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I'm in a really similar situation to you. He broke things off because all the arguments or things that I brought up where I thought I was communicating in a good way were weighing on him and was start…

My current case study - Instagram Automation - is working! But how to make money? — I have a company that is doing quite well and I often have time left over. During this time, I try my hand at various case studies. This time it was Instagram's turn. I had often seen videos about Mak…

Stress over him smoking — So I don’t really understand this anxiety either but I really don’t like smoking. I don’t smoke but I’m okay with whoever wants to, unless they pressure me to do the same thing. So I’ve been with my p…

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…

Why Manifesting From Desire Creates Anxiety — I had a realization while trying to manifest a new job. I noticed that every time I get a notification or an email, I feel a wave of anxiety. Which is strange, because I’ve already done the “work.” I…

Manifested work and a promotion — I've been a silent lurker here for a while, and for some reason I couldn't manifest small things like idk, seeing a pink elephant. I felt like I was trying so hard, forcing myself to see that pink ele…

Friend said something that shocked me and explained everything... — Edit: added an extra story to the bottom since this post seemed to resonate with people so much. Be strong folks, you're no one's NPC. You can go back and find a lot of my story on my page, but essen…

Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning — So long story short: My dad is an abusive piece of shit narc in a family of narcs. 7 years ago was the last straw when he beat up my little sister who was 19 at the time. Rather than harm him, I went …

Heart chakra help — Hello all, I hope everyone is well. I am suffering from a closed heart chakra, I consciously think I am good there but I am not. I hold pain there. It began in 2023, I got a snippet of some trauma i…

The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING. — *And it's so clearly is the internalisation of the idea — "being good with it and without it".* *I'd Like to quote Nero Knowledge here who perfectly describes what manifestation truly is, "Manifestat…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective. — Hey everyone, I've been lurking, but it's my first time posting, so sorry if this is inappropriate. For starters, I'm not asking for advice, as in "what to do", but more like perspective in case I'm …

My husband [M31] let slip in a compliment that he thinks his ex was prettier than me [F28] and I can't stop thinking about it. How do I let it go? — EDIT: I have made an update to this post for everyone, see here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1rwh3g2/update\_my\_husband\_m31\_let\_slip\_in\_a\_compliment/](https://www.r…

Girlfriend(26F) of 3 months slapped me(32M) in the balls for a third time — I (32M) previously explained to my girlfriend (26F) the immense pain that being slapped in the testes caused a man. We've been dating for about 3 months. The first time she said it was an accident a…

I manifested something by feeling it and not wanting it — For the past two months, I have been searching apartments. I was so frustrated for the whole month of February because I couldn’t get a single apartment in my city. In March I did get an appointment t…

I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…

“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…

Manifested exactly $100 — I thought of doing some fun manifestation exercises to gain back my trust in the universe. So I wrote down how much money I wanted and 3 reasons why I deserve $100; 3 reasons why I am grateful for $10…

Ex is back on dating apps looking for a ‘life partner’ 4 weeks after — He (33m) ended our 1,5 years relationship (34f) as he said he can’t commit to anything long term 4 weeks ago. Prior to that he asked me to move in and said how beautiful our kids would be… it was a co…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

I found my new therapists old racist twitter account. — I decided to Google my therapist and see what others had to say about them. I found a Twitter account under a slightly different name, but it still included their full name and pictures of them as wel…

30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel? — My SO and I have been married for almost 5 months. He had made some weight based comments in the past that were extremely hurtful, we talked about it and he said he would stop. For context, I have aut…

Attempting to meditate — I want to begin energy work. I am going to start by honing awareness. I keep trying 3-5 minutes of meditation, I figured it’s a start. Once I settle in, I immediately feel vulnerable and like someone…

Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…

Where do I go from here re: dating/socialization/adulting, as a college student near my hometown who has a job lined up near my hometown (both suburban) — So good news is I got a job! It's not in a major city though; it's in a suburb of one, meaning I'll have to drive my car to everything and all that. I'm still wondering whether to take my chances wit…

Let it go — It was the moment I surrendered the outcomes and realized surrendering control is an active task, is when the tide started turning. I noticed there was tension at my current work , for the last mont…

Would you forgive this ? — (Ex’s name) I know we aren’t together anymore but since there are still feelings there and we are still present in each others lives I feel like you should know. Last night at the party I got really …

Relationship with a narcissist — Soooo… crazy story you might wanna get some popcorn! I met my ex boyfriend around 5 years ago. We met on Tinder! We went on several dates and really started liking each other but something about his …

Getting a story about an ex from 20 years ago off my chest — TLDR: Had a weird break up. Reached out after 20 years. Got a response that made me feel bad. Learned a lesson about not trusting what people say during a break up, instead listen to what they do. I …

Everyone is going to "break" your trust — Not everyone necessarily because they mean to, but because sometimes we really can never know another person's feelings, thoughts, or expectations of us. And maybe you had expectations that you didn'…

✨ Message from the universe — if it’s for you, take it… if not, let it go ✨

My Ex’s Ex has been stalking me for 2 years. — Pretty much the title. Not sure if anyone else has experienced this. For those of you who want some back story, I (25F) was with a man for about 10 months. We had a very dramatic breakup and he put m…

physical manifestation — Sometimes, even if our manifestations materialize, it feels like luck. From the moment I learned about manifestation, around 2020, I was hooked. Sadly, at the time it wasn’t that well known in my circ…

When you realize your family was never going to be able to hold you — I've been sitting with this for a while and wanted to hear from others who might relate. I grew up in an Asian family my parents, my brother (six years younger than me), and me. My parents didn't hav…

Therapist no shows a lot. Am I overreacting? — I’ve been seeing my therapist almost two years and I really like her (telehealth). She’s great and we connect really well and she has helped me with a lot. But she’s been inconsistent in the past. Th…

All Day Awareness.. — Today, I figured, I am going to use ADA. (for helping with Lucid Dreaming) What I take from actually using it, is kinda like looking at it as meditating throughout the day. If i notice my mind wander…

How do you reconcile the bad/good parts of your parents? — Hi everyone. I (24f) moved out of state two months ago. I've wanted this my whole life being the youngest and caretaker of the family. Before I left, my dad said some pretty nasty, guilttripping thin…

Letting it go… — I am 23M. It has been 6 years of me using the law to become several inch taller but for some or the other reason I could never consistently apply the law. I was always desperate and looking for extern…

Letting it go — I am 23M. It has been 6 years of me using the law to become several inch taller but for some or the other reason I could never consistently apply the law. I was always desperate and looking for extern…

Walking meditation. Am I just ego tripping? — So I went for a 2h walk today with headphones. And as I progressed I naturally became more mindfull. Thats when I decided to slow down so I could keep more awareness. This is something I do often, but…

Eating with chopsticks — I went to an Asian restaurant (in a non-Asian area) with a white colleague. Everything seemed alright but I noticed she had some issue with me using chopsticks. Ok, I'm not the greatest at chopsticks…

I tried to manifest ₹1000… but got ₹700 the next day instead. — I tried to manifest ₹1000… but got ₹700 the next day instead. Why does this happen? Yesterday I was feeling low about not being able to manifest my main desire, so I thought at least let me try somet…

psychology, theraby, help — I just need to get this off my chest. I keep facing this overwhelming fear whenever I have a tense interaction with someone. Today, I ran into a guy at the gym who I met about a month ago at work—he w…

This Is Hell — I have a lot of love for my husband. But at this point there’s more resentment than love. Married 8 years. Dated for 9 years before that. In the beginning he was very insistent about getting tested fo…

How do I master WILD? — I really struggle with WILD because whenever k feel something happening in my body like vibrations or other weird sensations, I just focus a lot on it and I think this wakes me up so I can’t really dr…

Manifested a small thing under half an hour — Visualised my class getting cancelled that never gets cancelled. Now I am sitting here and the teacher just didn't show up. I closed my eyes, visualised receiving the news that class is cancelled and…

Thank you to this community. — After posting yesterday, I received a lot of support and feedback from kind redditors. I just wanted to say thank you. Every comment helped me reflect deeper and I have been able to let go of wanting …

Moving forward without a confession — I’m sure this question has been asked many times. But how do you move on without a confession of cheating? I guess this could be considered more of a rant than anything. I’ll try to shorten this the…

Common pattern in manifestation — I have been on manifestation journey for quite a few years, if we include my healing journey it started from Covid and actual intentional changing outside world manifestation started around year or tw…

Update: I finally got the job!!!! 🧿☺️ — *It’s going to be a long post so sit tight hehe* Hello everyone I am sure some of you may remember my post from around 5/6 months ago complaining about how I felt defeated and wanted to manifest a j…

I think when I see AAs post, they’re told not to try to understand why a DA did something or what something means, but rather to just let it go. Good luck with that advice. As someone who’s a mix, so…

You need to let go of this "dream guy" fantasy. I think it's making you ignore reality. You spent ONE WEEK together. Time to move on and stop putting people on an imaginary pedestal. The more you do t…

In a healthy relationship it’s normal for someone to ask for space the smoking thing is something you have to work through on your own since it’s your own ick it’s the past let it go he said he wouldn…

I’m not a DA but I do need space. Fortunately, my friends have always understood that, and I haven’t had to communicate it. I feel like they are kind of the same and everything just feels super natura…

The way I identify a DA early on is by watching their actions. Very often they are very very intense at the begining, some even lovebombing, and then all of the sudden they dissappear for a couple of…

How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…

So many examples I can think of lol. In general, after our honeymoon phase was over, she deactivated and started pulling away. I assumed this was caused by anxiety, so instead of calling out her dism…

I mean it can be tough especially when you are talking about money. Money is always in your face. We deal with it daily. A few things work for me. 1. I revisit things I manifested and think about ho…

Just let it go and live your life. They already left, so let them stay gone. You only have one life to live and you’re wasting your mental energy on someone who can go a month without talking with you…

Having children is important to me and that’s not going to change because the other person is not interested in having children. If the other person is opposed to having children, then forming a roman…

I have a lot of struggle when it comes to "just seeing things like they're mine" ou like, visualizing the things happening and just let it go. Do you have any advice or recommendation about it? Like h…

Hey, sounds frustrating, but also reads like a rigid checklist that needs to stay constant, like an impossible task because we're human, so we're flawed, ever-changing and emotional creatures. Don't k…

Hanging onto your anger will be like hanging onto a hot coal in your hand, it will burn you more than her. As for messaging , no point /nothing really to be gained from that, likely you'll get a nast…

Understandable. It sounds like in your past relationships your needs might not have been met by the other person. When someone can see you though, it can be quite an intoxicating experience. She provi…

I think i fucked up.... So I (32F) just ended things with a guy (33M) that I've been seeing for 2 ish months. I cant tell if my anxious attachment style got the best of me or of there were genuinel…

Don't send it, you don't know where they're at in their life or what they're doing and it could be disruptive or painful.  I've had bad relationships and I don't think I would want a random unexpect…

I appreciate this. My mind and body continue to tell me it’s exactly jealousy of being left out, & when I’m extra sensitive, it comes up other times too. But really - why do I care? Makes me crazy. Pa…

I think two things are true: what she did initially was something most people would not be okay with in a relationship. So that was bad and it was a big deal. However, two, It sounds like she handled…

Text of original post by u/InternationalPlum288: So I don’t really understand this anxiety either but I really don’t like smoking. I don’t smoke but I’m okay with whoever wants to, unless they pressur…

Hey I've been facing some issues in my relationship. Need advice on how to fix everything. My partner very recently expressed her concern for my health and that i should really avoid drinking at all.…

Although your story is different to an avoidant, doesn’t matter DA/FA, unless your constantly throwing up boundary walls at random and make them chase you they’ll stick to the avoidant (unofficial) ha…

I felt ready when I was OK with the idea of being alone long term. Build as full of a life as you can on your own. I did this even with a small social circle. I really just learned to enjoy my own com…

What exactly do you hope to get out of it? Are you only doing that to make yourself feel better? I think you are free to forgive yourself for prior actions and let it go. For all you know it is in the…

really really great work. impressive. i am going thru a similar separation, altho not fully of my instigation, i am doing my damndest to let it go and to chose myself. you are inspiring me!

For me: 1. I am more comfortable communicating my needs and wants. I am someone who really enjoys their alone time. In the past, I would sacrifice this to please others (friends, partners( and the wh…

TL;DR: I moved to a new country and invited a coworker (married with a kid) to be my roommate. We got along well, and I thought we had a genuine connection. On my birthday, no one showed up, but he of…

Self discovery is a painful, slow, grueling process. I feel so alienated despite being so loving. I adore the people (not my dysfunctional family though lol) around me and it hurts when I can't let th…

Change the narrative you have around this. Give yourself the compassion you deserve. Allow yourself to grieve and then let it go.

What does it serve you to hold onto this hurt? You are repeating the same narratives about the break up with you as the victim. You have not healed if you cannot reframe this break up without you as t…

- for obsessive thinking to stop asap, you have to make sure there are as few memory triggers as possible. Also, you have to consciously stop yourself when you feel ready. Find distractions, hang out …

How can you continue to talk with zero hopes but friendship? Is it not just easier to let it go and move on to the next?

I don’t unmatch, I just let it go mentally.

This is not a skill issue. It’s not something that can be fixed by the use of one tool or another. This isn’t about feeling. That’s why grounding statements don’t work because it’s not about the arous…

I (27M) met my fiance (22F) about 5 months ago through family. After speaking to her virtually for 2 months and then meeting her in person about 2 months ago, we got engaged. Now in the beginning of t…

That sucks man. It’s like that sometimes. I went on a date recently and she wanted to go on another date. She brought it up, not me. I texted her and she didn’t reply. Oh well. Just gotta let it go.

As a man's view point, it could be he liked everything about you but your looks and was hoping that by powering through it, his mind would change eventually. But it wasn't enough to change his mind. …

If the chemistry was there on the first date, I would ask for a second date at this point. I wouldn't let it go on as it is for too much longer. It's possible he's just a bad texter, so if it felt goo…

That sounds like enmeshment though. Someone’s trauma can cause controlling behaviors. You are you our own person with your own experiences. Your session with the therapist is your session with the the…

lol to be fair to that guy, it is kind of hilarious, I'd take that instance to mean that you were a good one and your boyfriend should hold onto you! But with "Frank", have you spoken to your boyfrie…

It all really depends on what that dealbreaker is that you are leaving out of your post. If you KNOW you aren't compatible with this person, you have to let it go.

As a guy who is so far away from being capable of even thinking of dating, why can I not come to terms with that? Like, other things I’ve just been able to accept won’t happen or come really difficult…

It really is just a frame of mind. It’s all about catching yourself being upset and saying it’s ok to be upset. “This person hurt me because they lied, I’m allowed to be angry with them and I’ll let …

This guy is an asshole. Let it go. If it’s unimportant and easily replaced stuff, just let it go. He’s made it clear he wants nothing to do with you. Don’t keep begging for contact. Block and delete h…

I personally read that as only the clock being the item he gave her, not the other two items. Thats why she says “that was (singular) in the bag” not “were (plural)”. Cause I’m pretty sure she was onl…

Let it go, let it go-o-o

It is kinda hard to get your stuff back if someone is ghosting you, unless you go to their house, knock on their door and ask. And that would probably be major drama, not closure, just emotional pai…

I get the principle but at this point best thing is to let it go and completely disappear from his life. Even if he comes back, be a ghost. Heal and get hotter.

I’m still bitter about belongings exes have kept after a breakup. It’s been almost 10 years and I still think about the pillow and satin pillowcase one of them kept. Others may see it as a “cheap, eas…

OP, i remember your other posts. The thing is, you're having trouble accepting the no-contact. You already tried to talk to him about things that weren't related to your stuff. I actually think he is …

Nah, I’d want my stuff back as well. All these “let it go” folks are just too afraid of conflict or confrontation.