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Once you let go, he will feel the energy shift and that is when he reaches out to you. It is important that you stay in your energy and do not give him control of your emotions, how tempting it might …
Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…
Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…
If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…
Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…
Law of Belief - Relationships — I have read the POSM by Joseph Murphy and gone through the index, but one thing that keeps coming up and seems to be rather controversial within the JM community is how law of belief affects other peo…
Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Don’t Contact Your Ex. For Anything. Let Go Quietly. They Watch You for Access Without Intent. — We had a bad breakup. He was very cold and distant at the end, as always (we broke up several times). He made a joke about how I can be single and rushed me off our last phone conversation when I was …
I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …
Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…
Ran into my ex today with her new boyfriend and it hit me harder than expected — Earlier today I bumped into my ex in the city, walking hand in hand with a guy. The moment she saw me, she immediately let go of his hand, looked down at her phone, and sort of moved behind him while …
Codependency and an ex that keeps coming back — Hey guys! So, I've run out of ideas on this. I got together with a single mum in summer 2024 and we parted ways around last October. Since then, we agreed to stay friends but she wouldn't even give m…
Just let go — Hey long time lurker here, just wanted to contribute my own success story that I’d previously shared in a Neville community. This happened some time ago and whenever I doubt my power (which sadly ha…
30F, when & how will I find my partner? — Same as title. Is marriage on the cards for me anytime soon? Was seeing a guy since a year and thought that this relationship had great potential but then I found out something about him so I had to l…
Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …
Manifested work and a promotion — I've been a silent lurker here for a while, and for some reason I couldn't manifest small things like idk, seeing a pink elephant. I felt like I was trying so hard, forcing myself to see that pink ele…
How do you guys give yourselves comfort you used to get from someone that is no longer there? — While this is coming from a position of a break up from me, this is also something I want to learn when it comes to other things. Right now, my nervous system is screaming for comfort by going back to…
Why do I keep looking up my ex’s life even though I know it’s unhealthy? — I’m trying to be honest with myself about something that feels kind of embarrassing. I still find myself looking up my ex online sometimes. Not just her, but trying to figure out if she’s dating some…
After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you — I started the very first tape Orientation since Jan 26 until now i reached wave 3 tape 1 , everyday i practice one or two time but at least one a day, going through each tape i practiced at least tw…
Why could I enforce boundaries in the first years of my relationship, but after 7–8 years I couldn’t do it anymore? — I have Codepedency. I am with my abuser for about 14 years (Now very low contact and hoping to completely sever contact once I completely heal and can let go off the unhealthy attachment.) We don't …
After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you — I started the very first tape Orientation since Jan 26 until now i reached wave 3 tape 1 , everyday i practice one or two time but at least one a day, going through each tape i practiced at least two …
Broke up with me because his father didnt want him to be distracted from his career. Why cant I forget him? — As the title mentions. I (DOB 30.12.1993, first chart) was best friends with this boy (DOB 13.10.1994, second chart) from 2013 and we started dating in 2014 beginning. The relationship was a very good…
Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…
Some recent examples of my manifestations. Very convincing for skeptics. — Ever since I learnt about manifesting, which has been only few months, I manifest every single day, so much that I dont even keep track of it, and no its not some god mode, I manifest cryptic shit mos…
I wish I left after the first affair — I feel so stupid for trying to reconcile after I caught the first affair. I was too much of a coward. I was too afraid to be alone. I was still in love. The hurt, the pain, the betrayal, everything wa…
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…
I (30F) suspect my mom (58F) may have taken money and my deceased grandmother’s earrings while I was away. I have no proof and it still bothers me years later, how do I move forward? — I’m 30F and my mom is 58F. I currently have very minimal contact with her due to a number of issues in our relationship. I haven’t blocked her, but I don’t engage much beyond unavoidable family events…
Are They Cloaked… or Are We Just Unable to Perceive Them? — They may not actually be “cloaked” at all. It’s possible we simply can’t perceive them. One idea that comes up in discussions about encounters is that some beings may operate at a much higher vibr…
First Time Shift — I heard about shifting probably 8 months ago and became really fascinated with the idea. I tried a few methods here and there and had a few mini shifts but nothing big. I generally let go of the idea …
My mother is super affectionate now that I'm an adult and she has dementia. It disgusts me. — My mother doesn't remember the screaming, my mother doesn't remember her calling me stupid everyday, she doesn't remember her telling me to get out of her house. She talks to me now in a baby voice, s…
A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…
Almost enlightened — Been doing my regular sadhana for a few years. One fine day, I did my morning sadhana and was sitting there watching my breath and boom! I was there! No need, no cause, no feelings or emotions. Only v…
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should. — I 30F am an abuser who has ruined my husband just because I can't accept being loved. yesterday I told him that I hope one day he gets the self esteem to leave me, and he responded that he hopes one d…
When the Disciples could not perform Miracles, they were not told to become Detached or to do somatic release work, they were told that they MUST Believe! — I had to share this as I have noticed in recent times a slurry of misinformation being shared on this subreddit. I see endless mentions now of the need to let go, the need to be constantly detached, t…
I’m jealous of you — Jealous of the people whose ex’s are also in mutual pain after the break up. Jealous of the people whose ex’s are clearly affected. Jealous of the people whose ex’s even give breadcrumbs. Jealous of t…
Farewell — In the last two years, I have posted to this group a few times. Last year, I posted ([“Here’s the thing: you’re dying, too.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1ifz1cr/heres_the_thing_youre_…
Had my first tiny experience! — Hi fellow dimensional travellers :D. Just wanted to share a small personal win here for personal and mutual encouragement. I've been practicing the first Gateway tape for a week or three, n…
I need to let go — Me bf (32M) and I (31F) have been off and on for the past 2 years. We were engaged at one point but I called the engagement off. During our relationship he was angry about alot of things...money, his …
I did not handle the breakup well and became obsessive. Never again. — This is gonna be long and messy, so just a warning. My ex ended things with me on text, without a call or meeting me. I requested her to give us proper closure in person, but she had asked for time, …
33 year old therapist for people like us: It gets better when you're financially independent. Just hold on<3 — This sub has been such a validating place for me unlike my own South Asian friends and family members for SOME reason. Idk why they're so in denial of how our parents actually treat us. Long story s…
Struggling to redirect my impulsive co-dependent decisions — I am unfortunately dealing with a best friend break up, it's been nearly 2 months and I am still struggling to not give in to some of my co-dependent thoughts and decisions. i have been doing a ton o…
New method *Forceful- lucid dream — When you got to sleep, close and then roll your eyes upwards and focus on the middle of the forehead and don't strain much but keep them there, don't let go until last moment, when you start drifting …
obsessing over what you want isn't the problem btw!! read this — do you have to stop thinking about what you want to manifest it? NO! that's the thing you want obviously you are going to think about it! just be conscious of the feeling behind it. are you thinkin…
Have you had any experiences where your beings saved yours or someone else's life in some way? — *(Added this image as I thought it was fitting given the title - its one of my favourite sculptures which is called The Ecstasy of Saint Teresa by Gian Lorenzo Bernini, finished in 1652)* \------- P…
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
I would remove this line "Your silence will eat them up." Because this is something that creates "Expectations" and to do everything else you need to let go of expectation, you know like, "If I do t…
I’m trying so hard to let go but he was the only person who treated me nicely and loved me until he randomly dumped me via text. No one ever asks me out and when I ask people out I am rejected. I am a…
In my experience, No Contact is for you first and foremost as a human being to heal and be a better version of you. If (and I mean IF) your ex contacts you, consider it icing on the cake. And hearing …
I’m dragged, can’t let go, but she moved on… it’s okay tho, I can live with it
Oof … I needed to read this today… I am struggling to let go even when I know they really aren’t good for me even if It feels like they are. Thanks for the call out.
"Let go or be dragged". God. Damn.
Yeah I tend to agree with you, but the commenter above was saying they do think about you, often miss you and could still love you. Those things can be true in rare situations, but I don't think it's …
Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…
Thanks. I like the last part, let go or be dragged. Ain’t it the truth.
Unfortunately I find this reddit to be too toxic to have any kind of meaningful help to anyone without being trolled or attacked here for providing real legal advice. Most of the people here are just…
Guess I am being dragged, and guess what I hate it! Don't get dragged. Let go!
Let go or be dragged 💯💯💯
you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…
lol majority of posts in here come across veryyy differenty to me. More like: “my partner / ex is avoidant. They hurt me constantly in a multitude of ways. I’ll list numerous negative qualities about …
Its really about acknowledging your self-worth and step into your power. Once you realises that you deserve a healthy and consistent love, you will be able to let go of connections that does not recip…
I’ve felt mine hated me. When I finally let go I realized it was more likely something I came up with on my own. The silence leaves us with so much space to make assumptions. For my situation, I thoug…
Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…
You need to let go of this "dream guy" fantasy. I think it's making you ignore reality. You spent ONE WEEK together. Time to move on and stop putting people on an imaginary pedestal. The more you do t…
You're having resistant parts. Get a couple of books on Internal Family Systems self-therapy, which is exactly providing a way to deal with why we have resistance and how to get those parts of ourselv…
Thank you. Still learning to trust my internal compass. Also, wanted to add to those going through 💔 : “grief is love unreturned.” To give closure to yourself you have to grieve. This is why the no…
If the design agency’s holding you back and the other biz is growing faster and making more, it’s probably time to sell. You’re getting a solid offer and freeing up time to go all-in on what’s workin…
No you weren’t too harsh, I appreciated your words :) You mean you use over-analysing to protect yourself from being hurt and used? I think for me fixating so much on analysing the relationship it’s …
Alright unfortunately it’s impossible for me to determine whether she is actually losing interest or if she is having trouble regulating her own emotions, but what you need to do in both cases is let …
Some thoughts - this is rushed, so not nicely written: \- Anxious-preoccupied: preoccupied with attachment figures and attachment relationships, anxious about possible unavailability of attachment fi…
With the DA you’re gonna have to be really careful because they play a long game. You’re gonna have to really focus on asking them the right questions and being consistent with those questions and bei…
Got you, I loved how you said to swap the current ongoing feelings of having to pay bills into already paid. The bills are pilling up from pretty long hence when now I think of them being paid etc, a …
Hi! Yeah! Now that should just feel like a truth to you that you are in a wonderful relationship. Let go of the fear and doubt and let in peace. Trust all that you want is on the way or your already. …
Im sort of thinking of sending a similar message to someone. How to make this more concrete without sounding desperate or clingy? We stopped talking several months ago, he ignored my casual massage fe…
Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …
Having children is important to me and that’s not going to change because the other person is not interested in having children. If the other person is opposed to having children, then forming a roman…
Focus on what you **feel** instead of what you **should do or not do**. You may be fawning in these moments because you **feel** in danger, even though there is no rational danger in front of you. Ten…
From my perspectives, doing the internal work is about being happy and comfortable with what you have and who you are. Happiness is no longer outsourced. Learn to value peace more than companionship. …
I’ve dated someone who was in your mental state before, I haven’t had a chance to say anything to her as I’m keeping her in the no contact zone. Now that I understand more and put a lot of effort into…
All due respect, you know nothing about my "mental state", just because you read a vent after I was discarded by an avoidant with narcissistic traits. > The problem she had was she always chose comf…
I think there’s some good advice in this thread, but just adding this bc I didn’t see it mentioned in your post or other comments—work on platonic relationships! I know it can be difficult to make fri…
As soon as I accepted that some people just aren’t that attracted to or interested in me, but are willing to date me for the convenience of easy/on demand sex or attention, it got a lot easier to let …
OP your self-insight is great and this on/off again pattern (while unique to each individual relationship in its own way) is reassuring to read because of just how many similarities we all share. Th…
I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…
Thank you for your kind words! Actually you're very right and that's exactly the decision I've done a year ago - im purposely single for a year now, after the series of short relationships. It's actua…
Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…
That’s the thing are we certain that he was like that before she got married? If he is saying people are a reflection of us, of what we believe, and what we feel inside and what we attract then wouldn…
Yes that could be a good interpretation of it! It could also be that maybe this woman in the example had a good story about relationships in general but just not her current partner for whatever reaso…
That makes a lot of sense. If it causes too much inner struggle or turmoil then it might be best to let go and try a different approach. Such as for people in a difficult work environment they might h…
Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…
She talked shit about me being obsessed with her, while unbeknownst to my friends she was breadcrumbing me, emotionally manipulating me and gaslighting me. The angriest I’ve ever seen her was when I …
If you would rather die than be single, something is very wrong with your perspective. It's not wrong to want a relationship either so I won't say things like "be happy being alone" (although you shou…
https://youtu.be/9l5ALCPEBkc?si=i3VKUlg3rHPJem1n She’s got tons of fantastic talks on everything around this topic. Also: knowing you can give it to yourself. For some reason, realizing that I was t…
Aww sending hugs. Feels familiar. Felt so in my late twenties. Cried so hard. With time and looking back, and lots of unrelated therapy, I realized two things : everything happens for you ; and life i…
This might be due to a lack of internal confidence perhaps. I know that when I was younger and would get involved with someone with an anxious attachment, they’d internalize almost everything while tr…