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"Try not to think about a pink elephant in the corner of the room." By simply reading that sentence you probably automatically imagined the room and the elephant, or thoughts. Obviously saying that …

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …

Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…

Haha being an FA is fucking weird — I’m dating someone I really like and just being around her makes me dis regulated what is this shit. Learning to laugh at it. 😂😭😂 fellow FA’s how do you handle being deregulated.

[I will not promote] i built a tool to help with affiliate outreach because i kept forgetting to follow up — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yellin…

[I will not promote] curious does affiliate marketing still work for early stage startups? — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yelling in…

Ever felt like running a startup is just quantum chaos? “I will not promote” — I came across this weird little book that links quantum physics to startup life like, superposition being when your idea feels both genius and terrible until you actually launch it. Or entanglement be…

The whole I will not promote in post titles thing is just silly (I will not promote) — Seriously, what kind of weirdo implemented this rule. Feels like being in a first grade classroom with a strict teacher. Long time reader of this sub but it’s just such a random and weird thing to imp…

Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

Weird behavior with display grid and overflow — Please help me make sense of the fact that we need to set overflow to hidden to .right for the layout to respect the grid-template-rows property in this example: https://codepen.io/Jcbz/pen/XJJYKRg …

Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…

Weird space in product listings… — When I first view a product listing, a weird space will appear between the featured image and image gallery. Clicking on different items in the image gallery will make that space go away. Reloading …

What’s one DevOps tool you tried but just didn’t click with? — I really wanted to love Terraform when I first picked it up. Everyone was hyping it up, and it *is* powerful—but I kept getting tripped up by state files and weird syntaxes. I probably broke my infra …

Fellow DAs, do you sometimes experience people taking it personally when you need space to be by yourself? — I'm a DA as stated in the title. By "needing space" I'm not necessarily talking about romantic relationships only. I've had situations where I've been on holiday with people and when I wanted to just …

Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…

FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later — I had posted in this group at the time when things between me and this guy who I really really care about sort of deteriorated. After that post he did come back and tried for about a week to reconnect…

Update — Saw her again at the Social Club — not much to report. She came over, sat next to me, and we had a nice chat the whole time. We’re actually planning a spa date since we share the same birthday. Befo…

Would this mistake keep me from manifesting — I am on a task towards manifesting my sp. I am successfully able to go in the alpha state by sh. But during my scene I have a am able to focus on a part of actions like holding hand with it being ver…

Learning to take space, self regulate and set boundaries as an AP earning secure — I have always leaned AP but working on security and now in a relationship with an FA leaning heavily avoidant I've realised a big goal for me is learning to self regulate and set better boundaries. Fo…

Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…

How do you tell whether you need to push through the avoidance or if you just don’t like them as a partner — I feel silly asking this but I’m in my first serious long term relationship and I’m struggling so hard. I get very paranoid that it’s not meant to be because I feel so insanely avoidant. Like what if …

8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

Please help — Hey there! Found this community a few days ago and I seriously need advice on how to push thru the panic/ anxiety. I know I'm an avoidant. All my life I've never wanted people to see me. All my life…

Help me understand what happened here after around 2 months of dating and talking with someone I knew from 7 years ago — Hey all, I need some perspective on this to help me process. I'm 33M. I met this girl (30F) about 7 years ago when we were both working at a bar. We always got on really well and hooked up one ni…

what do i do? my anxious attachment is getting REALLY bad. — i haven't been like this since i last had a really close online friendship w someone 2 years ago, but i recently started talking to a new friend online and we've known each other for only a few days. …

Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

Talking on the apps, nothing bad happens but you're no longer interested. What do you do? — Let's say you're chatting, and something they say indicates that they aren't what youre looking for. Let's say it's a minor issue, like music tastes or not reading... something that's not worth blocki…

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…

My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

Her body😫 — Weird confession and I promise I’m not a misogynist. I really miss her body more than anything right now it was LITERALLY PERFECT You guys have no idea. I feel like I won’t have another baddy like h…

What’s one habit that genuinely improved your life more than you expected? — I’ve been trying to build better routines lately, and I’m curious what actually works for real people. What’s a habit you started that ended up improving your life way more than you expected? I’d love…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

Any clue what could have happened? — I took a heroic dose of dmt last year. I had every intention to communicate with whatever I may have seen during the experience. I hit my rig until I couldn't anymore, I had been sitting on my brother…

Does anybody else get upset that you were set up to fail. That you didn't even get the opportunity to start on the same foot as everybody else. — My brain structure is literally disfigured from trauma, I'm socially stunted, my physiological responses are wired for stress. I feel trapped, I know that these things can change and I can heal, but t…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

Does the dumper ever reach out? — Almost a year of no contact with my ex, our mutual friends said she has been craving forgiveness from me, but she hasn't reached out. I have a new life so I don't need it, but its really weird for t…

You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…

I just did something weird before bed and I'm curious if it works — 've tried every habit people recommend for adulting better. Journaling. Meditation. Gratitude lists. Morning pages. I quit all of them within two weeks because they felt like homework. Tonight I trie…

Honestly? I enjoy lucid nightmares. — Is anybody else like this? We've all had out fair share of absurd random chaotic dreams, but I actually prefer nightmares to those. While I'm having them, they suck, but when I wake up I love thinking…

54M – Going through a separation and just looking for people who understand — I’m a 54 year old guy currently going through a separation and I’m having a harder time with it than I expected. Some moments I feel okay, other moments it hits pretty hard. I’m not looking for anyth…

Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President?? — Hello everyone. This might be an unusual post to make at this time. However, I am looking forward to see if anyone has experienced anything similar or exactly what I have experienced. Before earlier i…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

So my husband turned me on to the idea that my weird dreams are something called lucid dreaming and showed me this sub. Pumped to be here! So periodically I will experience DILD and take control of …

Oh God. Way to generalize people. This blanket statement and judgemental attitude shows that you have not even understood the principal basics of neither Nevilles nor Joseph's teachings. Really weird…

Hm. I wonder if that could be it. But I'm also super new to spirituality. How do I overcome this? I'm wondering if also maybe it was because it was the first time I was trying to separate my conscious…

So.. id classify myself as a relatively spiritual person.. over the last few months ive tried meditating 5 or so times.. ive had sleep paralysis about 5 times as well in my life.. more so in the last …

This has most likely has been asked a couple of times, but how does one forcefully achieve sleep paralysis? The only time I successfully astral projected is when I had sleep paralysis and I simply tri…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

I can also hear my self snoring and I try to exit but my body starts to do this weird thing like raspberry kisses and I wake up has this happen to you?

Ok so this is gonna sound weird but when I think about lucid dreaming during the day i get excited and I want to do it so bad. I never have but I want to but at night when its time to go to bed I thin…

Can someone explain what the fuck just happened to me. I was trying to fall asleep and when i finally succeeded i woke up again at like 3 am i realised I couldn’t move it felt like i was moving but wh…

I once tried the exercise of keeping the mind awake and the body asleep. But at some point I just thought I fall asleep and get up from my bed and my body felt super heavy. I went to the kitchen of my…

Quick qustion last night i was kinda in the weird state of hallucnation not sleep parlyisis but after that i somwhat woke and i thing it was sleep parlyisis but then i heard somthing say you were alwa…

Wanted to ask smthng. I realised i was dreaming for a first time in maybe my whole life and even better i could control it to some degree. But the dream kinda lost its depth when i became lucid and th…

That sounds so fascinating! I have never experienced any of this except for sensations in dreams, like smells, sounds, and textures. Oooh, and weird feelings with my teeth

Thank you for asking. I feel a little lonely sometimes but I’m better than I was. Still miss him but in a different way I think. It’s weird when someone’s a huge part of your life, then leaves it inst…

I can see you deeply care about her and I found it weird that you seem like a overall great dude but she still decided to end it. Have she mentioned the reasons why other than "dad wanted so"? I'm in…

Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …

I'm glad to hear it helped! You're welcome lol. I found it really weird that nobody on this sub was talking about that book at all. (At least back then.) It seems to have basically everything you coul…

I am 52. Alone doesn't have to mean lonely. I remind myself that it has only been 4 months since everything exploded for me. I moved back to my hometown. I am looking for teaching work and such. As f…

Yeah, i was sort of getting grossed out by the porn and masturbation addicts posts 🤨. It was starting to turn into something weird.....

i am a 51yo married man and educated with a professional degree but stuck in middle management which is fine. I have become more or less an alcoholic in some respects because i love sleeping and my…

You're a weirdo lol

This breakup was one I never wanted to experience to. Take my heart more sees were there then any other. From the outside looking in I loved the look. I bought her nice clothes and always she rocked t…

The only thing I would really recommend is learning about internal family systems. That kind of work *can* be done on its own but I did the majority of mine with a therapist. The book “No Bad Parts” b…

I think I sometimes do feel like it’s a little bit of whiplash, but I think it’s more so when they haven’t been making time for themself or are burning the candle at both ends with work, etc, and we m…

Yeah that's pretty much it. It's weird seeing the lack of situational awareness driven by what I assume is some kind of insecurity on their end. We've already got a date lined up for the weekend so al…

Lmao, no, don't worry about it. I have daddy issues as well, and I have friends with BPD that have pointed out that I may have it too (I'm not diagnosed and have no need to know though atm). And I tot…

It helped me to cut out some toxic family members. One of the elements that fed my anxious attachment was that I had low self esteem. I worked really hard to build that up, but it was difficult to m…

I'm a dismissive avoidant for sure. I've been in therapy for like a year I guess and my therapist is really the only person I have any sort of emotional connection with. It's honestly weird but it tot…

Thank you so much for this. I am really hurting. Yes, he messaged me On Sunday evening my time saying “Hey baby!! I’m back, I’m so sorry for not being able to communicate.. I know it’s been a little…

I’m self-aware so I dont that, but I will feel a weird melancholy and partly relief if things don't work.

Yeah it's weird now I'm just over everyone and just love my cat and friends

He’s going to leave you. I’m sorry. I can guarantee this. He’s extremely immature, and you are trying to be his mother and his therapist. It will backfire on you spectacularly. He needs professional h…

Totally relate to this. I can’t bring myself to “care” or get excited about someone from an app. If I meet someone IRL I’m way more open to exploring. I think from an app I’m just immediately expectin…

As the others mentioned fixing your app is priority number one, however, I find it very weird that just one request blocks your whole server. You should try to find the bottleneck before moving clouds…

Early in my career I’m pretty sure I did a technical home assignment and the company just took my work and never hired the role. It sucks. It happens. But recently, companies ghosting candidates on t…

Cloudflare is fast, cheap and easy. Fastly from what I know offers more as it's based on Varnish but very few people need that level of complication. I only worked on one project that needed Varnish.…

I have been diagnosed for a while I own a couple company’s. my adhd has gotten in the way but the more you work the more you learn how to manage it by failing! If it’s a really big important decision …

I’m not sure if I was starting to have a lucid dream last night or not, i had been a sleep for a little bit (probably a light sleep) and felt myself get pulled into a dream where i knew i was dreaming…

I’m not a DA but I do need space. Fortunately, my friends have always understood that, and I haven’t had to communicate it. I feel like they are kind of the same and everything just feels super natura…

I think it's interesting that DAs often say it feels exhausting having to communicate this, yet again it's your behaviour that leads to misunderstandings. It's fine if you don't want to communicate yo…

Humm, this is very interesting and I can see myself in that fear But I did something weird, I wanted to feel close and vulnerable but did not know how and still feel sometimes so afraid of intimacy th…

Some of these comments are saying silly (and heteronormative) things like "weird around children" or "checks out other women when they think you're not looking". Obvious reminder that being uncomforta…

avoidants (especially those that are actively working towards healing and becoming secure) may come off as secure in the beginning of a courtship. until they are met with some triggers which will lead…

Hi, thanks for chiming in, I agree with your answer! I also noticed my ex (months into the relationship) was activated, and usually it was either by deep intimacy (also by sex), or by external stresso…

I know you directed this at DAs - I'm an FA and autistic; hope that counts. I don't struggle with responding to messages really. I like inbox zero. But socially, overwhelm is a huge problem for me, es…

All I can say is don’t suppress the tears. If you avoid emotional release, it comes out in weird ways at really inconvenient times. Like when you are sick or getting your ass kicked by stress. I know…

This is such a great comment, thank you for adding it. This sentence: >those of us who spent our childhood begging our caregivers to love us and constantly trying to convince them we are worthy of th…

It feels like love like that because it feels familiar to your nervous system, in some way like "home". But home is what gave you an insecure attachment style to begin with so it makes sense that the …

Your interactions have to do with both of you, are all avoidaints self absorbed ego weirdos.do you use work,sleep,or all things to avoid accountability. Really when you’re presented with something tha…