sacrifices

[28M] I pay for absolutely everything for my [26F] girlfriend of 3 months. She gets mad when I need to work weekends on my startup. Am I being used? — I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months. I recently left my corporate job to build a startup. I still make good money/have savings, so I don't mind paying for dates. She is a 26-year-ol…

Friend said something that shocked me and explained everything... — Edit: added an extra story to the bottom since this post seemed to resonate with people so much. Be strong folks, you're no one's NPC. You can go back and find a lot of my story on my page, but essen…

How do I deal with a non-virtuous past that led to a good and comfortable present? — Hello everyone, In the past months I have been studying Stoicism (I have read the Discourses, Meditations, and now I’m on my way through the Seneca letters). I, however, wanted to have an opinion on s…

No crumbs. — I am done. I finally pulled the plug, and vanished from the grid without a single word. There were no long paragraphs and no final arguments, but instead, just a clean, hollow silence because the disr…

Child’s perspective — I do not intend to offend anyone with these words. But i think most of us can relate to this. The upbringing of a child involves many sacrifices. Sleepless nights, financial burdens, and much more. N…

Cried after 5 questions tape? — i did the 5 questions tapes the day before, i had to abort in between multiple times throughout the day due to other causes. finally i was able to do it at night. but i was really tired and half aslee…

Parents are disappointed in me because I want to be a nurse — I want to be a nurse and eventually go back to school but my parents would rather me become a Doctor since it’s more prestigious and I would not have to take out any loans for med school or undergrad …

I go back and forward between ending my relationship every week, even though it's essentially perfect — My boyfriend \[22M\] and I \[22F\] have been together for over two and a half years. It was originally going to be a summer fling. I had gotten into a different university and was planning on transfer…

Supporting parents with no savings — Hi everyone, I thought this subreddit may be the best place to have this discussion since I am guessing many of you will have similar upbringings and situations. My family immigrated to the U.S. …

needing help on what to do with a narcissistic mom who controls the situation with cps. — Hello so im 15 (F) only child. this is really more of a rant and important need for advice from adults. So basically I just have a mom, no other family member. my dad is a alcoholic who abused my mo…

To break up or not to break up? (F25) (m27) Great on Paper, But Something Feels Missing — Lately, I (25f) have been questioning my relationship with my bf (27m). We’ve been together just over 2 years. He is a really great guy- extremely loyal, has good values, listens when I bring up issue…

Sent this to her. Will start no contact. — I’m not gonna end up like my mom who gave up everything for someone who doesn’t truly love her. I’ve lived under my single-mother long enough to know that when she loves, she gives it her all. She s…

My mother is becoming even more critical about my lifestyle than she used to be — So while I was doing yard work with Mom last Friday, while caffeinated (I'm caffeine-sensitive, BTW), I asked her how long until we were finished with our yard work. By the time we were done, she tol…

I figured it out — I've known about emotional neglect for a while now, but despite knowing this I've been stuck in this deep dark pit for a decade. I've been living at home with my parents ever since I dropped out of co…

Anyone else's parents threaten to just stop doing things? — No idea if this belongs in this subreddit but here we go. My mother has the habit of, whenever we have an argument (mainly about her religion and me not going to church), she'll talk about the sacr…

Realistic Sacrifices for a relationship… — I realize that dating at this age there has to be sacrifices. I (45f) own my own home, business, and have created a life for myself in my current community. My partner (54m), took a job out of state 2…

Do you think mindlessly scrolling makes it more difficult? — Now, I'm not saying "mindlessly scrolling" as in "looking at a few cooking TikToks in your down time at work for ideas on what to make for dinner tonight" scrolling, or using the Internet with any kin…

I 30M asked for a divorce from wife 28F but we have to live together for a year, confused on what I’m doing — I’m 30M and my wife is 28F. We started dating in college and have been together for several years. We got married pretty young. I recently asked for a divorce, but due to logistics (lease, family invo…

I (F23) got randomly ghosted by my ex (M25) after talking everyday as friends, how am I supposed to process this? — I (F23) am going through a breakup with my ex (M25). We were together for close to 3 years and now suddenly after our breakup he has gone completely no contact with me. \\\[\*\*PRE-BREAKUP\*\*\* \*\…

Progressing through this hurts — I've always been the leaning in partner in my marriage. I overcompensated in our relationship and just kept it alive by brute force of will, in spite of my wife having doubts and not feeling how she w…

Rupture après 4 ans de relation — Bonjour, Avec mon ex nous étions en couple depuis 4 ans j'ai 21 ans et elle a 20 ans elle m'a quitté le 15 février on est resté en contact pendant ce temps la pendant au moins 1 semaine puis elle m'…

My dad blocked because he's won't come to my graduation — \*blocked me because he won't I don't know how I made so many typos for someone who is about to graduate college lol sorry I'm graduating from college in a few weeks. I'm really excited, but also so…

Helped and loved a girl who was forced in her past relationship. Now I am facing the consequences. — We were college mates, but didn't speak till the end of the 3rd year. And I replied to one of her stories on WhatsApp and that's how our conversation started. She used to tell me about her days, life …

My culture does not like me — For context I am Cambodian and Laos. I am second generation of immigrant parents and was pretty blessed growing up. My mother comes from a very poor background, section 8, government checks etc. My fa…

My culture does not like me — For context I am Cambodian and Laos. I am second generation of immigrant parents and was pretty blessed growing up. My mother comes from a very poor background, section 8, government checks etc. My fa…

All the sacrifices, time and effort for nothing — (repost) We were together for about 1.5 years after a lot of struggle(me trying to get to her, her mother hating me, stupid highschool lectures etc.) And i got to medical school in another city beca…

Because thats not how relationships work. You can’t solely be thinking of whats best for you. If I date someone yet kept myself before them all the time, that relationship would probably not last very…

Haha, I'm not looking for an applause, just sharing what worked for me. Maybe it might help someone else, maybe it might not. Anyhow, for me, bending over backwards would be to give into their needs …

I think to be with a partner who has an insecure attachment (whether it’s avoidant or anxious), you certainly do have to make some sacrifices if you’re supporting them in their journey to heal. It def…

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

Not secure. Like others have mentioned, it's on her to express interest and reschedule. People, regardless of work or life, will often make little sacrifices to date the ones they want to date. Yo…

Relationships take sacrifices. At 1 year, that's when real decisions that require communication and compromise start to happen. After being single for 40 years, you suddenly had to consider and includ…

Don't feel guilty. I've spent my entire life thinking I was bad for not appreciating how hard it was for my mum to be my mum because she always had this air of martyrdom about her. But then I also sa…

Agreed. My dad is a boomer and he loves modestly while having saved a lot of money that he has already started to put in my name. He sacrifices all the time with the intent of passing it along.

Hey u/Temporary-Shock-5339 People are coming at you on the basis of arguing the merits of your post. I also posted a comment arguing against your post. Based on comments you have made, you were **th…

I can afford it the apartment on a single income. I just have to make sacrifices to get ahead of the monthly interest rate charges. The sooner I can get the debt down to negligible levels, the better.…

It's been about 3 months, we were constantly in contact, but it was only because I pressured her, and each time she gave mixed positive and negative responses, but in the end she still indicated she d…

I’m sorry for the shock and complete disorientation that you’re feeling. When the person who supposed to have your back, the most is clearly lying to you, deceiving you and utterly betraying you ther…

Please have mercy on yourself.she doesn't love you.all your sacrifices are for nothing to her because after all you have done she betrayed you.dont be blinded by your love to her

Thank you to every single person who took the time to read this and offer advice. I really dont know what I wanted from posting this, but I don't feel alone anymore and honestly that has made my day. …

If I get divorced I will never marry again because this life has shown me that some people people prefer to use to upgrade their life and forget the sacrifices others make towards them

You think you are in a relationship - but in reality you’re just a means to an end. You are nothing more than an ATM to her. You offer stability and security…that’s it. She does not love you. You cook…

Do you have access to the accounts? Can you see how much is in them? Do you have visibility of all the finances that you both have?  Or are you trying to save money by making sacrifices (cooking at …

Yes I have access to every account and I can see what’s in them. I have passwords to everything as well. I can see exactly how big of a difference I have made for our finances and how much we save bec…

You communicate it by leaving. Actions speak louder than words. If he's not willing to let go, you do it. He's not listening or hearing you. He doesn't want to. Marriage is more than just love. It…

Is she medicated? Has she had a thorough diagnosis? Sometimes therapy is not enough. I am 36. I have been in therapy and medicated on and off since I was 16, and it took until *four months ago* for m…

Some thoughts and feelings are meant to be processed internally, or through other people in your network (such as a therapist, a mentor, etc). Just because you have a significant other and feel safe w…

Enki, along with the good Anunnaki and other beings in the universe, are actively protecting us. Anu and his clique trying to save time, and this has been the case in every possible era that humankind…

So my husband became my caretaker when we were still in our early 20s only 2 years into our relationship. It was very very hard on him. It took me years and years before my illness was treated well en…

I understand how hard this is from your side. I had a divorce for this very reason. My ex was essentially warning me multiple times that the caregiver role was weighing him down over time. Eventually …

Like someone who clearly sacrifices their own well-being for work or family, and it isn't reciprocated. They have no boundaries at work and won't say no, even when they have the option. Like my ex was…

It might be straight up jealousy. Does your sister have kids? There’s a certain type of mother who is extremely defensive abt her choices and experience bc they harbor secret negative feelings abt the…

Yes to all of this. It sounds like the prenup reflects how women lose years of income and experience while they birth children, even if they don't end up being a stay at home parent. It's her body ta…

I’m a divorce attorney. Your wife to be and yourself maturely deciding to do this and contracting for it in advance of your marriage tells me two things: (1) you have immense respect for her and the…

I'm not sure I understand. Are you saying you'd owe your wife a six figure sum, just for birthing a baby? For each baby? That's nuts. If she isn't having kids for herself and the two of you together, …

How is her getting pregnant ME making "all of the sacrifices"??? I don't know how to explain this to you but I'm less attached to money than I am to the health and happiness of my fiance. Hope that he…

This is telling your future wife up front that if things don’t work out, her sacrifices for lost wages/ delayed career advancement/ health complication will receive guaranteed compensation to keep you…

Agreed. It’s good to have a man awknowledge a woman’s sacrifices when she has kids esp if she’s a stay at home mom, if they end it or he leaves her how stuck she is after that. But so many men call wo…

find out exactly why your life sucks and then fix it. There’s no other way besides making some calculated sacrifices for your happiness

I'm sorry to hear that. It's tough being the one who always sacrifices, isn't it? Especially when those sacrifices go unnoticed or unacknowledged. I hope it works out for you in the end.

This is a real grief that isnt often talked about. I am gifted. If I hadnt been gifted, I think my parents would have successfully destroyed me. Thankfully, I didnt need to study while I was paren…

I do think they experienced the same thing as they put us through. I also think their era of growing up has a lot of self sacrifices and compromises. Maybe it's their way of justifying continuing what…

They somehow still think they deserve any loyalty and always somehow under the impression "they did their best" when they barely did the minimum. That's how one sleeps at night I guess, willful ignora…

Well, I am the sole breadwinner and I am a woman. Similarly, my partner (now fiance) has indicated they wanted to contribute more financially - mostly because of gender norms / societal pressure - bu…

I agree with what your saying, and it is overused as a scapegoat to avoid accountability and minimize the sacrifices of the better half... BUT if you stay, enable, tolerate, are complacent, or otherwi…

18 years, we met in college, had kids and a house. In hindsight I can see that it was off but in the relationship things seemed normal. We rarely fought and when we did have a disagreement she would…

My marriage and divorce showed me that tying myself to a man financially, owing joint property, and making sacrifices in my career for his is absolutely not worth it and I’d be hard pressed to do it a…

Create a simple monthly budget to show her what your life looks like. $100k after taxes in LA, after rent, utilities, bills leaves very little. Tell her you buy her these expensive gifts because you…

For me, it finally clicked when I suffered a serious head injury in my mid 40’s and developed post concussion syndrome that manifested as constant debilitating migraine. One of the first drugs they ga…

Double eyelids and a nose bridge are already 2 wins. Going low carb or keto will take away the facial and nose bloating. You'll start to see results the first week. Gotta make sacrifices, and starts …

Mine is convinced I am the narc. Him and his therapist and I get it, I had the rage at the end, I had rage and anger and I just shut down. His therapist is just hearing the part where I kicked the wal…

The main issue is that most people who are a part of a religion do not read the entirety of Scripture for their religion. I've read the Bible word for word, from the beginning of Genesis to the end of…

I'm very pro children, but I don't think it's reasonable for anyone, especially women, to be able to do it without a temporary career hit. And sacrificing some other organization standards around the …

I would encourage you to at least journal how, why, when you sacrificed yourself for your prior relationship. It is important to become aware and focused on what is important. It is easy in the moment…

Just make sure that YOU are making all the sacrifices and he just gets to go merrily on his way. The sacrifices should be equal or not at all.

Unfortunately your experience is common OP. My father's family is full of narcissists. My father's siblings badmouthed my father to my grandmother so often that my father was excluded from the will, e…