good life

Question of virtue ethics: Proper Ambition, the golden mean between ambition and unambitiousness. — I like to identify through my actions as a stoic, and recently read an interesting quote that I would like to provide in hopes of assessing the opinions of like-minded people. I'm not sure who origina…

Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

My wife keeps helping her sister and husband — Hello, I need some advice, I'm a male of 45 yo, and my wife 44 yo, live a good life together with our dogs, no kids, because we got married at the end of our 30's and realized we didn't want kids. …

I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective — It wasn’t a single explosion but a slow grind between two people who couldn’t agree on what a "good life" looked like. For a long time, I was admittedly the husband who didn’t pull his weight, a chara…

Has anyone ever encountered a celestial feline presence either through experiences, meditation or dreams? This one spoke to me and told me I need to relax and stop stressing over my reality because it isn't real, it's just a learning experience. — This AI image I got from ChatGPT is so close to the experience that it creeps me out. It first appeared as my old cat, and as I was giving him love and affection he placed his paw on my forehead and I…

People who started studying stoicism as teens or young adults, how has your perception changed overtime? — 18 year old this side, I just put down *A Guide to the Good Life* and I am now wondering how much of how I look at the philosophy and life as a whole will change overtime. I feel, one of the biggest…

I’m scared I’m the kind of mom people talk about here, even though I’m trying so hard not to be… — I found this group after typing into google “how can I get strength to parent after being so tired from work” on a Friday afternoon. I’ve been reading through this forum and it’s honestly been sit…

Time travel — I wanted to travel back in time to fix many things and live a good life Have you guys ever travelled back in time through shifting and if you did how did you do that ? (I will be really grateful if …

I Don’t Know If I’m Living for Myself Anymore — I think I might be a people pleaser, or at least someone who constantly looks for a place where I belong. The problem is, I don’t really feel like I belong anywhere, not even within myself. I’m very …

My 10 yr relationship just got ended tonight at 9PM — I am writing this but I am still in shock and couldn’t process that on a random night, my 10 yr relationship just got ended. I cannot post in a wlw subreddit so I will be asking mg fellow women. For …

Do you believe "clothes make the man" or is it just a lazy proxy for judgment we should have evolved past by now? — I used to think "clothes make the man" was nonsense. Now I'm not so sure, and it bothers me. I've built what I consider a genuinely good life: solid health (M37, Italian), a great marriage (18y this …

i dont know whats my issue — first of all, i dont use reddit often so im sorry if i sound 'awkward' also this post contains very sensitive topics. I never really had a good life for multiple reasons: my father was absent and my …

Conflict about 3rd kid after an affair (36M/36F) — TLDR I 36M and my ex wife 36F (reconciliation after an affair) are fighting a lot because of an unexpected pregnancy (3rd child). She wants to keep it, I want her to abort. So I (36M) and my girlfrie…

Objectively good life from the outside but hell on the inside - never good enough — I (25f) know I have a good life. Good school, 6 fig salary straight out of college, got into my first choice masters program, etc.. I know many people would want to have the life I have, but my AD lit…

I'm about to lose everything and having panic attack all day — I (24M) really need some advice. I am having the worst day of my life today. So, basically, I'm in college studying engineering. It's my fifth year. It is normally a four-year program, but I basically…

Is healing even possible? At my wits end. — So just some background. My healing journey started off really good. I grew up with alcoholic parents, was bullied a bit in school. When my Dad got in recovery he recommended al-anon to us kids fo…

opened up to a friend and had a panic attack--any and all advice wanted — I am at a stage in my healing where I really only get triggered inside of intimate relationships and not really so much anymore in the general daily world. I haven't had a panic attack for a very long…

I M/27 care about my girlfriend 21/F, but I’m struggling with how I see her past — I’m 27 and my girlfriend is 21. We met on a random chat app. At first we only talked for a few nights, then I removed her because I was going through a bad time mentally and also had an upcoming surge…

When a regained memory uncovers something so horrible. — I was in a relationship with someone who had extremely unhealthy levels of narcissism for 25 years. It left me with CPTSD (which also comes from an abusive childhood); a by-product of which was that i…

Quarter life crisis? — Genuinely I wish I was joking but has anyone experienced this? I’m female early 30’s and I’m just spiralling about current and future. It’s giving me such anxiety and honestly making me depressed and …

30 M - Best way to warm livelihood for me which isn't chaotic — Worked for almost 6 years in hospitality, then took a break, then worked for one more year, left for good again. Tried trading and stuff, lost money. I absolutely despise corporate roles with fake urg…

Why cnt u stop feeling "depressed" — im a teen and I have a pretty decent life like my family is nice and im pretty extroverted but for some reason I cnt help feeling suicidal i have tried asking my parents for a therapist but no one tak…

Identity crisis — I’m a 17-year-old male, and I’m going off to college soon to be an engineer. I have a pretty good life. I love my family, I have friends, and I’m grateful for the endless opportunities I have. But for…

Realizing you can't remember anything? — If you ever asked me\[M21\] to recount details of my childhood or even things is recent memory like last year, I'd be hard be hard pressed to give much of an answer aside from maybe a few memorable mo…

I wrote a goodbye letter today. I am not there yet, but I fear I am getting closer everyday. — I would like to start this off by saying that I am sorry for my actions. They were somewhat selfish in the sense that I am not the one that has to live with the pain and suffering that my actions have…

Giving up but in a good way — I broke up with the person who i thought was the love of my life in November. I tried so hard manifesting him back. Luckily we reconnected in March (i initiated the conversation) and it seemed to go r…

Fuck you fuck you — you irresponsible pieces of shit you cowards never even tried truly for your own "you dont respect" ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha fucj YOUBS YOU PIECE OF SHIT WHO THE FUCK SEES A CHILD AND WA…

How do I rebuild my confidence and start believing I can be a traditional wife someday after leaving a really toxic relationship? — I am an 18 year old girl and I have officially decided I want to be better. I just got out of a relationship with an older ex boyfriend who constantly tore down my self esteem and I am actively trying…

“All we ever did was care about you” — My parents love to claim that all they ever did was care about my sisters and I. That they sacrificed so much for us, which I know they did in some ways but that doesn’t take away all the times they d…

I feel so empty despite my achievements. Help… — I’m 32(F). Have achieved all my goals and live a relatively good life. I have a house, car and business. I look good and live a healthy lifestyle. But I just feel so empty… No matter what I do, I ju…

Is it possible to be happy or have a good life without friends or family? — I’ve been hurt and abandoned by a lot of people growing up, and as a result now, I’m really lonely. It’s not that I don’t want or see the value of family and friends, it’s just everyone left. I’ve bee…

My dad gave his siblings everything. When he passed, only one came home to bury him. — I always view my dad as a superhuman because he gave me and my siblings a good life. But not only that, he also gave his GROWN siblings, their kids, AND THEIR GRAND KIDS a good life too. In fact, I wa…

My cousins life going left — My cousin is going through a really hard time right now. He’s finding it hard to get a job for the past 2 years. He’s struggling with finances. Hes got low mood all the time and depressed. He’s been t…

I feel so invalid — I keep thinking Im doing this on purpose and I can just switch out of it and start being happy. Never works but I just feel like im faking it. I keep trying to find reasons for why im invalid it is fr…

Recently found out had an affair few years back.. Don't know hie to process. — So gonna keep it really short. Not even able to write this out. Currently going through all kinds of thoughts and feelings, depressional, self-loathing, identity crisis, etc. Overthinking Recently …

Helped and loved a girl who was forced in her past relationship. Now I am facing the consequences. — We were college mates, but didn't speak till the end of the 3rd year. And I replied to one of her stories on WhatsApp and that's how our conversation started. She used to tell me about her days, life …

M, you caused this and don’t care to fix it rather than having fun watching me waste away — You have own nothing. Can’t even be a human and constantly act like you’re the sole victim when we both are I am grateful to know that you’re still you and haven’t changed, so there’s nothing to wait…

My parents are teachers adored by community figures, old classmates, and current friends. To me they are the narcissistic who raised children that became anxious, adults who hate themselves, and have a multitude of mental and social issues. — Not looking for advice. I live a good life. One that I built for myself with my partner of 15 years. Its the complete opposite of what I grew up in. We do not yell, we do not make passive comments. W…

We met in the orphanage as children and got married years later. We made it big in life. But something is very wrong? 42F and 43M? — My husband was left in the trash, I was taken by CPS, both babies of under-age S- workers. I was 8, he was 9 when we met. We became inseparable, bf, giving each other affection. Two years later, they…

Anyone go through a regression after feeling like they were starting to move on? — My life blew up summer 2024 when I found my (35F) husband was having an affair. We worked on it for a few months and he walked out with no notice or discussion. Things warmed up last summer and then h…

How do you handle a traditional mother in law in an untraditional relationship? — I’ll lay out the story, me (22f) my gf (22) and my bf (22) have all been dating for about a year and a half and it started with me and my gf, we’ve been together for almost 5 years. My gf mother (50) …

Scared of getting leaked — im a F(16) and am lwk terrified of getting leaked by my ex. He broke up w me a year ago we have been no contact since and the thought of getting leaked didnt scare me till now although i never really …

This may not be at all what you need but recently I've been experimenting with making peace with the possibility of never finding "the one." I'm actually trying to convince myself that I'm not even su…

It doesn’t sound like you’re in good working order for relationships right now. I know that sounds harsh but it doesn’t sound like you’re in a place where you can both be in a relationship and feel …

Specifically I'm on the hardware side of tech and in a pretty specific niche I won't go too deep into for privacy, but as an example, I work a ton with WatchGuard products, which is obviously based in…

Hi y'all, do ressources for autistic men struggling to date exist? Books, longform videos, blogs? Generally speaking, I have built a somewhat good life for myself, and manage to have a social circle…

Making sure your children get set up for a good life is an investment. Though they wouldn't know about investing lol

My concern with your deadline conversation is that it gives him time to make the easier changes. Buying the ring and proposing, going yeah OK let's have a baby. There's then going to be a backslide wh…

The Stoics talked about emotion and passions, but they also taught that in common with a specific goal in life. When you target everything you do the way the Stoics did, and have a correct judgement a…

just trying to help people because i want other people to have a good life. even if i was the guy, how would her moving on be in my best interest ? i'd lose access to this person who is clearly obsess…

Us in our 40's and 50's with kids usually have too much going on in our lives to really be effective. I go to rallies and such when I can, but a single dad working full time to make a good life for th…

I agree. But it’s the type of neglect that people just roll their eyes at due to the incompetent adult it creates, which is why I’m ashamed of it. Though I have significantly improved, I still feel li…

This is a very normal feeling, it’s hard and I’m sorry you’re feeling this way because it truely sucks. It shows you care, even if you don’t want to but don’t be hard on yourself, you’re human after a…

You have really good life but you face little hurdles in marriage

Yeah, as kids we internalise the messages we get from our caregivers, and we often end up unconsciously repeating those patterns. Some people never recognise it, but others - like you and me - do. Tha…

Thank you for this update. I’m so happy you put yourself first. You sound like such a kind person and you deserve a good life! 

Pick the birds. I was in your same situation a long time ago and I gave up my beautiful cat. The relationship didn’t work out anyways as she ended up cheating on me. I regret everything. I miss you, D…

This isn’t just about the birds. This man won’t let you have any pets for the rest of your life. This man is not willing to compromise on anything that is for YOU instead of himself. He thinks of your…

The biggest points, in my opinion: - Conversations often turn into misunderstandings - I feel invisible - He’s become really negative - When I first told him I was pregnant his immediate response was…

You got to get him to have some buy in, and you definitely want to approach it in a non-judgemental way in order to do that. He also needs to be willing to contribute something to paying that off. I…

I am a bad texter. I have a good life with hobbies and friends and a job I love that I like to be present for instead of staring into a black box, but I get a lot of dates that get upset with it. My d…

I was listening to this therapist online ask if we ever listen to music and frequently imagine if it’s us singing the song instead of just enjoying the music and while everyone will do that to some de…

I could have written this post myself. 35 year married, d-day was in 2005 21 years ago. I’m reading OP post so it’s not completely over, isn’t it? . It’s not hurting anymore just a recurring feeling …

His good life will start around his 43-44 still he needs go through struggle of financial and struggle of happiness and struggle of self worth and respect from others.

Detachment is the way to a good life. the basis of Taoism, Buddhism, Hinduism, stoicism. the state of being attached to something doesn’t feel good in itself

Hey, OP? Hear me out here. I know you said you're not a pervert, but listen to me- EVEN IF YOU WERE A PERVERT? You're still deserving of love and safety. Be true to yourself. Be weird. Be perverted.…

Please seek the help of a grief counsellor. Even just Meditation can surface lots of unresolved issues that we may not be prepared to handle. I had to take a pause on meditation and I took up journal…

I knew a woman who lived with her narc mom and her Mom took every paycheck she got working at fast food since she was a teenager. How is the girl ever supposed to build her own life if the Mom is taki…

OP-I grieve for you not having the supportive family you deserved hope you have made a good life for yourself. I would have been proud to have you for a son and your parents have lost something precio…

I think it’s mostly just growing up and starting to see things differently. When I was younger, I had a very clear picture of what success and a good life looked like - travel, money, impressive caree…

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your experience. It's not as bad as dealing with a parent with an anger problem but my mom seems to have some sort of control or abandonment issue and instead of tryin…

Yeah I can relate totally After my breakup three years ago, things got pretty rough for me. I ended up on sleeping pills because the anxiety and the shakes were so bad. I tried to keep some sense of n…

>I understand stoicism is living life with only what you can control, but I feel I’ve seen a lot of people post and comment in a way that seems like they’ve fully detached themselves from having emoti…

From the stoic perspective there are no mistakes. Everything that happened in your life is viewed as necessary. Regardless of how you view the event and your emotional impression of it, good bad or in…

Living your life on the impossible setting is not grounds for a good life. You should follow your wife's example with her ex, if that is the true story. Some how I think she change the parties aroun…

I kinda hate to be pedantic, but perverse incentive is a really interesting phenomena and I thought maybe you'd be interested. It's not about a system inherently producing the opposite of an intended …

Hm you can find a lot of people disagreeing with the post which also brings me back to the point that human experience is subjective and each one of us have our own ways to relate to things and explai…

Being single is a million times better than being with someone who makes you feel lonely You have worked too hard to build a good life to let someone treat you like an option Close the apps, pour in…

The problem is that while academics are important to an extent, social skills, practical skills, work experience and mental health are all important for having a career and a good life. My parents ove…

It is common sense to break up with people when you discover they are not good life partners. You've been unhappy for two years. Do you want to be unhappy for forty years? You can break up with someon…

That's amazing, thank you for sharing with us. I haven't seen anything quite like that before, but I have seen one of my cats in a dream years after she passed away. In the dream I was in a clearing…

I think there are two sources that result in people recommending newcomers read "the original texts" first. (There are no original texts, but that's a different story.) One source comes from academia …

I think I had that experience too. It was definitely a two-way street. Prior to the Stoics, I saw philosophy (including ancient philosophy) as a very detached and theoretical subject. This is also how…

Lots of good comments in here already, but I wanted to add: what hurts me a lot now in adulthood is seeing how unhappy my parents were & still are to this day. Honestly... it is not good as a kid to g…

Probably get down voted for this, but this is a common reaction on OP's GF part. So common that I agree with OP earlier "take it to the grave" inclination. In my experience the majority women claim, …

The number of times doesn’t matter. What is important is that she is able to go have sex with someone else while knowingly be in a relationship with you, then come home and pretend nothing is happenin…

"Do you think it’s better to question everything, or just live and not think too deeply about it?"  The quality of my life, the quality of every day, the quality of this very moment, is immeasurably…

My ex blind sided me in 2023, "poly bombed" me, told me she's bisexual now and had a crush on her two male best friends (well, one for sure, she said the other was a "maybe"....lucky him 🙄). I went f…

Dude this is wild bc almost the exact same thing happened to me- 15 years together, 5 years married, first love, best friends. Always insisted he was happy with our love, satisfied in our relationship…

Fucking cut off any ties from this guy. He is not perfect for you at all, I mean that fucker is not perfect for anyone. So please love yourself more and find a good guy coz you are still young and has…

Take those threats very seriously. People who threaten that are not safe people to be around. Remove yourself from him and confide in someone he’s close to look out for him or signpost him in the rig…

Yes thats very exhausting, I was in a similar situationm but I got out of it myself,l. When I did she left no warning no reason. Days after she told me she loved me and had an amazing day at Disneylan…