truths

I love Jurgen Ziewe's stuff, I think he has had some of the best experiences and I love how he describes things from an artist's eye. Plus, all of his accounts with his deceased mother are great if yo…

The successful are not here — After years of watching YouTube videos about startup / founder stuff and reading blogs, Reddit, and the horrible place that is LinkedIn, I came to realize that 99.9% of advice (especially in the SaaS …

I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…

Farewell — In the last two years, I have posted to this group a few times. Last year, I posted ([“Here’s the thing: you’re dying, too.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1ifz1cr/heres_the_thing_youre_…

HAE noticed themselves 'borrowing' worthiness from others...? — Almost like a scaffold, while you're still building your own, and still pouring the cement in places you didn't know (still) needed it.... An interesting way I noticed myself 'borrowing' worthiness f…

Reality Shifting Truths — It is realising that what other people do, what methods people use, what routines people have, that is useless to you, that is THEIR journey. Advice from people who shift is amazing and very motivatin…

[Partner] Wife’s suppressed severe trauma surfaced. She’s in extreme ‘flight’ mode, refusing therapy, and I am burning out. Need honest outlooks. — \*\*Added some new context at the end Hi everyone. I’m hoping to find some perspective, hard truths, or shared experiences from those who have navigated severe PTSD/CPTSD dynamics. I am completely e…

Religion — I am truly baffled with how half of the world still believes in monotheistic belief systems. When I first done my astral level trip on l~s~d a several years back, I was mind blown with the data and in…

Wife asked for a divorce. We have two toddlers and still live together. How do you survive this? — I am in the thick of it right now and could really use some perspective from people who have made it to the other side. Recently, my wife told me she wants a divorce. She has made it very clear that …

2g APE trip, complete reality shatter and spirit talking through me? — For context, this is my second “trip” with shrooms, though i’ve microdosed for quite a bit now. The first trip was a very manageable 1g of regular cubes, but this one was a whole different animal. Se…

Daughter drew this today. Has been having nightmares lately — Hello all, My 2 year old (almost 3) received a watercolor gift from a neighbor today. Lately she has been having nightmares. She tells us that she is seeing “fish with big eyes” at night. I have f…

Helpful words for those who were betrayed — Hey everyone, If you were betrayed by your ex I have something to say to you. Even if you weren't the perfect partner, and you had your faults (we all do), YOU still deserved better. You deserved …

71 days since DDay - I’m drowning — Just need to tell someone, a stranger, that I’m drowning. Husband and I had a rocky marriage the last year or two. I found out he was having an emotional affair for 4 months with a coworker. He’s…

I had my NDE in 2022, I died saw the process of a soul's comeback agreement — My first near-death experience was 4 years ago, in France, completely alone and isolated. It was not an accident, I was pretty much chose to cut off from my family and I have given up on life and in s…

“THE EARTH - A LIVING CREATURE!” This is the message of a brief video created from NASA satellite imagery. — I was a contact team coordinator for the CE-5 Initiative in Los Angeles from 1992 to 1998. “She is alive. She is awake and She loves us.” is the message that I received during of a kind of channel…

What counts as a discard? — I posted the other day asking for advice and about my story with a covert narcissist (the signs point to it) but someone said it can’t really be a discard because we only dated and were never in a rel…

I (22F) broke up with my ex (23M) after he cheated and said he was never “excited” about me… but I still believe he loved me and that’s what’s messing me up — I (22F) broke up with my ex (23M) two months ago, and I feel like I’m stuck between two completely different truths that I can’t reconcile. For context, we’re both medical students and were flatmates…

my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality — So we went to see a 4 bedroom house a couple days ago. Looked like a great first buy option, her mom would help us qualify and we'd pay it off. Mostly me. We were so excited about going into the hom…

I dont know what to do now after breaking up with someone I truly loved for once and she left me — For context, my ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. The main reason was that I was emotionally unavailable, which caused a lot of friction in our communication. The relationship did not end o…

Does the shock/cognitive dissonance ever dissipate…? — I feel like they’ve been so good at hiding who they were that even with all the evidence I question myself… although they’ve: \-lied \-stole \-violated privacy (physically) \-violated privacy (…

Growing up in a niche reality (CPTSD) where people can't empathize, really makes me put less weight on others perspectives relative to my own. Made me more dismissive of others. — i get it, people have their own experiences/interpretations/struggles. But after a certain point, it's just like.. these people don't get it and I don't wanna hear what they have to say. I think the…

Miss you, love you, exhausted — If He Wanted To The silence is the loudest thing I’ve ever heard. Louder than our fights. Louder than the words I wish I could take back. Louder than every “I love you” that once felt like oxygen.…

Can't say it objectively "gets better" but it's definitely gotten better for me since finding out I had CPTSD in 2019. — Right now, I'm the most functional I've ever been. To describe what that feels like to me, it feels like in life you have to fit this mold of accepting lifes truths. Truths like, nobody is coming to …

Defensive attitude regarding love and breakup — I’ve noticed in this sub that when people are going through a breakup, they often point out certain less-discussed aspects of human relationships: the attachment, the greed and need, the transactional…

Therapy is a scam. Especially for BSs — Just went to a therapy session with husband to stall while i’m preparing to exit. He’s narcissistic, lowkey abusive, liar, manipulative. But we were talking about how my boundaries with WH made him fe…

I’m I crazy for wanting a divorce this early? — So me, M(21) and wife, (23) dated for a year before tying the knot. We’ve been married 4 months and I’m already regretting everything. I’m in the military so the whole time we dated, we were in a LD…

If you are new here.. — .....you likely came from the nevillegoddard sub, in which case you should understand a few things. a. The Law of Belief (LOB) is a law of physics. It says that mental thoughts become physical realit…

FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals — **What is emotional neglect?** In one's childhood, a lack of: everyday caring, non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents (or whoever your primary caregivers were, if not your biological parent…

Agreed. I just checked out this sub because I was interested, but the putting down of Neville has turned me off. Studying and implementing Nevilles teachings for the past few years has made me a new w…

You have the right to your truth! And accountability is needed at times for you and for them. I think there is such a thing as loving through high expectations. Avoiding the hard truth of things means…

What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…

I was literally just discussing this with my therapist yesterday. The balancing act of navigating knowing two truths can exist at the same time is hard af. But it does help so much processing emotions…

You're describing dialetical thinking, which is a really important tool when you are trying to move past black-and-white thinking. Being able to hold two truths at the same time is really important, e…

I totally felt the same, like he loved me but had contempt anytime I had a need or comment that somehow threatened him. Like “yeah, so” turns completely cold::: and just sooo many easy ways out, shots…

I couldn't agree with you more. Also sorry that you had to explain that to people via DMs. I know it's something you kinda get used to as a more self-aware avoidant on reddit but that doesn't ma…

That's so funny, I actually wrote "I envy that level of delulu" and changed it to confidence. >It's funny that you mention confidence because that's what this person said. That DAs don't have the con…

Im healing FA myself and my unaware FA avoidant leaning did this all the time. She was hard people pleaser aswell and when time passed i couldnt trust anymore what she said to me. I really understand …

Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…

Text of original post by u/bleepbloooopity: I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even …

Both the loving and the cold version are really them. Of course part of who 'they' are is because of early childhood experiences, but that did shape them and made them into who they are today. That's …

Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…

1. it's a therapist's job to confront you and tell you hard truths, not to coddle you. 2. have you considered getting tested for autism?

I agree. I’m just spinning my wheels mentally and people on the internet can be excellent at hard truths 😂. I really relate to what you’re saying too. It seems like an especially tricky wound to hea…

I can understand. It’s an experience ppl should be allowed to want freely. You can both have your peace and be in a relationship. I think some people have a hard time understanding two truths can live…

Late-diagnosed autistic 32F here! I was in a similar situation 5 years ago (with the only difference is that I don’t want to date my friend as we have different relationship goals). If, in a parallel …

At least for me it’s helpful to remind myself that this type of thinking is the “avoidance” I’m trying to fight. “You want freedom? Well when you have freedom, you eventually get sick of casual conne…

Exactly this, how are your married friends who know and care about you going to give you worse advice than strangers on the internet. Alot of people just want their problems to exist in an echo chamb…

Trust. Holding multiple truths at once. He could leave at any time for any reason, and trusting that he will stay. Trusting that I don't have to fall apart if we do. Taking it day by day, step by step…

I feel like the prompts on the apps make every profile shallow. Eg 2 truths and a lie. It sounds like a shitty team building activity at an entry level job. I’d never mention any of those prompt topic…

Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…

i'm not trying to sound like a bitch but i really read this post thinking it was a young 20 something year old. just the subject line alone. more just people in general but i dont understand why bein…

Love this response--I've always been a "simple things" person, too, to the point I sometimes remind myself the sky's the limit and do that. But day to day, I Iook around and realize "it is done" is ab…

I dont copypasta much but this what I made for my void friend. I wrote the deck by hand i just run it using gpt The card you’re asking for is: C13 — Void Friend (ID: C13_friend_of_nothing) --- A…

I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…

You're the same age as my LDR partner, who I met on this sub. We've been together for 14 months. We've definitely had those ups and downs regarding the afterlife of our respective ended marriages. Ou…

Although many Taureans tend to be reserved, your Aries Ascendant and Gemini Moon should allow your emotions to flow more freely, or at least make you more communicative. However, the opposition of yo…

There's a famous quote from the Tantric master Tilopa to his disciple Naropa: "Your thoughts are not the problem. Your attachment to them is the problem." People often think they need to eliminate de…

You’re not “the problem” because the spark isn’t there right now, but I do think you may be looking at love as if it is only a feeling. Love is also a choice, a duty, and a set of actions you keep tak…

This has been very insightful! I appreciate everyone for the harsh truths. I honestly didn't realize how big of an impact it could have on him. My thoughts were sort of in the relam of "he can get it…

One of the harder truths about situationships is that they can meet a real human need while still not being right for us long term. Physical touch is a real need. It regulates our nervous system. It …

She’s your best friend? You’re not hers. She’s riding some other guy. Hard truths there. You are working to get her through medical school just for her to leave you once she’s qualified. That’s the …

Same boat but 14 years. I’m slowly starting to find myself again after giving her my life. At the end she dragged everything out, giving me half truths and bullshit. She forced me to be the one to as…

Ah I see. I think there a two truths here: 1. Wondering whats wrong with these guys. 2. Yes, there has to be a pattern (type) here. I don't ~~know of~~ hang around any clowns who would say something…

This is a fully planned and manufactured way of life. Either go to sleep in it till the afterlife or wake up to uncomfortable truths and actually learn something.

K I actually love this take. No honor among thieves is right!  I wouldn't be opposed to it per se, but my situation is a bit different, if I was more like where you're at I would totally go a simila…

I reckon I'm going to give one hell of a eulogy at the funeral, lots of honest truths that my immediate family will find extremely cathartic.

There you said it yourself too, what truly seems to make it so hard for many to go and see it through and through, that of the transition from illusory loneliness into that of solitude. As it is a r…

Sorry that you are a part of this shitty club too, OP! It sucks and I hate being in it as well. I break it down to selective truths. My WH cheated on me with 2 women at the same time. Do I think of …

Are you only insecure in your relationship or do you lack self esteem overall? Did you feel any insecurity when you were overweight? While having a healthy body creates an environment for a healthy mi…

For me the biggest shift came from realizing those thoughts about not being “enough” are learned beliefs, not truths. What I call "Truth Illusions" Practices that helped me a lot were the Sedona Met…

Have you ever thought about breaking up during these moment? I think I was with an avoidant leaning person for a short but intense time, and after a few minor issues, she basically discarded me even t…

Yep! I've said this elsewhere but a useful framework to have is holding two truths at the same time. In your case, it is perfectly okay to want to have ended the relationship as well as miss them. Th…

Wow. I read this and found it kind of shocking that this wasn't a far right op, because it almost reads like one. I had to look the author up to see where they were coming from, and that was pretty sh…

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You're not alone. I'm in a marriage with a partner that a number of people in my life are telling me I should divorce, so I understand that position. A positi…

People that get emotional about the most obscure shit, like they pull some sob story out of their ass because they are empathy vampires and they think they can swing some sympathy their way. And you j…

Thank you for writing this. I teared up lots as I read it. It resonated with me deeply and I knew these truths too but it helps so much to hear someone else say these things out loud. Especially someo…

Absolutely agree. Even being a good spouse they might even find a way to make you not good enough, question your motives, bring up things from 15 years ago, twist truths and even lie as a coping mecha…

Totally agree. I wonder which perspective the author would find more “emotionally mature” — holding accountability without grace, or holding two truths at once. I think I’d go with the ladder, but a…