beginning

Thank you so much for the update. Meanwhile I've read all your posts and comments since the "beginning". It was sick what she did to you - ruined her family for an affair that ended after her AP dump…

Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…

Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…

Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…

Is this a good DevOps book? — Is this a good DevOps book? I'm planning to buy a book on Azure DevOps." https://www.amazon.com/Beginning-Azure-DevOps-Releasing-Applications/dp/1394165889

Landing page review for a brand new ecommerce store — Hi all, Beginning of this year, me and my best friend decided to launch a pickleball brand that focus more on feminine side (you see what I mean when you visit the website), as we see the market is f…

Do I really need to fully design and engineer my own product to succeed in e-commerce? — Hey everyone, I’m planning to start my own e-commerce brand, but I don’t have a big budget or deep technical knowledge. Right now, I can only afford to take an existing product, put my brands logo on …

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…

MySQL Database Quota Reached - Clean database — Hey everyone, I’m currently hosting several websites on SiteGround’s GoGeek plan which comes with 40 GB of web space. Most of my websites use between 1–3 GB, with one around 5.3 GB. However, one of m…

Getting SaaS app rolling — Hey guys, So after about 1 yrs and a 1/2 I am finished building my first SaaS and a high level MVP done. Also my first round funding is secured. Now to be clear, I have done marketing, gathering pro…

Shop app shadow banning? — Has anyone else had an issue with the shop app? I've ensured all of my listings are correctly set up, I can see that all the settings are active. I can even search for my shop name in the shop app and…

Yesterday I launched a landing page and I got 3 presales in 24h. (I will not promote) — I'm building a minimalist, AI based bookkeeping app. Went live with a simple landing page yesterday and shared it in a few relevant places. I was prepared for a long period of drought and self-doubt,…

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…

We should keep in mind that its a spectrum.. — I realized something in my relationship and it is not much shared in this way so maybe it helps someone else I am anxious and my fiancee is avoidant. He is very introverted and trying to deal with hi…

I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…

This situation is too messed up — Hi everyone, I (20F) really need some guidance about my SP (19M). We’ve been on and off for the past 2.5 years, and our relationship has always been very messy constant fights, unnecessary arguments, …

Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…

I’m not sure how to process this. Idk if it’s my Anxious Attachment style acting up or if I’m being objective — Thoughts on finding this text exchange on my girlfriends phone? she was with a group of friends and at a bar and I guess she started talking to some guy there. I’m brown, she’s not referring to me wh…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

Should you announce that you're avoidant early on? — Not just in dating (in fact I don't even want to date right now), in general? I really want to start correcting my fear of engulfment and vulnerability but I can't make the jump from avoidant to consi…

Asking for input from those who are avoidant — (Forgot to add user flair.) Last paragraph has the question. But for context, I have someone in my life who has acknowledged they are avoidant. When I started looking into attachment styles I found t…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …

Please help — Hey there! Found this community a few days ago and I seriously need advice on how to push thru the panic/ anxiety. I know I'm an avoidant. All my life I've never wanted people to see me. All my life…

Is there anything in current astrology that indicates something like a global lockdown coming up? — There were transits that indicated something like covid coming, I'm wondering if something similar is happening now as the energy feels similar in a sense and then we do have tons of planetary configu…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Is this all basically the US’s Pluto return? — I.e. current politics (conflict) and potential “downfall” of the US Edit: a lot of people are commenting on the use of the term “downfall”. It’s in quotes for a reason. I agree that with Pluto an end…

Netpun and crude oil — I looked up what happened when Neptune was in the same position as it is now. As we all know, we are living in interesting times. With the help of Wikipedia, I found the following: 27 August 1859: …

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Honestly? I enjoy lucid nightmares. — Is anybody else like this? We've all had out fair share of absurd random chaotic dreams, but I actually prefer nightmares to those. While I'm having them, they suck, but when I wake up I love thinking…

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

The divorce was the best decision of my life and I have to talk about it. — I'm 27f and I've been in a marriage with a man who absolutely did NOT connect with me for six years. Like... In the beginning, we were best friends since we were tots. Best friends through high school…

My husband cheated and is now the meanest person I’ve ever met — I really just need to rant because I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. So my (30F) husband (38M) cheated on me 4 days after my 30th birthday. To go into more detail, he snuck out of our house while…

Break up + no contact update (post 4 months) — I thought I’d give an update into my healing progress since my breakup, in hopes to shed a little light on the small positives that can come from heartbreak. For context, my ex and I broke up in Octob…

I've built a website with a searchable index to watch Asian American movies! — *(Got a request to post in here as well*!*)* I watch a lot of movies, but it's super difficult to find Asian American movies - especially made before 2000. Every time AAPI Heritage Month rolls around…

Every time I post on social media, I feel less and less like there’s space for me on the Internet. — I grew up on social media, beginning on Xanga and MySpace at 10 years old. Then, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, as I grew up and entered adulthood. I’ve always over shared my life on the Inter…

how do i detach myself from my thoughts — this can be easier in meditation but how have you guys brought it forth in your everyday lives. i’m just beginning to practice this but i’m naturally an anxious over-thinker and for quite some time i’…

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

I achieved my dream… now what? — Hi everyone, I’m in my early 30s and I’m facing a luxury problem I never thought I’d have. I’ve basically achieved what I set out to do, since I was a kid. I have a good education, a well paying job…

I'm beginning to realize this is the only healthy option, at least the only one I can see. I still love her 3 months later and I believe we could have worked it out. I broke down and sent her pages o…

Omg that’s horrible. I was ghosted to, that feeling of no clarity hits. You get so desperate that you reach out in so many ways in the beginning just to get an answer onto why?. I was never able to mo…

It’s hard moving on when you’re still so in love w/ them. I can’t get him out of my head. Idk how to move on and thinking about it hurts more bc I never wanted it to end to begin with. I lost my soul …

Yes!!!! Once in one night, I kept getting pulled between here and “the other place”. I’ve been calling it that, assuming it’s another dimension or parallel universe. It was somewhere familiar but unkn…

Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through this! It’s nuts how common our stories are. I always felt like I was being dragged around by Eric and he could never just tell me “it’ll never work out” Just brea…

This is a REALLY old comment, no idea if you still use this account, but I had something similar happen recently. Some kind of entity appeared at the beginning of my dream and told me I was going to h…

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

That's not the same thing at all. You try to grasp this spiritual teaching in reverse order, teying to manipulate the world from the end the chain of event instead of the beginning... The world is no…

Yeah I've seen a lot of increase in those posts too. I don't think is the subreddit to tell everyone else that NC led you to get back with your ex, first of all is giving everybody false hopes or unre…

I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …

I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

Attachment styles are not the sole factors for attraction we create. But cutting off people we have known for a long time - especially family members, to which we are bound to biologically - is a sig…

The one that fucked me up the most was an FA I don't bother with avoidants. She showed really strong in the beginning, but after we had sex and it started feeling real she ran. Makes it hurt more. The…

I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …

I think the idea that you can sniff out red flags like a bloodhound after a bad relationship is largely untrue. People lie. They present perfectly to you in the beginning. The insight you gain from a …

Oh my god this. You’re so right. Honestly people also hide things well the first 3 months. It takes time for masks to fall. People know how to present themselves well in the beginning

The distance didn’t make it harder in my opinion. At the beginning of a relationship you’re getting to know the other person. Thats incredibly easy to do with texting, calls, video chats etc.  We cou…

Fearful-avoidants lovebomb you and then drop you when you're getting too close. They seem secure in the beginning. Watch videos of Heidi Priebe on YouTube, they're helpful. All the best.

Yeah and it's not that avoidants are lying, they actually like the love bombing stage. They actively choose to instigate that. U never see AA lovebombing avoidants in the beginning. Avoidants are l…

So like, if your partner were to say, "hey I need you text me at least once every 24 hours. Just to check in" how would you react? At the beginning vs the end of the relationship?

He’s going to leave you. I’m sorry. I can guarantee this. He’s extremely immature, and you are trying to be his mother and his therapist. It will backfire on you spectacularly. He needs professional h…

## Amazon Price History: **Beginning Azure DevOps: Planning, Building, Testing, and Releasing Software Applications on Azure** * Rating: ★★★★☆ 4.7 * Current price: **$32.29** 👍 * Lowest price: $31.…

There's a million different opportunities. Most are viable. At 18 you basically have no experience. There's nothing wrong with that, and even a few advantages. But you also don't know what you don't …

dumb question but did you launch 15 episodes at once in the beginning? is this the strat?

Building in public on socials. X, Reddit, Linkedin. Organic is the way to go in the beginning. Build a community, build followers. Makes it so that when you launch, you're not launching into the void.

FA literally seek love though (in the beginning), a sure sign of a DA is avoiding it in the first place

In the beginning it's fear of abandonment but then later it becomes fear of engulfment

I like this idea. It seems to help both the anxious leaning and the avoidant just check in for the day rather than the avoidant expecting to have to check in continuously, or the anxious person waitin…

Not necessary, but I think it's common - Not wanting to share anything. My ex didn't want to share many details about themselves, even in the beginning, when things were great. And I said: it's okay, …

Thank you for sharing and Im so sorry you went through this. I hope you are in a better place now.  As for what you said, this could also be a "secure" person's behavior: openly talking about dreams…

A lot of DAs come on strong in the beginning. We tend to have an ideal partner in our heads, and we get really excited when we think we may have found that person. I know I’m no exception. My bf, also…

First, I think this is the wrong question to be asking. You can’t completely know someone’s attachment style until they attach to you. I think a better question would be “how can I identify relationsh…

Yes he seemed very secure in the beginning and so was I. But immediately after we started living together, he turned very cold and sort of “robotic” out of nowhere. Made me extremely anxious and we en…

Interestingly enough my DA and FA exes did the opposite of all these in the beginning of the rls but slowly revealed their dismissing of emotions and keeping me at a distance after the honeymoon and l…

avoidants (especially those that are actively working towards healing and becoming secure) may come off as secure in the beginning of a courtship. until they are met with some triggers which will lead…

Thanks for your answer. I am somwhat between anxious preoccupied and Fearful Avoidant. For example I know I feel insecure when some friends I cherish wont answer at my text for long time, I will feel …

I mean its not really a secure question.. You basically check for behaviour, anything that is suspicious like coming on too strong at the beginning, and past stories like a girl told me she has someti…

I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…

I feel for you, I’m in a similar position at the moment. I’m caught up on what was a relatively short lived but very intense connection I shared with a guy late last year. It ended with him ghosting m…

No, they’re talking about how other people’s high expectations are often based on how the avoidant themselves acts at the beginning of the relationship. They raise those expectations quite of their ow…

Everyone, including the anxious people, put their best foot forward at the beginning. Anxious people expect it to always stay the same as it is in the honeymoon and that’s unrealistic for both sides.…

The blame-shifting is too much. You are doing exactly what the other commenter was talking about. Avoidants do this to everyone, not just to anxious people, and it’s in excess of the typical “putting…

I will give my own experience as an FA. A lot of women will project who they want me to be onto me, even If I gave no indication of such from the beginning and even when I actively try to shatter pr…

>Better yet, many are up front and say they don’t want anything serious/don’t want a relationship. I lost count of how many times others will be like, “Avoidants use that as an excuse to hurt you late…

My take: People are terrible at self-identifying their primary attachment pattern. You see it over and over again on these subs, people claiming to be secure who could not be more obviously insecure…

I'm beginning to suspect this might be true for me as well. Is there any science to explain how/why this happens? How can our nervous systems or subconscious or whatever know that quickly?

If she’s shutdown at the moment then there’s no point in trying to talk. I think you can use this time to think about what you really want from a relationship and be realistic about whether she can gi…

Avoidant attachers don’t just decide when they want to be avoidant and when they don’t. It’s built into their subconscious. So it’s not just about them choosing someone—they have no problem choosing s…

This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…