hard to love

Need to write out what I've been dealing with for 3 months now — I cannot believe how much has happened in such a short amount of time. I met this guy back in mid-December and we had both recently gotten out of relationships in which we were both burned. At first…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

This start pissing me alot? Need second thoughts.. — I’ve never really dealt with depressed people or people with complicated attachment styles before. All my previous relationships were with women who had what you would call a secure attachment style. …

I thought I finally found someone. — Hi! This morning I got a text from a guy that I’m seeing that he doesn’t want a romantic relationship. He said with anyone but that I was perfect, kind, sweet and I’d make the perfect gf/wife. I fell …

How do I (23F) cope in a relationship with someone who has depression (22M)? — My bf and I have been dating for almost 6 months. We started dating right before winter rolled around and he felt like a dream come true until the past few months. He is medicated and does go to thera…

My parents are teachers adored by community figures, old classmates, and current friends. To me they are the narcissistic who raised children that became anxious, adults who hate themselves, and have a multitude of mental and social issues. — Not looking for advice. I live a good life. One that I built for myself with my partner of 15 years. Its the complete opposite of what I grew up in. We do not yell, we do not make passive comments. W…

I posted something similar recently: Is “Capacity for Repair” the ultimate green flag we should be vetting for? I’ve been reflecting on the fundamental difference between a past relationship that e…

Or the “mothers curse” that we’ll have a kid just like us! So we can see just how BAD and DISRESPECTFUL and DIFFICULT we are! I can’t wait for that curse to come true so I can see just how “hard to l…

Accepting all of myself. Even the bits that are hard to love. 

"I guess I'm just the worst mom (or parent) ever" in response to basic criticism or you not being thrilled with being abused. "Until you're 18, your body belongs to me!" Any time the subject of pierc…

Refusing to eat when they're angry at me (because she used to prevent me from eating when angry or make a show out of it in front of the family) and now overeating especially when I'm angry. Spending …

„You’re very hard to love.“

The fact that I was more obsessed with "what he could've been" than who he actually was crushed me so much. I was in love with his potential and what he could've been if I just loved him right and gav…

mine told me after therapy that the AP (my best friend) was a “safe harbor” while i was turbulent and hard to love. “you’d hit me,” he said. “you’d sleep on the couch and i’d carry you back to bed. it…

You know the saying, “if a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?” In this analogy, I’m the tree.  I’ve been in the forest alone for quite some time now. It ge…

I was surprised to learn the following: 1. How parents would give their children rides or show up to their events. My mother would never drive me to school or anywhere unless it was for show. I alw…

You think i didn’t? See my other comments i should maybe gave more infos about the Situation. I asked the same time she pulled away now after she came back she lack depth always try not to answer the…

>Trust me if i ever got a clear answer would never post asking. >she says i only loved 2 men "am not the one she's talking about" in my life and find it hard to love anymore. Bro. You can't get a c…

I just turned 34, I’ve never been on a real date let alone a serious relationship because I don’t feel like I’m attractive or charismatic enough for any romantic or erotic adventures plus being compar…

Yes, you need to tolerate his mental health problem and encourage him to grow healthier if you want to be a supportive, healthy partner. You can support him by encouraging him to attend therapy. Don'…

I faced this in my late twenties, early thirties. I too was shallow. Had a very specific type and only dated that type. I even decided to not look for a partner and only play the hook up game and…

i’m really sorry, that kind of heartbreak hurts so bad and it makes sense u feel like this. just because it ended doesn’t mean it wasn’t real or that u’re hard to love, it just means it wasn’t meant t…

Yeah in some ways, but having a good side can be even more painful for the other person if you haven't sorted out issues from emotional neglect that makes you hard to love in other ways.

You both have valid viewpoints. I understand you wanting to keep it secret. But I would also really struggle to trust my partner if they lied to me about something like this. Not to mention, if I’m re…