pick me dance

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. - You can only fix it if she goes no contact with that person. That means changing jobs as well. It really is the only way. - It can an 98% chance tha…

Wife Wants Divorce so She Can Be With Affair Partner — Wife insists we divorce after I caught her having an emotional affair with her coworker. Of course she has all sorts of lies and manufactured reasons why we need to divorce and insists it has nothing …

She’s choosing the other guy over you. She likes his attention and is actually dating him. Don’t do the pick me dance. Speak to an attorney and protect your rights with your kids. Throw her out. Updat…

Hmm. Gay = ok to cheat ? Sorry but not buying it. Anyway, how you handled this is very common, but has the least chance to “save” a marriage. The veterans here ( most ) would attest that the 2 big…

Dont do it. Be happy you found out. Chances are you would've been robbed in divorce in the future, or end up taking care of another mans baby. Be grateful about it and move on. She doesn't deserve y…

Look OP might be hard might be blocked or baned but someone need to tell you that you left yourself to this ending by not having self-respect and self-esteem. Since she cheated and mentioned the divo…

you did the pick me dance and lost. she’s gay, that’s not something you can do anything about. pick up what’s left of your pride and move on to healing.

If you looked in Encyclopedia Brittanica for "pick me dance", I'm certain you would find a picture of you there. You have literally placed her so high upon a pinnacle I'm surprised she doesn't have no…

Umm your making excuses for her bud. When someone shows you who they are believe them!!! Never play the pick me dance - that's the path your heading down and it will look weak and in the end she'll en…

Stop doing the pick me dance. She’s already chosen to be with him. Get a good divorce lawyer and protect your rights and your children’s rights. 

You don't have to be OK with it but you have to ACCEPT it. It takes TWO to make a marriage work and only ONE for it to fail. Sadly yours has failed (or at least she made it fail). The best thing you…

Dont do the pick me dance, get full custody, therapy, and stand ten toes down once the affair fog wears off from your stbx

>EDIT: I don’t want her back. I’m not doing any pick me dance. I just don’t want my kids around that asshole. Don't you think she's going to bring your kids to be with him, in fact replacing you over…

“EDIT: I don’t want her back. I’m not doing any pick me dance. I just don’t want my kids around that asshole.” So many people are oblivious to this part. When my wife had an affair, I saw the AP and …

Stop drinking and go on the offensive. If AP has a partner, let them know what is going on. Speak to an attorney and get her served divorce papers at work. Don’t do the pick me dance. Only speak to he…

She’s checked out. The psychology of it is that once a woman mentally checks out of a relationship, it’s very rare she checks back in. Add infidelity to it and it’s over. All the typical first react…

I received a sorry for the lying and the double life but never for the cheating. In fact she didn't think what she was doing was cheating despite deliberately hiding whose place she was going to via a…

You're not overthinking. She hasn't even really dove deep into "why". The only "why" is basically, "you are garbage". Sorry but the "not much reasoning as to why she did it other than occasionally say…

Stop doing the pick me dance. Send her a text asking where is a good place for her to be served, give her the contact info for your lawyer and ghost HER ass. Grow a backbone my guy

OP seriously how low self-esteem you have to plead her to return after 4 DDays and all the shit she did and how she treated you? You play the pick me dance so hard that you lose yourself respect and …

So sorry this has happened to you. Moving forward my piece of advice would be... No crying begging, doing the "pick me dance", calling her names, screaming, etc. Your attitude should be, you want out?…

Of course she’s not going to cut contact with her AP because you’ve shown her that actions have no consequences. How can your WW respect you if you continue to rugsweep her affair and play-the pick me…

„Loves two people“… Yet, one is informed about what is going on and the other isn’t. One got a fair (unethical) shot, the other is kept in the dark. That’s not love…it’s just the twisted version of…

Hey my man. Doing the pick me dance is just making you look foolish and weak. She has already checked out of the marriage. Do yourself, your sanity and your dignity some help and start the separation/…

I’ve been where you are and its mindblowing and heart breaking. You sound like a decent husband and you’re really trying to accept the blame and move forward. Its not your fault. None of it. All …

As a mid 30s male who divorced his ex-wife, let me share some ways I screwed up and how they impacted me long term. First is i did the same pick me dance shit you are doing now. Before I found out t…

She's shown you she doesn't love you or respect you, so why would you still want to stay married to her? Most cheaters pretend to regret their actions, even if it's fake, while secretly continuing t…

I want you to learn something from this. The pick me dance never works. The first mistake you made was taking her criticisms to heart regardless of their validity. Because she didn't want the criticis…

My man, you need to quit the pick me dance and lay the law down to her. She has all but told you she doesn't love you enough to fight for the marriage. You need to sit her down and very calmly tell he…

You dont, atm you are trying to play with the pick me dance. Trust me when I say it does not work. The correct dance to play is the i dont need you dance, this includes. No thanks, ill cook mysel…

THIS!!! Even though I’m a woman I wish I had reacted this way. I was stuck in the pick me dance even though he picked me.. I wanted to be assured that I was the one he truly wanted. If I could redo…

Did she cheat ? Yes absolutely, it was at least an emotional affair Did you react badly ? Yes without a shadow of doubt , you permitted her to walk over you and you are still doing the pick me da…

Also love yourself Respect yourself Don't be a beggar for breadcrumbs Do not play pick me dance And when the cheater offers themselves just look at them and tell them clearly this: I DO NOT PIC…

Yup, so much cringey stuff done during the pick me dance phase. So glad to be done with that now.

I feel for you. I skipped the pick me dance entirely. As far as I’m concerned dude did me a favor, took out my trash.

She needs to quit her job immediately or you should file for divorce. She’s slowly checking out of the marriage and you need to stop doing the pick me dance. Don’t let her choose since she’s already c…

Stop doing the pick me dance and divorce her. She doesn’t respect you or your marriage. You need to let go and move on. Updateme!!