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My mom basically told me to stop going to therapy — Context: I'm a 26F that finally broke down and called her a narcissist a few weeks ago. I had showed her the presentation my childhood best friend made in 2024 when I was dreading to see her over Chri…

How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…

Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…

Question about 404's — Explain to me like im 5: I just do not understand why google shows me 404s when the URLs listed in GSC as 404s were never posted anywhere. I accidentally created a duplicate URL once, which then mad…

A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…

using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…

Unique Field Guard For ACF — https://preview.redd.it/a99i8tsrl5ze1.png?width=2632&format=png&auto=webp&s=837f17d2a06d91e3e0a14803dbefe7e1c4f897aa Hey WP family! I recently built a plugin I’ve been working on that solves a headac…

What should I do?? — Hey guys, this is my first time posting on here! I am currently a senior in college majoring in business administration, I have 10k saved up, what should I go with it?

I need a simple easy tip to fix a JavaScript error on my Wordpress blog — I added a page to my Wordpress blog and it was fine and today a command popped up stating that it’s the wrong json response error and I looked it up in the search engine and a few of the steps that we…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…

A decision of a cub — Hey fellow Cubs and Lions, Funny, but this is my second post today (I deleted the first one) after years of silently going through the Index and the posts religiously, without posting anything at all…

Parents spending all of their inheritance — This might come off as entitled, but essentially our family has always been relatively poor. About 5 years ago, a relative died and left my parents and their siblings $5m each. The relative had save…

I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…

The divorce was the best decision of my life and I have to talk about it. — I'm 27f and I've been in a marriage with a man who absolutely did NOT connect with me for six years. Like... In the beginning, we were best friends since we were tots. Best friends through high school…

When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…

UPDATE: The Trickle Truth is Real — I don’t feel like sharing too much because it’s painful, but the trickle truth is real. I was able to get access to the texts since her affair partner didn’t delete them. They never had any in person …

UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…

My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society. — # Hello! Where do i begin? Firstly, i want to give thanks to this space cultivated by Oak and the other Moderators, without this space, people such as us/me do not really have anywhere to go with a…

Something I noticed after my breakup that nobody warned me about — Something I didn’t expect after a bad breakup was how confusing the memories become. When you're in a relationship, certain moments feel clearly wrong! But after it ended, my brain started replaying…

I manifested clear skin! Pictures below. — TW: skin issues, swipe on your own risk. The first 3 pictures are taken today in daylight no filter, the other pictures show my skin before. Months ago I got really bad dermatitis and acne, the skin…

Understanding Infidelity — Last year, I (25M) broke up with my now ex girlfriend (26F). We were together for 3 years and were living together at the time, but I discovered that she was cheating on me with a coworker of hers for…

"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself. — I literally fucking hate hearing this. I can't save myself anymore. I'm burnt all the way out and am nonfunctional from saving myself. I still consider that I'm continuing to save myself by at least …

Being the dumper — People often talk about being the dumpee but hardly about being the dumper. I was seeing a guy who seemed really into me and vice versa but he made it clear he wasn’t going to respect my boundaries an…

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

Went to my first party sober last night — Quit flower months ago but recently decided to give alcohol a break as well because I get so anxious the next day and feel like garbage. I also make terrible decisions while drunk. Drank a few NA beer…

I (30F) suspect my mom (58F) may have taken money and my deceased grandmother’s earrings while I was away. I have no proof and it still bothers me years later, how do I move forward? — I’m 30F and my mom is 58F. I currently have very minimal contact with her due to a number of issues in our relationship. I haven’t blocked her, but I don’t engage much beyond unavoidable family events…

After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…

I 34F woke up to a message about my 35M husband — This morning I woke up and was going through my messages on messenger. Something inside me told me to look at the requests and right there in my spam folder was a message from a year ago. "Be wary…

Anyone Ever Just Start Hitting Them Back? — Very politically incorrect of me I guess 🙄 but I hate how all of the advice given out to victims never suggests hitting them back. It's like it's almost a taboo to suggest that you do anything but co…

I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…

How do you deal with resentment toward a parent who “did their best”? — I’m in my 30s and just now fully realizing I was emotionally neglected growing up, and it’s honestly messing with me. I was raised by a single mother. I know she loves me, but love wasn’t enough. I d…

I saved a family member’s life and my narc parent tells everyone they’re a hero. — Note: I literally did the bare minimum when no one else would. An elderly family member of mine could not be contacted for more than a week. I only see this person a few times a year and we don’t r…

Almost 1 year since I left... And I just started my own business!! I'm living in MY own apartment and I own everything I need — I decide how ALL of my days are gonna go now! FU! — I can't say it to my nex(because I am keeping absolute no-contact), but I'll say it here, hell I will scream it: #Fuck You!! Fuck you for every time you put me down Fuck you for every time you deci…

Getting into a relationship with a spirit in the astral realm? — There was an old post on here where OP talked about how he APs to the astral realm to meet the spirit of a girl and that they were in a relationship, the girl didn't want to reincarnate as she was hes…

My wife left a year ago — My wife left a year ago I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her l…

My wife left a year ago — I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her laptop since my office one…

Have you had any experiences where your beings saved yours or someone else's life in some way? — *(Added this image as I thought it was fitting given the title - its one of my favourite sculptures which is called The Ecstasy of Saint Teresa by Gian Lorenzo Bernini, finished in 1652)* \------- P…

SF to name street after Chinese-American woman who saved thousands from human trafficking — I was happy to read this news about a street in San Francisco being renamed after a brave Chinese-American woman named Tien Fuh Wu who saved thousands of women and girls from human trafficking. With r…

Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…

New device at my husband car — Hi. Today I had to use my husband’s car because mine was being serviced. When I got in, I noticed a phone labeled 'iPhone de \[Woman's Name\]' was saved in the Bluetooth connections. I questioned him…

I wrote the perfect text to my ex. Read it back 6 months later and couldn't believe I almost sent it. — It was 2am. I was been staring at my phone for an hour. I had everything figured out. the exact words. the right tone. the right thing to but not too desperate, not too cold. just to be honest enough …

Need help with this — ive been saving up my money in a bank account and recently got hacked amd i dont know that to say to my dad beacuse ive saved to much of my birthday money and now gone and i know he will yell at me im…

TRIED MANIFESTING FOR THE LITERAL FIRST TIME WITH ZERO ACTUAL HOPES AND IT KINDA AMAZED ME — Hi, something just happened that honestly amazed me ! I have a big exam coming up in a week, and I haven’t prepared to a decent level yet. I really need good marks, so about 3-4 days ago I started lo…

It Doesn’t Get Any Weirder Than This! Ten Extremely Bizarre Close Encounters of the Second Kind — [**It Doesn’t Get Any Weirder Than This! Ten Extremely Bizarre Close Encounters of the Second Kind**](https://youtu.be/N3W83uyKBhE) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/42uniyk4a1sg1.jpg?width…

Broke up with my gf because she wants kids now and I'm not ready. — I (30) just broke up with my gf (31) of 2 years and instantly feel awful and am questioning if I made the wrong decision. She has severe endometriosis so basically needs to start trying for kids now.…

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

A Post from Ex — I just recently joined this sub, and I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind. I was digging through old photos to join the “10 years ago” trend, and while searching, I accidentally came ac…

Not sure how to make friends after my mom destroyed any attempts I made growing up — I just remembered this as I woke up and checked my phone and there were no messages or anything. My mom was completely emotionally immature and unavailable and I turned to boys for attention. This got…

It feels clear that everything I’ve worked toward and desire in life is unattainable — Background: 28M, orphan due to losing both my parents to Cancer in high school. I’ve been single since high school, and I’ve have had a decent bit of professional success. Since I was a kid only thi…

I still miss her after months of bettering myself — We broke up at the end of November. She (22) left me (21), and I couldn’t let go. For a full month, I kept trying to win her back, texts, calls, the works. Then I booked a flight to her city, determin…

32 years old, 4.5 years into the healing journey I've literally JUST realized I was sheltered — I can't believe this has only just hit me. I'm 32 years of age. THIRTY-TWO! It's literally just in the past hour hit me that I was extremely sheltered growing up and it's lead to me lacking the skills…

This is a great read, thank you for the effort put into it. As someone who sort of knew they were emotionally neglected but never really understood it was a real thing before I discovered this sub, t…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

Welp, thank you for saying this bc you may just have saved me from trouble ❤️❤️

So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …

I have a whole album of songs I've saved that remind me of my being an FA

My man, I feel that deeply, as a FA myself, who seems to exclusively date other FA or avoidants. You need to start here, TheLoveChat Youtube: https://youtu.be/H8yRnR3iYA8?feature=shared - this man h…

[Counterpoint](https://arstechnica.com/ai/2025/05/time-saved-by-ai-offset-by-new-work-created-study-suggests/).

Most business owners I talk to are just overwhelmed by the nonstop AI hype and have no clue where to even start or which tool isn’t vaporware. Some are nervous about privacy, others just too busy to m…

Mine told me she never knew her dad. He walked out moment her mum was pregnant. Also told me she (32F at the time) had never lived with a partner before. Now if I have known about attachment theor…

That last part is what happens with my partner. It hurts so much that she feels me trigger a core wound. She will retreat for a few days, usually 4 or 5 and then come back when she's regulated. She …

As someone who is a few days on the other side of the “I need space” deactivation, withdrawal whatever you want to call it. This will only end with an ugly break up (past week) I wish I had been stro…

totally makes sense! for me since I started taking antidepressants as a teenager (around 16/17) I didn’t really see what my adult attachment style was like without them. to be honest I never thought t…

YOU have work to do. You willingly spent years with someone you had to ask for hugs. Stop focusing on him and his issues. YOU have issues that you need to sort out in therapy as a matter of urgency…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA…

I saved this post. I'm AP struggling with believing I am worthy of love, and your post is a cornucopia of fabulously good advice and guidelines. Thank you a hundred times, OP

That's such a great suggestion! I need to get better at "pausing", but your question is a great tip! Absolutely saved.

My (27F) bf (27M) broke up with me after 5 months tgt because I might have anxious attachment. How am I feeling: Feels like hell and torture. Shaking. Spiraling. No appetite/havent eaten for a coup…

What the other user guessed is also what I was thinking. You said she didn't explain and you're not sure she knows. Have you flat out asked her to explain? Not allowing a partner to get support like …

@samworkinonit Nope, this is all me. ❤️ Check out my LinkedIn. I’m a seasoned and highly credentialed coach, author, organizational development specialist, and human resource specialist pursuing a doc…

Right, completely valid. It’s hard too when it’s reinforced because it’s real all around us and even statistics back it up. Like even if both partners believe men+women should be equals there’s still …

Saved your comment for the future. This has been extremely helpful x 🤍

Hi, just wanted to say you're not alone in this. I'm aroace (my attachment style comes to play in platonic relationships) but for the longest time in my life I denied being aromantic because I wanted…

Trust me, I get it. I was married and vowed to never fall prey to a mans antics ever again. Andddd then I did, and glaringly so. I don't really know if you're looking for advice, but take men as the…

> reach across the table I refuse to sit across from someone on a first date because I feel like having a table between us already makes the vibe feel like an interview. Are you going to places with …

I don't tolerate excuses for why someone can't prioritize or show up for my special moments. I truly believe there is always a way.  I planned a whole surprise party for my bff's milestone bday. I ev…

Exercise. Also, I've found some drop in meditation classes in my area. Sitting in silence with strangers and feeling everyone breathing helps. You don't have to talk, you don't have to be social if yo…

Do you think he would still want to be with you if you told him straight up that he doesn't excite you in bed? You say you are attracted to him and that sexual desire is present but then you contradic…

Oh yeah. It was sort of dismissed with an "you know I love you". And then when he sent valentine flowers the card with it was completely blank, and I made a joke about him not even expressing feelin…

Guys, idk, I feel absolutely pathetic and I know I’m going to get downvoted to shit for this. I was friends with a guy for 6 years and we had a will/they/won’t they vibe, which, in retrospect, was st…

it is literally impossible for me to have a career and have a dating life at the same time. I've devoted my entire life on my education and my career and now I am devoting my entire life to my educati…

I did Yoga once as a first date and it was a horrible date idea. It was also my first time doing yoga, and they did NOT pick an easy class. You’re sweaty, the room smells like feet (it was hot yoga)…

I am absolutely angry at myself. I have saved up 90k USD and I want to use some of that money to go to Vegas solo just to treat myself to a vacation but every time I go on a vacation theres always cou…

That switch to anger has saved me so many times. I find it SO much easier to go from anger to indifference than from sadness to indifference (which is basically impossible for me). I’ve sometimes even…

Relocating for a better social scene I'm a 34 year old man living in middle of nowhere Pennsylvania. I've had several long term relationships but ultimately they did not work out due to cultural and …

I had the contact info saved from before.

Just checking in, how are we feeling today internet friends? I'm enjoying getting to know several people at once and feel free from the expectations of any single one of them becoming serious. I wis…

From a previous relationship, my partner at a point started to be able to vocalise what she needs to emotionally regulate - which saved me from having to assume/mind-read and help me better engage wit…

i think it’s a matter of perspective. i, perhaps like you, prefer to treat early dates as the time to show off and impress and be the most sparkling version of myself. i want to look my best and be de…

Unfortunately, I get this. Except I was poor as hell, so I got the maximum aid and stuff. Worked through college to cover what I could, graduated with debt, paid it off in less than a year with a full…

I hear ya. I'd tell you about the 2 worst (one involved drooling, the other tissues). But it is best saved for another sub. 🫣

Two things I did to get me jobs that might help you. Once I actually wrote a message on my phone telling my partner I got the job!! it's perfect because... (listed my salary, conditions etc), then sav…

Agreed. My dad is a boomer and he loves modestly while having saved a lot of money that he has already started to put in my name. He sacrifices all the time with the intent of passing it along.

Wow. We have so much in common. Except the anger issue. OK. I don’t know how ok’d are you but in front of you there are millions of possible future timelines. Basically everything around us will affec…

First of all.. lemme just say this. This isn't something men do along. Both males and females do this, once they're doing the dumping. In the dumper mind, they think they're free but time would revea…

Are you me? No but serioiusly its crazy how many parallels we have, emotionally overwhelmed mom, absent dad, also thought I had BPD for so long! And my friends would always say i had such low self est…

One night this past summer the subject came up about his affair while we were drinking and having a bonfire in the backyard. He was very drunk and he let a detail slip that wasn’t consistent to his pr…

yes! tho it’s been years now, but hydroxyzine saved my life when i suddenly got bad anxiety/insomnia and needed to wait for the SSRI to start working. no side effects that i noticed other than actuall…

I do really understand where you're coming from. I agree with a lot of what you're saying. Being attractive doesn't fix everything. Being attractive also comes with it's own set of struggles, traumas.…

This time around, I went on 15 dates before finding someone I actually really liked. Most people are not gonna be it. I don’t regret the dates, but I would’ve saved myself a lot of time if I had been …

> I'll be attracted to someone, have great conversation but when it comes to planning a 2nd or 3rd date... I don't really care that much about building something with them. Given that you didn't kno…