get over it

My dad just texted me to "get over it" after 8+ months of silence — I've been low/no contact with my mom since last August after she sent me a guilt-tripping meltdown over something trivial (I didn't text her back fast enough about a card renewal while I was on vacati…

Excessive Rumination — Dear all, I've recently found myself reminiscing on a brief encounter I had with someone two years ago, in which we both massively triggered one another's attachment wounds (me being anxious, & her …

Considering to quit therapy — I have been with my therapist for a little over a year. Up until now, he was very comfortable and not confronting me. Last session, he started to point out the various ways I push people away, and th…

I'm learning myself — I'm in my 40s, and I came across Avoidant Attachment about 2 years ago. I made a post on FB about a dating experience I had. He was a great guy. Good job, good father, cool to hang around with, everyt…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

I normally don’t like to talk about my issues outside of therapy because I just want people to see me as normal, but I’m 36 and still can’t get past the effects of trauma from my childhood. — I grew up with a mom who is obviously mentally ill, very likely borderline personality disorder at the very least. I grew up white trash in poverty surrounded by drugs and trashy people my whole life …

Man who abused me died. — He was 66. Just found out. He keeled over in December. I’m going to drink Prosecco tonight and see if I can find his cause of death. I bet it was his rotten heart! He was a habitual dater of women wit…

Has anyone had to fix their moral compass because they weren't taught how to be a good human? — Please be kind, I don't know where else to go with these thoughts. I've been mulling them over for a long time now with nowhere to go and no one to talk to about it. I never learned from my parents …

IT GETS BETTER! — Yall I just want to say it. Gets. Better. My ex broke up with me over the phone after a 3 year relationship, haven’t seen him since and hope to god I never have to cross his gross path again. I was …

Ex slept with someone a day after breaking up with me — So I’m not even sure how to start but my ex (19F) and I (22M) have broken up two days ago. She came with it, I was okay with the decision because lately our relationship was genuinely suffocating for …

Moved on :) — I was head over heels over this guy even though it only was 5-6 months long . It took me 2 years to get over it but I finally did and I never thought I would make it to this point !

fiancee of 3 years just broke up — im just whining, its all my fault but I can't live with it. i helped him escape from his murderous transphobic mother and we started living together. shortly after he let his military father take him …

I’m just so ANGRY at him !!! — my ex and i broke up 2 months ago of a one year relationship and we see each other EVERY FUCK\*NG DAY at uni I’m just so angry at him. we had trouble talking to each other about what was bothering us…

It has been two years since I broke up, and here we are, folks. — It's a strange day/event to commemorate, yet it's undeniably a significant one. I feel like it's important to pay a token of respect to the journey I took. So here we are. 1. Before diving deep into …

I broke up with my college girlfriend when she lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …

My ex lied about having cancer — I dated this girl from sophomore to junior year of college. Things started off seemingly great, but by the third month in (I know - it gets juicy FAST) she started accusing me of sleeping with other …

We broke up almost a year ago. I just found out she cheated on me — We dated for three years , she was horrible to me the last year. It wasn’t until she hit me that things changed . From then on I just knew this hatred wasn’t normal , something just felt off but becau…

I think I need to leave my marriage — I’ve been going back and forth on whether to post this, but I need to get it out somewhere. I think my marriage is over. There wasn’t one major event that caused it. No cheating. No physical abuse. …

Shoe size and my mother — You ever have those moments were you realize just how absolutely absurd your parents are? My mother was always weirdly obsessed with my shoe size. When I was a preteen, I had giant feet - like a pup…

Do emotions even matter? — No matter how much I struggled emotionally growing up, no matter how lonely and depressed I was cause no one understood me and i didnt know how to connect, no matter how much i harmed and isolated mys…

I cheated. Not looking for excuses, how do I grow from this? — I'm admitting it on very first sentence that I cheated, and I'm not looking for ways justify my infidelity or going to act as a victim. What I did was wrong. But I want to know how do I grow from th…

1 Year After My Breakup: The Honest Reality & What you can expect — **1 Year After My Breakup: The Honest Reality** A little over a year ago, my 4-year relationship ended out of nowhere. I’m 27M, she was 25F. One night we had dinner, watched a movie, everything felt…

Got hurt, tried to heal, got dumped because I didn't heal fast enough. — I F22 was on and off with my now ex"boyfriend" M21 for almost a year (never made it to girlfriend status) and I’m really struggling to make sense of how things ended. Right before Valentine's day, we…

I have to see my ex constantly, what should I do? — I got broken up a month ago after an argument where my ex told me they would change and stop violating my boundaries, but it never came. They said they no longer loved me and when I told them what the…

Is it normal to feel resentment towards my mother for asking me to get therapy? — I (F17) have been asking my mother to get me into therapy since I was 11, because of some issues I have been going through, both because of my parents and because of peers and personal issues. Each ti…

Coping with breakup — Lately, going through a breakup I feel a strong sense of guilt and anxiety and I don't know how to get over it and forgive myself. I loved and love enormously, as I know how, as I could, cleanly and …

I'm Suicidal About Looking Older (25F) — I realize most women have the insecurity of looking older but most I have come across look at in mild distaste. I can never know how deep they truly feel it but for me it is a case of life or death. T…

Growing up Asian in a predominantly Black community — Haven’t seen many posts on here about this so I thought someone out there might be able to relate. I think this topic is different from growing up Asian in a predominately White community, but similar…

My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it? — I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years, and for most of that time, he has been clean-shaven. Recently, he decided he wants to try growing out a mustache "for a little while." The problem is not…

hung up on the idea of a person, why? how to get over it? 28F and 39M. — 28/F and 34/M, long term (6 years) and long distance relationship. secure, stable. or so i thought. long distance does its damage eventually, here and there. started feeling the damage last year. star…

Should I meet up with my ex for closure — Well so I dated someone for a bit last year (27f and 30M) we got pretty serious really really fast and then one day it just all fell apart and he walked away and it was all over text. We never had a c…

31F stuck in limerence over an online relationship with 25M — **I 31F met a guy online 26M last year. We got on really well and he lives nearby. We spoke on the phone daily and calls for nearly 2 months. During this time, he met up with another girl and they got…

Do you ever “get over it”? — How long was it for you to forgive your spouse completely after an affair? My partner cheated on me with a long distance affair (2 years)with someone that I had met at the beginning of our relationsh…

He (35m) wants to delay us (36f) — He (35m) is delaying us (me 36 f) TLDR; how would you feel if someone talked you into a relationship then put it on pause because they were overwhelmed at work but told you when you were in a vulnera…

My ex is breaking boundaries — When we broke up, we swore to remain friends but had three rules for each other to keep the peace: 1.Don't hook up around each other 2. Don't hook up with/date mutual friends and 3. Don't start dating…

My long distance bf [21M] hid a pretty significant thing from me[21F] for months. — Please help with your (hopefully older and wiser) advice. Context: We are both each other’s first love. My boyfriend has never been serious/exclusive/talking with anyone before me, much less in a rel…

My bf [21M] hid a pretty significant thing from me [21F] for months. — Please help with your (hopefully older and wiser) advice. Context: We are both each other’s first love. My boyfriend has never been serious/exclusive/talking with anyone before me, much less in a rel…

What kind of therapy is best? — What kind of therapy is best for changing yourself and your life? I’ve done CBT, ACT, DBT. I hate it all. It hasn’t been useful for me at all, basically just therapists telling me to accept the way I…

what does my future in career and love look like? — 20 FEMALE what does my future for my love life and career look like? i recently had a bad breakup and i just can’t seem to get over it, does my future look any better? i also really enjoy the medical…

How do I (21F) tell my partner (21M) that I'm feeling slightly unfulfilled/unprotected in our relationship? — (Throwaway acct). The title sounds incredibly harsh, but I didn't know how else to say it. My fiancé and I have been dating for 6 years and I love him more than genuinely anything. We started dating o…

F 34, its all my fault — we had a good marriage life for 12 yrs and things messed up. miss my kids . its my fault . hope i get over it

I figured it out — I've known about emotional neglect for a while now, but despite knowing this I've been stuck in this deep dark pit for a decade. I've been living at home with my parents ever since I dropped out of co…

I (24F) Am Getting Burnt Out By My Partner's (25M) Constant Anger/Venting — My partner vents and gets angry almost every day and it's starting to make me resent him a little. Some of the stuff he gets mad about is actually big things that most people would get mad about so I …

I broke no contact after he reached out — He reached out about our goldfish dying (sad but inevitable and kinda cute i guess) and i ignored it for 3 days then i cracked and sent a photo of me on a road trip. we got chatting. I said that i sti…

Is it worth it/valid to end a 7 month long relationship due to long distance? (19F) (19M) TLDR at bottom of post! — i feel like this goes a lot deeper than the title, but seeking advice. my bf and i met last semester when starting college. it seemed like a picture perfect relationship: spent tons of time together,…

18F 19M unhealthy no? — so me 18f and my bf 19m have been together since december and he has been harsh and cruiel towards me he, he will loudly make comments about other women and laugh when i get upset but gets angry when …

[23M] I can't move on from my ex-girlfriend [23F] after cutting contact two months ago over boundary issues. How do I stop ruminating and finally detach? — I was in a relationship with my ex (23F) for over a year. During that time, I was incredibly in love, attached, and admittedly pretty obsessed with her. Things took a turn when she suddenly made a ne…

I think my mum is a narcissist? — I was fostered by my foster mum at age of 9. She was incredibly controlling and strict all my life and I always accepted it as she's trying to protect/look after me. Now at 24 I've come to realise th…

My mom said to get over it — I’m the oldest girl of three kids and this went on for years from my grandmas husband, I was 6 years old and it went on until 5th grade. And I spoke up about it when I was 17 and I’m 21 now. I’m expre…

I (19M) think I'm in love with my best friend (20NB) — I've known this person for nearly two years and we're already the bestest friends towards each other. We make jokes all the time, hangout a whole bunch, just be in the same room and do our own thing, …

Look I’m not go back in forth with you after this, I mostly answered because for someone who said some good points you got quickly derailed and started projecting your own trauma. It wasn’t a gotcha. …

I explained in a comment below but essentially when I make friends with someone, they seem emotionally aware and kind and fair, conversation comes up in which they need emotional support and I provid…

I completely understand this. What if it is possible to experience these simply as junk thoughts that are running on an error from past conditioning? For me, for a while, I thought the thoughts migh…

Whether it's a minor or a major thing, I think breaking promise is not a good thing and you don't have to ignore or get over it just because it's 'minor' thing. However you should communicate that cal…

Do you want to be in a romantic relationship for its own sake (wanting to experience romantic love with someone else, wanting a committed sexual relationship with someone else) or do you want it for t…

Her actions (ghosting etc) are reflective of her not you. She is very likely not emotionally available for a healthy relationship. It is also likely indicative of her situation as well. There is no ro…

I guess that’s exactly the reason why I’m asking if time will help. I’m deciding if it would be better for my nervous system to walk away. I could see talking to him for years just for friendly banter…

I think there is often a gulf between people who have had serious struggles with relationships in their family of origin and people who have not, and between people who have had to deal with mental he…

I type out messages with vulnerable content so that I can send them to my SO, but I end up deleting them because it feels icky and unsafe. Even if he's been supportive in a way that is both caring and…

I mean… imagine what it feels like from his side - you get broken up with and for weeks/months you are left alone to get over it and move forward with your life, maybe wondering if something is wrong …

Problem is, you're going to get attached if he's a good conversationalist, and you probably already are. And it will be more hurtful and confusing later, if you've let this drag longer and longer. …

hey im so glad you can relate! i will say this sub has been very helpful. i oftentimes feel very alone in these feelings so its nice to have comraderie with person who feel the same way. i feel like …

Wow this sounds hella racist It's horrible that you want to call someone by a different name FOR YOUR OWN COMFORT Get over it or don't date them

For me as an avoidant, I can start off attracted to someone but then they do something/something happens (and it can be something super minor) and I get the "ick." I have absolutely no control over it…

I'm still hung up on the guy who turned me down after 3 dates in December. Dunno how to get over it because I'm really not interested in dating others.

At three dates you really don’t know someone well at all. You’re likely just infatuated with the idea of them. You can’t stop thinking about them because you’ve built them up as a perfect person and t…

Agh I’m so sorry. I dated a guy like this. He told me he didn’t tell his ex he loved her for like 6 years. That’s insane to me. In the end, he was emotionally unavailable. I really didn’t get it at …

Nah, saying something was the right move. They’ll get over it. You’re fine

This feels really toxic to me, from all parties. OP, a few things you said raised red flags, namely your criticism of their saying "I love you" 2 months in, which is not that uncommon if two people a…

Had my first date after ending my first 'situationship' and I was hoping it would help me get over things but instead I'm just re-upset about how things ended. The first date was nice enough, and he h…

>Are you okay being the point of contention in someone's romantic relationship? I will say that this friendship seems close enough that OP would end up a point of contention in most relationships thi…

I felt like I met the perfect person. I felt like we were perfect for each other. Everything was going great until he suddenly says he needs to figure out his feelings. I ended it and said that he can…

i just got out of a 3.5 year relationship at the end of 2025 and im dreading returning to dating apps. i’d rather meet someone in person but it feels impossible, and the apps are worse than when i was…

I feel like that's the point at which I know enough about them to properly switch modes from "assessing" to "commitment". Like, before 3/4 months a difficulty or, for want of a better word, an ick rai…

I feel what you're saying: I think if I were to look for someone who was aligned with me across so many points, it would be pretty impossible: for instance, I'm kinky, vegan, deeply cerebral, wants fa…

I get you so much. I think if you keep the first guy in your life, no one will compare as you are somewhat attached to the idea of him (I know what I am talking about, sadly). It might be preventing y…

Looking for advice. Over the past 5 years or so I've (32m) developed an unexpected friendship with a colleague (29f) in my department. Totally platonic to begin with. It actually kinda took quite a w…

This [article](https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/feb/24/stranger-secret-how-to-talk-to-anyone-why-you-should) is really timely! All about getting used to talking to strangers. “The key i…

True. I'm in a position where I'm unsure myself as to what I want. I have plans to move and make a career change within the year, though I am in a better place to take on something more serious if it …

Aw I know that feeling. I was down BAD for someone I went out with for a month, and it took me a minute to get over this stranger. Questioned my looks/intelligence etc too. But hey we do get over it e…

Haha no, usually my first message is a comment on their photos or bio. This has only happened twice, both times it's been super early on in conversation - both times it's been a Chinese girl so it ma…

Brother, I’ve literally said those exact words before and it sucks. And I’m not gonna lie to you. I sometimes still thought that even 5 years later even with other partners. However recently I’ve foun…

I think sleeping around and performatively posting about how much fun she was having was her way of trying to get over it. I don’t think she had grieved already as she was pretty broken up about the b…

I know this feeling deeply. I’m still struggling thru it. The idea of what was supposed to be—all of the dreams. What has started to help me is to replace the dreams “we” had and replace them with jus…

I just got out of a 20 year relationship. The only relationship i've ever had and with one person since highschool. 20 years of memories and everything and i'm just living in this house with all the m…

How did you get over it?

I’m still in the process of it cuz I have to see him everyday since he got a job in my department where I have most of my classes at. Still tryna move on. It hurts but hopefully you’ll be able to get …

I understand that, and I do have outlets. I go to the gym and I’m trying to take care of myself. This is also still a very fresh breakup, so of course I’m going to have anger. A few days ago I was mos…

After the initial shock of seeing it, yea for sure. About 2 weeks went by with him showing up and doing eating with her over and over. It really helped me get over it much faster

I stayed for 3ish years. Our relationship felt like me begging for any kind of improvement. Relationships can't survive if only one person puts in the effort. I went to therapy, i did extra research, …

I never “got over it” even after 30 years. And people telling you to ”just get over it,” are clueless. Some people don’t understand how traumatic it can be. Cheating is abusive, and all the lies, bet…

At bare minimum, put that diamond on ice, put the brakes on any thought of marriage. See how things go for a while, if you can’t get over it make your decision.

Like the other poser said, you’re just overthinking things. It sucks but you’ll get over it and remember with the right one it won’t be hard and things will naturally flow.

That’s a very valid reason to break up!! That drives me potty when my teen son does it let alone a romantic partner! My Seinfeld moment was her ankles! Just merged with her calves, couldn’t get ove…

Personally, I’m not at all attracted to bald men. With that said, if he possessed every other trait and characteristic I’m searching for, then I’m certain I’d get over it quickly. Also, congrats on …

Dude hate to say the obvious but do you really think they didn’t hook up when she met him. She played you like a fool. Have some self respect and dump her cheating ass. She’s obviously in love with th…

Hi honey, yeah you have to get over it. Speaking as a woman. If you guys already truly enjoy sex, and you're even KINKY, you need to work on this!!! Nobody wants to feel undesired by their own partne…

This is a very normal feeling, it’s hard and I’m sorry you’re feeling this way because it truely sucks. It shows you care, even if you don’t want to but don’t be hard on yourself, you’re human after a…

It is so painful, I go through every emotion every single day. I'm trying to make steps to get over it and move forward but it's so hard when I have to see her every week. How can the wounds heal if…

Find a way to not see him. Change your routine, change of scenery, see a therapist, you will get over it maybe not tomorrow but it will happen, just make the changes in you that heal you.