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did I manifest my SP back and it "backfired"? — hello people. i need some advice or opinions. this is a lot to explain. i am not a native english speaker, so my english might not be the best. i’d really appreciate advice and not hate or anything li…

Has anyone dated a lot and kind of regret it? — I’ve dated a lot since my divorce, 6 years ago. So much that all of my stories of the last six years pretty much include some random guy I was dating at the time. Oh I went to that music festival… wit…

When you know you know — So all this started when my ex finance stated working at a drilling company he was working outside in the field and then he got transferred to like the lab where he meet let’s name her Emily they stat…

I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…

I'm too lazy to shift — Hi guyss, It's my first time posting on this subreddit so I'll try to keep it as simple as I can I'm really really lazy to shift I tried to trust my subconscious and let the universe do its work but…

Has anyone's parents said you were too honest? — Throughout my life, my parents tend to say I'm too honest when interacting with others in public and with extended family. I do recognize there are times to be dishonest, such as telling phone scammer…

MANIFESTATION BACKFIRING — Guys WHAT THE FCKKK. I have been trying to manifest happy parents (bcz they recently had a fallout), money for my dad,improvement in his mental health (he has intermittent explosive disorder and a lot…

First lucid dream after years… Why did my dream control completely fail? My new method backfired — # Notice \----- This post might contain some sentence blobs that may be large for those people who just want to skim through, so I wrote a summarizing “**TL;DR**:” after every few sentences! Additi…

I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…

Questions about going no contact — My mom’s manipulative games finally backfired on her and she has ended up in a serious health situation. She refuses to accept that she cannot care for herself right now, if ever, and has continued to…

Is my marriage gone? Help! — My wife and I are 40 years old. We’ve been married for 10 years. Two weeks ago She wanted the time apart and asked for a separation. We’re both absolutely devastated and heartbroken that we found ours…

My 5cents, as a person that’s been interviewing candidates for several years (almost 10 at same company, seen it grow from 100 employees to 2k+, interviewed QAs, SETs, Devs, DevOps and SREs). I’m sor…

I want to know more about this. I tried this 6 months back and it backfired on me so bad. I was going through a breakup and got into meditation and chanting. I am already introspective and ruminate a…

It is never going to happen for this guy. He runs with ignorant assumptions and assumes that he’s the smartest guy in the room. Nothing wrong with asking - I think of tech as a male dominated field, w…

Thank you, I appreciate this a lot. I won't give up and I acknowledge that this feeling is not permanent. You hit the nail on the head with the over-correcting. All I see on social media is people …

Thanks for the kind words. I don’t understand it either, but it didn’t help that his family was a lot more conservative than I initially realized and I think some of his views were pretty ableist as w…

My narc ex husband did this to my daughter and I. He purposely gave me the gift she wanted and her the gift that was for me. We just looked at him like he was crazy and traded. It backfired and we …

Thank you. I can see how my 12H placements dictate a lot. This really resonates with me esp touching on my experiences with my family. I chose silence because my sister was rebellious as a teenager an…

Sorry to write a separate comment. I was just thinking, "ah screw it, might as well write it out now." --- Examples of ways the halo effect has backfired on me: You say attractive people get more …

Most of the time, yes. But my mother did used to read it because her parents are deeply Christian, and my dad still reads it. So she's not exactly ignorant of a lot of what the bible says. But she id …

Yes. Dismissive Avoidant. It really blindsided me. I didn't know what that was until I've been doing research on why tf this happened. Just 10 days ago we were talking about owning a ranch together, h…

It's the difference between doing it for **you** and doing it for **them**. My late brother was constantly rescued by my parents as a teen and adult, and for my dad it was almost always about getting…

I also have that exact experience. It’s a disheartened heaviness from missing the person who I love that honestly doesn’t even exist . This person pretended to be someone they weren’t . My ex- got eve…

This. I became the one wearing the pants when I never wanted that role. It became a very codependent relationship and looking back, I took on the role of his mom. When I needed to assert boundaries…

My mom tried to do this. It backfired on her. My dad had good parental boundaries, and the fact that he never talked badly about my mom even though there were many things he could have said about her …

Apparently this is click bait. From other users on a different sub, this was apparently some weird free concert on the street via lottery, not the big comeback concert: >"Most of their upcoming stadi…

I assumed on reading it she had already slept with that guy and felt some kind of guilt/remorse, so she was probably just trying to make it an “open relationship” so in her mind it’s not “cheating” by…

Original copy of post by u/Swimming-Twist-1896: I’ve dated a lot since my divorce, 6 years ago. So much that all of my stories of the last six years pretty much include some random guy I was dating a…

I'm sorry you went through that. My father tried to do that and it backfired on him because _he_ was the one that got diagnosed and as a result couldn't have any contact with me anymore so I was fre…

If you don't wanna be that blunt, then ask them out for coffee, drinks, dinner, an activity like a hike, etc. Lower stakes and you can feel out how things are one-on-one. I started out as casual frie…

Just to put a counterpoint on the people saying suggest a hangout - this backfired on me last year when I asked a guy friend I was into (and I thought was potentially into me too) to go to a movie 1-1…

I've dated a lot and don't regret it. It's been an adventure for me, getting to know so many people. It's made me very experienced with women, IMO. BUT, I'm a guy, and how many sex partners I've had g…

If they admitted they were the cause of your mental illness it would be the downfall for them. Even if you told them… probably most won’t believe it. There’s a reason why AP don’t go to therapy. It wo…

Reading this is such a relief. It’s so comforting because I saw at a young age that how my mom behaved and socialized was very different from others. Every time I tried to emulate her- things backfire…

in my case, I went through COCSA among with the family not supporting me, letting me take the blame, emotional neglect from my parents that led me to similar symptoms and later on a second SA from a …

Just go. No warning, no nothing. Please don't make the same mistake I made of writing a long heartfelt letter because it totally backfired. Narcisists are like the authorities, everything you say can …

I told some and didn’t tell others. I’m not sure why in my life that the people I told stopped talking to me, and the people I didn’t tell are still close to me. I think having groups of couples frie…

This was a very elaborate way to cheat on you that really backfired on her Edited to add - I agree with a diff commenter that she was manipulating you in some type of attempt to have an excuse to bre…

i did, tried to work through it on my own. couldn’t get past it and ended up getting my revenge instead of just walking away. it backfired and i got villainized so i just started telling the whole tru…

Poor taste is in the eye of the beholder. Some people will think it is, some people won't. I've scheduled two coffee dates on the same day before, and I don't think it's necessarily in poor taste, but…

#6 makes me laugh. It’s so true. The funny thing though was 4 years ago, after going through a breakup with my ex, I avoided any place or neighborhood where there was even a 1% chance I would run into…

Well my parents are evangelical Christians and I grew up with purity culture messaging drilled into me. No surprise that it backfired…

Thankfully, their plan backfired.

I kinda sometimes feel like if there’s any higher force in the universe, were we born as punishment, method to force reflection on our parents, not as our own people? Because whatever they strived for…

What factors? Magic was done by a magician. Brought to help me in my studies. Backfired. And the entity feels like separate. Another aspect of me? I dont understand. It does punish psychologically.

Yes, n it kinda backfired

(Edited and recommended because a self-depracating joke triggered the automod, fair enough). Being a strong independent single lady who doesn't need anything from anyone finally backfired on me tod…

‘They’ll use anything to hurt you’- this is the real issue. I’m scared of my ‘self’ being weaponised, so I hid it to be safe. But now I can’t find my ‘self’, that’s why I said there’s only a shell lef…