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Trying to find the ""reset"" button when life feels like a treadmill — This month has really been more of a rollercoaster feeling for me, sometimes I feel like I’m just reacting to things instead of actually living. You know that feeling where your brain has twenty tabs …

Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…

Woocommerce and shippo broke my website! Please help a begginer! — Hi, I am new to wordpress and woocommerce, i recently was very close to finishing setting up my site, but have had issues finding a plugin to work for shipping, today I tried Shippo, which crashed my …

Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…

Wordpress Staging vs. LocalWP for website redesign — Hey everyone, I’m working on a full redesign and cleanup of an existing WordPress website, and I want to make sure the development process doesn’t hurt the site’s current SEO at all — both during deve…

Curious about “episodic engagement” — anyone relate? — Hi everyone, I recently learned about this idea called “Episodic Engagement” in avoidant attachment, and it blew my mind. I discovered this after running some thoughts by ChatGPT, and this is the gis…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …

You can reality shift just by washing your hands — Hey everyone, I’ve been obsessed with this idea lately and I can’t stop thinking about it: what if the simple act of washing your hands, when you actually slow down and get fully present with it, bec…

SELF-CONCEPT BLOCKS MANIFESTATIONS! Here's my quick fix — Feeling unworthy of receiving what we want is the dominant vibration even though we've affirmed 300 times "I am worthy!" It's our self-concept silently preventing our greatest desires! Even though i…

I feel it is very hard to make "permanent" progress, like this is a mind virus that keeps coming back — I'm 39M. I met my partner when I was 36. Dated for 2 years, now we have lived together for 1 year. I've made progress over these 3 years but I feel like it's very easy to "reset" and get back down int…

Something surprising happened when I stopped trying to be productive all the time — For years I thought the key to improving my focus was becoming more disciplined. Better routines. More productivity systems. Trying harder. But recently I noticed something strange. The moments…

Is suffering required to create the reality we desire? — Hello all, I have been working very hard and headstrong at trying to create the reality and world I see as best for myself and humanity, but it has felt full of friction. I align myself with good, lig…

meditation has helped me a lot. — I started meditating more consistently recently, even if it’s just 5–10 minutes a day, and honestly it’s helped me a lot. I feel calmer, a bit more focused, and it’s been a nice reset during the day. …

First Regulate Your Nervous System — Recently I watched a YouTube video by a guy named Reeves Tsang called how to reset your nervous system (and how to finally override your reality) This is one of the first manifestation videos I've se…

First actually OBE — So today I had my first real OBE experience. Not really much but I was definitely exiting my body. I was listening 45minutes of f21 where I felt asleep. My Alexa woke me up after my timer endet and I …

My (23M) girlfriend (26F) desires less sex and has slowly stopped initiating. When are things deemed as sexual incompatibility? — My (23M) girlfriend (26F) has, over the course of our 3 year long relationship, wanted less sex. At the start of our relationship, we were going at it like crazy. Daily, if not twice a day. Over time …

I burned out so badly I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks and the recovery taught me everything about my limits — Last year I hit a wall that I didn't see coming. I thought I was fine. I was working sixty hour weeks, maintaining an active social life, going to the gym, keeping up with everything. I felt like I wa…

Am I (50M) Widower With A 7 YO Just Doomed To Be Alone? — Delete if this doesn’t fit the theme of the sub. I was 35 when I met my wife, she was 10 years younger than I was. Married at 38 and had trouble conceiving. Our miracle/rainbow baby was born in 2018 …

Does anyone have insomnia that could help me out? — I have pretty severe insomnia, and in the past I’ve enjoyed using the Gateway tapes and doing some meditation. However, I’ve run into an issue. As I became more familiar with these practices, it seem…

My wife left a year ago — My wife left a year ago I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her l…

My wife left a year ago — I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her laptop since my office one…

I flew across the country alone at 19, and they followed me. — Hi everyone. I'm unsure of who will remember of my two or so posts detailing my potential escape and plans to have an emergency move from Alabama to California, but I did it! This was my first time f…

The Attachment Loop — Hi, not sure where best to post this so I’ll try here. TL;DR – I am stuck in a 10 year pattern of getting emotionally attached to women who are unavailable in some way, and I really want this last si…

Shifting the seat of consciousness from head to chest, have you tried it? — Hi everyone, I've been practicing meditation for a few years and I recently stumbled upon something interesting after trying astral projection. By default, the place where I usually perceive “mys…

Struggling with Brain Fog? How 'Attention Restoration Theory' (ART) can reset your focus in 20 minutes — **Hi everyone,** **Most of us think that taking a break means scrolling through TikTok or checking emails, but psychology suggests this actually increases 'directed attention fatigue'.** **I’ve been…

I’m doing 1g of golden teachers tonight and I’m pretty nervous any tips? — Looking for some advice/tips from experienced trippers. Tonight I’m planning on doing 1g of Golden Teachers. This isn’t my first time I’ve had a 3.5g Penis Envy trip for my first trip, and then a 2.5…

Stop trying to "think" your way out of burnout. You need a physical boundary. — For a long time, I believed that surviving immense pressure just required more willpower. Between running a tech startup, trying to expand our business into the US market, tackling the massive learnin…

How to process this weird break of no contact? — ​ My ex avoidantly discarded with seemingly minimal thought, which absolutely destroyed me. She then anxiously broke no contact after 2 hours in an anxious spiral thinking I mightn't have gott…

No one goes no contact immediately. — We have all been there, and you know that no contact is the right thing to do. Fuck that, no contact is out only thing to do when have broken up with. But why is it so dam hard? The fact that it's ha…

I am fucked totally (17y Male) — Originally i wanted to post this on r/selfimprovement but couldn't due to having a New account. (read the full story to understand the whole issue please) TL;dr :- The person is struggling with sever…

F it. — I’ve decided that I’m just going to reset literally everything that I’ve learned about manifestation over 5 years and pretend that I don’t know what it is. I’m literally starting from scratch. What is…

Advice required for dealing with gender related burden — I'm currently evicting a male boarder because he lacks in basic hygiene and isn't employable and has the expectation I need to run around for him (he leaves in a week). I am looking on taking on anoth…

Nothing changed until I stopped waiting to feel ready — I used to think I needed the right mindset before I could change anything. Like I had to feel motivated first, or clear, or at least a little bit certain about what I was doing. So I kept waiting. …

Self help — just seeking feedback and coaching. I just don't quite get myself anymore. I'm a 28 year old white male, 2 kids and a girlfriend. I don't really have any self control. Everyday I just manufacture idea…

Anxiety isn’t in the head it’s stuck in the body. The somatic trick that rewires it — I tried something that felt absolutely ridiculous during an anxiety spiral and it worked better than anything else I have ever done. I stood up put on a heavy beat and just started shaking. Full body …

I (34F) have to move from WA to CA for my dream job and my boyfriend (42M) would have to quit his job to move with me — I (34F) am a successful product designer living in Seattle WA. I own my home. I make Good Money. My bf (42M) has never had an issue with me outearning him and is celebratory of my success. I was laid …

Struggling with comparison and self-worth in a new relationship (35M) — 35M here. Recently got back into dating after a long gap (UPSC prep, divorce, career reset). I’m currently rebuilding my career: underpaid relative to my potential but steadily improving (atleast I th…

Avoiding Your Real Work Is Costing You More Than You Think — # Avoiding Your Real Work: The Hidden Cost of Staying Busy Without Progress ***“I’ve been noticing this pattern in myself lately and wanted to share it here because I’m curious if others deal with th…

My (28F) boyfriend (28M) told me I was "too emotional" for two years and I genuinely believed him — I can't believe I'm writing this but I need outside perspective because everyone in my life is tired of hearing about it. My ex and I dated for just over two years. He was charming, confident, and w…

[31M] My wife [32F] of 4 years (together 9) wants a divorce. We survived family deaths and her Bipolar 2, but I'm exhausted. I just need someone to tell me starting over at 31 is going to be okay. — I’m just kind of aimlessly describing my situation right now. I have no clue what I’m looking for, maybe just perspective, or someone to tell me I'll be okay. My wife and I met in college. We've been…

If we all got sent back to our "native" countries, how would you feel? — Asian American here. I often have these thoughts, or in my case "fantasies" of my family returning back to their native lands. I was born and raised in the US but my life has been a perpetual identity…

I can't let go and still have hope for an ex that had already said he doesn't love me - looking for advice, community — (⚠️I apologize for the length of this post) Context: I (27F) can’t let go of my ex and still have hope even after he clearly told me he doesn’t love me I’ve been in an on-and-off dynamic with my ex…

Trouble with AP/OBE, need insight — This may be a longer post so bare with me. <3 I have had a really hard time astral projecting / having an OBE. I thought it would come easily for me because i have always been “aware” or more in tune…

Question!! — Does checking my SP's social resets all the work I've done in manifesting??

; — I consulted 7 therapists in the last 3 years, and 6 of them diagnosed me with chronic severe depression, only one said it might be grief, but I did not talk to her honestly about my suicidal thoughts.…

I had the habit of resetting my life every Monday - turns out alcohol was issue, not even motivation. — Hi guys, Actually excited to share this as I am after a long time to 'decide to be better'. I wouldn't say I was a heavy drinker but in all honesty I was drinking 2–3 nights on weekdays after work p…

Feeling stressed and overwhelmed — Hey everyone, I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately with everything going on this semester, so I started trying to take a few minutes each day to reset instead of ignoring it. One thing that has…

My girlfriend broke up with me on the first day of our vacation, now I don’t know what to do — My girlfriend (ex I guess now) and I just arrived at our resort today, and things fell apart before we even really started the trip. We had a conflict at the airport, and it escalated to the point …

Hi, that sounds like a false awakening chain. I've experienced a few of them too, including the annoying part where you lose lucidity each time the scenario "resets" itself. No idea what causes it, o…

Hello all, I am new to this site but I have been lucid dreaming since I was eight years old. I am now almost 66 years old. I had nightmares as a child. I decided that if I had a nightmare I would wak…

When a guy wants to be with a woman, he will move mountains to make that happen. If you want me to translate his behaviour for you, it goes something like "he's just not that into you". Judging by y…

For me, the reset has been focusing on routines that balance both mental and physical energy. It's not just about productivity it's about consistency in self-care and staying aligned with long-term go…

I am FA but lean dismissive so take my response with a grain of salt. I tend to disappear from time to time not out of anger or resentment but because my nervous system just demands space to reset. I…

How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…

While I understand your motivation, the dating scene has changed, and situationships are now part of it. You must find a way to incorporate it into your mating strategy.  You should come up with a ti…

Yeah i think her nervous system needs to calm down for now and reset. I think she will run faster too. If that gives you a peace of mind then do it, but definitely don’t do it if you just want to get …

this is so great to read! the idea of taking space when AP is so totally foreign and feels wrong, until you genuinely do it for yourself and realise who has been neglected, you. i tend to take small c…

I've always tested out as secure. But here's the thing. Everyone feels the full range of human emotions. The fact you felt humiliated doesn't make you a broken person that needs fixing. It just makes …

I can certainly identify with this sort of feeling, and unfortunately in my case, the realities of what was happening when my partner at the time wasn't responding were exactly the worst thing. That …

You have posted before about this and have gotten some great advice. I think you are being too hard on yourself. Progression is not linear. It takes time and practice. There are a lot of layers to hea…

I Use distress tolerance tools I’ve learned from DBT. Box breathing, dunking my face in ice water, look up at the ceiling and track my eyes back and forth twenty times, etc.. there are a lot of them t…

Totally understand that. I have been in the same place. Like another person said, that is a part of it, but it's also resetting your nervous system and training it to respond healthily. I definitely r…

this isn’t about them it’s about the chemical storm your brain fires when it senses rejection or replacement your body’s not wrong - it’s just conditioned every time you saw “connection” disappea…

As people said, both are the real her. But it can change as she gets more secure, and she may get more secure as she sees she can consistently count on you in her relationship. If you want to make it …

What’s actually happening (in plain language) Roughly, your system is doing this: 1. Distance = danger. When you don’t see him (or replies slow down), your body reads it as “I’m about to be abando…

What is NC for? I wouldn't say it resets, I'd say its the start of the next upwards ride of the roller coaster, the new honeymoon period before the inevitable downward slide again in a matter of wee…

Completely untrue for me. If your only source for this is chatgpt, please dont believe that. Ive never seen an avoidant including Dismissive Avoidant people describe their relationships this way. What…

Even though I'm FA, as a person whose almost exclusively avoidant in friendships, I don't think this is true at all. My secure friendships all followed a pretty distinct trajectory of periods where I …

This is fascinating... I've definitely noticed something similar in my own patterns, though I hadn't heard it called that specifically. For me, it's less like interactions "reset" and more like each o…

Well, I’m really intrigued by attachment theory…and I’ve got a crush on an avoidant guy. Our connection has not been advancing beyond mostly text conversation and sort of “fantasy.” I get mixed signa…

To start as an anxious preoccupied attacher it helps to get into our heads. Avoidant types can have a disposition that leaves a more anxious person feeling unsure of their stance with them, leaving th…

Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…

I identified with this but the other way around, like their bullshit didnt accumulate over ocassions and tolerance for bullshit reseted after a bit 

FANTASTIC LIST! I've got a few of these and would recommend in the last year the power of attachment by Diane Poole Heller The Nervous System Reset: Unlock the power of your vagus nerve to overcome…

Reset the algo bro, I fell in the trap of reading the comments sections of those posts to see the drama and it's totally destroyed my feed 💀

2 matches have asked me out for this weekend and I’m not feeling it at all. I should probably pause until I move. I have so many things to figure out - the move, a new job, buying a car, getting re…

I got a LOT from Pia Mellody’s book “Facing Love Addiction” that helped me find where to reset myself when it comes to approval-seeking behaviour. Until we deal a bit with the fear of interaction we…

can always build in boundaries for yourself with the apps. firstly i would give yourself a week or so off of the apps to get a full reset. and if you do decide to pick it back up, maybe just try to li…

Thought about going to a book club tonight but honestly I just don't have the energy to try. I really want to go but I don't think I am able to be my best self and don't want to leave a bad impression…

Enjoy the trip! I really enjoy traveling for that reason. It is a reset and by the end, you have a fresh start to get back into good habits. I hope you find yourself at a book club in the future! I re…

I'm moving cities next month, does deleting Tinder and reinstalling work better to reset the account? Or will it count against me? For some reason I'm not really getting matches and I don't know if I …

I understand everyone needs a bit of "me" time to reset and catch a breathe. Trust me, being neurodivergent myself, I totally understand the need for this... But NO ONE is too busy for seven straight…

There was never an argument. I was asking questions to understand. First, I’d ask if he wanted to get coffee and he’d deflect, “let’s just snuggle,” which we had already been doing for a long time. So…

I'm pro becoming friends after a relationship ends when possible (obviously except for situations where it would be unhealthy). I've never had a very bad breakup and I still like the person as a perso…

You didn't do anything. Some people just go completely cold after a breakup because engaging with your pain means dealing with their own guilt, and they can't handle it. Especially when they're the on…

The filters resetting happens to me too, also just constant notifications I've already seen but it keeps wanting to show me 🤣 still not terrible overall if I factor in matches and messaging also free

> Also FB dating is interesting because every time I go back to it all of my filters get reset. This is one of the things I dislike about it.

It doesn’t seem like it’s going to improve any time soon. The solution is hiring someone to share his workload but that hasn’t been approved by the finance dept and will take time. It will probably ge…

Recovering from shoulder surgery, thoroughly not playing the dating game. BUT I’m super excited for my new e-reader to arrive in a couple days loaded with books I can’t wait to knock out. Full reset t…

I used to do that when I was younger, so I completely understand where you're coming from. Having your own community and hobbies is very important as to not lose yourself in a relationship. For me, I …

Decided I (33f) need a mental break from the horrors of dating apps! Going to delete them and reset. Need some springtime weather to come along so I can go out and enjoy life. It will be like a spring…

Scorpio moon in the 12th house here, square a Leo mars. I hate crying in general, specifically in public. Honestly I really do hate doing anything that makes me stick out. Having a day chart, my Libra…

Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…

the saturn return locks it in, but the shift starts earlier -- the progressed lunar return around 27 resets the emotional baseline. it's less 'growing into the ascendant' and more that saturn forces y…

27-28 landing right on the progressed lunar return tracks perfectly. and taurus sun with scorpio rising is one of those combos where the shift is especially noticeable because the two energies are so …

virgo sun / aries rising is a quincunx (150 degrees) rather than an opposition like taurus/scorpio, and that actually changes how the shift feels. oppositions create dramatic, either/or tension -- you…

When I (31m) deleted my OLD apps in late December for a much needed mental health break, I struggled a tiny bit with the transition from a busy, active dating life back to being single. One thing I wa…

Ah, okay, so with that one you have to reset your filters EVERY TIME you open it.