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Yes, get out. He won't get better. That he doesn't even see that he is the problem should show you that he will never change. That he gives you the blame for his behaviour "you made me do this!"... h…
Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…
Soon to be divorced ? — Alright Reddit , I’ve been married for 12 years , I’m a 35 yr old woman and husband is 36 yr old male . We have 4 beautiful children . My marriage has been bad since day one , he yelled at me for ask…
Oh sure, I really love "The Child In You" by Stefanie Stahl (a German author). "Attached" is being recommended here often, also "Why Does He Do That" by Lundie Bancroft.
I’ll second what the other person has commented- that you gotta stick to your boundaries. Though I’m picking up on things that may be concerning here. I am not accusing anyone of anything, but are y…
I understand. I can relate to these feelings *a lot.* I understand not wanting to label someone you love as an abuser, I think it can prevent so many people from actually healing because… I mean I cou…
Thank you so much. I started reading "why does he do that" last night and I started crying because I saw so much of him and our dynamic in it. I feel like I'm in this state of sickening shock. The jus…
If it were me, I would continue to be avoidant of men and prioritize friendship with healthy women. And maybe try to see if you get an inner bisexual hiding in there to explore romance with women. Jk…
as a woman I have to be friends with a guy for a while before I'll date him. I'm not dating a complete stranger... that's so insanely irresponsible to me. Lundy Bancroft, the author of the infamous *W…
Read “Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft.” There is a few pdf online. I just don’t like the way he demeans you.
Please read this book as soon as you can; his behavior will start to make sense. ###Why Does He Do that - Lundry Bancroft https://dn720006.ca.archive.org/0/items/why-does-he-do-that-inside-the-mind…
There's every chance things AREN'T going well and she was outside your apartment trying to get the nerve to talk to you to ask if what he's doing to her, did he do that to you. OP let's pause, take 1…
You being healthy, happy, and confident is so more important than numbers on a scale. This is not how someone who genuinely loves and respects you would ever speak to you. Please check out the healt…
I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. It's absolutely unbelievable he would do this after what his parents went through. He's but embarrassed. He's upset he got caught and his fun times aren't fu…
He doesn’t listen to you because he thinks he’s superior to you. He doesn’t respect you. Now he’s gaslighting you and trying to turn this around when he had no intention to respect what YOU want for…
“I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds things over me for a long time.” It probably doesn’t …
I’m also in the thick of trying to untangle a trauma bond from my nex that’s been built up over years now. I’ve found the book Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths by Shahida Arabi t…
Two reasons I think: 1) coping by making you the bad guy so they can rationalize their poor decisions or 2) When you discover a vile behavior and they realize they can’t fool you anymore, that you’ve …
>When you're single you don't have to think about another person in every decision you make Umm... that's still true for when you're dating. At least to a certain degree. You shouldn't have your life…
> I begged him not to give me the silent treatment > I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silent treatment or holds …
Npd isnt about maturity. It's their coping mechanism and value system. Its VERY rare to change a person's value system. The book why does he do that? explains why abusive people dont change
If you abort, he can hold it over your head and forever call you a cheater. He knows you will have zero proof then. If you admit to it to stop the fighting (don'tdo this please), even when the child i…
ADHD is not the issue here. He makes obvious plans to stay away from both you and his child. Find out why in therapy. Otherwise, I would just ignore him. It's an AH move on his part to order take-…
No comments on the jealousy/possessiveness? You need the link to Why Does he do that? And to read it. Secure your birth control and delay the marriage at the very least. At best, break up. …
Narcissists do this thing where they act like the perfect partner at the beginning of a relationship. It’s called getting “new supply”. Look into reading “why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. I a…
Red flags are showing. He’s trying to manipulate you into doing what he wants. Please read “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft. https://ia601407.us.archive.org/6/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/…
I'm scared you are in an abusive relationship but don't realise. The joke itself is bad. Him doing it while you are away. His reaction. These are things an abuser would do. He doesn't seem to have a…
Once again I am begging women to not be with horrible men and to not make excuses for them being absolute pieces of shit. Please leave 🫶🏻 And look up DARVO and Lundy Bancroft - "Why does he do that?…
He dismisses you and then gets mad at you for his abhorrent behavior. Read the book, Why does he do that By Lundy Bancroft It’s free online and it will help you see his manipulation and motives.
hi! here it is: [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)
I understand how you feel 100%. I too had a relationship like this when I was young twenties too, and it took me some time to leave too. What happened for me is that it started small, like this - li…
Please, please read "Why Does He Do That?" Do it in secret, sit with it awhile, and let it sink in. You absolutely don't have to live this way. You do not deserve to be treated this way. Complete str…
I read quite a bit of the book *Why Does He Do That?* by Lundy Bancroft recently and it made me realize, "oh. THAT'S why women are afraid of men." It was very eye-opening.
If he’s doing this when you appear to be mentally healthier, it would be worth examining why he wants to keep you in a state that reverses the progress you worked so hard to make, and your therapist w…
Run mate, run. Please choose yourself. She will do it again n again. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but that is the reality. Please read and or listen to Lundy Bancroft’s “Why Does He Do Tha…
He's doing it on purpose. He doesn't like you. He resents you and enjoys your upset and making things difficult for you. You should leave. You should read "Why does he do that" by Lundy Bancroft
I got anxious just reading this. This is absolutely psychological abuse. Read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft.
And op, if you’re not ready to leave, let me tell you what I did to get here -I recognized that allowing someone to walk all over me was something I was accepting because I was not raised in a house…
As a trauma therapist with a lot of experience in abuse dynamics, my alarm bells are going off. Controlling men rarely truly change, because real change requires specialized intervention programs, ove…
I don’t understand why you would marry someone who bullies you, so I assume this is new behavior. Leave him. He thinks he has you locked down because you’re married. Keep your finances safe and sepa…
Therapy is your best option, you can also read books like "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. Staying in the present is hard after you've survive…
You would benefit from this free copy of Lundy Bancrofts [“Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men”](https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-…
OP, read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. It's available as a free pdf, and it will shed light on his behavior.
Please read “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft. https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
Does he show a pattern of not being able to admit fault for anything? He blamed you because he knows he did something wrong but can’t admit that to himself or anyone else. Read [why does he do that](h…
let him go, angel. he’s abusive. you break up with him by text after he clears out all his stuff. never ever go back to abusers. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca…
I would put a significant amount of time up to see if he truly is committed to changing if reconciliation is even on the table. There are a ton of barriers to success here. Master manipulators like …
No. This is an abusive relationship. He is emotionally and verbally abusing you. You have given him chance after chance to change. He *knows* it hurts you. He *knows* it's wrong. He's *choosing*…
R/anger is maybe also a good place Also read ”Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft if you’d like some perspective. It’s available as a pdf for free online
Read the book “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft
In the book “Why does he do that?” The researcher acknowledges that the majority of women who have been physically abused said that the emotional abuse was worse than the physical abuse. All women who…
The silent treatment is abusive and manipulative. Please read “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft. https://ia601407.us.archive.org/6/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
Also if I could recommend reading why does he do that by lundy bancroft it might save you one day ❤️