quirks

I dont know if youll read this but i just read your original post and this one too and something that really stood out to me was upu saying that youre not sure of what youre seeing is true or if your …

Why isn't Firefox respecting prefers-color-scheme? — I use properly contrasted favicons for my site depending on if the user has light/dark mode enabled. I noticed that they display properly in Chrome and Edge but Firefox seems to ignore my \`prefers-co…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

Healing from perfectionism taught me that I’m not superhuman — I’m just a regular person and everyone else is just as ordinary as me. Sure, we all have our quirks and differences but you’re never the only one with them or unique. I am not loved based on my achie…

birthday celebrations — my birthday is in june and it’s a sore topic for me. i’m turning 18 and i have never had a birthday party. due to religious reasons, my mother has refrained from celebrating or even acknowledging it. …

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…

From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…

How do I (18M) make my girlfriend (20F) see herself as beautiful as I see her? — Sorry if the title is oddly worded, wasn't sure how to phrase it and that was my best attempt at making it sound coherent. Anyways, me and my girlfriend have been together just shy of 1 year as I writ…

Maybe it’s worthwhile just fixing the app now to get it in a better working state with what you have, before moving onto a new cloud provider? If the code can’t handle it in your current provider, c…

Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…

i've been there! it can be really freeing and fascinating, especially when you have secure people in your life who accept your quirks and understand this is a natural phase, who also have strong bound…

Baby, you need to accept your own humanity. Say something uncomfortable you want to say to someone, get a mirror and say it to your own face and see yourself saying it and cringe at your own expressio…

My ex dumped me in a cruel-hearted way on September 8 (I’ve written a ton about it in comments and posts in my history if you’re interested), texted me one week later with a chatGPT-written non-apolog…

So basically you've learned that maintaining relationships means losing yourself, and you've realized that's too high a price to pay. And you're right, it is! You deserve to be protected and to feel s…

welp I lived with my best friend after uni and yep, ruined our relationship. on the flip side, I moved in with two strangers two years ago and one of them has become one of my closest friends now, so …

I mean what you’re describing sounds normal to me for any reasonable person. I’m part owner in a family business and if someone new is hired it’s not uncommon for me to not really speak to them for up…

Being around them offers you the strongest sense of comfort. You know all their quirks, good and bad, and still choose them.

No issues from me (42 f UK). Picnic dates are cheap and fun, there are loads of inexpensive ways to hang out. I have a car and dont drink, so usually end up being the driver. Im fully in my middle age…

I have been dating someone for \~1.5 years. We discussed him moving into my house (where my kids live part-time), which appealed to me primarily because it allowed me to financially assist him without…

Either way... WHAT. All these little quirks as a kiddo, pretending to concentrate energy between my hands and shoot it at the ceiling when I was supposed to be falling asleep, talking with my Closet F…

I've been tracing my family tree a bit and have definitely noticed the "family quirks" were more likely undiagnosed ocd and autism than hobbies and star-crossed affairs with doctors. I have kept tell…

I just want to put it out there that being unable to laugh at yourself is truly a trigger for some people. My parents made fun of my quirks that I now recognize as autism very regularly. I'm very se…

Seems to me that 90% of what you love about her is not who she is as a person but what she does (for you). So if a completely different person was willing to perform the same acts of service, both em…

So... my bf has some ED issues, but he's got a little pill for that. We have a lot of sex. Like, the best sex, even when fatigue or some other factor means that there's no PiV sex. And after almost 9 …

I have much healthier boundaries now! I also will never devalue myself for a man again. Never settle for less is easier said than done, but when you find someone that genuinely loves and respects you …

Well done for genuinely trying to be the mom we all wish we had. I was severely emotionally neglected by both parents but especially my mother. I’m sure she was very tired from a full time job and all…

I’m sorry you are going through this. It sounds like she was doing what she thought adults do because that is expected. It’s the definition of success. And she wasn’t being confrontational enough ab…

The clothes in the box would have tipped me over the edge. He is actually giving you MORE work to do, twice, rather than "being helpful". A question I asked in the comments, but I hope you see, OP..…

The third month of dating is apparently when you start to (i) feel more comfortable farting in front of each other and (ii) notice the uphill battle of adjusting to each other's quirks. Anyone here i…

not at all! don't see it as a dark period of a relationship. that'd be terrible! it's not that you lose the spark it's that you overlook the other person's different styles as mere quirks because you…

there are some things you realistically cant work on ,regarding a relationship, that you cant work on if not in a relationship. You can work on yourself for years and be the best version of yourself f…

I've been the woman in this situation. I had come to realize I didn't like their smell, or the smell of their house, and that there were too many little personality quirks that were unable for me to a…

it's impossible for two human beings with their own personalities, quirks, baggage, biases, etc not to hurt each other at some point. that's just life. what matters more is how we handle it. whether w…

we were together for 3 years. about to be 3 years since she left. we lived together, woke up and fell asleep and woke up next to each other everyday, traveled everywhere, endlessly chatted about nothi…

I understand. I feel fine about it as I myself don't really put any sort of emotional attachment to a stranger (which we are still really after just one date). It was just an interesting combination o…

As someone who was just broken up with, I definitely understand first love theory. A lot of my days are filled with self-doubt and regret, feeling like I might never find someone who matches the love …

Hmmm I've never experienced this but I was able to manifest my ADHD away. Basically saw myself as someone who always focused, never distracted, able to manage my quirks with ease. You've got to put yo…

Yeah, if you’re becoming anxious and reinforcing neediness, stop! There’s a wisdom in us that is, well… very wise, and often sees deeper that the ‘answers’ us as identities seek out. If something feel…

I also frequently LD. Let me ask have you discovered any quirks? For me I noticed once if I threw myself backwards into the ground, I would rip through the floor at high speed while everything turns …

Having a paranoia around making any noise when I’m in my room and my roommates/neighbors are nearby. Getting very clumsy and nervous cleaning or cooking while my roommates or anyone is around to witne…

Aww, I hope you’re doing okay ❤️ He’s not that new, but it’s still very much been situationship territory. And I think that’s what makes it feel a bit tenuous? When someone’s new, there’s just so muc…

I feel for you. I went through something very similar and it was hell. I also have ADHD, which made me blame myself for all my quirks instead of him for his behaviour. Eventually I fixated on the cy…

I see where you're coming from, any interests/traits/quirks on an app profile can be applied as a label/filter without getting a full perspective of the individual. I think sexual compatibility and s…

I have so many "quirks" that are more or less trauma responses, that I can't possibly name all of them. Most I've been working on to understand & adjust so it doesn't drain me. One somewhat destruct…

I think it’s Saturn in Leo in the 1st house. Exiled or fallen planets on the ascendant cause idiosyncratic personality quirks. However, with your ascendant lord still being exalted, I imagine you’re s…

Two years ago today, my love died. Dating again after knowing what healthy love feels like and knowing how amazing a well-matched partner can be is a gift. I love that I have standards now and I tru…

I’m 38. You’re where I was 4 years ago. I had “broken” and with that came the CPTSD diagnosis. The way you’ve described it is how I felt - like a stranger in my own skin, things I believed about myse…

There definitely could be, but also I think she may have a slight personality disorder or something else going on. When she is sober she has this very lovable quirky personality that is very lovey a…

Thank you so much🫶🏻 It’s really hard. Everytime I see something or hear about something I just think about how his reaction would be when I tell him or show him and how his face would light up or th…

I was the gc and didn't realize until maybe 27. I felt trapped by my nmother and had thoughts of "I only need to make it until she dies, then I'm free to have a life of my own." My sg sister (3 years…

No, I actually became an atheist around 15 from studying physics, astronomy, and listening to heavy metal! Psychedelics didnt change my stance, but they absolutely blew my mind regarding how much is s…

Sounds like drug addiction in addition to his other stellar personality quirks. Please leave this person. You are young and can still escape the inevitable ruin he will bring into your life. Best of l…

As long it’s not a deal breaker for you, then there’s nothing you should really be worried about. I’d say given him being Audhd, and asleep, and his need to have chewies etc, this is 100% related to…

Girl…. I have no words. This is insane. I understand the whole sunk cost fallacy, and I understand that emotions and feeling complicate things. Believe me, I get it. I’m in a messy situation myself, s…

I think it’s a little more complicated. I think we are compatible in our tastes and interests. He doesn’t want to live in that suburb but feels trapped by his circumstances. I have represented myself …

There are plenty of healthy people in the same boat as you, whether because they outgrew their old friends, moved cities or countries, left a controlling religion, or entered a new life stage or caree…

For me, the current standard of beauty is so… blah. Every single woman looks the same now. Same style of makeup, same type of hair style, same type of lipstick and eyelashes. The women that men consid…