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My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago

The Difference Between Remorse and Guilt, shame and regret.  Only remorse matters. After Cheating https://www.brides.com/the-one-way-to-know-your-marriage-will-survive-an-affair-1102868 https://id…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/18/2026
Update 3 months later

During an affair, they are not operating within normal reality. They are living an altered reality, so most anything is possible. Many affairs are in reality a state of temporary insanity. Or not so t…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/15/2026
Married 9 years and just found out my wife has been cheating on me.

What was her relationship past like prior to you meeting her? Had she ever cheated before? Had she been into sexting and sending nudes? Had she been into casual hooking up and was her body count alrea…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/16/2026
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical

No reconciling without true remorse. True remorse tells the truth, holding nothing back. She is not remorseful. Along with remorse there has to NO CONTACT WITH AFFAIR PARTNER OF ANY SORT. There is no…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/24/2026
Recovering from emotional affair.

Why are you so certain it was never physical, no sex, no groping, no sexual touching? Did they meet up, one on one? Opportunity matters. Is she in any way still in touch with him, even seeing him acr…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/24/2026
16 years together feels destroyed...

She is not at all the contrite, remorseful wayward partner she needs to be. She betrayed you. She confessed love for someone else. It doesn’t matter if they ever met or not. She imagined a life with a…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/27/2026
I feel crazy, I need someone with a clear head.

They are affair partners. No contact is de rigueur https://healingbrokentrust.com/blog/why-cutting-off-the-affair-partner-is-critical-the-one-step-you-cant-skip-to-rebuild-trust-after-infidelity

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/11/2026