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19 years. 11 years no contact. 1 year of healing — f (42) & f(39) TL;DR: 19 years ago I met a girl (Cassandra) in a chatroom. We had an intense on-and-off situationship for \~7 years — romantic and flirty when it was on, sweetly charged even when pl…
Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…
6 month mark, can't progress further right now, but pausing feels shitty too. Leave? — In September, I cautiously decided to start seeing the father of my daughter's best friend. It's been really great, and has helped me work through a lot of emotional stuff including heavy grief. Aft…
Accidentally became CODEPENDENT due to a kind GESTURE I had made for a friend — Past 4 months since maybe december, i let a dear friend of mine stay at my place. we would game and hang/watch movies and cook n stuff on the regular weekly. BUT... Since december, they stayed over…
Should have ran long ago — I’m 18M and she’s 18F We would talk daily and hang out weekly I should have ran when you starting talking to my mate even though it was once a week I should have left the second you and him started…
I (26F) have a friend (30M) we were flirty and everything then I confessed to him — I (F) have been close friends with this guy for about 3 years, mostly long distance. We talk almost every day, call a lot, and have been pretty emotionally supportive of each other. Over time, I start…
My (M20) Dad (M59) says Heterosexual Relationships are only about Sex, is that really the case? — Was talking with my dad Earlier today, he was trying to explain me stuff abt Dating Life and stuff since I'm now 20... However, he mentioned something very bizarre and out of character for him. He st…
My boyfriend (22M) of 18 months REFUSES to introduce me (22M) to his family, except as a “friend”. — For background, myself and my bf are from two different Western European countries, and met in a third country while studying. We lived in the same city for 9 months, including living together for a …
I Found Out I Was the “Secret Girlfriend” Through a Private Story — So I (16F) started dating this girl, “Ava” (17F), about three months ago, and at first it felt like something straight out of a movie. We met through a mutual friend, started texting, and within like …
My boyfriend 33M might have had feelings for his “girl best friend”? 24F — My boyfriend (33M) and I (26F) have been together for about 6 months. The other night, he casually told me that his female friend (25F) just got married and eloped. What threw me off is that right af…
My bf cheated on me with some other girl and I forgave him — all this started with, me and him meeting on a social platform. we were chill at first but then feeling slowly started creeping in as you all know most of the people just sext around. and we did that …
First breakup, don’t have friends to talk to about it and feel so alone — I don’t know exactly what to say, I just feel so overwhelmed and upset and I just want to say something and stop keeping it in. It was my first “relationship”, if you would call it that, and was onli…
First breakup, don’t have friends to talk to about it and feel so alone — I don’t know exactly what to say, I just feel so overwhelmed and upset and I just want to say something and stop keeping it in. It was my first “relationship”, if you would call it that, and was onli…
I’m(M18) in a 4 year relationship(F18) but I want someone else(F18) — I thought I should post this because this has been bothering me for months and the only “person” I’ve talked to about it is ChatGPT. I’ve been with my girlfriend since year 8 (we’re in year 12 now).…
I told my roommate that my ex cheated on him after she betrayed me with the guy she told me not to worry about. How do I handle the guilt and potential fallout? — My ex-girlfriend 20F and I 23M broke up a couple weeks ago after dating for close to 6 months. For a long time, I had a gut feeling about a guy friend of hers (let’s call him Luke). She always told me…
She needs space... — Dear Reddit, i need your honest advice. At the end of January 2026 i (M, 31) have met up with a very lovely person (F, 27). I have known her sister and she connected us with eachother. And i can say…
I got attached in a no-label setup and now I feel uncomfortable—what should I do? — **TL;DR:** I’ve been in a long-term no-label situation with a guy I like. We got sexually involved, but I’m now feeling unsure, uncomfortable, and confused about whether he actually values me or just …
He cheated after 6 years and blocked me everywhere(25f) (28m)? — I was in a relationship with this guy for a while and before that we were best friends. We met in college and we got super close over time. I was always closed off and never really talked to guys like…
He cheated after 6 years and blocked me everywhere — I was in a relationship with this guy for a while and before that we were best friends. We met in college and we got super close over time. I was always closed off and never really talked to guys like…
My(18f) partner(19f) refuses to communicate, how to get a response? — My current partner and I have been long distance on and off for a few years due to families moving and now college. I love them dearly, they’re my best friend but now that we are moving into that more…
My('20F') bf(19M) and his female best friend — (posting again cos it clgot deleted) So him and his "female Best friend". They both used to have very sexual talks(memes,jokes,talks),like this friend used to talk about her sax life in great depth …
Did I just manifest the opposite of what I wanted — I have a female friend that I developed feelings for, after a long time of being just friends. She didn't reciprocate though. Since we have the same small social circle, we remained friends and spent …
I understand. Just a week before my wife left me she said “I’m so glad we are such a strong couple that if we needed counseling we would go to couples therapy” however what she really meant was “ plea…
Yes, but the interviewer doesn't know anything about it, they are doomed to repeat the same basic questions "why did you start?", "when did you start?" etc. I've heard all of them a hundred thousand t…
She has already come back once and this is kinda what I got for letting her back, I thought she was being honest with me about understanding that I said if she returned it couldn’t be “just friends.” …
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I wouldn’t beat yourself up over this. What likely happened is she reached out for a bit of nostalgia or comfort, and once she felt that connection again she pulled back. When you started leaning in m…
ah fuck that's rough. i'm so sorry she did that to you. partner betrayal is extremely destabilizing and painful. it takes a long time to recover if you do it right. my wp had a 19 month affair tha…
Literally none. People in the comments apparently can’t fathom a man and a woman being just friends. Also people who travel as much as OP’s ex tend to collect people from all around the world (from…
I am in therapy. For a while now, but maybe I need to switch expertise. I am in trauma/ grief counseling My partner personally says he isn’t bothered by it that much. I can’t quite explain it. I tru…
Lol maybe you are 👽 JK. I just don't understand why you need to resolve your feelings when there's no chance at dating each other, and why there's any need to resolve feelings if you're just friend…
First i need to be clear that i only deal with facts not feelings on something or the fabricated details someone else created to help their own idea of a situation. Be functional and factual. Origi…
not even ashamed to admit i want them back. been 5 months so far. 5 months since i heard anything from them. yet i still think about them every day. wish they could see how much ive changed for the be…
If the sex is that awful the relationship is over. You’re just friends. I would think about my exit.
Thanks. I’m truly too stunned to speak… like I can’t believe he would ghost me like this. Because for me this is a dealbreaker as in I can’t even think about letting him in again, that’s it, he has lo…
Yes. I felt crazy too. And yes, I kept checking even after the breakup. And it turned out to be a good thing. I still felt guilty. But because of that, I found out just how much he had been lying to m…
Yes it was his fault. He even says it himself, he lied to me before our relationship even started, and during and kept females around he had situations with under the guise they were just friends. It …
Yeah. Turned 30 recently and never have done anything romantic or sexual with another human being. I was neglected and homeschooled growing up in a small town so I didn’t have many opportunities to gr…
I’d give him the option to either commit to a relationship with you or break off and be just friends.
You don’t think they’re just friends. It seems like you think your husband is interested in her and prioritizes her above you. Do some couples counseling and address this issue before you get married.
The sitting in darkness part is odd. Arm around shoulders doesn’t seem like a sexually suggestive sort of placement at all. Is there a way you could just ask about her and work in a question about w…
What are you expecting as part of you "healing" or "getting over" your break up? We carry our experiences with us, we can't go back to a state we were in the past with a whole different context in li…
1. We've discussed this, and it's clear I have a higher comfort level. He's in the camp that men and women can't be just friends. In some ways, I agree with him... every man who has befriended me was …
I am confused - you are technically just friends. What did you ask? They might have seen it pop up and gotten distracted
You’re just friends. The reason you feel some kind of way about this is because you want to be more than friends, and you want him to treat you as such. That is the only reason this is an issue. Fri…
Seriously that is far to long for an in person meet up. Are you actively working towards living together one day? What does that time frame look like? Because if you haven't even planned that, this LD…