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This is a great post, more people should be reading and saving this. People really underestimate how aware they are of their own thoughts. That part about thinking you’re in the state vs actually bei…

Suggestions are like Forex signals - doing the exact opposite is where the real money is — I was in a Discord channel with 90K+ designers and every time someone dropped their landing page or website, it felt like getting advice from someone selling Forex signals. Doing the opposite would a…

[Showoff Saturday] Indoor football arena website made in html and css and 11ty static site generator. No frameworks. Nearly perfect page speed scores. Just showing what’s possible with only the fundamentals. — Here’s the site https://thefootballfactorynj.com The biggest problem we had to solve was consolidating all the dozens of pages they had for each age group and camp or league to sign up. We made the…

Dreaming of Full Time Freelance Consulting in SaaS B2B (I will not promote) — Hi r/startups, I’m in the process of developing a consulting service designed specifically for startups, from Pre-Seed all the way to Series B. The idea is to offer a practical, hands-on partner for …

With the recent judgement on Apple will this finally stop Apple from stalling PWA progress in favor of protecting their App Store? — I’m guessing they’d want to focus on mobile web payments with Apple Pay (the bigger play here)? Or am I wrong?

Is 6-8 years of career enough to start a business on? — I notice a many industry wide consultants are in the field for 20+ years before providing advice and their services for companies. While im not wanting to become a consultant, I’m wondering if someon…

What do I do with an empty property? — A little background on me first. I’m a dentist, I already own my own practice which I’m not looking to relocate. Next to my practice my there is a 2800 square foot property with a small garden at th…

Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…

To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…

Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

Feeling smothered by an AP friend… — This is part reflection/observation, and part question at the bottom. It’s interesting and a bit funny to me, I rarely feel avoidant in my attachments. The test I took for this sub, showed all secur…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

Is there anything in current astrology that indicates something like a global lockdown coming up? — There were transits that indicated something like covid coming, I'm wondering if something similar is happening now as the energy feels similar in a sense and then we do have tons of planetary configu…

How honest are securely attached people? — I'm curious how honest secure people are with others in their life. I'm healing from dismissive avoidant attachment and my instinct whenever something bothers or upsets me is to dismiss it as not a bi…

Experiences With Cosmic Entities. — Hello everyone! This post will be a little bit different, as i wish to dive into odd encounters that i had with different beings, that surprisingly helped me out a *lot* - more than i could have possi…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

Do people with aphantasia need bigger doses for the same visuals? — Hey, I have observed that I can usually handle similar or higher doses than my fiends around me. I’ve been travelling for a bit and did some trips alone. The last few trips seem to share the lack …

What dyou all think? — Ive been working on these little studies for bigger drawings (or maybe even paintings) and i felt compelled to share them with you. I hope you enjoy. They are pencil drawings on really old newsprint …

Which pics should I use for my online dating profile? 41M — Looking to update online dating pictures so I'm not using pictures from my younger days. Here're some recent pics that I think may be good candidates, which ones do you guys prefer? I tried to get a v…

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

Manifested work and a promotion — I've been a silent lurker here for a while, and for some reason I couldn't manifest small things like idk, seeing a pink elephant. I felt like I was trying so hard, forcing myself to see that pink ele…

Running away from security — Hey everyone. How do you folks settle into dating a secure person? I notice that when I’ve dated an avoidant, I’m all over it, very obsessive and can’t stop thinking of them (that’s the attachment stu…

muslim girl trynna move out without family knowing — hi guys, i’m not gonna talk too much and ill try to make this as concise as possible. im 23 and i’ve been wanting to move out since my mom decided my big brother could become a father figure and tha…

Divorce really messes with your head. — You spend years thinking you know someone, building a life, raising a kid together, and then one day they blindside you. What’s even crazier is when they act like you weren’t blindsided. I’ve literall…

Are there really men out there that like bigger women? — 40 F, My husband of 18.5 years ended our marriage about 4 months ago. I am not ready to start dating yet, but I have been thinking about what trying to meet someone would even be like since I haven't …

My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do — Hi everyone, I could really use some outside perspective. I (F28) have been in a relationship with my partner (M28) for about 3 years. I love him a lot and I genuinely imagined a future with him. We …

Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…

I feel like I always date people who aren't right for me but I'm really good for them — Hi Reddit, I’ve got a bit of a dilemma. I feel like I’m everyone’s favourite foster girlfriend. I raise them to be good people until they find their forever homes. Everyone I’ve dated recently grows s…

Have we reached a tipping point with generational trauma? — So many people are just… so traumatized man. I’ve met way too many people over the years that are obviously stuck in a 4F response. I can’t imagine it was this bad when my parents grew up. Maybe it wa…

My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …

I finally figured out how to manifest — For context I’ve been manifesting for a really long time. I’ve taken this lifestyle up for over 5 years. But it used to be tough to know exactly what I’ll get and when I’ll get it in the past. I usual…

Small succes story - it worked! — Hey guys! I kind of have a small success story. A few weeks ago I posted here saying that I needed at least 800 euros to pay a debt this month and was in the middle of changing of my mindset. But, I …

UPDATE: How do I (28M) tell my girlfriend (28F) a prenup and keeping my inherited house separate are non-negotiable? — TL;DR: I had the conversation. She brought up moving in first. She completely agrees the house and inheritance should stay separate, supports a prenup, was impressed I’d thought it through, and confus…

I've noticed everyone wants someone with CPTSD to stand up for themselves until they actually do it. — I've been a very passive and pacifistic person for years, because I came from an abusive home. I never, ever wanted to inflict pain upon anyone because of the amount of pain I've experienced myself gr…

Anyone Ever Just Start Hitting Them Back? — Very politically incorrect of me I guess 🙄 but I hate how all of the advice given out to victims never suggests hitting them back. It's like it's almost a taboo to suggest that you do anything but co…

Need some hinge/dating app advice — 23M, Moved to a bigger city in the last year and a half, and my experience has been significantly worse here, maybe 5-15 if even, total matches, no dates, here including this current second run after …

i manifested moving after 5 years in an RV — so to give a little background, I moved into an RV with my dad in 2021 of January. We have lived in this RV ever since and there’s not much space and I’m somebody with a lot of energy that likes to da…

Struggling with Chinese In Laws — Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective or advice because I feel pretty overwhelmed. I recently moved to China with my husband (he’s Chinese), and we’ve only been here for about a month. His pa…

How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny? — I (F26) had recently expressed excitement/interest about one of my partner's (M33) interests. It is a sort of biking/beer drinking tour that he does with his friends a few times a year (all male). I …

I love my bf, but i genuinely cannot stand his dog, its affecting everything — Okay, I need honest opinions because I feel ridiculous even typing this, but it’s becoming a serious issue in my relationship, For reference, I am a girl, 21 and he is 23, we have been dating for a ye…

Geography really matters - my experience in Berlin and Prague — I’m 27M and have been traveling around Berlin and Prague with some friends, and I honestly didn’t expect this but… the girls here are incredibly beautiful. Seriously. Especially in Prague. Even the As…

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

Bought a house on my own and AP come over every day… — I (27F) recently moved into my own house, and my parents have been coming over every day to help out. I haven’t asked them to, they just show up. I do appreciate the help, and I know it’s coming from …

Is it possible to be too grounded? — Like, my whole life I lived in my head. Fantasizing, philosophizing, theorizing, imagining, visualizing. Feeling my body and my surroundings always was a struggle. But I was very mental. Thanks to t…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

Could use some compassion - I broke up with my ex of nearly two decades last fall. I was codependent on him for everything. — TW: a depressing and heavy post, self blame, neglect I left him last August after realizing we were holding each other back. I wanted to get married but he just… never proposed. At one point we did …

I started writing things down after conversations and it changed how I see things — I started writing things down because I kept leaving conversations with my spouse feeling confused. Not just upset, but genuinely confused. Like I knew how I felt in the moment, but later I couldn’t c…

Navigating ego, experience, and opportunity in the music industry (Stoic advice needed) — I don’t know if this is the right place to ask this but here we go! I work in the music industry and recently I’ve started getting some real opportunities, like working with more established artists.…

BE OPEN TO RECIEVE! (Manifestation tips + encouragement.) — I'm going to cut right to the chase (forgive my English, I'm not native, and I refuse to use AI.) I've always been a natural optimistic person from myself. Even when life hit me with the worst situat…

Hey there’s a Z code in the DSM 5 for emotional neglect, I’m sure. I haven’t looked but there’s a lot of different Z codes to help identify life circumstances, to give a bigger picture to the F code d…

Yea. Its really like a death. My wife left me for a guy thats taller... bigger muscles...bigger everything.... My ego is crushed and my soul is gone.

That was an instant example I was giving as of today. Well, on bigger stuff: getting into Harvard with shit gmat scores on a full ride scholarship (miraculously some rich dude donated to the school, a…

It's very easy to debunk everything as a fluke, even if it comes knocking on your door. And beginners often succed in any bigger mission they set to as a first timer bc they have no expectations of it…

If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…

>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…

Thanks! Crazy how we are conditioned to think this anxiety and nervousness as genuine attraction and love. I've calmed down since then and getting to know this person with clear mind. Yes, the wrong…

From what I understand is DAs can lean FA if paired with a bigger DA. I’ve experienced this myself as a DA. It doesn’t last long as the justifications for emotional cut offs starts to kick in quick on…

Yeah it tracks for fearful avoidants sadly. After the fear of engulfment takes over and you push people away, the distance starts to grow bigger and the fear of abandonment pushes you towards them aga…

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

I'm am an exceptionally cynical person but that's by nature, and what I have noticed is that most cynical people are embittered and jaded romantics who have been let down too often and proceed to then…

Yeah I read that bit and snort-laughed out loud. If you think you know someone pretty well from one car ride ya got bigger problems than thinking only avoidant women are interested in you.

>Whatever the actual proportion is, I bet there is definitely a rise in non-secure attachment overall.  Yeah, agreed. People keep citing these dated and dubious "statistics" that 50% of the populati…

This is so tricky and difficult for you to manage, because the message itself appears genuine and heartfelt. But remember the bigger picture here, beyond the words...this is someone who just pretty mu…

Agreed, their path is theirs and ultimately the experience they wanna give themselves in life is up to them. Cheers to both of us for recognizing it and I hope you can move on to bigger and better thi…

So relate to this. I can be perfectly fine until I have a crush or am in a relationship. Then my world starts getting consumed by them and I lose focus of myself and my wants. My advice would be to ma…

A lot of what people are recommending here are excellent. I just want to contribute the gist of anxiety is if you feed it, it grows. So the more you give into your anxiety and let it dictate your ac…

Highly suggest this for meditation. This is the description of the video and audio file. https://youtu.be/r6a_EnUG180?si=-x7_b4mf2JSIjBG2 Taygeta, one of the seven sisters bright star visible to the …

Definitely, I agree. For me, I think realizing that it could also be 100% wrong really helps too. Because for me personally when I hold the 3 reasons my bf didn’t text me at the end of the day, it cou…

How about those moments of weakness when the thoughts get bigger ?

It is confusing imho, that push-pull dynamic that he created. I think honestly he was just overwhelmed with life, he was even prior to me asking how he felt. Or so he told me. He felt his job was beco…

Thank you so much! I definitely do plan to check that out when I get the chance! Recently, my divorce took a bit of nasty turn, it seems. Unfortunately, at the moment, I also have bigger fish to fry! …

I’ve been dating my guy for 5 months. He has been extraordinary. Patient, kind, loving, basically says all the things my soul has been dying to hear. He reached out to me, and by date number 2 said he…

When we are undergoing a tough time and have a lot of stress it is super hard to see the positive sometimes. That is normal. Sometimes we have to make sure we made space for ourselves to grieve whatev…

Two things can be true at one time… in some sense they are telling you exactly how it’s going to go “you won’t like the real me when you get to know me” — so like why? 😆 well stick around long enough…

Okay so what I am seeing is that your work culture has become toxic. And her changing the status of the friendship was a breaking point or maybe just when it all came to a head and was brought more pa…

I’m guessing that since it is such a complicated story that there is a whole lot more going on than just texting to much. The bigger problem is you trying to chase after someone who has left you on re…

Your first two sentences are a little opposite of each other. You start by saying how much you don’t like smoking….but then you soften that by saying that it only matters that you are not pressured to…

Sometimes when you dream the visuals don't always match what's actually going on within the dream as far as how you are interpreting it. For example, I've had dreams where I'm talking to a friend I …

I’m pretty new to learning about attachment theory, and I’ve been reading about whether anxious attachment can be linked to infidelity. In my last relationship, I cheated twice. I’m not saying this t…

Ok, so this is a little tricky but doable, idk if it's the same for you but for me asking for help meant that people could say no, so that would hit me like rejection, and I wanted to avoid rejection …

Hi! I'd like to know how someone with anxious-avoidant attachment transitioned to secure attachment, especially regarding expectations. I know expectations are the root of the problems I've had with m…

I think having doubts and insecurities are very normal for what you are going through right now. There also sound to be bigger issues that are beyond the relationship and yet of course can affect the …

The issue with avoidant attachment is that we can only heal from it if we do exactly what we don’t want to do: learn to sit with the uncomfortable feelings that come with intimacy, opening up and actu…

This is what I was going to say. I was not anywhere near secure when I had casual relationships, but thinking back on my experiences now that I've experienced some earned security, I would say one of …

I fully break down in front of my friends and partners. I think it’s normal and healthy to need each other. I get worried when I’m using them as a trauma dumping grounds. That has meant that my life i…

Nope. Not too picky. How does he not remember you're vegetarian after 4 months? I remember stuff regulars post in this sub, and I don't even know you guys, how does he forget something that major abo…

Attraction is all relative. Get some good photos taken and write a genuine profile, including things you’re interested in that’ll spark conversations. You can get feedback on here. It may be that apps…

It’s possible, but you basically have to be the one doing the asking out etc if you want it to happen because it’s much less common now and people don’t approach as much. The bigger problem I find is …

I think that’s amazing clarity you have to know you want kids even more than a partner. That’s such an expansive belief… and I find it interesting you also have all those limiting beliefs in the back …

I guess one thing I haven't mentioned is that he introduced me to different friend groups of his already, discussed plans to travel together in March and have tickets for a concert, because he expects…

So I was in a relationship for over a decade with a guy who called himself an introvert and someone who needed a lot of alone time. Our entire relationship, my consist complaint was that we didn't spe…

Hard to make your desires reality if you cannot express them. Work on expressing less intimidating things first. Simple day to day stuff. An early victory for me doing similar work was someone i…

need a sanity check here. I've largely sworn off apps but I jumped back on one because its below freezing where I'm at and the thought of being cooped up in the house for the next 3 months a l o n e …

This is really reassuring, actually. I think I’ve been treating an Instagram follow like a much bigger statement than it really is. Taking it step by step and reading the reaction feels like the right…

I'm not talking about attachment styles. We're all human and therefore we are social beings and the basic process of social interaction or community building is reciprocity. Which means that in the en…

I think you’re carrying a lot of pressure that doesn’t actually belong to you. What you’re describing isn’t a man who’s withholding love, he’s a man who has a very different relationship with the word…

It may feel easier now to wait and see if it continues. I know I used to do that and I get it. However, when I did that I was participating and fostering a dynamic that had bad communication. One thi…

Might be just me but it sounds like she told her partner what she wanted, he's doing what she wants (something bigger and more fancy than "just" a cooked dinner and flowers) yet she's unhappy about it…

Thanks for sharing your story. I was also thinking to move to a bigger city. How's did you guys met? Local activities or online app?