Childhood Emotional Neglect

FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals — **What is emotional neglect?** In one's childhood, a lack of: everyday caring, non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents (or whoever your primary caregivers were, if not your biological parent…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

[Partner] Wife’s suppressed severe trauma surfaced. She’s in extreme ‘flight’ mode, refusing therapy, and I am burning out. Need honest outlooks. — \*\*Added some new context at the end Hi everyone. I’m hoping to find some perspective, hard truths, or shared experiences from those who have navigated severe PTSD/CPTSD dynamics. I am completely e…

Understanding ex’s triggers and need for supply — Shortly before he moved a couple of states away and we broke up (thank god), I realized my ex of two years is a covert narcissist. He would constantly trigger me, make me react, have panic attacks, an…

My partner says I’m abusive towards myself, but I feel like I’m too light on myself if anything — I often read the posts here and relate to them or get emotional reading them, so I thought maybe this community might know if I’m not treating myself right, and if so why? I (25TF) have a lot of bad…

Struggling to start healing: keep invalidating myself because I feel like I have not suffered as much as my perpetrators — Hi guys, I am neurodivergent. I grew up with toxic parents, one who chronically invalidates all of their children's life choices, preferences, ideas and beliefs, and another who is emotionally absent…

Thank you so much for this, it’s cathartic to see the traits childhood emotional neglect can cause. I always just thought well this is how I am like I was just made this way, and seeing them as result…

Thank you for your supportive words :) I am definitely still an AP, but in comparison to some years ago I am able to identify my patterns and self regulate my emotions much more. This is the big diffe…

Jonice Webb PhD Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect Ichiro Kishimi The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real…

Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…

So I read the article, and it's pretty interesting. I'm definitely in the freeze+fawn group. Freeze from childhood emotional neglect, and fawn from my narcissistic, volatile, and controlling father. I…

It seems to me that you need external validation in order for you to stay in a relationship. It's like you don't value your own opinion or trust your own feelings. I had - perhaps still have a similar…

Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…

I'm by no means secure, but I think these examples are pretty clear cut. Secure people know how to say "no". Our childhood emotional neglect taught us that it's easier or safer to just comply, but we'…

I'm 57F and only realized the extent of my childhood emotional neglect following a complete breakdown a few years ago. Like you I have a devoted husband. Our kids love us in a way I find hard to compr…

If things happened to you as a child that have had significant long-reaching effects, it doesn’t matter that other people have it worse. I don’t chime in on threads about pervasive sexual and physic…

Maybe another way to look at it is, our parents did what they could. And they were unable to meet the genuine needs of a child. They probably would have, if they could have, but they couldn’t, and the…

For me, this has been the most dominant and persistent consequence of childhood emotional neglect. It’s the feeling that you are not allowed to take up space in the planet. The weird thing for me (no…

For me, it all felt very abstract, I was excited, but wouldn't say I was incredibly attached until my son was born. That was incredibly surreal, going from abstract concept to the real deal. They plac…

They probably mean Lorelei and Emily, but the Rory/Lorelei dynamic hits a lot of the beats for parentification. A parent confiding to their kid about adult stuff, going to their kid for advice, and co…

That was verbally abusive. Yes, I experienced something similar. When I was a teen, I was sobbing in my room at night. (I don't remember why. I rarely cried). My mother asked me to quiet down because…

Yes. I have CPTSD from childhood emotional neglect. No trustworthy adult for my whole childhood. As a grown woman, I have considered suicide at three lowest points of my life. The third time, I promi…

I binge drank to cope in my 20s, married an emotionally abusive partner mirroring my childhood emotional neglect, then getting sober and divorced led to a psychotic episode in my forties. Thank goodne…

\>!Dean is massively parentified. Instead of saying how he feels, he expresses himself with humor, anger and control. Survival prioritized over emotional attunement or expression--they're basically wa…

Patrick Teahan post on Instagram. It was a venn diagram for adhd and cptsd symptoms. I explored more Patrick Teahan posts and then starting watching his videos on YouTube.  Afaik the whole concept…

As a teenager I was struggling heavily with depression and knew very obviously something was wrong. I was doing worse in school, zoning out, having a lot more relationship problems. A lot of my friend…