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What are your favorite ways to meditate? — Have a blessed day everyone. I'm no expert ,just been into meditation for about 4-5 months. My method is 60 minutes daily that I must do before the day ends. I usually space them in chunks of 10 or…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

A Metaphorical Description of An Avoidant Reaching Out — In the quiet dusk of a long, isolated winter, an avoidantly attached soul finds the courage to break free from its self-made fortress. For years, it has wandered amid barren landscapes of guarded emo…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Finding proof that you were right to be anxious — I'm sure others can relate to this, but whenever I start dating someone, I look for signs that they don't actually like me. Things like "he took hours to text back" or "he was a little quieter than us…

Need advice: Is it possible to be anxious anxiously attached to a specific person? — Good evening everyone! I am 25 M Recently, things ended pretty badly with this woman I was close to with. She was aware I had feelings for her, and well would flirt back sometimes. I was and still am…

What to do when i am triggered around my partner? — When i get triggered i usually have a routine of pausing, taking deep breaths, positive affirmations, then switching my attention to something else. However when i am around my partner and i become …

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Is "good on paper" a thing for guys our age? — I can't help but feeling like I'm good on paper and that's why my boyfriend is with me. I'm conventionally attractive, I make really good money, I take care of myself (and him) and my things, I'm kin…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

my(F28) bf(M30) thinks themed bridal shower of my friend is stupid and my costume is stupid. — I (F28) am a teacher and my boyfriend(M30) works for a company. we have been together for 4 years and are highly compatible. He has always been reserved and quiet and introvert by nature. i'm more of …

Recovery. I don’t care to be in a relationship.. did he break me or is this healthy? — 1 year and 2 months! Getting better (and who ever said this is a quick recovery is wrong this takes a lot of time, dedication, work and lots of waves of emotions.) Things are mentally getting better …

Don’t Contact Your Ex. For Anything. Let Go Quietly. They Watch You for Access Without Intent. — We had a bad breakup. He was very cold and distant at the end, as always (we broke up several times). He made a joke about how I can be single and rushed me off our last phone conversation when I was …

I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…

Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…

Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …

A friend fell for me, even though he knew I'm happily married. After trying to distance himself for a while, he's now back but acting hostile towards me. I don't know what I've done to deserve his anger, nor how to fix the situation. Any thoughts or advices? — Me (31F) and my husband (32M) have a friend group we often hang out with. We used to be pretty close with this one friend there (30M), who would hang out with us often even outside the group. He came …

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

When is emotional control actually suppression? — In reading Epictetus and Seneca, I’ve been reflecting on how Stoicism distinguishes between emotional mastery and mere suppression. the texts emphasize that destructive emotions, anger, fear, resentm…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …

You can reality shift just by washing your hands — Hey everyone, I’ve been obsessed with this idea lately and I can’t stop thinking about it: what if the simple act of washing your hands, when you actually slow down and get fully present with it, bec…

I feel like no one talks about parental co-dependency… — My mother and I are thick as thieves and have been ever since I was born. I grew up in a household full of boys and men, my mother being the only consistent woman in my life. I had many ups and dow…

Divorce was not how I imagined life — I never thought I would go through divorce. When we married I really believed it will last forever. But life changes and people change too. At first it felt very heavy. House quiet, many memories eve…

I’m very good at staying composed. I’m less good at noticing what that composure costs me. — I’ve realized something recently. I’m very good at staying composed in certain conversations. I stay steady. I smooth things over. I choose my words carefully. I keep things readable. From the outsid…

My AM is a stupid fucking snitch — Any time I tell my AM anything that I want her to keep between us, she’s always snitched to my AD. But whenever she wants me to keep a secret from my AD, I am somehow expected to follow that same secr…

The day has come! — For more than 50 years, the Monroe Institute has been quietly pioneering a systematic way to explore human consciousness — beyond meditation, beyond belief, and beyond theory. I’m excited to share tha…

The Exhaustion of Being Someone — Most people think they are tired because life is hard. But there is another kind of exhaustion that sleep does not fix. It comes from maintaining a self. All day we manage an image: explaining ours…

my 4 year old meditates better than I do — I've been trying to build a meditation practice for years and I'm terrible at it my daughter saw me sitting quietly the other day and asked what I was doing told her I was trying to calm my mind and…

The quiet house is the hardest part and nobody warned me — Divorce has been final for about 3 months now and I think Im starting to realize what hits me the hardest. Its not the legal stuff. Its not even the arguments with my ex anymore. Its coming home to a …

Update: I received 3 opportunities in one day after months of nothing! (self-concept shift around money) — A few days ago I made this post about feeling stuck with money even though I had success manifesting other things: [https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleGoddard/comments/1rm8jfl/success\_with\_loa\_in\_man…

I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…

Anyone else's parents never encouraged their hobbies? — I love to sing. I haven't used my voice in over a decade and thinking about it makes me want to cry. For years I've been waiting for permission to use it. My body still fights me to sing above a whi…

Why does my body feel anxious at night even when my day was fine? — I’ve been noticing a pattern with my anxiety that confuses me. During the day I usually function pretty normally. I can work, talk to people, stay busy, and things feel relatively manageable. But on…

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

A simple 3-minute journaling method that helped me reduce overthinking at night — I used to struggle a lot with overthinking, especially at night. My mind would keep replaying conversations, worrying about tomorrow, or thinking about things I couldn’t control. I tried different thi…

Something surprising happened when I stopped trying to be productive all the time — For years I thought the key to improving my focus was becoming more disciplined. Better routines. More productivity systems. Trying harder. But recently I noticed something strange. The moments…

How many of you had suitors before meeting your NPD partner that were actually really nice, attractive, and ready to go all in with you, but you turned them away? — Asking for a friend 😏 jk…that was me. Those suitors’ love felt strange and off-putting. It felt too easy and therefore not genuine. You mean I don’t have to perform for you, hide my feelings, or s…

33f. Divorcing, plenty of love, no infidelity, almost 20 years, just incompatible. — I’m heartbroken. Husband and I have been together for the best part of 20 years. Met when we were teens. Truly love one another, deeply. We’ve had a pretty dead bedroom for most of our time together. …

Traditional meditation feels like a chore, but my own 'quiet mind' method feels amazing. Am I missing something? — I have a particular style of meditation which I can't explain very well, but I just allow my mind to go quiet. I still have similar thoughts to daily life, but I feel like I'm only very partially enga…

Histories of Native American Treaties and Anti-Chinese Violence Win Bancroft Prize — Emilie Connolly’s “Vested Interests: Trusteeship and Native Dispossession in the United States,” published by Princeton University Press, examines the financial aspects of many U.S. government treatie…

Can you still think of your WS as a ‘good person’? — I was having a random conversation with my WH today about something… and he said, “Well, I’m a good person, so I could never do that…” I was quiet for a beat, but eventually agreed with him… though I…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

I'm seeing a DA, and while we're not in an official relationship, it very much feels like we are and he just doesn't want to label it. I've noticed a pattern with him that every time there's a big s…

I can sympathize in that I’ve kind of grown somewhat used to some of the preemptive quietness you’re describing here; like if we have plans a few days in advance, they tend to be less chatty or less e…

You can have different attachment styles with different people. I an slightly Dismissive Avoidant with my Ex and Father who both may have quiet BPD. With everyone else I am Secure. IMO we all have al…

i’m an FA too and i will gladly and happily hate someone i cared about a week ago. it’s not some sudden thing, i just get a sort of “cumulative ick” feeling, and eventually there’s a straw that breaks…

They still feel the pain. Just alone, they cant name it or place it. And i imagine they experience it quietly for a long time as opposed to all at once and getting over it.

I wondered about that myself. I don’t have experience with it, but after the breakup started researching, and concluded that he’s very avoidant, very afraid of any type of confrontation, something bet…

Yeah, we know that. I mean, it’s kind of what defines us as an INSECURE attachment style, right? most FAs did not experience healthy conflict growing up, so now any form of conflict feels like abando…

Every two weeks for nine months sounds more like a red flag to me. You need to protect yourself from these fallouts and give him a lot of space without asking questions or prodding. My partner is th…

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

I am FA but lean dismissive so take my response with a grain of salt. I tend to disappear from time to time not out of anger or resentment but because my nervous system just demands space to reset. I…

I'm a FA that leans anxious, and someone going quiet only interprets abandonment if there is a sudden drop off of otherwise normal consistent communication. It's that inconsistent dynamic that creates…

Everyone is different, what applies to you wouldn’t for other people. I know anxiously attached + FAs with anxious lean, and they go crazy if I’m just a little quiet one day. Anxious people aren’t al…

Kinda all over the place. The best thing they say is quiet your conscious mind before doing anything to make it easier to impress the subconscious. The subconscious mind sees everything but it's irrel…

You’re spot on with this observation and I didn’t realize how it impacts other people at all. I am extroverted and love people but when I’ve had enough, I turn off like someone flipped a switch and I …

I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…

Orrrrrrrr.... In the early thaw of spring, when frost still clung stubbornly to the edges of the earth, the apology remained unsent. It lingered like a letter never mailed. Its seal unbroken, its tru…

The massive problem I see and read in your post is there aren't boundaries. It sounds like the whole status and line between the two of you are blurred. So, you are not wanting to label what you have…

I think you're on to something, I was just replying to another comment where I said that I give a lot to prove I'm also committed and then feel unappreciated and either shut off or start a fight over …

I feel this. I've been seeing a DA off and on for 3 years now. We had a fight a few weeks ago and I don't know where we currently stand because he's gone quiet. He has admitted to having major trust …

"The last FA I dated shit tested me early on, dumping some not so flattering info about herself just to see how I would react." • Mine has done it throughout all 4 years! I faltered a few times, yes…

This sounds a lot like myself, I'm going to have to go with AA as well. I feel like I want shy and quiet guys because they let me be dominant and will be okay being codependent.

Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…

\* HINT \* - don't be dismissive, arrogant, a pompous azz, or rude. ASSUME Experiencers are, in fact, telling the truth. Also assume we are smart enough to have gone down the checklist of prosaic an…

Highly suggest this for meditation. This is the description of the video and audio file. https://youtu.be/r6a_EnUG180?si=-x7_b4mf2JSIjBG2 Taygeta, one of the seven sisters bright star visible to the …

I mean, it's hard to say. I'm sure that two secure people might appear to be boring to insecurely attached people. Depending on the attachment style, even insecurely attached people find faults …

I do too! It’s incredibly difficult to pour into someone without a lot of reciprocation and some days/weeks are better than others. Our relationship is best when we’re communicating, spending quality …

I couldn’t find a way out of it. Just time. For a while I made myself do 10 push ups every time I got thinking about them. Then tried a stiff slap. I just thought about them a little less each month. …

The most effective for me was tapping into my creativity. Practicing hand exercises on the piano quiets the brain, learning to play some mellow songs is a bit of a hack that allows you to indulge in l…

Doing things in place of limerence is coping. Coping helps in the immediate/short-term, but not the long term.  I'd recommend using an IFS style approach when you catch the limerence happening and t…

Idk about support groups but I'm turning to prescription meds to try to quiet and quell the obsessive, intrusive thoughts and rumination. Going to try Buspar starting tomorrow. Should help with just m…

He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…

This is pure bullshit to the tenth power and weak minds will eat this up and wonder why their life is fucked lmao. Thoughts don’t magically bend reality but your beliefs, focus and mindset shape how y…

I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …

What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…

How do you feel secure after pushing a boundary and hurting your partner? Even when they seem to accept your apology? Partner and I are in a rough patch, we are still repairing after a big argument. …

How do you feel secure after pushing a boundary and hurting your partner? Even when they seem to accept your apology? Partner and I are in a rough patch, we are still repairing after a big argument. …

Hey all—seeking some empathy & advice. My partner is, I believe, avoidant and very quiet/an internal person/processor. This naturally leads to some anxiety in me when they’re not super present. Wh…

Text of original post by u/rkuchiki123: I'm sure others can relate to this, but whenever I start dating someone, I look for signs that they don't actually like me. Things like "he took hours to text b…

This is probably the toughest thing for me. For one, if you have a partner that does this type of thing often, they could be avoidant. There's a reason we often don't do well w avoidants bc they don't…

you don’t owe a matching emotional pitch, but you do owe *clarity* if you care about the friendship what APs hear in silence is abandonment what they can tolerate in words is gentle truth somethi…

When do I ask for help and when should I be self-reliant? I feel like I hold on and try to make it through each day. Then after a few months of this, I have a breakdown. After the breakdown, people a…

I know I have anxious attachment after my partner of 7 years ghosted me following our wedding. I’m in a new relationship we were long distance for 4 months and just talking for 3 months before that.…

Eventually the Avoidant breaks the Anxious and the anxious chooses peace over their chaos. It isn’t loud, it’s just a quiet exit. Now leave them and go no contact. It will be a matter of time bef…

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

As someone who fell for an avoidant female friend, I have to tell you this as harsh as possible. Distance yourself and whatever you do do not explain yourself. Just quiet distance. Its the only way. I…

Yeah I guess that's an interesting perspective, thank you. I guess I can see how fear of rejection would show up. I do think part of him feels that the right person would just know and things would ju…

I think this comes down to the art of surrender. Letting go, faith, trust it's all the same thing. Not trying to control the outcome. You have set your intention your belief or even got to the knowing…

" Just go about life with the quiet trust that it will happen..." And how to have this trust ? Read your post and be zapped into it ? lol A conscious mind method - another 6 months for your loaporn.…

Thank you for this. I agree, I need to grow trust in my own ability to ask questions when things come up. I have tended to assume that another person just needs to go through their own their internal,…