shoulds

I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…

I've been practicing Radical Honesty (the branded modality you can learn from books & workshops) for a couple years now and it's been the #1 thing that's helped me. It's not "brutal honesty" or whatev…

Glad to find likeminded people!! My siblings are all perfectionists! I’m the rogue! Not always pleasant and am looked at as weird. I see them as so insecure that perfectionism in their homes is like a…

I'd say you're confusing polyamory with exclusivity in early dating. Polyamory is a goal/preference to have an open relationship or relationships, monogamy is a goal/preference to have a relationship …

>Framing what I’ve felt as grief changed things for me. I still have a lot of anger and sadness, but often those are symptoms of grieving the fact that I just don’t really have a relationship with my …

Yeah a lot of my life improvements have been built around 'the body'. Once I got 'clean' 38 years ago I began a deep dive into healing most of which revolved around physicality and spirituality, ( als…

This is exactly why I suggested she table the subject until the negotiations are over. That way she can later tell him to pound sand without risk. If there's a risk that setting him off will cause hi…

Sounds like you held space and that has to be enough. It’s a lovely blessing. If a friend needed something more it’s for her to ask. You created a safe space. I cannot express how difficult it…

Could you explain a little more why you think your daydreaming is a problem, and/or specifically why Marcus Aurelius would have a problem with it? For what it's worth, the Stoics in general looked fav…

What a paradoxical mind screw eh? Its terrible, I think that if anybody should know, I should...and I know "shoulds" aren't doing anyone any good. Smh I have to try to find an answer for this. Now I f…