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Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…
as a woman I have to be friends with a guy for a while before I'll date him. I'm not dating a complete stranger... that's so insanely irresponsible to me. Lundy Bancroft, the author of the infamous *W…
There's every chance things AREN'T going well and she was outside your apartment trying to get the nerve to talk to you to ask if what he's doing to her, did he do that to you. OP let's pause, take 1…
You being healthy, happy, and confident is so more important than numbers on a scale. This is not how someone who genuinely loves and respects you would ever speak to you. Please check out the healt…
“I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds things over me for a long time.” It probably doesn’t …
I’m also in the thick of trying to untangle a trauma bond from my nex that’s been built up over years now. I’ve found the book Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths by Shahida Arabi t…
> I begged him not to give me the silent treatment > I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds …
Npd isnt about maturity. It's their coping mechanism and value system. Its VERY rare to change a person's value system. The book why does he do that? explains why abusive people dont change
If you abort, he can hold it over your head and forever call you a cheater. He knows you will have zero proof then. If you admit to it to stop the fighting (don'tdo this please), even when the child i…
ADHD is not the issue here. He makes obvious plans to stay away from both you and his child. Find out why in therapy. Otherwise, I would just ignore him. It's an AH move on his part to order take-…
No comments on the jealousy/possessiveness? You need the link to Why Does he do that? And to read it. Secure your birth control and delay the marriage at the very least. At best, break up. …
I'm scared you are in an abusive relationship but don't realise. The joke itself is bad. Him doing it while you are away. His reaction. These are things an abuser would do. He doesn't seem to have a…
Once again I am begging women to not be with horrible men and to not make excuses for them being absolute pieces of shit. Please leave 🫶🏻 And look up DARVO and Lundy Bancroft - "Why does he do that?…
hi! here it is: [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)
Please, please read "Why Does He Do That?" Do it in secret, sit with it awhile, and let it sink in. You absolutely don't have to live this way. You do not deserve to be treated this way. Complete str…
I read quite a bit of the book *Why Does He Do That?* by Lundy Bancroft recently and it made me realize, "oh. THAT'S why women are afraid of men." It was very eye-opening.
If he’s doing this when you appear to be mentally healthier, it would be worth examining why he wants to keep you in a state that reverses the progress you worked so hard to make, and your therapist w…
As a trauma therapist with a lot of experience in abuse dynamics, my alarm bells are going off. Controlling men rarely truly change, because real change requires specialized intervention programs, ove…
I don’t understand why you would marry someone who bullies you, so I assume this is new behavior. Leave him. He thinks he has you locked down because you’re married. Keep your finances safe and sepa…
Therapy is your best option, you can also read books like "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. Staying in the present is hard after you've survive…
You would benefit from this free copy of Lundy Bancrofts [“Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men”](https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-…
let him go, angel. he’s abusive. you break up with him by text after he clears out all his stuff. never ever go back to abusers. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca…
I would put a significant amount of time up to see if he truly is committed to changing if reconciliation is even on the table. There are a ton of barriers to success here. Master manipulators like …
No. This is an abusive relationship. He is emotionally and verbally abusing you. You have given him chance after chance to change. He *knows* it hurts you. He *knows* it's wrong. He's *choosing*…
Read the book “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft
In the book “Why does he do that?” The researcher acknowledges that the majority of women who have been physically abused said that the emotional abuse was worse than the physical abuse. All women who…
Another good book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. That book has saved me SO MUCH TIME. It’s a must have. Good luck, OP.
I think what he is doing is abusive and controlling. I'd recommend you read *Why Does He Do That?* by Lundy Bancroft. Sleep disruption is often a coercive control tool by abusers. He literally gets…
Sadly, u/aurum_argentium17 is 100% correct. Therapy isn't going to work bc this is manipulative abuse/coercive control used by someone who is behaviorally narcissistic in his relationship style (I'm …
You are not the problem. He is being manipulative. Trying to medicalize his urge to exploit you for free labor. If he is really so mentally ill that he can not tolerate typical daily-life conversatio…
Who has the link for a free copy of "Why does he do that?" Great insight. Easy and knowledgeable read
Please read 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft. It breaks down abuse tactics like these and makes everything so crystal clear. Getting out of the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) and seeing clearly…
Everyone's already said it, but he's just a jerk. What happened in your life to make you think being treated this way is what you deserve, that it's acceptable behavior? If your mom was being treated …
I’m a trauma therapist with extensive training in abuse dynamics, and I’m going to be very direct: this is abuse. What you’re describing is sexual degradation and coercive control. He is targeting one…
PLease google and get free download "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. Essential reading in your situation.
Read Lundy Bancroft: why does he do that? I’ve been trying to find a link, but for some reason can’t. If you live with him, do what you need to to stay safe (though your actions will likely have no …
here it is, Op. you need to cut him loose, permanently. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)
Money in the Joint Account is as much yours as it is his. I strongly suggest you read up on financial abuse and read Why Does He Do That? any Lundy Bancroft and see what resonates with you. This is n…
Psychological abuse is still abuse. Abuse isn't always physical. [Please peruse: Why Does He Do That?](https://share.google/gA1UbtYVnA0RvQCkD), and make decisions that keep you healthy and safe. Lo…
He's a bad guy. Recommend reading Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, available as a free pdf download. It's the definitive work on abusive men, changed my life. https://freebooksmania.com/2021/…
JFC does he like you? Tell him he can start touching you again when he shaves 🤷♀️ Here's some resources Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-heal…
You need to read “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft, it’s available as a free pdf. This dude has you all turned around and will never help you better yourself. He likes you feeling off kilter an…
you're not overreacting and not being dramatic. you're smart to second guess before starting a family with this person. Also, read "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. he explains that that type …
Let me metaphorically hold your hands and take a deep breath together. My Girl, he is only going to get worse as he ages, you do not deserve to have someone accuse you of cheating every time a man …
breaking up repeatedly is a really bad sign that you’re not making any progress on communicating. lowering your head to avoid conflict? you are in an abusive relationship. read this: [free pdf of Lund…
yeah, do this! ⬆️ he’s a real piece of work, he’s *doing so got dam much for you*. don’t let him and his *awkward* parents bring down your whole ceremony and ruin the after dinner, too. spend it with …
Recommend reading Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft, available as a free pdf download. It's the definitive work on abusive men, changed my life. https://freebooksmania.com/2021/01/why-does-he-do-…
I think it’s time to call it! you’re repeating a pattern now where he promises more, but delivers less and less. 5 years is enough of this. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://…
That post has really been making the rounds lately. I feel like it should be a pinned post along with the *Why Does He Do That?* book
STOP TALKING TO HIM! you need to get away from this abuser and break up from a safe distance. no person needs permission to break up a relationship. it’s not working. you’re tired and fed up with the …
OP, I hope you have already seen it, but do read “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. Available as a free PDF easily Google-able so you can read it on your phone. It’s life-changing. It will help…