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8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

Anyone else had a relatively "successful" sibling growing up? — And by "successful", I don't necessarily mean something really big to the point that they made a career out of that, but just enough that there was always something going on in that sibling's life. Wh…

How I Stopped the Mental Doomscroll and fixed My Brain's Feed With These 4 Steps. — # Your brain has autoscroll enabled and nobody gave you the off switch. You know the feeling.  Replaying cringe conversations at 3am, missing your ex, having mental arguments in your own head…  Thi…

How I Stopped the Mental Doomscroll and fixed My Brain's Feed With These 4 Steps. — # Your brain has autoscroll enabled and nobody gave you the off switch. You know the feeling.  Replaying cringe conversations at 3am, missing your ex, having mental arguments in your own head…  Thi…

OP, I could have written your post. You’re not alone. I feel as though I’m either having an identity crisis or want a divorce and I can’t tell the difference between the two. I’m 34 and my wife is …

Yeah maybe because she doing standup in western country with other races as spectator. But hey, her current bf is really asian. So i guess it's ok.

This is me. I feel as though I’m either having an identity crisis or want a divorce and I can’t tell the difference between the two. I’m 34 and my wife is 35. Two kids aged 7 and 5. We are high schoo…

I don't get lots of matches, but I still filter well. I start with the mindset that I'm looking for someone that fits into my life. Not just someone to hang out with. My profile does a lot of the heav…

I think I feel that way a lot of the time. The other rest of the time I feel way too human and don’t understand this meat sack I am in, why I have to be here in it. I’m on a train that I never asked t…

Is the original poster misinformed or is he rage baiting the rest of us by bringing up discrimination that happened in the past but is no longer allowed. Here is a Google AI summary of "[compare rac…

I've been struggling also, because I did not consciously choose any of this since 2016. I chose the opposite. The best answer I've seen so far, for people reading this sub, is that we are spectators…

In the end I am so sorry for everything else you went through, but as spectator it is good to hear how much you love your daughter and that you exhausted all options before walking away from her mom. …

I speed date I’ve been four times times if I found a woman that I’m talking to isn’t single and is there for the thrills.. I’d be livid, and want a refund. Going to be a spectator.., is very differ…

Could there be moments of more authentic meditation while distance running? 100% I experience the flow state you describe, but there are also times when I consciously recognize my wandering thoughts …

Meditation isn't a spectator sport. You aren't being judged. The mind sounds like it's being a good boy, just like you trained it too. Stay calm and reassure it that there aren't any wrong answers. …

Your marriage is going to be very crowded with three of you in it. Why sign up to be a spectator in your marriage instead of a participant? I’d back out and leave them to it.

I have been with my partner for almost 12 years and we had this problem at first. However, I will say your situation sounds a little more extreme in some regards, so not identical. Similarly my partne…

>Our biggest problem in the Asian American community is that we often perceive our social position as being "above the fray" of American society.  i think this is a very important insight.  first …

Do you want to spend your life as a spectator in your own relationship? Get out of this, it’s done.