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As a kid who grew up in a house with a mentally ill father, this post really hurts to read and my heart goes out to you. I truly hope you'll take my words to heart. What if he kills you or hurts one …
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
Should I (29F) stop waiting and move on from my boyfriend (30M) of 5 years? — I (29F) have been dating my boyfriend (30M) for almost 6 years now and I think I have been very patient with him. I know not everyone likes this concept but a year and a half ago I told my boyfriend t…
This can't be happening — never wrote on here or done anything like this. I apologize if its to long or has bad punctuation..I'm F 35 hes 44 M. together for 10 years. He left 2024/2025 after admitting to cheating on me. claim…
Ex-Situationship started No Contact — I (F) have been friends with a man for five years, and over the past year we’ve grown much closer. We live four hours apart, but we’ve seen each other quite often since we grew up in the same city. Ov…
How do you build your partner’s trust again after hurting them? (F28, M29) — I’m looking for a miracle here. I (28F)love my partner (29M) very much but he has done things that has hurt me and as a person who has trust issues, forgiving has always been difficult. I never saw th…
M21 betrayed by M19. 4 months later, he’s doing the work to get me back. Is reconciliation worth it? — I (M21) had an incredibly romantic and successful relationship with my ex (M19). We got along so well—the chemistry was amazing, we shared the same interests, his family adored me and vice versa. It t…
Bf is getting sober - I am spiraling — Ok so maybe I’m being highly insecure but here goes - met a guy 8 months ago. He was not sober. I’m in my late 20’s he’s about 6 years older. Started off super casual but it was clear we both caught f…
Is my friend a fake? — I've been doing ecom for 6 months, learning the space and building a brand. After 6 months of no results or ROI, I've finally started to make money, and I'm potentially on the verge of making a lot mo…
I want to know what to do, after all this! — Hey, I am mentally out, and exhaused of ups and downs! He acting or telling me that he is working on himself, that he wants to be best husband for me! Idk, what he wants? But he is surprising me with …
This is him retreating back into his old bullshit under the guise of “working on himself”. The work he needs to do is figuring out how to be a good partner to you and he’s abandoning that relationship…
I can show empathy for the insecure person if they take ownership for it and work on themselves instead of making absurd demands of their partner and refusing to accept a break up after they made an u…
Reminding myself that they are truly not happy with themselves and will just keep using and cycling through people is helping. Even the new girl mine is with now will get thrown away eventually and I …
In the same situation…however he was living with another girl while I was providing for our son. He told me he was working on himself and getting a “bag” to care of us. It was a year in Feb since i fo…
I’m in this situation, but he broke up with me while I was being too patient and giving him «too much» time to try to get better (who he was - more consistent again, effort, comnection and everything …
Girl. He's an abusive leech. Hitting doors and stuff in anger is him either refusing to regulate his own emotions like an adult, him trying to intimidate you for control purposes, or both. This is n…
Exactly this. And I think the reason it's so rare is because closure like that requires both people to have done their own inner work independently — not together. Most people want the closure before …
It’s understandable that you are still dealing and coming to terms with his infidelity, but I think you are being a bit unfair to your ex. He did express remorse/regret after confessing his mistake an…
His story (and his moms): I was toxic and all I did was lay in bed depressed while he planned our wedding. I used him for the Hawaii trip and he went to therapy but I gave up on him. He also told his …
I respect you for choosing yourself that’s not easy to do. Give yourself time and space to truly figure out what you want in your life, and that gives him time to figure out his shit as well. Next t…
It's good that you're self-aware! It's up to you ultimately how you want to handle everything, but I guess what I would've wanted to see from my ex, if he were to come back is: accountability for his …
Hey man, from someone who left their abusive ex, I can tell you that I will never go back to him, but it helps my heart everyday to know he’s in therapy, in CODA and working on himself. Break the patt…
He can get better away from a relationship. The way he talks about her body count and treating her like shit about it, controlling where she went, screaming and attacking her, throwing water at her an…
Instead of dealing with his insecurity, he’d rather be poor and control you. In order to make himself feel better he needs to tell you what to do. And he’s trying to coerce you into doing it and guilt…
I understand you perfectly, thank you for sharing your experience. Personally, I’ve always been very affected by the moods of those around me. For years I tried to fix my family’s and friends’ problem…
It’s time to leave. Obviously take the time to do it safely, but none of that was ok. It was abuse. Idc what yall argued about, if you felt that you provoked him, literally none of that. It. Was. Abus…
You're soo so right. I feel like im.content with life at the moment. I finally came thru that grief and alot of things. I realized im who I always was. I feel stronger and have taken my mental self ca…
for one, i would try to express your feelings of unhappiness with your sex life. it is common after a long relationship, like yours, to feel repetitive. i would also express to your boyfriend about hi…
Kinda frustrated. So my not-wingwoman friend told me that my crush is probably pursuing someone. If it is true, I would be genuinely happy for him in the same way I would be happy for any of the other…
I’m just trying to understand it from his point of view, because he knows in the past he had toxic patterns and the night it happened he told me right away.. we broke up and he was working on himself …
My stbxh didn’t start working on himself til he realized I was serious. But by that point, it was all compliance based—making changes not bc he loved me and wanted me to be happy, but so I didn’t lea…
Without having actually been present for the conversation, I’ll go out in a limb and assume that neither your parents nor you intentionally excluded him from any conversations, nor spoke over him/inte…