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My mom basically told me to stop going to therapy — Context: I'm a 26F that finally broke down and called her a narcissist a few weeks ago. I had showed her the presentation my childhood best friend made in 2024 when I was dreading to see her over Chri…
[Prove Me Wrong] Bruce Lee was the last English speaking Asian that represented us well — Bruce lee was: * Well Articulated (and spoke good english) * Confident * Smart * Masculine * Good in fighting I feel that the \- kpop/kdrama: more girly/pretty/gentle boys are famous \- china: …
I hate narcissists! — I tried so hard to forgive. I even made a comment here months ago about forgiveness. I was trying to delude myself. Narcissists deserve to rot and burn in the lowest depths of hell there is. How can y…
I have bare mummy issues from being raised by a boy mum — My dad is genuinely just a terrible person. A far far worse parent than my mum, but I think because of this my brain didn't even register him as a parent, just an abusive man that lived in my house. I…
my 32f boyfriend 30m has a bit of an extreme anime interest, and i’m not sure if it’s a deal breaker. — we have been together for 3 years and during the first year i could tell that he is really into anime.. like more than anyone i’ve ever known. it seemed a little extreme but i like some anime too so i…
My story, just have a need to vent somewhere — 25 years old desperately trying to finish his uni to maybe finally have some independence, crying in the bathroom stall at the internship again. I guess I'll just put my story here to cope. Througho…
How do I (21F) cut contact with family without drama? — My grandfather recently passed away. I have been very angry, sad, distraught. but after going to therapy and some advice from a different sub, I have decided to quietly cut off my Mother's Family. W…
I broke no contact with my ex this week. Here's some things that have helped me — After being with my now ex-boyfriend for nearly 2 years and getting ghosted last week, I broke no contact with him last night. I did get a response, but I didn't read much into it. It was just that he…
My handwriting is… different — Back in August I changed bedrooms and moved from the upstairs to downstairs. My closet was such a mess and so cluttered I didn’t move any thing in there down with the rest of my things, I would go ups…
I responded to an ex of mines no contact breach, with a link to Good Luck Babe — So i 18(M) had a 2 year long weird homoerotic friendship with a guy (20M) who had a boyfriend (22M) (i know stupid ofc) but in my defense, he pretty much introduced himself to me as "tortured guy stuc…
How do I separate myself from an ex who is super entangled with my life? — Sorry this is so long, I just genuinely don’t know who to talk to about this. My ex (21M) and I (23F) dated for about 3 months after becoming really close friends through work, and things moved way to…
My (25F) bf (26M) is attracted to an aesthetic that is completely opposite of mine. — I (25F) learned that my bf (26M) is attracted to the goth/alt/emo girl aesthetic. He clarified that while he thinks it’s an attractive aesthetic, he wouldn’t want to date/marry a girl with said aesthe…
Lonely Despite My Best Efforts-- Vent+Advice Please — This is going to be pretty long because I feel like context is needed. I'm 18F, finishing my first year of college. **Some relevant info:** I have diagnosed ADHD, OCD, and PMDD as well as largely re…
Should I rip the bandaid off and go no contact? — ​ Oh boy the last hour has been a doozy so to start off I will be doing introductions and give you a little context and you can make your judgement. I'm 23f have been living on my own (again…
My mother is using my bad relationship with my dad to "fix" my relationship with my sister? — Hello, this is a long story but wanted to see if anyone else had been in a similar situation. I have a strained relationship with my family. My mother and father divorced when I was a teen and I nev…
How to navigate family relationships when distant? My (26m) mum (62f) is trying to fix my relationship with my sister (30f) using my bad relationship with my Dad. — ​ Hello, this is a long story but wanted to see if anyone else had been in a similar situation. I have a strained relationship with my family. My mother and father divorced when I was a teen…
This is interesting because I am an anxious girly and one of my best friends in more avoidant. It works ok because I’m much more anxious in romantic interests and I would say almost secure in friendsh…
This was kinda why I asked the question. Not being able to talk about past relationships is the marker of avoidance, and having only negative things to say is the marker of anxiousness. I totally ge…
I’m a double b girly: bb, babe, beebs, booboo… Called my ex *love*, but I haven’t been able to recycle that nickname yet.
32F and tired of the apps. I went out on 11 first dates last year, the longest guy lasted almost 3 months. The 3month guy I got over him pretty quickly but it’s the one I went on a date after him that…
Hey OP! Judging from your OG post and many of your comments… I absolutely think this is a love language thing. You (like myself) are a words of affirmation (WOA) girly. And there’s nothing wrong with …
I think it's a matter of personal preference more than "right vs. wrong." I don't think you're wrong for wanting a woman you're dating to look presentable. We all have our own ideas of what we find …
i dont like taylor swift and so i just didn't listen to her lol. you don't have to like and share everything your partner likes. if you can't be playful about the things you disagree on, then yeah it …
as a non-gym girly and reality tv girly, do you think that would bother you long term? assuming all else was healthy and well. im kind of in the same situation :)
I am ecstatic ANY TIME someone gives me flowers. It’s the best feeling ever. That’s just me but I am a spring girly and there’s nothing better than waking up to fresh flowers on my vanity 🌹
I’m usually a Tinder girly, but decided to give Bumble a try and I… really don’t like it? Granted it’s only been a week I’m not getting many matches (one didn’t talk and the other is barely talking).…
No issues from me (42 f UK). Picnic dates are cheap and fun, there are loads of inexpensive ways to hang out. I have a car and dont drink, so usually end up being the driver. Im fully in my middle age…
awwe i’m sorry to hear that girly ty for the support 💗 selfish really is the word, i aspire to be as selfish as avoidant men now truly! i feel the resentment and pity part. no excuses for them but it…
Hang in there, some days the best that we can do is that. Lie to yourself if you have to in order to keep the hope alive. My therapist told me years ago something I still think of daily and hold dea…
As a southeast Asian girly I’m so tired of being the sex object of a white man’s awakening
People big mad at Kpop are hilarious, the reality is that Kpop was concentrated only to Korea before it got picked up by girls in the west and started spamming it among each other. It was just purely …
this is a very hard thing you did and you did it. i hope you really bask in the feeling of being proud and in awe of yourself. congratulations, girly <33
Saying he can no longer feel you during sex doesn't even make sense as a 185lb girly. You're barely even fat. Your husband is cruel.
So hey girly, you need to leave ! You don't want to risk being a part of a statistics of women killed by their partners, mental health issues involved or not. Protect yourself please
So 6 months ago she sent sexual messages to a guy, 3 months later she goes on a girly trip (what a beautiful alibi) and makes an unprotected ONS with a random guy..... Seriously, do you believe this …
I (also 25F) am a romance book girly through and through, and I am very open about being a book lover and reading smut. That’s all sex scenes are in books, smut. For me, the spicier the better. I’ve r…
I had it better than some of you here (my non narc mom got custody, but I still had to visit ndad and his second wife). In my case it was purely psychological/control, like sooner curfews than the ave…
This is exactly how I spent my childhood and teenage years. I feel like I wasn't allowed to be my best self. I wanted to be more girly, but my parents wanted me to be a nerd and focus on my studies al…
lollll girly pop I have TWO. and I have a FWB. that's what's got me all tripped up about this. anyway, I'm now traveling and met someone so I have that going for me now as well and maybe with the time…
i wish i knew, i think i’m just that small lol. i agree that most clothes seem to be designed with smaller bodies in mind, but with dresses specifically i feel like they add some room at the top for b…
>He talks about himself but doesn't ask me so many question. I don't know if its a common thing for men. He doesn't talk so much about his feelings, maybe it's too early. I am shy, too so I need time.…
Honestly, be you. If you try to do anything else you won't feel in the right skin and it'll add to the awkwardness. I HATE dresses. I've always been pretty much a tomboy, and I don't think I even c…
To add to this what if you have kids with this man and your daughter is over weight? What if your son falls for a plus size girly? He's also not respecting your request for space and is upset you're…
Oh girly you overly ate with this post . Because everyone does down break up break up break up like???? Hello what happened to communication
Do you feel guilty about it because you feel like you shouldn't resent your mom? Your feelings are valid. It seems like you've felt dismissed for a lot of your life. Seeing your parents' failures is n…
I’m very straightforward and don’t wear makeup. I’ve never been a girly girl. I used to think those things made me less attractive, but some guys actually like those parts of me. All I’m trying to say…
If he's so worried about earning less, maybe he should try being more successful?! As we would say, back in the day; git guud scrub lol. It's OK to have uncomfortable feelings about your self worth,…
You're young and maybe you live somewhere where everyone does have very specific ideas of what makes a girl a girl, but the women I know are on such a wide spectrum of how stereotypically feminine or …
I had to google it because I’m ancient. Literally the first results all talk about how it’s typically used by super misogynistic men. Why are we wasting time and energy on misogynists, girly. Please s…
As a guy, I love super girly stuff: silk stuff, matching sets, etc. However, I want my partner to do what she likes and feels comfortable in. If she feels silly in certain things, then I wouldn't…
I think it's the wording of how he said it. Maybe it's picky, but to care about things like a game being too feminine for him sounds like someone a bit insecure. Like I'll drink what are known as gi…
Oh lord 😵💫 I have no social skills. I'm autistic and have ADHD on top of having terrible parents. My mother constantly told me that no one liked me. She told me no one would ever put up with me. It…
No, my family knows I've always wanted to be a male. Because they were the ones in the first place to treat me like a guy- my mother said to me about a year ago "we know what you are, and you're perfe…
Last year in February I broke up with my ex who I was with for 8months he was condescending and told me that my job as a daycare teacher (I teach prek) was just a babysitting job. During that period I…
What you’re seeing now is a representation of many other arguments you’ll have in the future. Don’t ignore the signs, the relationship causes you hurt and your pain doesn’t instigate change- that is t…
Girly pop this is how abuse begins, he's testing the waters to see what you would tolerate and this disgusting behaviour would only escalate over time. Be safe
(i wrote a lot, sorry about that) you're young, you're still growing, don't be too hard on yourself and your appearance especially at your age. things WILL change even if it takes a few years, menta…
I say give it time. Give him a chance to revert back to his normal self. If he isn't there within a month or two, then call it quits. Sometimes people need someone to stick with them. Through the good…
Congrats on finding a new place to live!!! My apartment is so girly and cozy and I absolutely love it!
I don't know if you know Jesus, so look at your kids, you can see something good came out of that man, two beautiful children. Take that as the evidence you need to do what's best for them, it's not a…
Thanks queen. I really apricate it. I needed to here some girlys tell me I did the right thing 💕
Congrats girly! I am 5 months NC. It is like white noise, but I still have crying spells especially around my period 🥲 I did not miss him at all in month 2-4, but now I miss the mask in the early sta…
At least when and where I was growing up, beautiful and pretty were more feminine words. Guys would get called good looking, or handsome, but usually not pretty or beautiful. I think 'pretty eyes' was…
I don’t really have any advice other than masturbation can help. My libido also doesn’t really match my husband’s, but honestly after years of mine being substantially higher, it has gone down. I thin…
These are terrible gifts for you. I am a tomboy. My last ex would always get me these frilly girly items and go way over budget every time regardless of whatever I communicated. I always felt like a…