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Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …

A lot can change, if you allow it to. — It’s my time to give back to this community. Just to put a perspective to things, I don’t mean to boast. I am not very talented, just stubborn and a hard worker. If I can transform my scenario, so c…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…

I’m jealous of you — Jealous of the people whose ex’s are also in mutual pain after the break up. Jealous of the people whose ex’s are clearly affected. Jealous of the people whose ex’s even give breadcrumbs. Jealous of t…

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I just wanna be better — Hey reddit, I need some advise/guiding. I'm 18 turning 19, I'm with this beautiful who treats me so good, and that's pretty much all I got to myself, l had this courier job that paid me really fucking…

Asian-Americans say they are still seen as foreign, study finds — Survey shows more than half face ‘perpetual foreigner’ bias, with higher stress levels and exclusion across daily life **Like many Asian-Americans**, US-born Tiffany Chin has faced her share of sligh…

Post traumatic cognitive decline affecting speech and conversational ability. Can meditation help? — I had an extremely traumatic event occur to me 8 years ago. I was able to recover emotionally after about 6 months to a normal emotional state. However, I noticed a significant decline in my ability t…

Never do this in your Relationship — Boys are often dumb when it comes to getting a girlfriend, and once they’re in a relationship, their efforts start to decline. Don’t let this happen—she might leave, and you’ll be hurt.

16M mental health declining — I think that really, there are around 4-5 things I can think of that contribute to my mental health declining,mostly rooted in isolation, so this might drone on. Firstly, in the about year & a half i…

26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…

Would you forgive this ? — (Ex’s name) I know we aren’t together anymore but since there are still feelings there and we are still present in each others lives I feel like you should know. Last night at the party I got really …

My parents are shaming for not having a career at 25. And want me to get married instead. — F 2000 born. I completed my Master’s in 2024, and since then I have been at home unemployed. I will be honest, I was not serious during this time. I was very laid back, did not prepare well for jobs, …

If your parents (somehow miraculously) believe mental illness is real, what do they believe caused yours? — I find that often the case if parents actually believe mental illness is real instead of you being lazy; they have no concept of them being the cause. It's some mysterious outer force, it's the devil,…

He showed up at my house tonight, drunk after 6.5 years — My ex (23M) and I (23F) dated from the age 14-17, throughout high school. He was one of my best friends and we loved each other dearly. We broke up because I didn’t want to be with him anymore bc I th…

The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD? — Hey everyone. After a recent brutal and totally blindsiding discard by someone who I thought loved me, Im trying to understand what I experienced (almost 1 year relationship and attempt at reconnectio…

Overnight success — Okay, so today something really wonderful happened. Where I live, universities are usually 3 years long. Sadly, I lost a family member in my second year. I closed myself off, didn’t study, and didn’t …

How can I stop being addicted to TikTok? — I have noticed that my grades have started to drop, my memory is starting to decline and my attention span is shortening! What’s the best way to break these habits \- i’ve tried setting screen time …

How to differentiate between real symptoms and anxiety — I (22M) have struggled with a myriad of symptoms that seemingly fluctuate randomly. Some days I’ll feel weakness and fatigue in my muscles that makes doing basic task feel extremely straining. Other d…

My ex (30F) and I (30nb) broke up 6 months ago and I want to vent about it — After dating for almost 2 years and living together for 6 months my ex broke it off and I had to move out. I am a trans nonbinary person (AFAB) and the day we met my ex knew I would be pursuing gender…

To pay or not to pay — I’m a woman that gets asked on quite a few dates. I generally let the guy decide what kind of date he wants it to be ie coffee, drinks or dinner. I can usually tell by the end of the date if I want …

My dad is abandoning my dying stepmom — My stepmom is dying. She just entered hospice following a recent stage 4 cancer diagnosis, stroke and heart attack. It all happened so quickly. At first, I was pleasantly surprised by how my NPD dad w…

High stress jobs — I am a burned-out software engineer. 46 years old, worked for 25 years, possibly neurodivergent. I have recently been trying to find answers to my health issues - energy issues (inconsistent energy le…

What do you do after someone declines a date? — I heard from a coworker just this evening that someone I had asked out (different department) is "disappointed that I don't talk to him anymore". I was really into him. He wasn't into me. Or not dati…

Did I push reconciliation with my ex too quickly? (26M, 26F) — Hi all! Firstly, I want to thank you for all the comfort and support you give to everyone on this sub; it does not go unnoticed! I'm a 26M who ended things with his 27F partner of a year and a half i…

How to handle tense home environment due to my (26F) sister (34F) sister feeling overwhelmed? — My home dynamic has drastically shifted since my mom (67F) had to suddenly leave for 6 months to help out my sister living in another continent deal with a devastating situation. We didn’t have time t…

Ex and I broke up due to mental health but now we’re considering FWB… is this a bad idea? — My ex (18M) and I (17F) are both in Year 12 and were together for about 3 months. Our relationship was honestly really healthy — we communicated well, weren’t toxic or codependent, and the feelings ne…

How do my brother and I tell our mother that our dad is cheating — Please, someone answer urgently. I don't want to get too into the backstory of me suspecting he was cheating, because it'll be a lot of text. But I've had a feeling for years, based on him constantly…

simple way of manifesting — Since we are so used to autopilot we rarely question or decide what we truly want. I always catch myself arguing whether something is gonna happen or not. I have dark brown hair and without bleaching…

I want to try ART but my eyes can’t seem to take it. — My regular therapist recommended Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) for some traumatic events I can’t quite seem to shake. I was open to the idea so she referred me to the professional that offered …

SC middle school teacher made a racist comment in class! — A teacher made a comment in class suggesting that **Chinese people eat cats and dogs**. This was said publicly, in front of students. I reported it immediately to the principal. Instead of addressing …

41M - I think I'll be single for rest of life and have lost the motivation to date — I dated a lot during my 30s and had high hopes that I'd eventually find the right one, but here I am at age 41. I read this thread from another AM and I think I'm headed down the same way: [https://…

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AITAH for cutting my mother off and finally refusing to tolerate her behavior? — AITA for cutting my mother off and finally refusing to tolerate her behavior? For context, I (29F) have had an on-and-off relationship with my mother (48F) my entire life. She is technically my stepm…

Child of Parents in IDEK What Marriage — I need help on finding out where I stand in this messed up situation. My parents & I were living in the Gulf for most of our lives and he got laid off when I was 9 years old. He tried for other jobs …

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Unfortunate in Friendships, once again. — TL;DR there is (maybe was) a friend of mine whom I thought is my best friend. I found her at my coaching, and I wanted to be friends with her badly. But, fortunately, she talked to me first cos I usua…

I go back and forward between ending my relationship every week, even though it's essentially perfect — My boyfriend \[22M\] and I \[22F\] have been together for over two and a half years. It was originally going to be a summer fling. I had gotten into a different university and was planning on transfer…

Should I go to this wedding? (We are both F in our 20's) — A childhood friend of mine is getting married soon. We are both in our early 20's, both women. We haven't spent much time together in the last few years because we both went our separate ways and had …

Planetary Answers from a Lucid Dream "Tom Cruise" — I've had lucid dreams sporadically for a while with a group of dream characters/people in them who I've dubbed 'the family.' Most of them look unfamiliar to me (just regular looking people, though man…

So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …

1) your ex needs to solve this problem themselves and cope instead of involving you. It is extremely immature of them to solve this problem by reconnecting, it is incredibly inconsiderate of your time…

This definitely feels familiar from times in my past as well. The problem is, when we are so inward looking, and introspective about things, while that carries some really strong benefits, it can also…

No you didn’t rush anything. You expressed your needs (exclusivity) and he declined. You are not compatible, so it makes sense to move on. This feels like secure behaviour to me. If you were removin…

Thanks! > Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’d be open to writing out all the hurt and what she’d need to feel safe a…

I am AA, he is displaying avoidant behaviours. I don't want to speculate on his attachment style, I can only work off of what he says and does. The honeymoon phase was fast and intense, and it ended …

Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…

We met once briefly when we were in the same place at the same time…(he almost declined but came around🙄). There’s been other repeated almost meetings. A handful of “we’ll see” and plans suddenly cha…

With the first sensation - I didn't do anything specific for it, I've just spent the last 7ish years working alot (alone, now with a therapist) on my avoidant tendencies so it's just naturally decline…

Hope someone can tell me what i did wrong or misread. I’m in my 30s, Mikaylah is in her early 20s. i transferred to her department last July. At first i wasn’t interested in her as anything more than …

Dont wait for her text, continue living your life. If she ever texts, see if you feel inclined to meet for a coffee or simply decline when that moment comes.

this didn’t get any traction in the previous thread so i’m hoping this one might get me some advice. i have to go back to work on friday so any help would be appreciated. Hope someone can tell me wh…

am i strict? went on one date with a guy, enjoyed myself. some days later he mentioned going to dinner with "a friend". after that he made a joke about looking good for his date. i double checked by a…

Just seen that someone who recently suggested we progress to unprotected sex, having both taken recent tests and her on contraceptives, has updated their pictures on the dating app. Gonna have to awkw…

38/m I'm noticing less action on dating apps, quality continues to decline, ive gotten sick of swiping, I've pretty much stopped using them for now. Unfortunately I have to really lower the bar to ge…

I'd love to get some concrete data on the app decline. But of course the companies will never release that lol. I only went on one app date in all of 2025 and it was with someone I already knew and we…

I'm not particularly successful in dating but I hooked up with a really lovely woman 3 dates in, which is actually a really fast physical establishment for me. We've continued to message and see each …

I know it sucks, but you'll click with someone else again. And frankly, after only 2.5 weeks, you had barely even started anyway. Talking all day, everyday only creates a false sense of rushed intimac…

EDIT: Thanks y'all ! Without surprise, I declined to continue the conversation further but I did suggest he does a quick Google search on the topic, as he was wrong. He texted 30 minutes later saying …

Just mutually ended it with a guy I fancied and saw for 7 dates or so, then went on a dud date yesterday with a different guy and now someone else asked me out but I'm at such a breaking point, I feel…

Sometimes it's nice to give things another chance because it really can be different the second date, and sometimes if someone is having a long string of dating flops, it can be good to shake things u…

For me, the guilt hasn't entirely gone away. I honestly don't know if it ever will but I have found that with practice it's gotten a lot less... weighty. I was bad about this too. I grew up with an …

Hey just a heads up that its cool if they decline the cookies from a stranger and doesnt mean they aren't interested but just a safety thing.

Thanks for the perspective! I'm finding it so hard to figure out the line between giving things a chance and saving my time. Before this current clump of dates, I hadn't seen anyone in about a month b…

Has anyone got experience dating someone who is allergic to your pet? Did it workout?  I’ve been dating my bf for 3 months and he knew obviously I had a dog from the beginning said he was fine with i…

Was chatting over text with someone on Monday this week about setting up a second date (first was good but they became much less responsive immediately the next day). They pitched a few times that wer…

I did get invited to one on Sunday. ☺️ I declined them all because of our prior plans, and now I’m thinking it might be nice to go?

i think it’s fine to find out what he wants before you agree to meet up. “i could be down, is there something you wanted us to talk about?” that way if it’s an apology or a convo about moving forward …

Changed my tinder bio from detailed description of what I’m like and what I’m looking for in a partner to ‘I’m looking to meet new people and have interesting experiences’ and I feel my energy has shi…

It was a hard decline :)

Legit. I was at a bar, fairly drunk, a bit back and started chatting with a guy who I was considering. I straight up, at some point in the convo, asked him who he voted for in the last election. He de…

I (36 F) met a (39 M) on Instagram through a mutual friend. He tried to strike up a conversation in my DMs, and finally, after 5 months, we exchanged numbers. For the next two months, we FaceTimed d…

I think the reality is that men have a lot more to lose when asking women out. I once asked out a woman at the gym, she declined as she was already taken, I said no worries, it was the most polite out…

Yet another bizarre and disheartening OLD experience. Met this girl, we just went for a walk, but hopped in a cafe when it started snowing a lot. The vibe was really good, despite some small language …

My guess is that when you declined her offer of food, she may have assumed that was your way of politely but indirectly letting her know you weren't interested in her. It sounds like maybe she offered…

> My guess is that when you declined her offer of food, she may have assumed that was your way of politely but indirectly letting her know you weren't interested in her. It sounds like maybe she offer…

I think you are underestimating the experiences of women here. I can’t think of too many times where I have felt comfortable about someone knowing where I live on date 3. And even then you could get…

Cried in front of guy I'm dating cos of my anxious attachment. He didn't really understand, though offered to see me, which I declined because I was such a mess. It's bringing back all the old abando…

What good questions. I used Bumble, so for me on-app conversations were to help me get a sense of the guy to see if it were worth having a first meet. I hope that doesn’t sound weird, but I would go o…

Even if your mind goes blank in these situations you can literally say something like “I really wanted to say something cool but my brain has gone completely blank”. Sometimes looking directly at the …

Ehhhhh I think there is a certain nuance to politeness when dating. Usually people offer to pay. When I’ve taken women out(as in I selected the restaurant and made the reservation) they have offered t…

Yeah, nothing to lose I guess. What I think happened is that she felt rejected: after our first date (by the time I was already home) she wrote me and offered to bring some food over, because I'd told…

Was it just a kind/friendly rejection/decline? A few years ago I matched with a woman I liked and we were gonna meet up. Morning of, she said she had to cancel and I said "No problem, reach out if yo…

Thanks! I'll talk to her, and if it goes well, I'll ask her out. What's the worst that can happen? The last woman I asked out declined but praised me for having the courage to do so and said not many …

I saw a guy I previously matched and chatted with in one of those “are we dating the same guy” groups earlier this week. I commented, saying we matched last summer and chatted, then moved it to IG. …

Thanked coffee date guy for his invitation, but declined further invitation to dinner as I wasn’t feeling the connection, although I’m glad he’s moved back to my town, he’s a lovely guy. Feeling pret…

Invited a guy to come to a concert with me, fully expecting he would decline. He texted me later to decline claiming he ended up being busy helping his dad. I would've been shocked had he accepted, bu…

I like him a lot and I’m enjoying this sort of traditional dating structure. I really like how he will invite me over, I’ll decline and he doesn’t ask for an explanation or try to convince me of anyth…

My daughter did say this. Is she in therapy? No. She has access to it if there is a need but when therapists, the school, extended family, myself, and most importantly herself all say it isn’t necessa…

Ugh. I’ve gone on two dates with this guy and while I’ve had a really great time with him, I was feeling a little on the fence about how attracted to him I was (really attracted in some ways but there…