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First things first. It does not matter if nothing physical happened. You're already feeling massive negative emotional impact which can put your overall health, physical and mental, in danger. If not …
Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
Did I make my Avoidance worse by pushing through it? — Hi all, I’ve been aware I have issues with commitment/avoidance my entire conscious life, but despite it I’ve always wanted to find love I didn’t meet my first boyfriend until I was 22, and it was l…
FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…
Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …
I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…
Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…
F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …
I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…
Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …
Am I crazy? I feel like a stalker. — I (26F) don’t understand how my ex (31M) switched on me overnight, and I’m struggling to cope. We dated for almost a year. At first, he was obsessed with me. He talked constantly about our future mar…
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…
Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…
Divorce was not how I imagined life — I never thought I would go through divorce. When we married I really believed it will last forever. But life changes and people change too. At first it felt very heavy. House quiet, many memories eve…
I miss him. — Logically I know my ex is a POS and clearly mentally ill but I’ve been missing him lately. Usually I’m pretty good at not obsessing over the “good times” but lately I can’t stop thinking about him and…
Why do most victims survive the harm, while perpetrators can’t cope with a slither of accountability? — Victims live with the pain. The fear. The long-term fallout. Not being believed. No justice, or having to fight for it. Being made the aggressor through DARVO. The loss of safety. The way it rewires y…
Funny Therapy Story — I recently started therapy and I think it’s been really good. I’m comfortable with my therapist and I genuinely feel like it is benefiting me. I am a very private person so I don’t have anyone in real…
Who else was taught to people-please or be a pushover? — I was taught by my parents from early childhood to make others happy, and I often found myself last on the priority list. Perhaps the overemphasis on reputation in many Asian cultures contributed to m…
I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…
My new home — Hello everyone, Since May 2025, I’ve been practicing the Law of Assumption regarding owning a home. I started out affirming for a 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom house and even began viewing properties and att…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
self concept got me my dream life — This is a rant, but this is a confirmation that self-concept is real and it's what changes your life. Self-concept is something that you shouldn't convince yourself of. Self-concept is something you b…
Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…
My cop husband cheated and now I can't trust him when he leaves for night shift. — My husband became a cop in 2024 and our entire relationship changed. We've been together since 2019 and we have three kids. Before this, I truly believed he was loyal and strong. He always told me he…
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…
Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …
The manifestation routine that unexpectedly changed my life — Over the past year I’ve been diving deeper into manifestation and I’m curious if anyone else has experienced something similar. Recently I read Reality Transurfing, watched Sam Ovens’ Mindset course,…
Us who were child victims — Do you absolutely melt when you see a parent go above and beyond to protect or avenge their child? I was not believed by my mother when I told her I was raped at 9 years old by a family "friend." When…
I blocked my mother. — On March 3, I blocked my mother in WhatsApp. I’ve been living abroad for four years and started therapy two years ago. So many things have happened during this time... She used to tell me that I’ve ne…
I am 18F and I’m exhausted dealing with my Indian mom who practically worships her narcissistic, manipulative younger brother and lets him control my life while treating me like garbage. — My mom (44F) has two younger brothers. The one I’m talking about is the middle child. He’s married and has a 10-year-old daughter. In my opinion he is one of the most narcissistic, selfish, and arroga…
Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach. — I’m 28 and my wife is 26. We’ve been married for 4 years and we have a 1-year-old child together. Before we got married, we had a lot of conversations about values and expectations for the future. On…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
UPDATE: I thought my marriage just felt loveless…turns out there was a reason — Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/s/9esS6gNKMJ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/s/9esS6gNKMJ) Hi everyone, I posted a while ago saying that my marriage felt empty and loveless, but th…
Miss the sex with my ex — I’ve had sex with other people, both before and after my ex, and we’ve unfortunately been on/off and finally called it quits. However, every time we’ve broken up (I know intermittent reinforcement can…
Miss sex with my ex — I’ve had sex with other people, both before and after my ex, and we’ve unfortunately been on/off and finally called it quits. However, every time we’ve broken up (I know intermittent reinforcement can…
I got a call from my lawyer — I'll make this quick, but 6 months ago I was arrested for something I didn't do. Since then I have remained under investigation for Conspiracy to commit fraud and it's turned my life around. The polic…
I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective — It wasn’t a single explosion but a slow grind between two people who couldn’t agree on what a "good life" looked like. For a long time, I was admittedly the husband who didn’t pull his weight, a chara…
I am a scientist who discovered she can travel with her mind — Hello everyone. I want to tell you my story. I come from a verty strict religious background and I struggled since childhood to believe in something I could not scientifically prove. I begged God to s…
I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…
Goodbye. I wish I never meet you or anyone else like you ever again. — You called me names I never thought I’d hear from someone who said they loved me. I was made to feel like I had to constantly prove my worth, my character, even my right to exist. Everything about me …
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…
what finally got me to shift - I broke my mind ⋆˚࿔ — I used to be the person who would try to shift every single night and wake up crying from a failed attempt because I was so frustrated with the fact that I wasn’t shifting. I thought that I fully be…
The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…
Hi! So I’m pretty new to this sub and currently trying to read up and decide what I think about AP. For a long time, I’ve believed that reality is a construct in the mind, or just a result of what our…
Fuck her, she can't even take care of her cats as deaths are an occurrence at her place. I should have followed the red flags like she never even once cared about my fears and I BELIEVED LIKE hello sh…
I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…
Yes, you can develop the habit of Prayer to strenghten your faith, ask for little things first with conviction that it’s done and when you’ll see it work, your faith will grow :) That’s what I did, y…
“It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still fee nothing about hurting you.” WOW wow wow. I’m going thru this with someone I believed to be chosen family…
Thank you for your sympathy! 💕 I reported them on the app, but didn't feel comfortable going to the police since similar behavior hasn't been consistently regarded as assault in other cases. My expe…
I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …
How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…
Indeed, this is a great reply. The answers people get online are rarely precise. What is more, I bet plenty of people lie to themselves to protect their self image or because they genuinely believe th…
Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …
I am also a beginner in all these things but I know one thing that what I wanted to manifest, I just believed in it deeply. Visualised that I already had it in my life multiple times. Like did not rea…
Congratulations! That is a lot of work you have put in and you’ve come so far! You should be very proud of yourself that your conscience and your ‘side of the street’ is clean, you had honest intenti…
She believed God would deliver them. She didn't probably have resistance to them showing up in her life. For her, it was like ordering something off amazon. She probably (again I don't know your mom b…
Highly suggest this for meditation. This is the description of the video and audio file. https://youtu.be/r6a_EnUG180?si=-x7_b4mf2JSIjBG2 Taygeta, one of the seven sisters bright star visible to the …
Forgive me for being thick, but I think I just became even more confused. I read both posts and just finished reading the link to the post by Marsh273, you shared. I have read quite a few of them in …
I don't resent any of my exes. When exes would reach out to me I was pretty aloof/indifferent towards them. Which is typical avoidant behavior strategies. Usually the one's that have resentment toward…
I think I've learned via age and therapy you can only meet people where they are at. If someone is not very emotionally open there is probably a solid reason for that, it's not our job to prise them …
Hmm ill take your advice to focus on my education, I am in my late teens and I should make sure I can have a stable job. However, I always believed that planning for marriage is important as well as I…
after posting this i found out that they were lying about how they felt about me. they said they loved me (multiple times!) but didnt mean it, and actually thought we were moving too fast. which sucks…
Thank you! I can answer some of these! 1 & 2. Why she is my attachment source. Several years ago I moved (back) up to HQ when our satellite location closed. At that spot, people of every background …
For me it was essentially a ptsd flashback and they “were” the person hurting me if this was taking place. Like I was trying to control the damage that I believed (rationally or not) was coming. So a …
I’m sorry this is the case for you. I’ve been cheated on in most of my serious relationships. That is a reflection more on my ability to choose a trustworthy partner rather than attachment style. I ig…
Wow I am sorry. I have felt similarly before and it is such a terrible thing to experience. There was a time, even, where I was paranoid that I was NPD (despite being, if anything, the complete opposi…
Well, you've asked for a DA perspective, and I'll be honest.... I'm not going to say that your guy is the exact same as I was, and there is every chance that he'll react differently than I did. Ther…
The way I interpreted those situations is that yes, he is saying that you can change your experience, including with people, by changing your thoughts and beliefs. In the situation with the 3x marrie…
I read an article from a DA that they’d start early dates with lines like ‘this is just casual, when this ends, we are just friends’ even though they really liked the person but could be all in with t…
I am anxious attacher earned secure, after 2 years of therapy. Now I am in a relationship with DA or FA, possibly the second option, hurting as hell, considering leaving them. Everything was ok, for t…
Text of original post by u/EveyandSylus: Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But f…
Hi everyone. I’m posting here because I genuinely want outside perspective and grounded advice, not validation. Background I (male, 22) have known my partner (female, 19) for about 3.5 years. We are…
Here's my thoughts after being on this subreddit for a while, and I am someone who has been daily practicing for the past 8+ months with no physical results. 1. Maladaptive daydreaming proves that ma…
I did in fact worry I’d be permanently jaded from it. In our case, it wasn’t so much a situation of anxious/avoidant cycles, it was just the abuse cycle. She was extremely controlling, jealous, would …
My point is that it doesn’t no good to psychologize him when you can just read his actions. I wish I believed actions were louder than words many years ago
I’d love to trust the positive evidence. The last guy I went on a couple of dates with in October I believed him when he said I was gorgeous, I believed him when he said he enjoyed my company, I belie…
I grew up under almost the same conditioning. It took therapy for me to realize something unsettling: for years, I was missing entire chances to feel like myself. Somewhere along the way, I learned h…
Hi All! I need some advice. My post has not gained any traction anywhere else. I am here to understand what is happening because I feel clouded a little bit in my relationship. We are opposite attachm…
I think sometimes people genuinely believe that they’ve healed, but new relationships are a stressor, and sometimes that stressor proves people are less healed than they believed. Other times people a…
I'm so sorry, that sounds very painful. Honestly I think if he was affectionate, pursuing sex, and happy to be in public, then its likely he was attracted to you, and something else is going on. Ma…
I had a first date and it was technically fine but not a match. I turned him down kindly but firmly the next day. Probably not fully ready because I find myself so mad at my ex because we had such a g…
I've always enjoyed being a bit of a loner as a child, coming from a big family. I absolutely love being in relationships but I also thrive when single. I've lived with boyfriends in the past, but po…
Got broken up with on Saturday evening. Amicable. I’m heartbroken. I really believed him when he said he wanted a future with me. He was the one that encouraged the relationship. He didn’t tell me why…
I'm 4 days post an Okay (not great, but not terrible) second date with a new guy. I posted before about how he seemed very excited to have matched with me and how we both have adhd so he felt understo…
Today is my 35th birthday. It’s been almost 6 months since my ex left me and we have had no contact. Over the weekend I was visiting my brother and sister-in-law at their brand new house. They are a f…
Yeah, it was pretty surreal. I believed I could feel his ghost/presence at first. I never put much thought into spirits or life after death until after he died. I resonate a lot with fighting for the…
I have dated non-monogamously in the past and came to the realization that it wasn't for me. I tried my best to make it work, but ultimately, I only had the bandwidth for one person. One person I date…
I’ve gotten over it once and right after I did she came back, I genuinely did think I was using logic in what I did *because* I laid out my criteria for her returning. I didn’t expect her to honestly,…
I understand that desire. Again, I also remember not feeling understood by others and I wasn't really accepting what others said, so I don't know that I'll convince you myself as it has to come …
I mean because sometimes they show up the way you like but they say they don't want a relationship. I believed his actions. It got me in trouble.
Cant help but feel envy when everyone around me is having sex and seeing people and im not. Its been 4 years since I've had any kind of romantic or sexual affection from a woman. I feel like my mental…
Hi, I need some support. It's all ended with the guy I was seeing. He basically just disappeared. Said he felt so mentally bad, couldn't go to work for two days, was so depressed. I had been trying …
I hope this reframing makes it less frustrating to hear those kinds of "compliments". I think it makes sense to treat "you're a catch" or "you? Still single?" from friends, family, etc. as a social …