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34M and the future seems bleak — I'm 34 now and feel like an absolute failure at everything especially given the potential I had. I was always considered "gifted" growing up and I am a member of Mensa. I also graduated from an Ivy Le…

Which reason is correct for why conscious techniques work less efficiently? — Ive been reading and trying to think of the answer. Came to 2 conclusions. 1. You need 51% subconsious faith only. So any effort with conscious faith will have no effect unless it eventually effects …

Parents spending all of their inheritance — This might come off as entitled, but essentially our family has always been relatively poor. About 5 years ago, a relative died and left my parents and their siblings $5m each. The relative had save…

Why did it take me so long to realize the neglect? — I was always a fairly gifted child and after puberty I started to question everything in the world, society, meaning, etc. I was aware that I was depressed at the time and having clear symptoms of lo…

I was going to be incredible — I was such a smart kid. A gifted child, kind and clever and great at academics. Everyone said I was going to change the world. I could have done so much. Instead I am thirty and I am frozen with terr…

Unhealthy Living Conditions with Piano — Like many asian kids I was made to play an instrument. Specifically I was made to play the piano. I'm not that particularly gifted at it. I have hearing issues in my right ear (tinnitus). I didn't hav…

Just realized how damaging people pleasing and not being able to say “no” really is — Let me preface this post by saying that I have my own issues with codependency and have spent many years working on it in therapy. I also have issues with saying no, and I completely understand how ha…

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

I finally stopped begging my toxic Mom. Her "Extinction Burst" over my sister's wedding is insane. Has anyone else experienced this? — Hi everyone. I (M) and my two sisters have spent our entire lives tiptoeing around our emotionally immature, highly controlling mother. She uses guilt, silent treatments, and the "I'm a terrible mothe…

My friend and I are kids of the gateway. — I made an earlier post with a typo hopefully this one takes. I was exposed to the gateway tapes as a kid in gifted and talented. my best friend was also exposed to them . id love to meet other people …

I (32m) found out my partner (32f) cheated on me while she was away on holiday. She doesn’t know that I know. How do I navigate this? — So I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years now. We’ve had our ups and downs and have started to go to couples therapy (and we’re still going), trying to figure out our relationship.…

I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…

Flying Monkeys Are Not Forgiven — I don't know if anyone is here to try and understand their role in a narcissist's abuse, but one of my nex's flying monkeys tried to apologize today. I want to remind flying monkeys that forgiveness i…

How do I stop thinking like this — I'm a 17F, and I can't stop the feeling of comparing myself to my cousins. I know many people struggle with comparing themselves to peers and collegaes but for me its my 2 cousins who are in their ear…

I’m intensely triggered by my partner’s younger sister and I hate what it brings out in me — I need to say something ugly and I’m hoping someone here will understand rather than just tell me to “work on my self-esteem.” My boyfriend has younger sisters, and one of them especially triggers so…

Does anyone else build an “inner system architecture” instead of a personality? — I’m neurodivergent — ADHD, autistic, highly sensitive, and gifted — and my inner world doesn’t behave like a personality. It behaves like a system. I’ve been developing something I call “Identity Arc…

The global awakening, the planetary shift in consciousness, I seek to find you — \*\*\*\*Note: the following is my own interpretation and opinion of my own existence and nothing else. I am not an oracle. I have many questions and few answers. \------------- In the beginning ther…

The Drama of the Gifted Child - A must-read for those with CPTSD — Hello all, Today, I would like to share a book I had just finished reading: The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller. It took me a long time to finish reading, because of my intentional break…

Praised as "gifted" — TL;DR: Did you recieve praise as a "gifted" child? Did your family never encourage effort and only praised results? As an adult, because of this, do you now find doing the things you were praised for …

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will …

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will caz…

My gf (F19) and I (M23) have cheated on each other. Would I be blinded by love if I stay with her? — Before I start, everytime I tell someone close of mine my current situation they get stunned so my story right now could either intrigue you to reading more or bore you. But if you put yourself in my …

(27M) I need help understanding and helping avoidant (24F), is she trying to reconnect? — I had a wonderful relationship with a girl with whom from the very moment we first met in person, we vibed hard, everything went amazing for 6 months, but then, we had our first like, actual discussio…

Went to Disneyland & got a $2K bill from parents… — My narcissistic mother was upset that we didn’t give her enough time to arrange joining us for our trip to Disneyland 3 weeks ago to celebrate my 3 year olds birthday…that she demanded that I repay he…

My friend gifted me chocolates today. — Hello reddit, I(20F) have just received chocolates from a friend of mine(20M) and I don't know what to do. I am not interested in relationships or dating, I have tried in the past but I always ended …

Was I groomed at 15? — I am 33F This is a story from the time I was 14/15 and was enrolled to go to a coaching centre for mathematics tuitions The maths tutor (35M) was very charming and someone every student seemed to lo…

Resources for complex trauma as the result of parent with bipolar 2? — Hi everyone/anyone - I've been reading a lot of people's experiences on this sub, I was hoping to share my own, maybe there's someone out there who can relate and help, even in the smallest way. I'm …

Dissipation — Need some thoughts on dissipation claims. Headed to mediation shortly have uncovered significant financial inconsistencies that she cannot explain. I’ll break them into three categories: 1. Cash wit…

burnout gifted kid guilt, from resurfaced trauma — I used to be a really smart kid. In my childhood, I was in many gifted programs, and I even got into a very nice high school for a biomedical science scholarship. I had a 4.0, I constantly did extra c…

How do I (30f) deal with repeated gift disappointment from my boyfriend (35m) — I don’t want to be an ungrateful brat, but I dread Christmas and birthdays and the gifts I may receive from him. For my last birthday he gifted me a cast iron pan we had talked about buying for the …

how do i stop settling for "above average"? — I have always been somewhat successful at school with little effort. Even if I don't study too much, I tend to get a high enough grade. Nothing too extraordinary, just somewhere above average. When I …

Job hunting grinds my core wound and makes me burn out instantly — I guess I’m just here to vent. I was a “gifted” child, worked hard at school, have always had very high expectations for myself. I tend to bubble up to the top of whatever institution I find myself in…

My lovely mom just passed away — This has been the most difficult thing I've ever had, seen and heard in my life. She just had 46 years old. A whole life was ready to start. As a 21 years old boy, I’d like to hear some stoic guidan…

Can I have cptsd from something that most would consider inconvenience — (not asking for diagnosis) I didn't really want to go to reddit to ask about this but I'm not sure when in the next month I'll be able to contact my therapist, and I'm 15 soon don't think I'm not real…

Currently on medical leave for burnout and realizing I don’t know how to "exist" without being productive. — Hey everyone. I am one week into a two-week medical leave for burnout and stress. It is been a massive wake-up call, but honestly, I am struggling. I grew up as the "gifted" or high-functioning kid. …

I am in burnout and all I wish is that I had a family who loved me — It would take a lot to tell my whole story but I will try to be concise. I have Complex PTSD, from a extremely difficult childhood. I have a family that I am not close to, even though that is the on…

Completely mindfucked and heartbroken after a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist — This is going to be a very long post, but if you want to know how a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist looks like, you might be interested to read this. I've seen so much shit i…

When is it a good time to reach out to get belongings back post breakup? — i made a post already but i forgot to ask another important question. I'm not ready to come back to him yet considering it's only been a week. Now I'm questioning if it's even worth breaking no contac…

Did anyone else's parents not let them have hobbies as a kid? — Mine never let me do anythingggg. They didn't like me being outside of the house at all, but even inside all they ever did was yell at me. If I wanted to start any hobby it had to be a) free/as little…

My boyfriend (31m) has been making comments about me (27f) doing more "chores" lately, but would these comments bother you? — For context, we've been together for a little over 3 years and have lived together for 2. He works full time, while I work part time and am in school. I have the luxury of doing my courses online, and…

How do you not struggle with insecurity and hating your own culture? — I’m a guy in my late 20s and have never dated. Grew up in an East Asian and hardcore Christian household. Having finally left, I feel so hollow and lonely. I hate that the only way I’ve learned is thr…

boyfriend (M31) canceled my (F26) birthday dinner reservation because of ongoing car issues — Yesterday was my birthday. I (F26) met with a friend for coffee in the morning, visited my dad and brother in the afternoon, and had plans to meet my boyfriend (M31) later in the evening for a fancy, …

28F struggling to figure out if 28F has romantic feelings for me or only platonic, can you help me read the situation? — So we are actually exes; we were together for 4 years before she broke up with me. We had a very intense, intimate attraction at the beginning; we couldn't stay away from each other. That grew into th…

Ex said she loves me but isn’t in love, then sent mixed signals after breakup — trying to understand what’s going on — I (27M) recently went through a breakup with my ex (26F), and I’m trying to make sense of the situation without getting pulled back into something confusing. For context, she studied veterinary medic…

don’t be friends. don’t be enemies, either. — i was in a relationship of almost two years. she broke up with me on a random tuesday, two months ago, in february…she said she didn’t feel the same anymore, she physically didn’t like me anymore, eve…

I miss my ex talking stage — I’ve been talking to this guy for around 2 years on and off nothing official. He has come close to asking me out but chickened out. So recently I found out he’s been hanging out w a girl I had asked h…

No 5. Think positive or negative, it doesn't matter. Be a depressed ahole or whatever - you can be whatever you want, and also still belive sp loves you til death do us part. I can feel much worthy …

Great recommendation! Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is a cornerstone for understanding why validation can feel tied to self-erasure. What really stands out is you checked in with your…

Ooof about the money….. a year or so back my mom gifted me really nice pots and pans and I think it was an early “wedding gift” because I wouldn’t otherwise get nice pots and pans. Thoughtful but bitt…

Back in college, my bf at the time made dinner and dessert (Thai red curry and vegan mint chocolate chip ice cream -- that's right, he MADE it...or at least claimed he did lol) and we shared it on the…

I guess the only answer I have is a (undersized) T-Shirt of one of my favorite bands, since in all the relationships I’ve ever had, that’s the only time I’ve ever been gifted anything by a partner.  …

There's 100% a difference in mentality between people who earn it themselves and those who are gifted it

I’ve made posts in the estranged …kids sub… I’m late 30s. Nc almost 2 years. She sent me a package that was wrapped like it had a nuke in it, duct tape AND two ties of packaging tape. Inside had bubbl…

I gave my ndad a gift for Christmas which he then regifted to me. For the same Christmas. He then complained that no one ever gets him anything, eventhough he is so, so, SOOO generous.

I know right! For us, once our father left, Christmas was just modified paganism. A definite no go for years until SHE wanted gifts so . . . They were gifted clothes from the store. My gabs are flab…

My dad gifted me an iphone, but it was one where the side screen on/off button didn't work + it didn't turn off automatically, and it would just drain the battery for being always on. He knew about th…

Mine once "gifted" me a pack of printer paper. I was 7. She'd make "jokes" about it every Christmas and birthday after. I cut her off at 28.

My 35 year old brother gifted me a broken guitar pedal with the buttons ripped off in a greasey paper bag a few years ago for Christmas and my mother got angry at me for not buying him anything. Firs…

For any of them men in here I highly suggest this book/audio book called: Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life AUTHOR: Thomas J. Harbin…

Your parents are certainly not being generous but you aren’t entitled to their money. I’d argue that most parents in their situation would do more to help their kids but you aren’t entitled to what wa…

A neighbor / friend randomly gifted me something really ugly after a trip they went on. I pet sit for them and usually they bring back some honey or snacks, which is good, but this last time it was a …

My mother's ex-husband once gifted my sister and I whistles for Christmas. These were free, giveaway plastic whistles from his job. We unwrapped them both at the same time, and he was really excited …

I am constantly being gifted HUGE plus size clothes that are drastically too big for me, so that she can have the "oh, I thought you were bigger" insult moment.

Yeah. When my first son was born she dug a stroller out of a dumpster because she saw it sticking out by her home and gifted it to me for my baby. I promise you, this was 2008 and I think said strolle…

she only ever gifted me secondhand or sale/ clearance items. not to be ungrateful, but i would prefer nothing rather than somebody’s used brush from a garage sale, junior size clearance (final sale) c…

My mom gifted me a stuffed animal she had stolen from me the day before

A “friend” gifted me a bag of partially used hair and skin products shortly after I lived through a major natural disaster. Like it was a huge favor to me to have her bottom drawer trash.

As a teen, she bought me neon orange hair dye, then acted outraged when I actually used it. "It was just a joke!" I looked like a cute lil teenage hayley williams megafan tho. A Christmas maybe 5 yea…

I started reading the Stoics about 6 years ago. I had taken a couple of philosophy classes in college, but I wasn't familiar with the Stoics. I began with a gifted copy of Meditations (I later reali…

I am upset when I read about this today in the news. I work in NYC. I grew up in Southern California and was in one of these gifted magnet programs in high school. It is open to everyone regardless or…

You are not alone. It's part of the neglect. To cope with it - without any way to escape as a child - you need to suppress the parts of yourself that get neglected. Suppress your needs and hide them f…

In addition, the city runs a free test prep program for low income students of any race, and there are some private non-profits offering free test prep for underrepresented minorities. Those who cla…

Regarding the impermanence of gifted possessions, my experience was that since my NM viewed me primarily as an extension of herself, like an appliance, that she was entitled to control, anything that…

PS I am also the gifted kid (who is now queer, clinically depressed and trying to keep it together while fighting for my healing and joy).

I went on my ex’s instagram. I never do, he also doesn’t really post anything on social media, but today I was curious. I scrolled through an album posted a year ago and saw he photographed our dog …

I did this to my ex, I let him keep most of the furniture I came into the relationship with along with all of what we were gifted as a married couple. It was nice to go out and purchase items not rela…

Check out the book "The Drama of the Gifted Child" ("gifted" is not used for intelligence but for ability to satisfy parents). Many of us here are in a similar situation, and while hard to accept it …

Solidarity from another "gifted kid". It's tough when we have such high and low expectations thrusted upon us at such a young age. I had the special needs diagnosis at the age of 5 (what would be cons…

Sometimes I grieve the life that could have been. I was in a similar situation. Gifted at athletics and academics, but when things started getting bad in my childhood, it felt like that future got rip…

I simply refuse to engage. My emotional BW is horribly maxed out at the moment with all sorts of things going on. She has this complex where it enrages her how right I am most of the time. I am ext…

Hey, my husband is Korean so I have some firsthand experiences to share. He sends some money (periodically) to his dad in Korea, but he’s financially capable of doing so— but there is also some small …

I've worked with experieners who've had reptilian contact, bad, neutral and good and there is a big contrast between those experiences and the type of stuff the Internet talks about where beings are r…

Ugh. When I was 8 years old my mum told me I'm going to have to take care of her when I grow up. That I'm solely responsible for her retirement and expenses and life after I finish school. I was in …

From a former gifted kid as well with so much potential, I’m 50 now and I finally feel pretty good about my personal and professional accomplishments. I found a community that accepted me fully and I …

Personally, I don't feel like you should try to manifest a specific person into your life. The other person has their own free will. They have their own life path, their own lessons to learn. That may…

Boxing is an incredibly difficult and sophisticated sport. And young boxers are often incredibly gifted intellectually as well as physically. That's not the point. It results in brain damage for many…

Haha I hoped it was but you never know, the delusion is real sometimes 😂 But yes you can manifest for others, I did it for my mum, I manifested a vehicle for her that was paid in full and gifted, cos…

I was also raised to be dependent and when I start showing independence they provide me with major setbacks to get me so struggle. I’m in college (I pay my own tuition) and my mom randomly bought me a…

You still are incredible. Nothing about who you are has changed. As someone who has suffered decades of abuse and various kinds of suffering, who also has always been very bright and multitalented, I …

> Just cause someone is “Asian” doesn’t mean Asians have political power. He would not have won if he didn't have Asian American behind him so strongly as a bloc. You complain about Asians having no…

This is a real grief that isnt often talked about. I am gifted. If I hadnt been gifted, I think my parents would have successfully destroyed me. Thankfully, I didnt need to study while I was paren…

This hits me right in the heart. I feel like I’m grieving the loss of the child who was “going places,” and I’m just frozen. I’m about to turn 30, and the closer I get to my birthday the more depres…

It’s hard because I too feel I was dealt a shit upbringing but I figured things out enough to become better, so why didn’t my parents do the same? I think part of it was the culture at the time. To be…

> You have no understanding of politics. You think just because you vote for someone or a party then you have political influence. Except Asian Americans in NYC literally got the mayor elected? Got o…

Doesn't matter what others say, it's your reality. You don't even have to play it. I read two success stories years ago on a YouTube comment where two people won the lottery without ever buying a tick…

I went on a date with a young Polish guy, he was way younger than he appeared, I wonder if he lied about his age, and his English wasn’t great, but also our interests/personalities were completely inc…