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It doesn't seem like people normally have control over flipping the switch from negative to positive. If you go to r/sleepparalysis then you will find people complaining about negative experiences wit…
Practicing not doing avoidant behavior is the way to get out of being an FA, at least that has worked for me and now I'm mostly secure. Overcompensating can stifle that process because you're suppress…
Security can sometimes feel boring after coming from a push-pull dynamic. It’s only a problem if you’re actively turned off to sex with your partner. Honeymoon phases *can* last six months to two …
u/samsworkinonit You are not alone. We are human. Anyone in your situation would feel the same level of fear, sadness, and emotional heaviness. As a military spouse, I resonate deeply with what you a…
My first instinct was to make a few bad puns about them trying to shoot their shot, to in the worst case go out with a bang... but in all seriousness, I'm sorry about all this insanity and hope you ar…
Thank you so much for sharing and I'm sorry that happened to you. This is actually why I posted because I wanted to know real stories which you can't really get from a medical doctor. This is exactly …
yesssss!!!! that is what we need more of! you are safe here and I love having you around even when you are not perfect. thats all anyone wants, trauma or not. why is that so hard.
Turning off the news was a good first step. The next step is to stop googling for reassurance. There reassurance is happening right now, in this moment. The is no draft. No one is being sent to fight …
I'm sure you already guessed that there's no 'trick' to it. The process I follow (but might not work for everyone) is: 1. **Feel the Feels**: emotions are not a sign of failure. It's very normal and …
I am so sorry you are going through this right now. Being sick with the flu while home alone is the absolute perfect storm for triggering this specific type of panic. I want to explain exactly why thi…
I am really sorry we both have to think like that. Crazy exes are the worst. Your work place could be your weakest link there. So just make sure thats covered. They can come for that remotely, with li…
She literally just explained in the comment you’re responding to why she posted. It can be incredibly easy to talk yourself out of acting on a gut instinct, especially if another party is actively mis…
You’ve just been blessed, although it may not feel like it. He just showed your relationship was not a safe space. He has free’d you from the cage of being with a ‘strict’ unregulated parter. One hon…
Why don’t you try and half it first? Propranalol doesn’t do an awful lot for me and I’m on 40mg 3 times a day. It’s a safe medication, you are safe. Take it, sit somewhere comfortable and try not to o…
Yes it is - it’s a form of gaslighting and manipulation. Get some ear plugs. The only way is to block your hearing and get away from them . I am really sorry you are with this person. What they are do…
They happen because meditation exercises in general like that are training your mind to stay alert and awake while your body falls asleep. Sleep paralysis, nightmares, etc all will become more frequen…
💒🙏🏾so glad you are safe 🍀good luck on your adventures
I'm glad you are safe in California, and I'm sorry you have had such a rough time. Do you know which friend ratted you out? Good luck with your new life. I'm happy for you!!! 💕☺️
It's contextual. I think it's good scaffolding if you're new to the process: it can help calm the nerves a bit before liftoff, or provide an impressionistic anchor when you're feeling lost or stuck in…
bro i feel u so much, SAME happens with me. i can use LOA with other things like manifesting food or something but with shifting? nah i can't. So i would recommend detaching from your CR but at the sa…
You start with the basics. Staying hydrated and getting enough actual rest/ sleep. Then you work on hygiene, which I'm pretty sure 99% of people aren't excited for but it's a lot better than feeling …
The lesson for you OP is how she will respond if your relationship has challenges in the future. As someone who been married now over 35 years your relationship is going to have challenges in the fu…
Do something physically exhausting before your next session. Don’t push the tears. Go in tired and talk. If your body is exhausted it will start to surrender. Remember you are safe.
Oh no, I’m so sorry! That sounds really hard. If this advice doesn’t apply or feels invalidating at all please ignore because that’s not my intention, but I wonder if you can work on actively emotiona…
Absolutely. This is an amazing opportunity for you to show up for the little kid inside of you who just wants to know it’s going to be ok. You get to create a mantra about being unafraid, and instead,…
Okay so to be honest, i think healing takes time. As you live your life and see that things go on - you are still you, you are safe, your life continues without that person in it, i feel like this slo…
That sucks, sorry you are dealing with this. Sounds like your nervous system could use a break…a nice relaxing bath, smelling some lavender essential oil…whatever makes you feel comforted and grounded…
There's nothing wrong with sex whenever you choose as long as you are choosing, i.e. consenting. However, if you have been SA'ed in the past, the "compulsion" or inhibition can be a trauma response fr…
Practice healthy exits scripts. Ask Ch@tGpT. Have a list of a way to break frame- go to the bathroom, pop out to the car because you forgot your sweatshirt, make a phone call. Schedule something r…
All sounds like a lot of. Lot of emotions you carry, and all of them are spiralling you even further into unwanted state. Fancy quick fix? 1. Give yourself holiday from your emotions first. Just tak…
Hey so I’ve practiced bdsm and this is abuse. What he did was abuse. And you are well within your right to only experience that once and have that be enough for you to get out. Being drunk doesn’t mat…
Yes, please dont tell them what you are doing until you are safely away from them. Just send a text after youre gone saying "ive moved out, dont try to contact me." This avoids any risk of them phys…
i need you to hear this clearly... nothing external is coming for you in your sleep. nothing evil is entering your room. what you experienced was sleep paralysis and everything that happened during it…
spend 10mins a day staring at the ceiling or a tree outside, no music, no phone near you, while low tone humming with your hand on your chest, at 5 mins tell yourself you are safe; do this everyday un…
It's sounds like an anxious attachment. You can't control your thoughts, but you can control your actions. AND you Can, and should, talk back to that internal dialog. That isn't you or your truth ta…
He has spent years grooming/shaping your thoughts and behaviors to put him and his comfort first. You're uncomfortable, but he is counting on your silence because he knows you standing up for yoursel…
Exactly, it's really scary the first time you say no to them, but it gets easier. You'll realize that the fear you feel is a reaction to your childhood when you were under her control and it was genui…
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I really hope you are safe now and have a strong support network around you to help you heal.
Your main question was: “need to know if this counts as cheating.” My answer: **no**. It’s not cheating by ANY standards. I know you’re hurt now, and angry because you’re hurt. Im sorry. Break ups…
I know it might seem scary, and you might not have the perfect support system to get out. But darling, I assure you, in this cases the grass is absolutely greener on the other side. Domestic violence …
I'm so sorry. But please don't try to fight it, you're actively extending it by trying to calm it down with walks and magnesium and what have you. By trying to eliminate the state you're effectively s…
You as an adult now, need to remind yourself that you are safe, to feel and think. This is how you become whole again. You will need to remove yourself from the family dynamics that make you feel un…
I understand. I see you. I feel you. You're valid in your feelings. Validate/acknowledge these feelings. They're trying to tell you something. You are safe. You are protected. You are taken care of. Y…
Let me be your mom for a moment: "I'm so glad you are safe. Please stay there."
I would fight my way into a war zone to get to my children, but I would be pissed as hell if they came into danger for me. As a mother, I want them as far away from that shit as possible! Stay where y…
Nothing about what your mother said makes sense. At heart, humans are biological organisms. The purpose of an organism is to survive long enough to reproduce and either raise its offspring to reproduc…
Stay where you are safe and don't let your mother guilt you.
I'm not a mother, never want to be one, but if I were I'd absolutely do everything within my power to make sure my kids were as safe as possible. I'm so sorry and I'm glad you are safe. Stay safe - d…
Oh, wow. I'm so sorry. Any healthy, loving mother would say to you, "Stay right where you are, I'm so happy you are safe (for the time being.) Don't worry about us, we will do everything we can to do …
Look in the mirror and ask yourself "why do I put up with this?" then quietly plan your escape. Do not give him any idea that you are leaving. He has a bad temper and you need to stop supporting him…