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>Dude read the room, what subreddit did I post it? Are you her? Don’t argue.. you obviously don’t have the intellect or emotional bandwidth for this thread kid you want advice--my advice is not to em…
Anyone else feeling overwhelmed by how fast AI tech is moving? I will not promote — Anyone else feeling overwhelmed by how fast AI tech is moving? It feels like every week there’s a new AI tool or update — from chatbots to image generators to stuff that can write code or summarize l…
First Time Serious Connection With an Avoidant — I was in a relationship with an avoidant for around 3 months and everything was going well and we weren't moving too fast in my opinion. We had gone on dates and met each other's families. They had be…
Finally detached! Flying, static vision, and a sudden "lust-induced" snapback. Advice needed! — Hey everyone! I’ve been actively practicing for a while now—listening to 6 Hz theta waves and binaural beats, focusing on breathwork, and consciously lowering my heart rate. This morning around 9:00 A…
I attracted someone but he’s loveboming and not my type — I found someone after years of trying. But I have 2 issues, 1. He is loveboming,2. He’s not my type. I listed everything but seems like somethings are missing. Should I accept this or try again? He’s …
I feel like it’s over - just waiting for him to end it. — Two weeks ago, I felt something shift. It wasn’t just the usual “oh, something’s different.” It was deeper than that—like a gut feeling telling me something was going wrong, like something was slowly …
Trying to just figure out this (me) M27 (her) F27 has this been anyone else’s experience? — I’m a 27M and she’s a 27F. We’re coworkers and had been talking for about 1–2 weeks. We hit it off pretty quickly. She showed interest first, and I asked her out. We went on a lunch date, and it went…
Should I be concerned about my friend's new relationship? — One of my closest friends has been dating their partner for about 7 months. She seems really happy but I'm afraid she could possibly be moving too fast and losing herself. At the time she started dati…
What’s up with him? — So I’m 18F and he’s 18M. We were together for around 8 months, and we were doing really good but that was before breaking up with him because he was moving too fast and was way too intense/insecure an…
(M30) Fell hard for someone (F31) in a month — deep connection but worried I’m getting pulled in too fast — TL;DR: Met a woman and developed a very intense connection quickly. We’ve been seeing each other often and talking daily. It feels real to me, but my parents are strongly against it due to cultural/re…
You probably overwhelmed him. Even for someone secure (taking him at his word that that is what he was), it can happen. It's happened to me, and it was difficult to get across in any kind of wording t…
after posting this i found out that they were lying about how they felt about me. they said they loved me (multiple times!) but didnt mean it, and actually thought we were moving too fast. which sucks…
Well avoidants aren't immune from the oxytocin their brain releases when you meet a suitable primate. I say this as an avoidant primate. If the avoidant in question has been single for a few years tha…
Thoughts please? I've had five dates with someone who I'm already having the best sex of my life with. I have been sexually disappointed throughout my romantic life and this is essentially my dream co…
I think most people try to hide their interest early on because they either fear getting rejected or moving too fast for the other person. And it's sad that in modern dating, qualities which should …
Hi. I’m looking for perspective from people who’ve fallen in love quickly, especially after trauma. I’ve been seeing someone for a little while now, and what we’re building feels unlike anything I’ve…
This literally just happened to me. The person I was talking with even set the pace - constant contact and trauma dumping, all the things. Then she freaked out because it was moving too fast and that …
I only give people 1 date a week for the first month; I’m too busy to be fitting in strangers in my life so this guy is already moving too fast for me. 😆 I wouldn’t be offended that he rescheduled. …
So the guy I've been dating, we are officially at 4 months since our first date. It's been overall really good. We have talked about living together, though I wonder if we are moving too fast. We spen…
Some people just go through it like that. I just got broken up with by the LOML and honestly, I can't wait for her to call of text me. She's a DA and we were definitely moving too fast that she took a…
Nah, fuck that. Rip off the band-aid. Read his post history, this dude is a disaster. 3 months in he was complaining that she moved too slow - turns out she was a virgin and had never been in a rela…
Yes, this must have been surprising but she put all the 'icks' on you. She took no, not even partial, responsibility for aspects that bothered her like moving too fast and intimacy timing. Its as if s…
Absolutely, and the day you were in the forest is a perfect example of this! The root chakra is tied to survival, safety, and security, and a lot of that can show up through stress, the adrenals, and …
That is probably one of the best metaphors i have ever heard! Thank you for this wonderful advice. I have a lot of adopted Brothers I grew up with. Two of them actually told me that they wanted to tel…
I understand the space you are in, but it's hard to understand from your post how mentioning a height difference or having gone to therapy is trauma dumping or love bombing or moving too fast?
I'm seeing an IFS therapist right now and liking it okayish I suppose. I also despise most CBT methods because they just don't do anything good for me in my experience, so I get it. But yeah, pretty m…
Take the pressure off. Like you can still message, but give her some space. Don't respond immediately when she replies, don't ask anything that requires her to make a choice, just give her opportuniti…
Dude, you came in with the hostility and yes ive was in a relationship but am I’ll experienced. She said she was moving too fast not that I was. If you’re going to say “you want my advice” then lead w…
Everyone's a little different when it comes to time. If you find yourself yourself falling asleep, then try in the morning. But night time is perfectly good. When I was beginning I would do the tapes …
He also might want to take things slowly and build a connection. Assuming he expects sex is stereotyping him. It also depends on your connection. If by chemistry, you're making out like teenagers in …
You’re moving too fast and have probably already scared him off. My recommendation would be to slow down and relax. Let your relationships develop at a normal pace. If you’re ready for marriage and ch…
She isn't ready to say it back and may think you're moving too fast. Two months isn't long. Give her space to get there on her own.
She's moving way too fast, and you aren't in a position to do it anyway. Rule of thumb in these situations, if you have a doubt don't do it. You can date for years and not be ready to live together. T…
You two have only been seeing each-other for 2-3 weeks. You're not anything yet... You're strangers getting to know each-other. That's the truth of your situation. And spending everyday together lik…