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My mom is pulling the rug out from under me for moving out for the summer — I 21F have been with my boyfriend 21F for over 2 years. We are both in college, I'm a junior graduating next year and he is graduating a year early. It's a very respectful and supportive relationship.…
You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…
6 month mark, can't progress further right now, but pausing feels shitty too. Leave? — In September, I cautiously decided to start seeing the father of my daughter's best friend. It's been really great, and has helped me work through a lot of emotional stuff including heavy grief. Aft…
I had my first lucid dream last night! — I'm 31F and I've been wanting to lucid dream as long as I can remember but 13 days ago I started officially keeping a dream journal next to my bed and being intentional about lucid dreaming. I usually…
i'm feeling so fucking lost and alone i don't know what to do — It's been +4months since my bf of 3.5 years broke up with me back in November 2025. It was really heartbreaking for both of us bc we had an amazing, truly healthy relationship but hewas going through …
Broke up with my gf because she wants kids now and I'm not ready. — I (30) just broke up with my gf (31) of 2 years and instantly feel awful and am questioning if I made the wrong decision. She has severe endometriosis so basically needs to start trying for kids now.…
Ouch. Starting over, into the lonely void of dating — I'm 38M and picking up the pieces after abruptly being discarded by an avoidant two days ago. She told me I'm in different 'tier' of people who is able to express emotions and needs. And that she's u…
Help PLEASE — so hi everyone, I've been looking for an app like this where I can feel heard and understood by older people with more life experience and more emotional knowledge than me. I also need some advice on …
My (21F) bfs (24M) mother thinks I'm not the right girl. — To give context, me and my bf have been together for almost a year, our relationship is great and we love each other dearly. we've also met each others parents, my parents like him and think hes a goo…
Being called "strong" feels invalidating, like pressure disguised as praise — Just saw a new therapist yesterday and after completing an extensive intake form, that took me 2 solid hours to complete by the way (given I have lifelong extensive trauma), the first thing she did wa…
Husband filed for divorce after 2 weeks and is moving so fast already — I obviously didn't want the divorce and im still grieving. we had a fight 3 weeks ago and in that time being, he made up his mind about divorce. He filed yesterday. He tells me that he will continue t…
Is there a way to do this without seeing entities? — Hi, all! I'm very new to this and have some experience with the law of assumption and manifesting. I'd love to improve upon my manifestation techniques and get better at creating my own reality. I'd l…
Meeting with attorney tomorrow to understand what separation process looks like - how much should I tell her — Hello folks, My wife and have a relationship that's been deteriorating for a while, and she's been resistant to couple's therapy. I told her point blank a couple of months ago that if nothing changed…
My (18F) boyfriend (18M) has no curiosity towards me, any advice? — I (18F) have been dating my boyfriend (18M) for almost 3 months. He has so many great qualities and shows his affection in many ways. He loves physical touch, hugs me, cuddles me, kisses me, he comp…
MAN I MISS MY EX AH! — The way he broken up with me was so confusing, like he switched up to "I'm not ready to be in a relationship and I love you so so much and I care about you and I don't want to hurt you, so I hope we …
17, uncertain, confused, and feeling lonely — I'll start with this, i dont even know what my life will look like in a year from now. im about to graduate high school, and I have nothing planned. for my dream career, I'm waiting on a medical exam …
When is it a good time to reach out to get belongings back post breakup? — i made a post already but i forgot to ask another important question. I'm not ready to come back to him yet considering it's only been a week. Now I'm questioning if it's even worth breaking no contac…
My girlfriend (F22) and I (M20) are in the happiest relationship ever but the lack of sex is killing me. — I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 1.5 years now and every day feels like a dream with her. she's the love of my life and I seriously see a future with her. The thing is that our lib…
TRIGGER WARNING DV/SA 19 years kept it secret and dealing with dysmorphia, flashbacks, and other effects — TRIGGER WARNING DV/SA 19 years of silence, I'm breaking free Trigger Warning DV/SA ***DO NOT READ BELOW IF YOU TRIGGER EASILY OR ARE NOT SAFE RIGHT NOW*** Hey everyone. I spent the last 19 yea…
Recently divorced M (44) not sure what I feel about a F friend (48) — Ok, so I divorced three months ago after a 25 year marriage. My ex-wife loved me, I loved her, no third person, but we're neurodivergent and had different love languages .. Shee neglected the couple r…
I'm having casual sex with a guy, and we're apparently both interested in seeing each other again and again. It's casual because I absolutely don't want a relationship, and he knows that. He doesn't w…
I'm 18. I'm barely an adult and these feelings I don't see myself getting rid of. Yes of course I crave that love, because no one ever gave it to me. Everyone that was supposed to, and everyone that I…
Multi-dating woes incoming. This year I decided to carpet bomb dating and I posted a bit back about loving talking to so many people and feeling abundance, so much so that it makes me question monogam…
Recently took the advice here to delete the apps for a while, I felt like I was trying to force something and failing. I have felt good, in a way its a weight off my shoulders that paradoxically has m…
Tried an open relationship because I wanted to be with the person, but in the end it didn't work. I feel like part of the reason they wanted an open relationship was to sleep with their long time frie…
I (31/m) didn't date for 4.5 years, a dry spell which ended a little under two months ago when I started seeing this girl. Now we've been seeing each other for 6-7 weeks. I met her friends, we hang ou…
Same the loneliness is just terrible 😭 I would like to meet new people and go out on dates, but mentally I'm not ready yet to put myself out there and open myself up to others.. need to continue on i…
As a woman I love when guys just directly ask to kiss me, like literally "can I kiss you?" - it's direct but I can still say no if I'm not ready for that yet. Also some general signs/signals I try to…
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It's been 4 months now, but I'm not ready for dating anymore. I try to get to know some people that's it. My heart is still with him how am I supposed to date someone else if my heart is attached to …
Yeah no ... The birds will not fail you. He already has. What's next? The kids or me? I'm not ready for kids, abort... You work too much, the job or me... My advice, don't move in with a guy and pla…
Horror, can't believe these people actually cast shadow on the earth. The continuation of: I'm not ready for a relationship (with you)
I'd say you're confusing polyamory with exclusivity in early dating. Polyamory is a goal/preference to have an open relationship or relationships, monogamy is a goal/preference to have a relationship …
I have seen a flash from an orb. I'm not ready to share that one yet, but I will share one instance in reply to the comment above.
> When you reach acceptance, you will probably be thinking more about yourself instead of your mom. Thank you for sharing that. I'm like the folks above, 30s M. I used to think about her in a negati…
First off... she's probably still deep in the affair fog and experiencing limerence (look em up). Second, it's been 5 months BUT what has SHE been doing to help you heal? Timeline? Open phone and loc…
IMO I would make something up, it ends up being kinder and leaves little room for debate. I have done this before a few times when meeting guys on apps that say weird stuff after planning the first da…
Just need to vent, sorry to post twice in one day..... I'm about to get my period and trying to have perspective but I'm just not feeling it today. I have the kind of schedule/commitments where peop…
I'm not too bad. Although I still live with her. I miss the person she was, but I've not seen that person for the best part of a year. There is some sympathy there as I look at the life she has no…
No. This is like dating someone who literally says "I'm not ready to date." (Then don't date!) I'd draw a firm boundary around that. I'd tell her she's welcome to check back with you when she's read…
After I wrote this I realized I have a lot to be proud of. It's been a year and a half for me. I've lost nearly 30 lbs. I'm close to being under 200 lbs which I haven't been since I was in my early 20…
Gonna use Tinder less I think, I'm just not as ready to connect post-breakup as I would like to be. And it seems like a real asshole move to keep swiping and string people* along if I'm not ready yet…
you're so right. I'm not ready for that yet, but I would like to get there eventually. I've been attempting to gray-rock recently, but I'm still building that muscle.
I promise you next thing you hear from him is a "I'm not ready for anything serious right now".
well I mostly mean if they will survive that long lol. they took ages to heal, and I'm worried they might decide to reject some day. I'm not ready to let them go lol
Case by case, my partner has never lived with anyone because his longest two relationships were with single moms of young children so moving in had many added complexities. We've talked about moving i…
This is a good answer. I'm not ready to move on but my ex made it seem like they were. They've been obsessively watching me online since the breakup. They recently added someone new and spent time wit…
When you say, "this severity" my brain doesn't even comprehend what that even means. Like was it even that severe? Nah it can't be. I gloss over your words like someone else is reading it, like I'm de…
There's no set rule. You just have to see what works for you. I split from my ex about two and a half years ago but weirdly the tears didn't come out until about a month ago. I'm not ready but a lot o…
Welp I don't know how to respond, maybe a mix of both. In a way I'm not ready but I'm also ready. I've got Saturn and ketu in lagna so maybe Saturn's aspect might be a reason I'm still single 🥲 and I…
It's been two months. The first month, I thought about her every day, I woke up in a cold sweat several times a night, it really broke me. The second month, I started to take a step back and became …
How many times do you want to break up with him? How much damage do you want to keep doing to eachother? Until you take the space to work on yourself? You can reach out and ask for reflection and c…
Hi! I posted one now:-) Our relationship is in a much better place fortunately. I agree, and I'm very happy we're figuring things out together. Knowing I might lose him because of this situation put a…
My last relationship I was both the dumpee and dumper (at different times obviously lol). I ended the relationship because I couldn't do the back and forth thing anymore. The first time we broke up he…
I'm the same as your partner. I need time in the morning to adjust, I just can't turn on right away. I also have it when I come home from work, I just need to be left alone. To your question of why n…
The age gap probably made things more complicated too - he's at different life stage and probably had more pressure about settling down. You were clear from start that you didn't feel same way, but he…
sometimes i realize i dont WANT to prioritize my time for dating, and then if i dig deeper it means either i'm not ready to date, or that im not feeling it
Turned me THEIST from atheist. It's an odd religion and I'm not ready to be its prophet though.
Oh man, the weed+LSD is such a mixed bag for me haha... On the one hand, I might do it on the comedown if I feel like I'm not ready for the trip to end, but like someone else on Reddit once put it, s…
I appreciate the advice. I'm relatively new to no-contact and I'm not ready to close the door completely. I want to state two things clearly and then leave it: 1. I don't respond to things that make …
I'm 10ish months out of a 14 year relationship that started at the beginning of college. Long process of selling our shared house at a significant loss in a slow housing market, recovering from an avo…
you wrote it very nicely i must say. there were signs whole time but yes, i "decided" to overlook them because i wanted to be an exception in his "I'm not ready for committment"... writing down the …
Hey, I'm not ready for this now but let's reconnect if we're both still single at 50? 60? and see what we have? Gives the guy hope and optimism. But he'll also forget it (except for a random 1 or 2 t…
It sounds like you just need a break. My last relationship was a little over a year ago and I purposefully did not enter the dating market because I was/am burnt out by it. I know I'm a good partner f…
That sounds hard. It may be a reflection of age, experience, and apps. Yet you can establish a playful boundary too, such as saying something like "I really appreciate your openness. Yet I want to mak…
I'm not ready to laugh about it yet.
Personally, I don't want them knowing my entire name and address. It's why I don't give my number. And while it's nice to have theirs for background checks, I don't feel comfortable with the hypocrisy…
Wow this is an amazing comment - thank you so much :) I have a question, because I have a strong tendency to people please, I find it hard to "put effort" into a relationship without it turning into m…
I find that fair tbh. I'm also getting into an age where a lot of people have kids and and I'm not ready to jump into Dad v.2 territory. I do feel kinda bad and shallow when I see a single mother that…
I've thought about it, but I'm pretty sure they would say I'm using up the electricity. Every time they get a chance to rant or yell at me, they say I think I'm all that because I buy and make my ow…