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Best content — I have been into "this stuff" since 2018, I have read everything you could possibly imagine, studying every teacher you can think of and I have to say none of them compare to Jonathan Parker. He h…

web page concept — heya, i just came on here to share an idea i have for a webpage, to people who know more about this stuff than i do lol. It's for hosting my art and creative works, sfw and nsfw, and the different pla…

I got my first devops position — I'm really happy about this but I don't have a lot of experience. I'm Actually straight out of college. I studied what kubernetes and docker was and even went to linenode to create a kubernetes cluste…

AI for businesses — Hi everybody, just a quick question: if you are a business owner/founder, how do you look at 'agentic AI applications' for automating your work. I've been hearing a lot of 'buzz' and hype lately but d…

Need help with some direction — So to keep it short, I need some extra income. I work full time as a software developer, but I now own a house and my bills keep going up, and my salary isn’t. I’ve always had the idea of freelancing…

antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

The pain of being unmet... — I'm never sure whether to consider myself anxiously attached, or mostly secure, because I generally do fine if I feel really loved in my relationship. But where I fall apart easily is when I don't. I …

8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Is meditation good for sharpening the mind — I'm not the best at articulating this stuff but I'll try my best, hopefully it's understandable. I have a problem where my mind is very chaotic, a lot of the stuff is happening at the same time in t…

The #1 predictor of lucid dreams isn't any technique — I've been going through the studies on what predicts lucid dreaming and some of the numbers genuinely surprised me. But the gap between daily and weekly journaling isn't 2x or 3x - it's **14x**. …

Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…

Sorry I know this is negative — I’m sorry I know this isn’t the right place to say this stuff but I just hate myself everything that comes out of my mouth is embarrassing. Everyone knows I’m crazy. I honestly have never been proud o…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

She Sent Me An Article... — I need to start laughing about this stuff because otherwise I'm going to totally lose it. I woke up to a text (muted and buried so I had to hunt for it) from my mom. I've been LC (very brief, no infor…

The most disgusting thing they do. — Im sure I’m not the only one who has experienced this.. The most disgusting thing that my ex has done is made be believe I could trust him. We were friends for years prior to us dating, and he would …

codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling — I took a codependency quiz last week on taro's tarot and i genuinely feel like the floor dropped out from under me. I've always been the person everyone comes to. The fixer. The one who drops everythi…

First Regulate Your Nervous System — Recently I watched a YouTube video by a guy named Reeves Tsang called how to reset your nervous system (and how to finally override your reality) This is one of the first manifestation videos I've se…

i manifested moving after 5 years in an RV — so to give a little background, I moved into an RV with my dad in 2021 of January. We have lived in this RV ever since and there’s not much space and I’m somebody with a lot of energy that likes to da…

My cheater soon the be ex husband got cheated on. — Wanted to post this so you could have a laugh today. 😂 My soon to be ex husband got cheated on by the trash affair partner he had during his deployment. She too was cheating on her husband when cheat…

I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …

Surprise Surprise another tale of a cheater — Surprise Surprise another tale of a cheater Throw away account Midwest USA(MI) M42 F40 Two kids 20years of married Found out late December clear signs of cheating (got to work bag, bottle of lu…

I lost everything to the war and I'm completely broken. 7 months of daily 6-hour work gave me nothing. How do I not give up? — Hey everyone. I'm writing this because I'm genuinely at a dead end and need some perspective from people who actually get this stuff. I'm from Ukraine, had to flee the war, and lost literally everythi…

Celebrating the win first! — Haven’t been on here in a while - not for any bad reason, I’ve just been busy manifesting but it's good to be back! At the start of the year I tried something different: I followed the feel better no…

Only see benefits of meditation after 40 — Just want to see if anyone else is like me. I had a meditation practice before, but I didn't see the effect nearly as much. LIke I cleary remember one time (I work in food service job with a lot of …

Religion — I am truly baffled with how half of the world still believes in monotheistic belief systems. When I first done my astral level trip on l~s~d a several years back, I was mind blown with the data and in…

My ex reopened old wounds with a drunk apology and now I feel like I’m back at square one — my ex broke up with me around a year and a half ago after a 2 and a half year relationship with the last 9 months of it being long-distance. and it was really really devastating for me, but after a ye…

My wife (f38) wants me (m42) to be okay with her going speed dating with friend? — The other night we were laying in bed watching a show when she started looking up speed dating sites. She sent one to her friends and said I’ll go with you to support you. I think it’s Thursday dating…

32 years old, 4.5 years into the healing journey I've literally JUST realized I was sheltered — I can't believe this has only just hit me. I'm 32 years of age. THIRTY-TWO! It's literally just in the past hour hit me that I was extremely sheltered growing up and it's lead to me lacking the skills…

I think my ex is getting unicorn hunted and I'm stuck dwelling on it. — For background, I am part of a large online friend group, bunch of us have met in person, all relatively close, based around a game. My ex was dating someone else in the friend group, they had a prett…

Disability *does* make manifestation harder, and I think that’s the point. — I’m sure this won’t be revelatory for a lot of people. I’m new to this stuff and more than open to being wrong, but… I was moderately disabled (not that that has any standardised meaning but whatever…

Ramblings of a lunatic (me) — This is gonna be extremely long so I don’t blame you if you don’t want to read it but I’ve been writing about it for a while and struggled with meaning and found this Reddit and thought I’d seek out s…

I thought I finally found someone. — Hi! This morning I got a text from a guy that I’m seeing that he doesn’t want a romantic relationship. He said with anyone but that I was perfect, kind, sweet and I’d make the perfect gf/wife. I fell …

There are so many things I want to do, but I'm just wayyyyyy too lazy :( — I want to: * have good cardio * be physically strong * have physical skills like the handstand or muscle up * be very mobile and be able to do the splits or forward fold * train jiu jitsu * be w…

Day 6 — 6 days since. Today was another pretty good day. Still think about her/us all the time. I try to listen to music as much as I can to drown out those thoughts but they still come in. If you are reading…

My bf (30M) lost everything and I (20F) is thinking about leaving him — It all started when he lost his job. He decided he wanted to live off of unemployment checks and not find another job for a year. Why? Because he believes in numerology and Chinese astrology. My Bf li…

Sadness over lost childhood — This probably isn’t as serious as most other posts on here, but reels about Polly Pocket showed up on my Facebook feed and I was just overcome with sadness. We weren’t poor by any means, my father wor…

how the fuck do you do this — i wake up with the worst anxiety, shaking and trembling and i can’t eat or sleep, insane breakdowns at least 6 times a day, dealing with a range of emotions especially guilt. guilt for the whole relat…

Asian Men Low Testosterone — [https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country](https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country) I've been edging to make this po…

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

Has therapy changed how you date? Genuinely curious what shifted — I'm a few years into therapy and one of the most unexpected benefits has been how much it's changed my approach to dating (in a good and bad way). Not in a "now I'm healed and secure" way but more lik…

It's funny thinking back to when I first read Neville, it felt like everything could finally be better, like there was a way to live that wasn't how we doing it, because something always felt different. — ​ and from then on a read and read and read , and everytime I finished a book I would read a new one one why? because then there was always that hope again, because once I started practicing ,…

I don‘t think I can take it anymore — Long story Short (or maybe not short at all): my husband (m/44) and I (w/30) am married for almost 2 years, together since 2019. About 3 months ago, I found out he cheated in massage parlours 4 times …

Looking for people with long-term lucid dreaming / awareness control (not beginner stuff) — ​ I’ve been lucid dreaming for as long as I can remember (since I was a kid), and I’m trying to find anyone else who experiences it at a deeper level—not just the occasional “I realized I was …

I saw the process of me being sent to earth by some entities — First off, im just opening up about this and hope this is the place to write. Im not sure if i will use the correct wording since im new in this stuff but here we go : Few years ago i had what i call…

Censoring/Filtering myself in Therapy — Hi Everybody. I just started Therapy this year following a traumatic event in my family, and also to address OCD and Tourettes that I have hidden and suppressed for years but am finally getting the tr…

help me manifest this guy i like — he just told me. how do i make him chase me (manifest the impossible basically) “he said im lovely but im not quite his type and that he is not interested” what is the best way to manifest? help im…

New to all this stuff im very excited, im going to be doing the LOB training and i will come back in a month

Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using slee…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

Yeah. Like I wrote in another comment here - NOONE OR NOTHING will give you proof enough, YOU have to try it yourself. And not the clowny way the people in that sub is whining about or Oprah Winfreys …

Because none of this is real and your post history shows that you doubt all of this stuff

You need to let go of this "dream guy" fantasy. I think it's making you ignore reality. You spent ONE WEEK together. Time to move on and stop putting people on an imaginary pedestal. The more you do t…

Maybe set up a lab and start studying the stuff you don't know well. That's my best suggestion because it's what works for me. I spend a lot of time inside and outside of work hours studying, both han…

Yeah, don’t overthink it. Most of this stuff’s already out there on YouTube anyway. It’s really all about how well you execute.

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

This is beautiful to read. You describe it so well, what it is to heal this stuff. It doesn’t actually go away, we just learn how to navigate the default urges better. Glad for you that you’ve done …

It can be the goal. But you don't wake up one day able to have secure attachment. Literally no one does. We all have to learn it. Lots of people are lucky enough to have had parents that taught them t…

For what it’s worth, you don’t really have to engage too much with the origins of FA in my opinion. What’s most important is how the echoes of it are showing up and affecting you now. Therapy is expen…

How would you feel if all of this is handled for you? Relieved? Trust in the power of something higher? Ask yourself these questions . Just let it linger, don’t answer right away. If you’re try…

I lean AP and totally agree. We(well at least I do, haha) tend to analyze every possible issue, scenario, action, outcome, cause, effect, etc. At some point you just have to ask yourself, "Is this r…

I bring this stuff up of because I don't want to waste my time or someone elses. If our goals don't match I'm gonna move on

Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…

Watch this from Julie Menanno who has put together couples therapy that she’s been doing for a while successfully based on attachment theory. My wife and I watched this, then bought her book, then s…

This issue with this is that all this stuff is a spectrum that has no real quantifiable way of measuring. You can be an avoidant with secure tendencies that is working on themselves and is getting be…

Yep the world would be a better place with far less conflicts and misunderstandings if everyone could have a common understanding of what words mean! My "be with somebody" and their "be with somebody"…

Oh girl I have this same problem too. New to communicating so I just try to be clear and straight forward and honest, it always comes back to bite me because it comes out as hurtful. And then I fail…

He was a student of Norman Peale. The author of the "The Power of Positive thinking." A decent book on this stuff although it is very geared toward Christians. There is a funny anecdote in the book …

Thank you for prioritizing those that need it most. I totally understand there to be doubt and criticism, but these spaces should also be fulfilling and uplifting. As a new member, it feels very muc…

Attachment theory channels and healthygamergg on YouTube and discerned reddit browsing and books have been godsends to me. I'd say as a starter, if you don't already, try and figure out what about ha…

Hey, I'm in a similar situation, do you have some suggestion on what to do when those shut downs happen? We end up arguing on super stupid stuff, because of her, she doesn't want to recognize it and…

You're welcome. I'm glad you found it relatable. I have a friend whose husband has those same outward qualities you quoted and once she was telling me that he gets upset that she has all her friends a…

Hi OP! I can totally relate to this. Having anxious attachment makes fights feel huge, like your whole world is about to fall apart. I’ve done the same thing honestly, cried, begged, and felt complete…

I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …

Yes, I identify with this and have a lot of thoughts here. I definitely overcorrected. One of the first things I worked on was more open and transparent communication. At the time, I think I was mostl…

Why is he arguing against it? Maybe I'm misunderstanding something, but isn't all of this basically what moonbeam says over here? [How Our Thoughts Create Our Physical Reality](https://www.reddit.com/…

If you have trauma background it’s  common that a part of your subconscious views him as a parent— and therefore your physical lifeline. Maybe if a caregiver acted erratic in the past over small situa…

I second this. Pam’s work was my introduction to taking this stuff seriously

Nothing arsey about it. I used ellipses to indicate that I obviously had a background in some of this stuff, but that was more playful than anything.

> Well there is no existing relationship lol. that's what I mean. I was wondering if using an online dating app felt like an admission of that. I certainly have a level of anxiety about people as…

You're right, this stuff is hard - that's why we're all here <3 Remember that being single is far better than being with someone who's half in, or who you have to shrink yourself for. I'm betting yo…

Text of original post by u/Kyuuki_Kitsune: I'm never sure whether to consider myself anxiously attached, or mostly secure, because I generally do fine if I feel really loved in my relationship. But wh…

I probably should have mentioned in my post that we're polyamorous. I think in poly culture, there's less of an expectation for a single person to have a duty to meet all these emotional needs. Ther…

I've heard (and taught) all this stuff so many times. I just...have a lot of snags around it all. Let me go through each of your points. I have other hobbies and interests, but it's hard for me to ac…

I find this stuff kind of fascinating. No one ever talks about how *sadistic* anxious people can be when they’re feeling ignored or abandoned. They would rather get any reaction than none at all, and …

I just ended a relationship because of this, and I have no idea, I wish I knew. It also blocks me hard for falling over someone because I keep thinking of all this stuff that is 'wrong' but so many o…

Your two examples are both involving coworkers. Do you have any friends or acquaintances, maybe people you interact with during a hobby or other activity? Even online? I ask because I am many years i…

I'm 18. I'm barely an adult and these feelings I don't see myself getting rid of. Yes of course I crave that love, because no one ever gave it to me. Everyone that was supposed to, and everyone that I…

You seem to have self-awareness which is not exactly common these days. I would assume you've probably went to therapy about this stuff as well and talked it out with someone who is impartial and migh…

Next time! I don’t know why this stuff is so embarrassing, but it is the worst! Accidents happen, you did the right thing and so did she. I hope you see each other again at the grocery store!

Is it OK with *you* if he doesn’t plan a Valentine’s date? It’s alright if it isn’t, you’re allowed to want things. I understand that surprises are nice and the “if he wanted to he would” narrative …

Needed some fun and had it! Considering my situation, am just getting back into all this stuff again. Not really sure if she'll actually text which is a bummer but have to learn the hard way sometimes…

Randomly had a guy I met up with once add me to instagram last night, and then after I blocked him a burner account was lurking on my stories. I blocked that too. I’m really bored with this stuff.

Having the desire to work on it is the first step. I really like reading about this stuff and watching free resources on it. I like Heidi Priebe (who is fearful avoidant), Thais Gibson has some really…

Girl, THANK YOU. It really bugs me how often I hear women struggling in a relationship where they wonder if the person they're with is into them, and everyone piles on excuses: well some people just c…

Yet another bizarre and disheartening OLD experience. Met this girl, we just went for a walk, but hopped in a cafe when it started snowing a lot. The vibe was really good, despite some small language …