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manifested dream job and internship at ivy league without doing anything — hi guys, just wanted to share my recent manifestations and how i achieved them. **TLDR**: i was depressed, working a minimum wage job, not doing anything conducive to my career, and very lost. in 2-3…
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Master’s degree, big scholarship, and leaving a toxic situation — Background: I was keen to leave my toxic family situation for years but let’s just say it wasn’t happening. I got a good job in my hometown, I found someone I loved who was desperate to marry me, I …
Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Is "good on paper" a thing for guys our age? — I can't help but feeling like I'm good on paper and that's why my boyfriend is with me. I'm conventionally attractive, I make really good money, I take care of myself (and him) and my things, I'm kin…
Why do so many high achievers seem to have strong Rahu placements? — I’ve been looking at charts of highly successful or influential people and noticed that many of them seem to have strong Rahu placements, especially in angular houses (1st, 7th, 10th) or closely influ…
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…
4 women matched with me on Hinge in the last 24 hours... And I'm not the most attractive man. — Just putting this out there for anybody feeling low. I'm not the most conventionally handsome 40 year old. Bald and overweight on top of it (but lost 30 lbs recently and haven't updated my profile). T…
My (29M) prenup with my fiance (28W) pays her for having children. My parents (65M, 62W) are telling me to call off the wedding — **EDIT 2: It's occurred to me that I don't know how to close a post. Really I just wanted to hear what other married/engaged folks were doing. Thanks the advice for those who gave it.** **EDIT: Real…
dealing with jealousy/comparison — I have a cousin who is one year older than me and I struggle to have a relationship with her because I am jealous. I’ve always felt like we were being compared growing up especially in looks because s…
Initial Moment of soul entering the body — Does anyone know anything about the moment we initially choose or bodies, getting assigned to them or what can be regarded as the first moment a soul entered the body? Featus stage like conventional …
Why procrastination advice will never work for me — Let’s say I really don’t want to get out of bed. The next small step would be to remove the covers, but there’s still huge resistance because my mind knows there’s a purpose behind the small step, so …
if you're in this vibe, you're not alone — some of the vibes I've observed on a personal level now, has a lot to do with past pain resurfacing around "muggles," and the "muggle world." specifically the antagonistic energies we experience as in…
Women who had a glow up — Resources? I'm going to the gym, started coloring my hair and nails...inner work started long before the divorce with all the things: church, community , journaling, therapy. Wondering what are the b…
How do I deal with self-sabotage if my reasons for it are these — When I was younger, I was at the top of my batch, won about 98% of all the contests I joined in, and was considered conventionally attractive. But that “success” made my elementary years isolating. …
My self esteem is tearing me apart — I hate so much about me and anything I kind of like about me are either because several other people told me they liked it or because it’s conventionally liked but I completely isolate it form the res…
Is there anything in my chart about obsessive tendencies or unconventional methods? — Hi! I’m just curious about obsessiveness, addiction, or unconventional ways and how it shows up in my chart or even through my interactions or connections. My moon is in Aquarius so idk if that has so…
Ouch. Starting over, into the lonely void of dating — I'm 38M and picking up the pieces after abruptly being discarded by an avoidant two days ago. She told me I'm in different 'tier' of people who is able to express emotions and needs. And that she's u…
did you know that emotions are addictive? — i’ve reached some new grounds in my non-conventional healing journey. and i’ve realized i’m an addict, i never was addicted to substances, but i am an addict. depression, sadness, despair, anger it is…
do i just continue to feel it out until it’s gone? — got broken up with 2 months ago to my first love and who i thought was the love of my life. i was 23 and she was 29, it was unconventional but we were both mature and really loved each other. first of…
I (18M) caught my Mom (44F) Cheating on my Dad (46M) and I don't know what to do — General Idea of our Family - My dad goes to work 5 days a week and comes back to visit us on wednesday evening and weekends. My mom is a teacher and goes to school in evening shift from 1 to 6 pm ever…
AI-Written Trip Reports — I feel like I've been reading a lot of trip reports lately that are seemingly written by AI on this sub and on the internet at large. Typically no one in the comments notices, even when there's all th…
Tips for detaching from your CR? — If any experienced (or otherwise) shifters see this, comment ways you’ve helped detach from your CR! From wacky or to conventional, myself and others are sure to find any help useful.
post breakup book rec / advice — I am a 23 year old - about to be 24 year old - senior in college ( took me a bit but i got there) about to graduate in a month. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, been friends since we were…
3g Mushroom Trip on Good Friday / Full Moon: Seeking Chaos Magick perspectives and "Self-Remembrance" techniques. — Hi everyone, Tomorrow (Good Friday / Full Moon), I’ll be taking 3g of dried mushrooms in a rural setting (Tarija, Bolivia). This will be my first full experience with psilocybin, though I have a back…
Does anyone else realize they were a weird kid because their parents did not teach them social skills? — At the grand age of 32 I’ve recently realized that I was a weird, socially awkward kid because I wasn’t taught proper social skills by my parents. I always thought it was because I was ugly and fat be…
Meeting people IRL is no different than the apps. It’s us. We’re the problem. — I’ve since discarded the apps as sort of an experiment. Many people blame apps for the perceived negatives in dating. I’ve never agreed with this conventional grain of thought. I think we’ve changed. …
Got banned from r/anxiety because I'm anxious about channel growth and wanted help. — won't make the same mistake I did there, but maybe people here are kinder? I'm autistic and have severe anxiety and I'm turning 30 this year. for the longest time I've felt useless to society because…
I want to understand my 5th and 11th house? — according to the placements of the 5th house I should be creative right? with rahu and Venus ig but i don't think I am.....I take the normal route most of the time not anything unconventional. I als…
Dating is tiring F25 M26 — Hello everyone, maybe this is a bit of a vent but. I F25 have gotten involved with M26. He approached me at the gym and made small talk. I thought he was my exact type and was excited at the thought t…
Is it finally time to break off and how can I (22F) bring it up with my boyfriend (22M) when I never once expressed any discontentment/resentment strongly and openly? — I really need some advice regarding my boyfriend. For context, we met abroad in a western country. I am Chinese and he is Japanese. This context kind of matters. Our relationship started poorly as a …
The most unconventional ways of thinking that help you? I'll go first — ***"They have the audacity, why can't I?***" Sometimes I struggle with standing up for myself and my needs/boundaries. I get stuck in my head, scared about whether what I'm saying is fair, or balanc…
How would you respond? — I’ve been talking to someone who is much younger than me. It’s very casual, no sex involved.. we text here and there at least couple times a week. He’s come over to to drink on my patio while chatting…
Do narc parents head into retirement in a disastrous way? — This post is extremely spontaneous. Basically, my personal life and that of my parents are completely messed up. My dad is going to retire in less than a year, and my mom is more of a homemaker than s…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
Talking with my mom who is extremely conventionally beautiful about looks — Hi, I’m 21F, Bengali American. Maybe not the right subreddit, but ever since I was a kid, whenever I expressed hatred about my appearance, my mom would just flat out ignore me and not acknowledge what…
My (25F) bf (26M) is attracted to an aesthetic that is completely opposite of mine. — I (25F) learned that my bf (26M) is attracted to the goth/alt/emo girl aesthetic. He clarified that while he thinks it’s an attractive aesthetic, he wouldn’t want to date/marry a girl with said aesthe…
Having frugal AP parents — I would say I was lower middle class growing up, but I went to a school which was predominantly upper class because they wanted “good education” and “good ties” for me. This made me feel so poor comp…
is there a way that i (29f) could have trained myself to react differently under stress in life situations to not stress him (29m) out? — Day 4 of break up and it hurts so bad. he says we are incompatible because we argue about the small stuff all the time. but it wasn't my intention to argue with him at all. i want to change myself for…
Is there a way that i (29f) could have trained myself to react differently under stress in life situations to not stress him (29m) out? — It's me again... pls help me out of this nightmare... Day 4 of break up and it hurts so bad. he says we are incompatible because we argue about the small stuff all the time. but it wasn't my intention…
Anyone come here from a sobriety/recovery background? — I got clean/sober almost 5 years ago. My path was somewhat unconventional—I went to NA meetings sparingly for my first year, but it never felt like it was “for me.” After my first year sober I decide…
I don’t know how to talk to my mum! — I want to state first, that I love my mum. To an extent. I see her for the woman she is and the horrible childhood and trauma she had to go through. I see the Woman who was abused by father and strugg…
Trying to live in a way that does not perpetuate negative stereotypes of people with CPTSD or other mental illnesses — These days, because of the internet, people are more aware than ever about toxic behaviors, crime, misogyny/misandry, "red flags", and so on. It is a good thing when society becomes aware of problems …
Extreme Guilt — Hello! I’ve never posted here before. Going to attempt to not make this super long but no promises. I’m (32F) about to ask my (34M) husband for a divorce. We have been together almost 8 years and ma…
How do I (18M) make my girlfriend (20F) see herself as beautiful as I see her? — Sorry if the title is oddly worded, wasn't sure how to phrase it and that was my best attempt at making it sound coherent. Anyways, me and my girlfriend have been together just shy of 1 year as I writ…
>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…
I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…
>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…
Haha what an honour to be compared to Uncle Iroh! 😆 yes I understand and I debated whether to put that in, however there are some people who get frustrated with their attempts and prayer can actually…
"Most of the time I feel like I'm going to die alone, like I'm not enough and oher bullshit." I suggest you take conventional action and see a therapist to sort out your self-esteem issues in the fi…
You have to take conventional action toward your goals.
I agree that in most cases you have to take some conventional action, as you just will by the state, but also as I've seen myself.. You can choose not to. I can just sit at home doing absolute nothing…
No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…
I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…
Hahah. This souphead makes me laugh. I love it when failures do all they can to prove why something doesn't work - based of the fact that it so clearly was applied wrong 🤡 And I do agree, being con…
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…
And...your title is misleading. JM says don't discuss your problems with others *at the conventional level*,. If you discuss it with others in terms of the LOB, it is fine. He didn't literally say w…
*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…
>There is nothing conventionally rational about the LOB. Yet it works. There's just too much evidence out there to deny it and you've had it happen in your life often enough. That's why even after 6 y…
This post takes 5 different topics and mixes them together into a mess which would confuse someone who's new to the Law of Belief and Joseph Murphys teachings. 1.Taking conventional action towards y…
Dates are different though, because it’s normal to state your intentions on a first date. Op simply ran into her at a party, and that was the second time they had met. Even my DA bf and I spoke about…
If you had truly followed this sub,studied and read the index, you would have learned to use the search bar to find previous posts concerning a similar topic as well as an assortment of advice on how …
I feel you completely but that’s because the guy I was dating was genuinely not very good looking. We had so much in common, could talk for hours, but I genuinely couldn’t utter the words “you look go…
Congrats brother or sister. 30 kills at an 80 percent win rate is incredible ! I know its a bit late to ask How do you know your results came from Law of belief and not from pure conventional di…
The mom should have taken conventional action with her goals first.
Hi everyone, I’m 25M (Middle Eastern, living in Turkey), in pilot training and under a lot of pressure to stay focused. Earlier this year I met a 30F Russian woman (“Y”) in a very unconventional way …
I got married to a man whom I had met online and we had only met each other about 2 times in person before marriage due to it being a very long distance relationship ( between two countries ) I only …
No offense but this sounds normal and not bad at all. You're reading wayyyy too much into this. Have you sought conventional help? Needing to be in constant contact to feel ok isn't healthy. I'd sugge…
Hi, avoidant aplspec aroace (the quadruple a!) here :) It's important to differentiate a trauma response with sexuality but it can be tricky. I think first things first, you should acknowledge whic…
Unfortunately, my standards are pretty high. Like 1 in every 100 girls I swipe through I am finding physically attractive. But what I find attractive and what is conventionally pretty are clearly not …
This is probably controversial - but I’m 31F and below average attractiveness. I kind of would love to talk to people similar to me about their experiences but also just sort of like wonder how do you…
I dated a guy who didn’t consider himself conventionally attractive, he wasn’t banging hot yet but he was okay. I wasn’t bothered by his looks. I was bothered by his lack of confidence though. He con…
If you say he was just okay in terms of looks - maybe he had a pretty realistic idea of what he looked like. Sometimes I wonder if humans have a dysphoria when they look at themselves. I feel like I c…
I don't think he's minimizing effort because he did ask you what you wanted and considered your input. He's not a mind reader; you should always state what you want outright (there is something libera…
The impression I get is that people who know they prefer solitude but try to force themselves to go through with conventional cohabitating are the ones who end up with Man Caves and She Sheds and I re…
I'll go against what others are saying and say you should trust him on what he told you. Is he conventionally attractive and charismatic? If not particularly so, my guess is that he was starved for a…
I would say he’s unconventionally attractive—he looks like younger Paul Dano. He’s not exactly charismatic as he’s quite reserved and analytical. However, he is a good, stable guy with an interesting …
Thank you! My last partner was MUCH slimmer than me and was very attracted to me. My face I would consider conventionally attractive, but I know that a lot of guys want the Instagram model body and I'…
I’m trying to not get too excited but I met someone from the apps I was the most excited to meet and he was even cuter in person. And smart too. And seems to have a solid social circle and career. We …
>I think I have the ability to appreciate people and care about them deeply >even when I like someone and can imagine building a life with her, I just don’t *feel* anything. I think you need to re…
I'd say what is healthy is all about properly communicating your needs and boundaries, and respecting those of your partner. Whether conventional or not does not fundamentally matter. As long as you'r…
I do think that a lot of attachment issues are a downstream effect from the fact that our society is basically built in anti-human ways and that we've been pushed into really unnatural family structur…
Speed Dating for the first time So I'm going with a friend to a speed dating event. It's for 30yo and up. I'm a BBW and nervous that I will be wasting my time as I'm a niche want I feel like. An aqui…
I actually agree with you, I haven't used Breeze yet but I've met plenty of guys who I've enjoyed chatting to IRL who have not been great at texting, and if I'd met them on a conventional app I'd prob…
Same. And I'm not conventionally attractive, so it makes thing worse
welp I lived with my best friend after uni and yep, ruined our relationship. on the flip side, I moved in with two strangers two years ago and one of them has become one of my closest friends now, so …
You don't come across as too intimidating or too weird at all. I don't think the selfie first vs. last thing is going to make too much of a difference. If there's any problem with your photos, we can'…
I (31M) would personally settle strategically if I ever decide to marry. I can't do marriage with a romantic partner that I am romantically obsessed with as I don't want the burden of dealing with str…
I'm repeling both. I'm a bisexual woman. Had dates with 2 guys in the last months after 1 year single. One of them ghosted me, the other one seems to be fading (I didn't date the two at the same time)…
"I'm conventionally attractive..." "I make really good money, I take care of myself (and him) and my things, I'm kind and caring and I'm a good cook - which he loves. Our sex life is great." (That d…
Thank you for reading what I wrote and providing your insights. It's a hard question. I don't know what they have in common that attracted me. They all seem so different. But I guess I was the most…
I mean personality wise we are quite similar, its more he is more conventionally attractive.. Taller and has a big jawline so guess looks more masculine than me. I'm fine in the grooming department, …
I’m Jupiter Aquarius in 3H 🙋♀️ I get why Jupiter in Aquarius feels confusing. Jupiter is supposed to be warm, abundant, obvious. Aquarius is detached, future focused, and kind of impersonal. It doe…
Uranus (in mid-Taurus, a few years ago) square natal moon (Aqua). I got into a relationship with someone who seemed great at first, but was bad for me. It was confusing because we explored a lot of th…