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My (30F) husbands (30M) friend (28F) confessed she has a crush on him and wants to sleep with him. What is the best way to handle this? — This is super complicated and ridiculous in a lot of ways. My (30M) husband and I (30F) are content and have no intentions of divorcing. However, my husband does have a free pass. He can sleep with w…
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Ex wife (36f) never read the divorce paperwork - Not even once. — Long story short, former step-son (15m) broke into my (42m) house in CT that I'm selling and caused some serious damage. I still talk to my stepson because I'm really the only stable adult in his li…
Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…
i'm feeling so fucking lost and alone i don't know what to do — It's been +4months since my bf of 3.5 years broke up with me back in November 2025. It was really heartbreaking for both of us bc we had an amazing, truly healthy relationship but hewas going through …
Every night is the same — I sit on the edge of my bed and as I braid my hair, I’m thinking about all the places I’ll search for you tonight. I cycle through the same subreddits crossing my fingers I’ll see a post from you. I’v…
Fuck my family , fuck asian culture , fuck this country, fuck everything. — Im Korean 20 years old and I hate this fucking country and values. People are all savages who live off material goods and see NPCs as stupid robots, functions that should work and do nothing else in …
I went no contact… so my parents flew to another country and forced their way into my life — Hi, Even writing this makes my chest feel tight. I don’t fully know what I’m feeling. My sister and I grew up in a difficult family. Physical and emotional abuse were normal. We were constantly crit…
I am ruining my own life — I’ve been abused since very young. I didn’t have a childhood, I didn’t have teen years, I had to work and be my parents parent. I was raped for years, forced to compare myself to pornstars, either in …
After 4 years of being w/ my highschool sweetheart who went to the military, he cheated. — I can’t get the thought out of my mind. everything was going perfect and then he left I never had major issues in my relationship and everyone was shocked; he was never this type of guy, it’s like he …
F26 and M25. Are these signs that the relationship is not working? — I am F26 and my boyfriend is M25. We have been together for almost 2 years. The first year, it was very rocky. I had to teach him how to communicate properly instead of shutting down. Whenever he does…
Just asked my parents to not come for my final degree performance — Hello All. (23F) The past few weeks, and really past semester have been tough for me and my mental health. It’s difficult to describe but it’s basically just spirally cycles of anxiety and depression.…
I dont know what im looking for? Help? — So the woman i was seeing 37F and i am a 35M. We met on bumble and immediately hit it off. I had to go out of town for a funeral before we could meet. She waited for me until I got home for our first …
I came home to help my mom after surgery and now everything has blown up. I don’t know what to do. — Hi everyone, I could really use some outside perspective because I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed and unsure how to move forward. I came home to Chicago for about a week and a half to help my mom (67F)…
How could you do this to me? — How do you let go when they were everything to you? How do you accept the sad reality that you might never see them again? I was so in love with you. I guess I still am, even after everything that…
How could you tell? Was it slow distancing, weakening communication etc?
Life for them was exhausting atm but I asked more from them because my needs didn't feel like it was getting met and then boom, they asked for a week to think about whether it was healthy or unhealthy…
Because it was sexual. Just because they haven't had sex doesn't mean that sex wasn't involved in a different form. Maybe your wife masturbated to pictures and thoughts of him or they had phone sex. W…
I was never married so my opinion doesnt matter much But........ I had a gf for 8 years, and i was a step dad for her kid when I met her since she was turning 3 until she was 10. Aound year 5-6 she …
I find this logic disingenuous and not applied equally across genders. When its a guy, well he didn't work hard enough to overcome his personal issues. When she has BPD or is depressed "omg how coul…
Why did I just do the impression out loud?! How could you not?!
That's the one thing that has maybe kept me sane in all of this and not falling into a well of taking all the blame. She was already ending things in her mind before even engaging with me. She kept tr…
I felt this when working with kids in a daycare for the first time. I almost cried because like... how could you hate kids? Not want them, sure, but they're not nearly as burdensome as some parents ma…
Did you read my journals? _How could you??!?_ /s
After 4 dates you are officially in the friend zone. If physical intimacy is important then he is not for you after 4 long months. Stop wasting your time. Even a guy that I dated that is Muslim that i…
Yep. Just because you can't see it well, how could you unless you're very involved with local disabled communities/your local news reports on it? They're ignoring the most vulnerable of us for reas…
This reminds me of mine. I kept thinking, if you desired her sooooo much and loved me, then how could you? Mine shared his phone… all the good stuff. Come to find out they were using work texts to…
Oh god no. You need to leave. How could you possibly stay with someone knowing in the back of your mind that your pain is entertainment to him? The death of your child is entertainment? Hard fucking p…
Thank you- what you’ve written makes a ton of sense for me. I think that you are right about the confirmation bias and projection being some of the main themes. Usually from experience what people fix…
I dunno, I know people who don't mention kids until they know/vet someone because they're super careful about safety. I have some friends who have babies as smbc (with sperm donors) and the convers…
I been saying this to my mom sort of like. I dont get their thought process like I understand they have kids to take care of them in their older ages and even while the child is still yet young. But l…
That method is based on misunderstanding. When you see a thought it disappears, so how could you watch it? What you'll really end up doing is generating a thought about watching your thought. The resu…
How could you when there are so many new places to go and things to see! It's almost impossible to see everywhere unless you spend your entire life doing nothing else. For people who truly love to tra…
It doesn’t necessarily have to be a good thing… we don’t know the full implications of switching involuntarily, or what or who is pulling the strings. That’s a whole world with its own future event s…
When he moved your box of clothes the second time because it was on the floor, did he give you a reason why it was an issue that the box was on the floor? If you’re not going to leave him, which it s…
But...if that was the case, how could you decide together on that day you met where you had the best day together that you don't want each other and left with peace at that, how could that happen, whe…
Well. In that case, I can think of some more. - “I love you but I don’t like you.” - “what happened to my sweet little kid?” - “none of your friends are really your friends.” - “after all I’ve do…
How could you forger "i NeVEr dID AnyTHIg wRonG"?
Try and get comfortable not spending money. Its easier said then done I get it. Maybe its dads turn to monitor the bills for a while? Also its time to lace them boots up girl. You don't have any disc…
It might help to know that really, it's *not* all in your head. All of it is your head. If the 'others' are in your environment, then there is very certainly a part of them that is 'occupied' with …
Hahaha how could you not? I knew what it was before it started happening to me and it still scared the shit out of me. Happened so often. Now it happens rarely and to be honest i just find it entertai…
This should be a sticky imho. This question is asked so frequently that I might copy/paste my own reply to this frequent inquiry. Agreed wholeheartedly with what you've said. It's interesting, the t…
Yeah, you need to RUN!! It’s never going to get better. You’ve talked to him about it and he keeps doing it. He doesn’t respect you and I’d bet he doesn’t like you much either. How could you say somet…
So much cocaine how could you NOT lose?
Let her know this… she cheated at your lowest point. She can’t prove she didn’t. She intentionally lied to you had this planned for who knows how long. Tell her you couldn’t trust her as long as he’s …
Thanks for sharing the lyrics. I listened to a lot of La Dispute as I was in the thick of it. And these lyrics at the end of "Self Portrait Backwards" really stuck with me. "And you get to the end of…
I feel like that’s just other people having bad communication and not knowing how to simply assert boundaries. Like… how could you know that they were overwhelmed if they never tell you? Because I can…
I cannot imagine staying with a man who is so insecure he would ask you to quit your jobs so he could feel better about what he makes. How could you ever look at him the same again? I would dump him s…
I am so sorry your bf has either been lying to you for so long over such a serious matter, or has decided it's OK for him to revoke his commitment to you and change his mind at this point. His giving …
I’ll add to this that they do…but not in the way that narcs to. My grandparents obviously still thought of me as being younger than I was when they were alive. But let me contrast it with how my par…
You're not going to be happy if you look at my phone would be the last thing that man ever said to me as my husband. He has cheated and to act the way he does and says the things he does to you is dis…
How could you want him when he has a pregnant girlfriend and a 3 year old? What is appealing about that?
Couldn’t make it past the 1st few sentences. How could you still feel attracted to him!? Such a turn off, gross!
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You want us to tell you something you already know but don't want to accept. How could you ever trust her again?
It's because people still don't understand how the Law works. Most people make it seem like you live on a private planet where everything you want will be yours and will happen, when in reality we li…
She sucks and y’all shouldn’t be together. In relation to what she wrote, do y’all share a Chat GPT account? How could you see *her* chat info on *your* phone?
> “They’re your parents, how could you leave them like that?” They're your parents. How could parents treat their child like this? You owe them absolutely nothing.
How could you feel safe knowing she could walk in at any time even with someone else while you're sleeping. My mind has gone to you have to protect your own safety.
I always say, if sunlight burns, you might be a vampire. Meaning that if the truth makes mom look like a bad person, it might actually be that she's a bad person. That's not the truth's fault. You te…
How could you leave out the Korea or Japan subs lol
Thank you so much it really helps me alot.. tho i do want to move on but whenever i come outside my room the tension is still there and the scene come up to play it makes me feel suffocated and want t…
How could you say what is and isn’t “normal” in this situation? People are different and stuff like this happens to A LOT of people. Words like yours are unneeded, false shaming.
I think there is this societal resistance to talking about sexual intimacy before sexual intimacy- and its ridiculous- how could you be comfortable letting somoeone inside you that you arent comforta…
This isn’t real. At our big age how could you possibly be so conflicted over a random person that you’ve never even met, who is absolutely wasting your time. This man is not interested in you. This ma…
Hello there, Pretty_External9641, Firstly, I'd like to applaud your strength for sharing your experience and the way you've handled this emotionally challenging scenario. It requires a strong heart t…