full of…

No, because as my adult sons put it, the man (father) he once was no longer exists.

I’m a shell of who I once was

And partial out of body isn’t a bad thing, it’s progress. I once was hanging upside down and couldn’t move haha

Yes. I changed myself completely and for the worse. I’ve lost connections with the most important people in my life who used to love me organically in droves. I once was a being of pure light and love…

Nice post, I like that you also give an example. One question, how many times would you say you had to revise the parent situation? I've been working on this but not sure if once was enough. I also di…

A lot of Facebook moderators are on a power trip and frequently misuse their power. I would not take what this person says seriously. They do not know you. I once was banned from a Facebook group fo…

I ask when they were last tested, let them know when I was, and if either of us have been with anyone since those tests, and if so, if they know that other persons status. It’s not the turn off some …

I acknowledge that there is indeed a difference between being alone and being lonely and I can confirm that I once was among the alone but have recently joined the ranks of the lonely. I don’t know …

"We haven’t been intimate since 2023. There were other unused tests next to it." I can't even comprehend how you would fix anything after that statement. You are aware that she's getting her jollies …

This was so beautifully said props to this! I have already seen so much change in myself and am overall more positive person almost 2 months post breakup and although I wish the breakup never happene…

They were a very close part of your life, it's always going to hit hard. But if you truly care about them, it you really want things to be better, if you want the pain to lessen. You must accept the v…

A lot depends upon if she can ever trust him again. He could grow into a better person, but she could still have trust issues. A lot of people do draw the line due to their personal experiences and t…

I would give anything to have my wife back. We were together ten years from ages 18-28. I’m sober now, doing deep work, and am not the man I once was. I miss her so much it hurts. We’ve been separated…

I’m right there with you. I don’t know if I’ll ever truly get over them. I know they probably sit back and laugh about it but fuck, man. They get off so easy. They get our home, to erase all of our me…

I genuinely think if anyone needs therapy its you. You clearly seem to be misunderstanding my point to begin with. Not once was it his outfit that was the issue nor does anyone need to dress more cons…

Yeah, it’s true. I’ve never had violent tendencies, I just know what it’s like to become a very different person than I once was. I suffered from Grandiose Delusional Disorder as a result of severe…

I once was cooking a meal in the kitchen with my mom at my parent's house. Spaghetti Bolognese to be precise. It was when I was staying with my parents temporarily. I was in my late 30's at the time, …

been there the first time I had this happen I realized I was seeing through my eye mask, I waved my hands in front of eye to check next thing I know, I’m seeing my desk from above. I turn and I’m …

How can you love someone for years later after he’s been abusive to you? Trauma bond? Grief confused for love for what it once was?

You hurt her in the past with your words and actions? What does that mean exactly? What did you do? It sounds like she's emotionally checked out of this relationship and just can't pull the trigger…

I get that. Having peace can’t be forced. But it is that drive to make it happen and the desperation that drives folks away. It’s a cruel reality. Perhaps it’s a little toe in the water of curiosity r…

It's possible that your therapist has become a conditioned anxiety cue. You saw her when you were deeply depressed, so seeing her again may bring back memories of those awful depressed feelings. If th…

So in short, your relationship is an empty shell of what once was. Okay, then leave. If you’re letting the relationships you’ve built and the connections you’ve made throughout the relationship stop y…

Ok so I can answer this pretty thoroughly as a 4th gen Japanese American. The Japanese American community is a shell of what it once was. The only 2 places that still have a sizeable community are H…

Thanks for reminding me. But it is so hard walking away from her, there is nothing wrong with her. I fu*ked up by neglecting her needs. I’m going to therapy and working on myself not to get back to wh…

I think therapy, particularly some kind of somatic therapy, would be really helpful. I was also feeling a kind of 'meh' that could only be temporarily distracted from while doing adventurous things. T…

I know how you feel man. Worst part of this is you know it’s all bullshit. The only thing that will help is time. I’m going on 8 months after losing the love of my life. It still hurts to this day. I …

Time heals. You are healed. You just unfortunately have the dsacr to show where the pain once was. Just remember to not pick at it.

Unfortunately I believe triggers never go away. It’s been over a decade since I brought things I found to my wife’s attention. Naturally she denied any and everything I placed before her. So I never r…

Thank you for your time spent writing that and sharing your experience ❤️He's a tough cookie so I think it will take some time like you said - not straight away. He's already touched on it. He said …

Wonderful !! Wish you all the best you are not alone.iam 50 years old in case you need some help money  advice hugs and some family come and visit me and my family. I had such a mother.too.she is stil…

I once spoke to a woman for months that said she was manifesting a man she once was with. She had been manifesting him for 15 years and he had already moved on, gotten married, and had kids! She follo…

Yes, but from what I know, it is a little less hands out as it is an inward movement first and foremost. I'm aftaid tho astral projection in the end won't be of much help. But you can still do a great…

When you were no contact, were you broken up? If so, there isn't any cheating there...why would you bring it up? Its not just a trust issue then, it also can leave her feeling like you're settling on …

Slowly but surely. I'm just telling myself each week, it's only an hour. Also quiting all at once was never gonna work for me. I tried. So right now, I'm reading more lol.

Remind me of my ex who lied and used me for 4 months while being a meth addict and s w.. She led me on once after that just to throw the fact she married the guy she cheated on me with in my face. Now…