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Raised by a Covert Narcissist. — Hey Guys, I want to share my experience and hopefully get some useful advice as to how I can move on with my recovery. I am reading Pete Walker's book " From surviving to Thriving: Overcoming TEPC. …

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

I desperately need to be held. — I don’t know what to do. How can I cope with this emptiness? Will I truly never find someone to love me and hold me? I’m always afraid for myself when I feel like this because I don’t want to attract …

Shame has dictated my entire life for 41 years — And I didn't know it until now. It was the silent background noise, the "I'm not good enough," "Don't do that or you'll fail!" "Look how stupid you are, you can't do anything right," "Don't notice m…

Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…

The habit of hiding things…. — I really thought I was past this of hiding situations and trying to deal with them on my own. It may not seem like a big deal, but this habit has gotten me into awful situations before, sometimes even…

My mom who disowned my for being gay is ready to forgive me, oh and for me to financially support her and my dad after he retires of course. — I don’t speak to any of my family anymore because they disowned me for being gay after i was outed. It hurt at the time but honestly the more time i spent away from them the more i realized how awful …

My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…

When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe! — I had to share this as I have noticed in recent times a slurry of misinformation being shared on this subreddit. I see endless mentions now of the need to let go, the need to be constantly detached, t…

Why are people such sheep when it comes to drugs? — People seem to just accept things, unthinking, unquestioning. This person I was debating with said "Well people can just die instantly from MDMA" and I said that's just false. That doesn't happen, not…

The dangerous 'toxic positivity' of AI therapy: A personal story — **TL;DR:** I used a customized Gemini "Gem" as a complementary therapist, but it completely failed to spot a predator. The AI interpreted extreme red flags (love bombing, gaslighting, and manipulation…

Alex Collier - Andromeda E.T. Contactee | 1996 Interview with Rick Keefe | Describes Aliens that Are Here (info in body of post) — Andromedan contactee Alex Collier has had his face-to-face contacts with blue-skinned human ETs from the Andromeda constellation and the Andromeda galaxy, which have included multiple visits aboard …

I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …

I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …

Stop being a fixer, and get the relationship you truly want! — The biggest lesson I've learned in love is that it's ok to be selfish. People come on this subreddit because they want to learn how to walk perfectly on eggshells so their sisuationship won't end. I'm…

I normally don’t like to talk about my issues outside of therapy because I just want people to see me as normal, but I’m 36 and still can’t get past the effects of trauma from my childhood. — I grew up with a mom who is obviously mentally ill, very likely borderline personality disorder at the very least. I grew up white trash in poverty surrounded by drugs and trashy people my whole life …

What is so Horrible About Going Out??? — I know it’s all a huge song and dance because they just want control over where you are. It just baffles me when I don’t even do anything wrong. Going out with friends during the daylight? Bad. Going…

Have you had any experiences where your beings saved yours or someone else's life in some way? — *(Added this image as I thought it was fitting given the title - its one of my favourite sculptures which is called The Ecstasy of Saint Teresa by Gian Lorenzo Bernini, finished in 1652)* \------- P…

Confused if my therapist is just not the right fit. Am I the problem?? Do I just need to work harder? — My diagnosis is Bipolar 2, heavy on the depression. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a few months now. A few things I’m confused about that I need advice on. ⁠1) I feel like he doesn’t understand my …

I quit smoking weed and it was the best descion. If you are thinking to quit-Do it today — Hello. If you are a heavy smoker - This is for you. I want to share my experience and get some advices and motivation from people, who could quit smoking. I'm 28, female, I've been smoking weed for 10…

Intermittent affection as an unrelenting thirst — There's this gnawing, relentless, hollow sensation. Ever present. It's a feeling that's far away, aching, cavernous...*starvation.* An unrelenting emotional hunger that burrows into the core of my b…

SF to name street after Chinese-American woman who saved thousands from human trafficking — I was happy to read this news about a street in San Francisco being renamed after a brave Chinese-American woman named Tien Fuh Wu who saved thousands of women and girls from human trafficking. With r…

Covert narcissists are emotional sadists! — I hate the term “vulnerable narcissism” so much and I will never use it. I have had many moments where I saw the “duper’s delight” when they see you suffering or in distress. In my opinion, it is the …

Lucid…. Waking? — Hello! I wanted to share this super weird phenomenon that happened to me last night (and many other times.) I’m curious if it’s lucid dreaming, and if anyone else has experienced the same thing! L…

Are there any statistics on abductions? — I’m looking for numbers, not stories. It would also help if there was a division between positive feeling experiences and negative feeling ones, though I’m aware that’s messy data as positive change…

The chains your parents put on you (that you don't even remember) — My English is not native, sorry if I write a bit imperfect. I want to share something from a recent session that might help someone who feels stuck in their love life. Tina came to me feeling stuck. …

Kink, consent and dating — I \[44F\] was out on a 4th date with a slightly older guy \[51M\] last night. First three dates (1st happy hour, 2nd dinner, 3rd movie) there had been some low key affection but we hadn't kissed yet. …

A Friendship Breakup — Everyone’s talking friendship breakups, so here’s mine. In middle school, I was dangerously codependent on a guy named JJ(not his actual name). It ended abruptly when I asked if I was his crush, he li…

where do i go from here? — hi friends, i’m not sure where to go to heal. i posted in a different thread about the situation leading up to my breakup with my now ex: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/s/UQCEcqeyRU today is the…

I met my new neighbors today. — I say this with joy, because the house they are occupying was, up until two months ago, an absolutely wretched Air Bnb. My neighborhood is very family oriented and the house, directly next door, is ju…

Dumb mask-off moment — I'm an adult child of a single NMom. Last year she had a psychotic break. I had noticed her acting more and more strange but when I would try to talk to other people about it they would brush it off. …

Being an adrenaline junkie in my DR — ​ I’ll be completely honest with you guys: I originally only got into shifting because I wanted to get boned. I have a terrible time connecting with people in this CR, so that was my main moti…

They want to exorcise me ?! — Hey,, so a family member wants to exorcise me from my mental health issues. Im 25. I already made a post about this but ill quickly go over and link the post if i can figure reddit out. I got diagn…

TheTinder curse — I (M50) have matched with a very intriguing (F41). She is amazing in all ways and she has made it clear that she is married but she says we are inevitably drawn together. couple of basic meets. casual…

Disability discrimination at Goenka retreats — I recently attended a 10-day Vipassana course at Dhamma Dipa (UK). I’m neurodivergent (ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, awaiting autism assessment) and rely on earplugs as a medically necessary sens…

How it possible that I manifested with my thoughts and feelings the fact that my father hit me and abused me at 2 years old? — What Neville Goddard says doesn't make sense. It's impossible that I could have manifested such an evil act against me at that age, I didn't even have a developed ego, let alone thoughts. I didn't ha…

I found out that my abusers lost everything because they k*lled a child and I don't know how to feel — I'm an institutional child abuse survivor and lived in an abusive boarding school for \~1 year (felt more like 5 years) when I was 13 yo. It was a terrible environment in which every aspect of our liv…

Is diphenhydramine any good? — I'm male, 57 130lbs and want to try out dph, I'm planning on taking 13 tablets that are 25mg each, making 325 mg total. is this enough to get okay hallucinations or is it dangerous for me? I've done …

My Nmom claims her "therapist" told her to stop giving me love, since it was "enabling" me to "abuse" her. (I think her "therapist" is an AI.) — I haven't visited my mom in private in almost five years. I have seen her at a couple of necessary public outings. The reason being... she effectively held me captive for three years in my 20s. *That'…

dealing with FOMO and feeling like you’re behind — I graduated high school in 2025 and I’m currently at home taking online classes. Because university isn’t financially an option for my family right now, I’m still living with my parents while my old f…

Why should someone lower their standards? — It's common to see people suggesting others to "lower our standards". It's not a gender thing because both sides are told this. I'm 42 and my standards are triple what they were in my 20's. But this…

Attachment trauma is truly devastating. — I have fearful avoidant attachment and CPTSD related to attachment trauma, I want to believe that this isn’t a life sentence, but my god. I try, every day I try to believe I can get better, I can be b…

Alienation? — I made a lot of mistakes during the divorce over 6 months ago. No charges or anything like that. I was just blind sided and un educated. She took everything, including custody of my child and when I …

Therapist told me something that I'm a little confused by — Had therapy for the first time a few days ago and I honestly loved it, but my therapist told me something that I'm a little confused by. She said that I'm like a "little girl," (I'm 20) and that it's …

Is this an Astral Projection or...? — I tried to induce Astral Projection tonight for the first time, because I discovered I had done it once before, but involuntarily, it was fully, and effectively without my knowing this was an actual p…

Glad it helped you in some way. I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. Babies and children absolutely register lack of affection…

My concern has been 3 years of astral staking by a person who abuses the astral. They have been taken over by a negative entity. And now energy harvest daily. This has taken energy workers many goes a…

Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…

I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…

You should know enough to be dangerous, but don't need to be an expert. If you have a DBA team try to establish a good relationship with them. Follow their protocols for raising tickets and engagement…

I’m really glad it helped you! I think DAs involuntarily push people away because of the unconscious fear of engulfment. They are predisposed by their childhoods to feel encroached upon, so any kind o…

All I can say is don’t suppress the tears. If you avoid emotional release, it comes out in weird ways at really inconvenient times. Like when you are sick or getting your ass kicked by stress. I know…

It isn’t. Avoidance, more so than AA, is deeply unconscious. Consciously, we want to show up for our partners and to be vulnerable, which makes it difficult to recognize the fact that we are distancin…

I think dating is for you and self sabotage is common. I think a key, a lot of the time is, is to go into most situations with no attachment to outcome. Find people you like, date and just see how …

Specifically when it comes to “I like/love this person and want them in my life.” When you have a powerful betrayal wound, your brain will throw up barriers and you wont “feel” any positive feelings t…

Chatbots have caused severe psychosis and mental breaks in people in crisis, not to mention completely neurotypical people just looking for answers. All it does is agree with you and mirror you. It fe…

Reducing therapy as a concept to a script of a two person conversation is a misunderstanding of what therapy is and what makes it effective. Here are three links for you about the danger of AI therap…

Congrats on your hard-won self-awareness! It sounds like it was painful and difficult and you're still grieving. I just find one part problematic: >I decided to go on a rescue mission, for myself, a…

As someone who studied linguistics, I don't believe in text message analysis used for clinical purposes. Written text especially in short format and within an unbalanced and highly emotional atmospher…

I'm a FA in therapy (although with another FA/DA was leaning anxious). A lot of people don't have the skills and guts to communicate uncomfortable things. Here comes ghosting, which is way easier to d…

I think these are some really valid fears, I'm not sure why you're hearing so much from others about needing to advocate for yourself more when in serious pain. Your partner's freeze response doesn't …

I agree. She's going to therapy. I believe she's positioning me for the gray zone which is a very dangerous place to be so I intend to go no contact soon. I'll respond if she reaches out tho.

I feel very seen because your reply reflects my situation almost exactly. What you experience with your partner, I experience with my best friend. With my regular friends I’m “casual friends.” I l…

Please be careful talking to gpt, it can trigger your anxiety all over again. You don't want the issue of "I'll stop being anxious after gpt explains" it's dangerous and can impact your self regulatio…

As I’ve learned recently, kids can definitely bring out our best impulses. But it’s dangerous to anchor our motivation to do better to them. It puts an unconscious expectation on them that children, i…

I really hope I can find some answers here about why I’m unable to let go of and forget one person. The breakup was unbearably painful, drawn-out, and emotionally exhausting. I spent years chasing an…

omg no!!! dont use chat gpt for therapy. you can ask for exercises or prompts but never feed all your personal info into it or ask it for advice. ai is programmed to always tell you what you want to h…

I appreciate this. The self abandonment aspect is definitely part of my history, like text book examples. Like I had an out of state job offer textbook example. We’re not in a relationship anymore and…

The way I interpreted those situations is that yes, he is saying that you can change your experience, including with people, by changing your thoughts and beliefs. In the situation with the 3x marrie…

Spiritual concepts appeal to me, but the Christian framework does not. "Deserving" is a dangerous concept. The world operates on cause and effect, and a sense of what we "deserve" can put us at odds …

Personally, I wouldn't break up with someone I want to spend time with. That is the entire bar for me. If I like being around them more than being alone, then that's it. I'm not looking for anything m…

I just think it’s dangerous to advice people to ignore their gut instinct and be okay with something important missing in a relationship if it’s important to them.

That makes a lot of sense. What you’re describing doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings. It sounds like a nervous system shutdown when you’re pushed to go inward. When the body tenses and wants to run,…

I grew up under almost the same conditioning. It took therapy for me to realize something unsettling: for years, I was missing entire chances to feel like myself. Somewhere along the way, I learned h…

A little update since I've gone back to silently lurking instead of posting much (but I still absolutely love this thread and read it daily like it's my newspaper lmao!) - for those of you who were ma…

But you must have looked at somewhere that people with anxious attachment go to vent, so that's not really fair either. I think what you have to remember is that people on that side of the spectrum …

That's fine. You do need to ask yourself what it is that you're seeing in them, if it really is the stuff that makes you compatible with them, then it's great that you can figure it out so quickly, bu…

>I’m really sorry you’re in this position... but one thing I’d gently caution you about is the “if you need to talk, I’m still there” part. I know it comes from a place of care, but in situations like…

If it were me, I would continue to be avoidant of men and prioritize friendship with healthy women. And maybe try to see if you get an inner bisexual hiding in there to explore romance with women. Jk…

Hi. Anyone else have any similar experiences? I’m a gay guy and really want a group of straight buddies for some reason. I love platonic bonds with other guys since I didn’t have any as a kid. I’m m…

I think doing it over text is fine. You don’t know the other person and it’s only one date. You don’t know how they’re going to react. And for women in particular, you could be putting yourself into…

>it seems like trying to reason with her about all the things she engaged in with me is futile. YUP absolutely correct she not only will not care but also percieve you as pathethic and desperate whil…

Ok. I am sorry for spamming here. I am just doing unwell coz of the breakup. So I just made a little recap in my head about all my relationships. And I am very aware that I am putting myself into tr…

It sounds like it's the anxious speaking to me. You didn't do anything wrong, but you're assuming she's ignoring you when her circumstances just might have changed. New job, new life stressors, sudden…

There are very many different practices. Some are slow, some are fast, some are dangerous, some are individual, some are with assistance. So it all depends how much patience you have and how much mone…

You're friend sounds like a typical story of someone who recoiled from a bad trip. If you are of stable mind going into it then common psychedelics by themselves should not cause you to do anything to…

I'm not saying what you've brought up are wrong. But isn't it rather fallacious to argue the fault in the lack of mentioning such topics in an Asian AMERICAN sub? Why, cause they look the part? If so,…

I think you are correct,he is a liar. I mean this with kindness,no blame but please don't go to someone's place after only two weeks of knowing them. Meet for dates and get a feeling for their persona…

This is really getting into dangerous territory. Please be careful. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

First of all, I'm sorry to hear you were tortured like that. I really hope that you've since found people you can trust and have gained some measure of peace and even healing. I will ask: why wouldn'…

Please don't take these comments serious, it's so dangerous, the whole charts together, specially aspects, planets in houses IA your only way to judge, yes there are res flags and green flags, b…

I am sending you virtual hugs! I struggle with very similar feelings. I’ve only had one physically intimate relationship, and it took me until I was 25. It ended very quickly, and ever since the…

Maybe constrain it to the ‚Cheat Code to some parts of civil society‘ You can reflect on your own how this is counterproductive in acutely dangerous situations (where evolution actually gave us stres…

I feel similar. And I know a lot of people don’t want conventionally pretty people complain because of our so called pretty privilege but there is such a thing as pretty curse. All my life I have been…

I must admit with all the problems I got, without my pretty privilege I wouldn’t be were I am now. Yes life is still an everyday hurdle for me and people assume that it’s not because I’m attractive b…