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Holy cow wtf was that!?

He had telepathic contact with me once. I was attempting to shift my awareness from this reality to another. Apparently my vibration was high enough that he could meet me in the middle, and bring hims…

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/29/2026
START HERE !!!

START HERE !!! — # Step-by step short guide r/Sbreggo So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the…

r/gatewaytapespost1/19/2024
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

r/UXDesignpost4/30/2025
My experience winning a chargeback

My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…

r/Shopifypost5/5/2025
How do you promote kubernetes environments using ArgoCD?

How do you promote kubernetes environments using ArgoCD? — I've watched a video by Anton Putra, [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_G\_RY5trQao](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G_RY5trQao), on production grade setup with Argo. The video is great and I've l…

r/DevOpspost5/7/2025
Law of Belief - Relationships

Law of Belief - Relationships — I have read the POSM by Joseph Murphy and gone through the index, but one thing that keeps coming up and seems to be rather controversial within the JM community is how law of belief affects other peo…

r/JosephMurphypost9/12/2025
What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like?

What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like? — I am a dismissive avoidant trying to get better about reaching out to others for connection, co-regulation, emotional support, etc. I am really struggling to figure out what's normal/healthy/reasonabl…

r/attachment_theorypost1/15/2026
how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person?

how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person? — tl;dr how to keep a connection going with a secure potential love interest who likes to be alone when you’re anxious-preoccupied af 😭 i’m a lifelong anxious-preoccupied and through years of Doing Th…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost1/21/2026
My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman

My Experience Being an Avoidant Woman — I 27(f) am a lesbian who has a fearful avoidant attachment style. I have almost no control over my attraction; I can be really into/attracted to and excited about someone but then something happens/th…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost2/7/2026
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance)

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

r/Manifestationpost3/7/2026
Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop

Top 1% Sleep Paralysis Sufferer – Just had a wild 'Inception' loop — I get sleep paralysis a lot, but I just had my first "dream-within-a-dream" (False Awakening) loop. I was falling asleep while masturbating and a 'demon' attacked, forcing me back to sleep. Then whil…

r/LucidDreamingpost3/9/2026
Has this happened to anyone in a lucid dream before

Has this happened to anyone in a lucid dream before — So to make this short, I don't ever lucid dream becausei don't know how to trigger it. In my dream I just became aware I was in a dream randomly I was in an unknown city in an unknown shopping mall wi…

r/LucidDreamingpost3/9/2026
Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown.

Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown. — Hi everyone. I have been actively looking for a psychiatrist or therapist to take me seriously when trying to pick through cPTSD, and autistic shutdown. The services in my province (Canadian) only of…

r/CPTSDpost3/11/2026
As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues

As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues — I feel I have experienced a lot of discrimination in the workplace due to my race, but I feel like it's also getting worse as the years go by. Actually, so many things, like the propensity for cancel…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/12/2026
‘KPop Demon Hunters’ Sequel Officially a Go From Netflix, Sony With Directors Maggie Kang and Chris Appelhans Returning

‘KPop Demon Hunters’ Sequel Officially a Go From Netflix, Sony With Directors Maggie Kang and Chris Appelhans Returning

r/AsianAmericanpost3/13/2026
I hate narcissists!

I hate narcissists! — I tried so hard to forgive. I even made a comment here months ago about forgiveness. I was trying to delude myself. Narcissists deserve to rot and burn in the lowest depths of hell there is. How can y…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/14/2026
Asian erasure or something like that

Asian erasure or something like that — This is a little vent post about this youtube short I just watched on the “viral no-water chicken soup”, which is like pretty obviously asian inspired based on the ingredients (if you search for this …

r/AsianAmericanpost3/14/2026
House of Danube/Deneb & The Tuatha Dé Danaan

House of Danube/Deneb & The Tuatha Dé Danaan — I have just had an unexpected and seasonally apropos experience with St. Patrick's day right around the corner. Meditating in a hypnopompic state yesterday morning I heard a man's voice speaking to m…

r/experiencerspost3/15/2026
KPOP Demon Hunters wins best Oscars animated feature film

KPOP Demon Hunters wins best Oscars animated feature film

r/AsianAmericanpost3/15/2026
Golden from KPOP Demon Hunters wins Oscars best original song

Golden from KPOP Demon Hunters wins Oscars best original song

r/AsianAmericanpost3/16/2026
‘Golden’ Wins Best Song at Oscars, But 'KPop Demon Hunters' Team’s Speech Cut Short: The moment, meant to mark a milestone for Asian creators in Hollywood, has since sparked debate over whose voices get heard on the Oscars stage.

‘Golden’ Wins Best Song at Oscars, But 'KPop Demon Hunters' Team’s Speech Cut Short: The moment, meant to mark a milestone for Asian creators in Hollywood, has since sparked debate over whose voices get heard on the Oscars stage.

r/AsianAmericanpost3/16/2026
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost3/16/2026
When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe!

When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe! — I had to share this as I have noticed in recent times a slurry of misinformation being shared on this subreddit. I see endless mentions now of the need to let go, the need to be constantly detached, t…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/17/2026
Does a Narc ever regret?

Does a Narc ever regret? — I dont mean hoovering or fake attempts, I mean actually regret the pain they have caused? Like some sort of lightbulb moment? For my Nex he was so attentive for the emotions of his sisters, mum, SIL,…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/17/2026
Oscars Producer Responds to Backlash for Cutting Off KPop Demon Hunters Speech

Oscars Producer Responds to Backlash for Cutting Off KPop Demon Hunters Speech — quoting: [https://variety.com/2026/tv/news/oscar-producers-in-memoriam-explained-conan-obrien-return-1236689787](https://variety.com/2026/tv/news/oscar-producers-in-memoriam-explained-conan-obrien-ret…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/18/2026
Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman.

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

r/experiencerspost3/19/2026
Are you lost? START HERE!

Are you lost? START HERE! — # Step-by step short guide So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the same que…

r/gatewaytapespost3/20/2026
I typically never have nighmares, while I have terryfying emotional states and flashback during waking states.

I typically never have nighmares, while I have terryfying emotional states and flashback during waking states. — Not really a question, but I recently realized that for all the life I live with crippling fears, anxiety, and depression, my sleep is kinda nice. The worst dreams I get are boring ones, like I am dre…

r/energy_workpost3/21/2026
Struggling to redirect my impulsive co-dependent decisions

Struggling to redirect my impulsive co-dependent decisions — I am unfortunately dealing with a best friend break up, it's been nearly 2 months and I am still struggling to not give in to some of my co-dependent thoughts and decisions. i have been doing a ton o…

r/Codependencypost3/22/2026
An absolutely brilliant 3 minute demonstration on silencing your mind.

An absolutely brilliant 3 minute demonstration on silencing your mind. — I've had quite a bit of success meditating, although it took me quite some time to learn how, and what what it feels like when my minds habit of constant thoughts finally stops. I found this short li…

r/gatewaytapespost3/22/2026
My Experience in Intro Focus 21 Odyssey Wave IV, Movement to Locale 2

My Experience in Intro Focus 21 Odyssey Wave IV, Movement to Locale 2 — Last night I was in a meditation session (Wave IV, Odyssey, Movement to Locale 2), and after the part where you’re guided to move toward and through the white light, I ended up somewhere that felt ver…

r/gatewaytapespost3/22/2026
Should I astral project if there's an entity in my house?

Should I astral project if there's an entity in my house? — I've been interested in reality shifting, manifestation etc. for a while now but recently I learned about AP. I'm new to this but I heard that you can see and maybe even interact with various entities…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/22/2026
K-Pop Demon Hunters To Release The “Huntrix Meal” and “Saja Boys” Breakfast Meal At McDonalds In A “Battle For The Fans”

K-Pop Demon Hunters To Release The “Huntrix Meal” and “Saja Boys” Breakfast Meal At McDonalds In A “Battle For The Fans” — Didn’t expect them to come out with this nearly a year after the movie’s release but good for them!

r/AsianAmericanpost3/24/2026
Sleep paralysis, Astral Projection and hearing demonic voices

Sleep paralysis, Astral Projection and hearing demonic voices — so this happened in my early 20s. I had one night with sleep paralysis and 5 times i forced myself awake. i was in my exact room, same items same places except i couldnt move. every time i woke up i g…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/25/2026
People trying to manifest an SP back into their life. Read this

People trying to manifest an SP back into their life. Read this — They are already yours Not tomorrow. Right now. In your mind, before anything in the outside world has changed. This is the whole secret. The outside world is not the real world. It is just the las…

r/Manifestationpost3/26/2026
Do you think narcissists experience "variable empathy" or do they simply pretend to experience empathy?

Do you think narcissists experience "variable empathy" or do they simply pretend to experience empathy? — I was recently watching a Dr. Ramani video in which she talks about the confusion survivors of narcissist abuse feel when they think about their experience with the narcissists. For many survivors, at…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/27/2026
Are you lost? START HERE!

Are you lost? START HERE! — # Step-by step short guide So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the same que…

r/gatewaytapespost3/27/2026
I think manifestation has clicked for me

I think manifestation has clicked for me — So basically, we are the source of our reality, everything within it is generated from within us (and we are consciousness/energy). So in order to change the 3D, we have to change our inner state an…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/27/2026
Does anyone else get these crazy "vibrations" or is it just me? Need to vent

Does anyone else get these crazy "vibrations" or is it just me? Need to vent — Yo everyone, i rly need to share this because whenever i try to tell someone they either think im capping or jst give me that blank oh really? look its frustrating as heck. so here’s the deal i usual…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/27/2026
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish

How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/28/2026
How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish

How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the medi…

r/AsianMasculinitypost3/28/2026
Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 (first timer)

Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 (first timer) — Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 \- Afterwards felt very focused, aware. Face feels numb. \- During focus 10, I saw a vision of a black male outside a building walking, then hearing gunshots inside …

r/gatewaytapespost3/28/2026
Ended up manifesting a ladder moment as I was responding to a ladder experiment post here!

Ended up manifesting a ladder moment as I was responding to a ladder experiment post here! — Less than 24 hours ago, I had responded to a post about the [Ladder Experiment here](https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleGoddard/comments/1s5ii7d/conflicting_goddard_teachings/ocwwx5b/). I was explaining …

r/nevillegoddardpost3/29/2026
eye experience

eye experience — About a year and a half ago I was meditating in my room and had a very amazing experience that I still can't wrap my head around. I had been using Tom Campbell's binaural beats for a while and practic…

r/experiencerspost3/29/2026
Synchronicity and the Beginning or Continuity of Experience?

Synchronicity and the Beginning or Continuity of Experience? — To begin, I have had quite a long winded set of experiences, that have seemed to have calmed down a bit over the last few weeks. They went on for several months beginning 3 months and 3 days before my…

r/experiencerspost3/29/2026
breakthrough trip & the bigger picture

breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…

r/experiencerspost3/29/2026
Just trying to gain closure on my own...

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
UFO intelligence demonstrated its virtuoso psi ability by creating visual “illusions” that witnesses interpreted as anomalous shooting stars.

UFO intelligence demonstrated its virtuoso psi ability by creating visual “illusions” that witnesses interpreted as anomalous shooting stars. — UFO intelligence demonstrated its virtuoso psi ability by creating visual “illusions” that witnesses interpreted as anomalous shooting stars. This capability to create such visual displays was demonst…

r/experiencerspost3/29/2026
Why It's Critical You Work On Yourself - For Yourself - After a Breakup

Why It's Critical You Work On Yourself - For Yourself - After a Breakup — Hey all. So - it happened. After eight months and seven of no contact, I ran into my ex in person. As a reminder, I ended things with my ex after a year and a half or so because we could not co-regu…

r/BreakUpspost3/30/2026
Healing

Healing — It’s been 3 weeks since we broke up. 5 years 3 months 2 days evaporated. You showed me your true colors right away with the lies, gaslighting, and cheating. I endlessly gave you the benefit of the dou…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/30/2026
Flying Monkeys Are Not Forgiven

Flying Monkeys Are Not Forgiven — I don't know if anyone is here to try and understand their role in a narcissist's abuse, but one of my nex's flying monkeys tried to apologize today. I want to remind flying monkeys that forgiveness i…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/31/2026
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Hi there! Quick question, is it possible to get "possessed " by a "demon" while AP'ing? I have never APed before, saw one post about getting possessed by a demon for 7 years, it kinda creepy, so is i…

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/22/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

No, it is not. People talk a lot of nonsense. The only demons people get possessed by are by their own egotistical psychology or some other fantasy 👍 I'll also paste an answer I gave to someone a whi…

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/22/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

The most interesting thing I’ve ever heard is that the only people who ever get demon possessed are Christians. I think that tells you everything you need to know about demon possession

r/AstralProjectioncomment7/23/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I want to Ap but as a kid I watched a lot of sci fi demonic movies and my mom would study Wiccan culture so I’m like ehhhhh what’s going to happen to me will I get stuck there will something else tak…

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/17/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…

r/AstralProjectioncomment8/24/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Don’t be scared or put too much pressure on yourself . It’s a beautiful experience and a great way to face those fears you are concerned about. Don’t meet your demons with violence , you will find tha…

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/14/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Be mindful of what you put out bc you could be missing an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what you are connected to . I’ve found that even when dealing with personal demons or dark presen…

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/14/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/25/2024
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

Ze's saying within 5 years of a serious betrayal, like cheating, not within 5 years of marriage. Your statiatics are for marriages in general (this is a good demonstration of why it's generally a good…

r/relationship_advicecomment10/22/2024
Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules

I did notice there are occasional “I am an abuser/racist/sexist” posts nowadays, although more time will be needed to observe and decide whether a rule about that will be necessary because as of now, …

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment12/9/2024
A reminder to think about what you’re posting.

Don't even get me started on how dysfunctional people are with relationship skills these days. Absolutely based on lust, transactions and selfishness. Most younger people have ZERO clue how to love. T…

r/ExNoContactcomment1/24/2025
My arguments against manifestation

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/27/2025
As a DevOps Engineer, do I need to know databases?

It can’t hurt, especially in companies where you’ll need to know more than one area. If you are interested and don’t have that opportunity at work, do side projects where you learn these things yourse…

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them?

My therapist pointed out actually that withdrawing emotionally while still feeling emotionally connected or retaining symbols of connection as a part of push and pull dynamics. It is not a manipulatio…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard

My friends and family are telling me to slow down, but the pressure for our business is high and the competition dynamic and many. I code 4-5 days a week from 11am, often until 430/5am. A few times th…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

This is a very interesting experiment 😅😅 Please don’t discourage OP. I’m def following him to see how things pan out. I personally think he should eventually talk about therapy with his gf. I also…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/15/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

Honestly, yours is the best comment here. Online pop psychology has REALLY distorted what secure attachment is. To some, it’s some sort of stoic perfection where your actions must always match their i…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/15/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

The demonization of avoidant people really annoys me. I'm fearful avoidant so I see all perspectives in this and yeah avoidance is hurtful, neglect is painful, creating space through fights is toxic a…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/20/2025
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Said the one who made 101 posts demonising DAs in the past

r/attachment_theorycomment5/24/2025
No one should suffer because we have trauma.

I don't think demonizing anyone is productive, but if someone gets hurt by an avoidant they should be allowed to express that hurt. The same way avoidants do when the anxious overstep.

r/attachment_theorycomment5/26/2025
No one should suffer because we have trauma.

Yeah, I was going to mention this because I often see posts and comments online and on Reddit demonizing avoidents or diagnosing others of being avoident with limited information or perspective. While…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/30/2025
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/16/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

As others have mentioned this is called, "Hoovering". In attachment theory, particularly with someone who is dismissive avoidant, they may feel threatened by too much intimacy and push you away (brea…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA

people demonize DAs a lot, as if most people are sociopathic and can’t grow. keep doing what you’re doing. communicate, check in, all that. secure attachment requires effort, it’s not a destination or…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/2/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

Appreciate your honesty, but PLEASE DO NOT DATE until you’ve worked on yourself in a consistent, demonstrable way and have learned to actually change what you desire. You will only cause unnecessary …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

It’s not really fair to bring someone innocent into the mess until it is demonstrably healed. Otherwise, it’s just using them as yet another crutch to justify prolonged weird behavior. We also have …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

I wanna apologize to you and all avodants. I've been hurt in the past and actively participated in demonizing Avodants. It’s easier to view avodants as monster than hurt people trying their best. It’s…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

I get it. My last partner was the one I made so much progress with, and he ended up being extremely avoidant and discarded me out of the bluea year in. It was very painful. But honestly the amount of …

r/attachment_theorycomment7/30/2025
I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies.

Yeah I agree with you on that That’s not what you said though, and what I was specifically responding to with that comment. You said “it’s not really fair to bring someone innocent into the mess with…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/31/2025
My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning.

Yes, I edited, and yes, my comment contains some judgement (besides mostly description and perception, ie. judgement-free language). Non-violent, 100% judgemental-free Rosenberg communication, to me…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/4/2025
Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective.

Well if both parties are aware of attachment theory then I think they are less likely to judgemental of the different attachment styles. If not you can explain what an unhealthy attachment is and wha…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/14/2025
Struggling after “healing” is challenged

How long were you seeing each other before the break? Were you exclusive? Sounds like he wanted to scope out other options and keep you as a back up just in case. or was always avoiding a break up c…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/27/2025
Not spiralling for not talking to my bf for days now!!

The fact that OP says a few months aho they would have been spiralling.... suggests that this has happened before and they didnt cope well and is now celebrating coping well, suggests that this sotuat…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/15/2025
We should keep in mind that its a spectrum..

I'm glad you recognized the bias for yourself. It's so noticeable as an avoidant, as I carry many scars from APs (not demonizing all of them, just obviously insecure attachment is a two sided coin.) S…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment9/22/2025
Finding proof that you were right to be anxious

When you say you "actually like them", what does that really mean? Is that when you've gotten to know them well enough to understand how they approach relationships and communication? When you've seen…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/22/2025
Finding proof that you were right to be anxious

You're not someone who falls for people easily but you're having your attachment anxiety triggered after a month and are falling in love after 3 months? Hmmm. It took 3 years to get to "I love you" …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/22/2025
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times?

I think I wrote a "list" mostly just to demonstrate what he could've done instead of nothing. I'm fine even if what he did weren't any of those things, as long as it was something. You're definitely…

r/attachment_theorycomment10/27/2025
Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup.

Avoidants are demonized because they don’t communicate and often deny their (ex)partner the ability to communicate and that is dehumanizing becuase communication is what separates us from the rest of …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/5/2025
Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?)

Yeah potentially. I've also dated a DA and our relationship was way more stable though and he definitely showed empathy so I wouldn't say NPD light was with him although he could be quite cold and sel…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/16/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

This was kinda why I asked the question. Not being able to talk about past relationships is the marker of avoidance, and having only negative things to say is the marker of anxiousness.  I totally ge…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/5/2025
How do anxious attachers know when they are truly ready to date again, rather than just trying to soothe anxiety or loneliness?

First of all, congrats on leaving your DA.  Second, only one month seems way too short but that does assume they had induced the typical escalation and internal noise whereas your experience might no…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/9/2025
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle?

Thanks! I completely agree with you. DAs and FAs are extremely demonized. Yeah we will se how it turns out! There’s a long way to go still

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment12/16/2025
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

I guess it is time to accept that no, I am not an independent boss girl, I'm just an avoidant. But it's weird, I was always a more confrontational person even though people say we avoid conflict. I fe…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment12/31/2025
Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea?

From my understanding secure people also have leanings, it’s just they have a healthy balance and preference, and they also don’t demonize alternative leanings due to this. They just see it as a diffe…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/9/2026
Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea?

Yes and no. On a community level, when every insecure attached person dates a secure person then it leaves little room for insecure attached people to grow in relationships since they are just avoided…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/10/2026
ruminating on past experiences

It only becomes ruminating when you are stuck on a blame spiral. Reflecting on the past to help learn from your experiences can be a good thing. But when you are simply blaming and shaming yourself or…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/12/2026
Weekly Post - ✨Wins and Successes ✨

I had an issue with my cousin (who is also avoidant of things, we’ve discussed it before) and I carefully but firmly stated my needs and my solution to them. I was in total fear of having to follow th…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/18/2026
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

(Let me know if my replying is offensive to you and I'll delete it) I just want to say, I agree so bad and this is why I avoid topics on attachment on tiktok and some wounded subreddits as well as Yo…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/21/2026
Considering to quit therapy

Your two examples are both involving coworkers. Do you have any friends or acquaintances, maybe people you interact with during a hobby or other activity? Even online? I ask because I am many years i…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/28/2026
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

After therapy yesterday, I got to listen to my FA soul sister. We each have our own struggles. I find it sad that in our corner of the world, it's just so easy to give up on healing-- family is inse…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/29/2026