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You're not overthinking. She hasn't even really dove deep into "why". The only "why" is basically, "you are garbage". Sorry but the "not much reasoning as to why she did it other than occasionally say…
How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…
Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types? — I am trying to build a website that is very simple in terms of content and styling. The only catch is that it has a custom post type. I created the custom post type and fields using the free version o…
How can I profit from my endless rotating hobbies? — Hey all! I’m a 24 year old who works full time and has five million hobbies. Such as… physical art in most mediums, digital art, animation, multiple instruments, theater, crochet, story writing, singi…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …
Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…
Stuck In My Head After Affair — So 3 years ago, I found through phone bills that my wife was texting a coworker more than anyone else. I confronted her as she had also been very distant. After trickle truthing she admitted to having…
I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway. — I manifested something exactly as I had imagined it. The strange part is that before it happened, I spent weeks convinced I had ruined it. I was manifesting spending a specific holiday with someone. …
If you're reading this, you're gonna make it. — Hey, you. yeah YOU. I know what you're going through. Nobody is on this sub because they're having a good time of it. I know that, because 4 years ago I was in the exact same place. Any advice you rea…
Beware of taking back the ex that broke up with you and wanted to rekindle with you — Let this be your testimony that you are much better without them. My ex of 7 years and I rekindled after a couple months of no contact. She broke up with me cause she said she relied on me too much an…
Large ancient stone doorway or portal floating in space, where would’ve it taken me? — I just started astral projecting again, and today I had my first AP in a while, It was short. I was laying on my back with my eyes closed. When I opened them, this is very identical what I saw. I ha…
Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…
Is it actually possible to re-wire the brain and actually stop sexualising… everything? — I posted here a few times, I'm currently at 107 days of sobriety. I don't watch p0rn, don't masturbate, don't go cruising. The only times I've done something sexual were with my ex, as we are still cl…
What We Really Need To Heal — Not sure if anyone else feels this way: but I'm kinda over all the "healing" stuff. Because it doesn't work. And I think there's too much pressure on survivors to "heal". The only way that we can …
Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Just got some news. — We're three months out from finalizing the Big D. I still have a hard the saying the word. She wanted to get together tonight to "catch up on some things" and to go over possible tax paperwork since w…
I want to send this text so bad — Hey. I know you probably don’t want to hear from me. I’m sorry for sending this text but I just need to. I haven’t been in the best head space for the last month. I feel like I won’t ever hear from yo…
Has anybody here got crushed that their dreams didn’t work out and it finally worked out in ways you didn’t imagine? — I had a dream since school to have an experience of doing my masters in the UK or Europe mainly for two reasons - the exposure and the pure joy of having an experience of living there on my own terms …
I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…
First Stage Separation [Success] - Wave 3, Exercise 6 — First thing first, English is not my first language so if I make mistakes I'm sorry, I won't use any AI translators for my experiences. I've done Wave 3 a few times and my first experiences with "Fir…
I am unable to have children. How can I cope? — I 25f am unable to have kids. I have known since I was 13. The only way I am able to have children is through adoption or an egg donor. Even though I have a supportive husband who is open to all of th…
The One Question That Unlocks Everything — ***If you had your desire, how would you feel?*** That question is deceptively simple and violently powerful. Because the moment you can answer it honestly you have already located the state. And the…
My (26F) bf (34M) has been working literally non stop — My boyfriend owns a tattoo shop. For as long as I’ve known him (3 years together), his schedule has been pretty consistent. He’d open around 1 PM and close around 10 PM, Monday through Saturday. Sunda…
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing? — I’m frustrated because I actually put real effort into this. I didn’t just throw up random selfies and then complain. I bought better clothes, changed my hair, spent money on grooming, flew to Miami,…
It's truly over — I spoke to her yesterday. It's been almost 3 months since the breakup (she broke up with me) and we've spoken a bit back and forth. I had so much hope until yesterday. I just told her how i felt, lots…
Partner (27F) wants to separate (26F) following her cancer diagnosis. — My girlfriend of almost two years was diagnosed with cancer last week and she texted me yesterday that because she "doesn't want to weigh (me) down" with her treatments ahead. She asked for space for …
I 27f pregnant can barley eat and my partner 31m didnt sleep because I ate McDonald’s — I’m 12 weeks pregnant and my first trimester has honestly been HELL. I can barely keep food down. The smell of most meats makes me gag and throw up. Even random things like cold air outside gets me an…
Stoic Quotes to help Soldier in need — One of my best friends is currently in United States Army Ranger School which is an incredibly brutal task which pushes people to their limits. During ranger school they are completely shut off from t…
Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…
Was anyone else chronically misunderstood as a child? — I know that a lot of teenagers go through a phase when they feel misunderstood, but honestly, a lot of them are right. Between the ages of 14 and 17, my parents would treat me like I was the devil r…
My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation — I had a very rich/powerful dad who died when I was a child and left me a lot of money. After he died, all his sycophant, money grubbing “friends” tried to dig their claws into me. They would try to ma…
Human Plus (H-Plus) and Patterning — I know that the majority of people use the gateway tapes to pattern, but I wanted to share my thoughts and techniques for using the H-Plus series. I feel that H-Plus is the most advanced system that R…
Sometimes i just wish people could understand the psychological damage these evil people cause — You work with this individual who's always smiling, happy, flirty and chatty. Wow it must be tiring keeping this mask on all the time. I just wish people could really understand how love bombing work…
The nature of dreams & the abilities therein — **Note\*** The following is not an experience, I repeat it is not an experience nor a collection of experience. Instead it is best to think of it as background information that pertains to some of my …
Why don’t i want to improve myself — A late night thought ik. But i realised I never had a specific goal in life. I was mentally bullied by my one of my seniors during high school but i continued putting up with her because i had “nowher…
where do i go from here? — hi friends, i’m not sure where to go to heal. i posted in a different thread about the situation leading up to my breakup with my now ex: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/UQCEcqeyRU today is the…
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update) — Hello everyone excuse any grammatical errors or spelling im a little tipsy at the moment. I wanna start this with a trigger warning there is attempted suicide involved so if you can't take that stuff …
Ex of 3 weeks collected stuff and… — It went really well! We hadn’t spoken for over 2 weeks. The only time after the break up we had spoken is regarding logistics. He stayed for over an hour. We spoke about the relationship, the hurt th…
my dream journal has been working in reverse. let me explain — so a while ago I started a dream journal to write down all the dreams that I can remember from each night. I also wrote down all the unsual things in my dreams and created a "dream rule list" to read …
Can't stop thinking I have a tumor - seeking support — Hi everyone, A couple of weeks ago I had a routine trip to my local Opticians to update my prescription and by extention get some new glasses. I have pretty terrible eyesight which usually over a 2 …
I just realized how simple shifting is — I just realized that I don’t need to learn how to shift because I already know how to do it. I am doing it right now. I’m just not shifting to the reality I want. So really all I have to do is align m…
One Sentence Encheiridion (1-15) — I was rereading the Enchieridion and decided to try and summarize each passage in a single sentence. This was a fun activity, let me know if I should share more. 1. The only thing fully up to you are…
Grieving a divorce — I've never posted and I don't know who will read this, but I've been reading a lot of posts for people in similar situations and wanted to share my story. I recently divorced my wife of all of 8 mont…
Lucid dreaming will not affect your quality of sleep. The only time it is possible is in REM sleep, where your brain is already closest to waking state. You won’t be any less rested by practicing luci…
Check out [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/msprrk/this_multidimensional_model_by_jurgen_ziewe_shows/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb), [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralP…
Regardless of what it was, it was a non-physical experience. There can be lines blurred between what is lucid dreaming and astral projection, here's a video explaining the difference https://youtu.be/…
No, it is not. People talk a lot of nonsense. The only demons people get possessed by are by their own egotistical psychology or some other fantasy 👍 I'll also paste an answer I gave to someone a whi…
I love my ex but we were so toxic together and our breakup did wonders in showing me how horrible our relationship was and just how much work I have to do on myself. My hope is maybe… in the future we…
Another update: My ex did want me back, but I rejected it since I know she doesn't want to work yet on her issues, which meant that we're only going to go back to the same situation as we were before.…
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
No one else is responsible for your personal growth, not ever. Not if you’ve been married to them for 60 years. The only person you need to help you learn and grow is you. Be your own rock.
Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…
Yeah. Like I wrote in another comment here - NOONE OR NOTHING will give you proof enough, YOU have to try it yourself. And not the clowny way the people in that sub is whining about or Oprah Winfreys …
I’ve tried it and it hasn’t worked. The only successful “manifestations” I’ve had required me to work hard until the very end which leads me to believe I was just setting goals and taking action like …
They are where you "draw the line". They are things that are unacceptable to you. For example, a boundary of mine is that I will not tolerate anyone yelling at me - I don't care how angry or frustrat…
What frustrates me is that I’m aware I’m not good but my body’s need for safety overrides anything the therapist tells me. I feel awful for wasting her time when half the session is me too shut down t…
Possible but I try not diagnose people. The only ones I'm referring to were aware of their attachment style.
That is a very interesting refelction! As someone more anxious, I tend to do similar things. The only difference is that I place people on a pedestal, more so when I haven't met them. I always have an…
With NixOs you can deploy all your services as systemd services. Systemd offers the same isolation options as docker (even more I think). The only annoyance that I experienced with NixOs is that it’s …
I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…
I hear you and I can see that your comment is grounded in past experiences. Fair enough. The only reason I chose to pursue this was because I had new found knowledge. This was the first time I've date…
I, too, like to "fix" people so I can have a relationship with them. Because I'm a codependent fixer. Which I had to learn to stop doing because it doesn't really work in the long run. It's best to ta…
To be clear I’m stating all this because I had this happen with my wonderful FA bf, and I waited first, got very stressed and after two months told him I couldn’t anymore. We got back together within …
Avoidant attachers don’t just decide when they want to be avoidant and when they don’t. It’s built into their subconscious. So it’s not just about them choosing someone—they have no problem choosing s…
Short answer is: you won’t ever be able to know, often they don’t even know, and you need to protect your sanity first. Long answer is: don’t monitor what you think your partner wants but instead mo…
I just broke up with an FA 3 weeks ago. After 4 years of a hard pattern playing on repeat. The only difference is improvements were being made but mostly because I was working really hard to heal my o…
You are doing it great. It’s like a muscle, first you are in the scene for short moment, and the more you do the more you are present and staying longer. On the feelings, we all are different people…
It sounds like you're disowning and shunning your negative feelings. Since they don't seem logical, you're pushing them away. But they're not going to be logical. They're probably the result of repres…
There is no right or wrong way for everyone. Wtv works for you, do it. If nothing’s worked so far, have you exhausted all your options? Personally I agree that dating should be secondary to whatever o…
You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sys…
I had to read your post about this same topic in another sub to get more context, so that way I could provide more specific advice. A lot about what you are dealing with is perspective and the narr…
Yeah. I was used to my mom being not loving but when she got busy with other stuff or my cousins and was just indifferent to me, I think that really damaged me, I still remember how that felt, like yo…
Wow! That is so insightful! Holy heck, why isn't this comment at the top?! That makes so much sense that it kind of hurts a little. And, to be up front, the only way I've ever been able to feel "heale…
>You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sy…
Was she avoidant? I dated this girl for almost a year. At first, I didn’t think she was avoidant. She was good at communicating her boundaries, was consistent with everything, and made me feel secur…
Thanks for responding! I’m totally fine with a few texts a day and the lunch call and end of day call. What I’m saying is not most days I don’t even get texts through out the day… 😔 just 1 lunch time…
Sending you all my love and hugs. I know what it feels like, it's taken me so long to get here too. It was a painful journey to have the same thing happen to me: giving all my love to someone else who…
In other words you are putting others above yourself. You don’t listen to the inner voice that tries to protect you. You put yourself down. Think others are better than you. This is all self abandonme…
This is why you should never break no contact because when you don’t get the response you wanted (you never will) you’ll just end up feeling worse. The only answer is time, ittl feel unbearable at fir…
So, I heard a saying once when I was going through a really bad OCD flair, I think this will help. ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’. Anxiety comes at us in waves. We have to feel the wave wash over us…
I haven’t read everyone’s comments, so idk what they said, but I have had kidney stones more than once— I’ve even had full blown surgery under general anesthesia for one (usually they are able to just…
I agree with you there and I thought the same thing when I read her post. The only reason I thought that though is because my current partner has done similar things, almost being thoughtless or not c…
Hello, I am in a relationship which is neither strictly platonic nor romantic. We are both neurodivergent and asexual and met 6-ish months ago, hence the seemingly strange nature of our relationship. …
I have no advice for you, but I'm in the exact same situation. I can tell myself not to think about our lives together, but then find my thoughts doing the exact same thing 2 minutes later. The only t…
Text of original post by u/Local-Focus-4252: When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and even…
Enough people have answered this so I just wanted to come here and say, because I see BPD and NPD being grouped together a lot now. I just wanted to touch on the PD’s. They are the complete opposite …
Is mind reading an anxious attachment trait? What I mean by that is expecting people to understand what's going on with you without having to say anything? One of my friendships ended, unfortunately, …
'They are the complete opposite of each other. And there is a tonne of arguments for BPD not fitting the other cluster b’s. The only linking criteria that puts the four together is impulsivity.' <-- E…
I could have written this post myself. I turn 27 in a month. And well, I have never been in a real relationship (although I dated for a while in a very avoidant non-committed way that makes me feel st…
That's how she identified herself. As for why we meet so rarely ... Not entirely sure tbh. We're about 30ish mins away from each other, and we technically do have different days off. The only thing th…
I've been dating to find casual sex partners for a while now, and I feel like I'm attracting men who want to get close to me, even though they know I'm not interested in a relationship. They say that …
Thank you for your advice. It’s confusing, I find friend groups to be overstimulating and disappointing, as I prefer more individual focus, but I’m learning that it might be too much for me. I’m start…
I think not. Sex produces oxitocin, tons of it, and is a naturally extremely bonding process. The only way I can imagine you can have sex without bonding, is if you're DA or an otherwise emotionally …