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Someone elaborate on this please — Hello I have been reading and watching lots of Neville videos and what I concluded is that circumstances come from our inner state and that they don't matter anyway because we can always adopt a new s…

To the former LOAPorn folks here — Hi everyone! It's been about 3 months since me and my SP have been NC. It's quite a long story to retell it there, but we two got really close, and we were very happy with each other. However, due to…

My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…

Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…

A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …

I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Keeping Focus in SH — Hey all, I've lurked here without an account for a bit. I've had a few successes - money, changing circumstances etc. Historically, I've struggled to keep focus in SH when life has been hard - for e…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

True kindness is displayed under circumstances where being unkind would have been justified. — I am currently reading Marcus Aurilleus' *Meditations* as my first Stoic book. > When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, …

My AM is a stupid fucking snitch — Any time I tell my AM anything that I want her to keep between us, she’s always snitched to my AD. But whenever she wants me to keep a secret from my AD, I am somehow expected to follow that same secr…

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity? — It literally feels like the onus is on people with really challenging life experiences, to hold that all inside and only talk about good things, for fear of burdening people who have objectively bette…

Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …

OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…

How to deal with places that have bad energy? — For context, a few years ago i moved away from a city that drowned me energetically, in the sence that i genuinely couldn't feel joy for extended periods of time, but after moving to a new location fa…

self concept got me my dream life — This is a rant, but this is a confirmation that self-concept is real and it's what changes your life. Self-concept is something that you shouldn't convince yourself of. Self-concept is something you b…

It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…

Overarching Energy of the New Moon in Pisces on March 18th, 2026 — Even if you are not an artist, philosopher or feel things deeply, the New Moon in Pisces could give you an open, dreamy quality, where you want to dig into more abstract subjects. You may be thinkin…

Hard times. — Hello team Stoic, hope you guys are having a nice, peaceful day! Currently, I am, after a bit more than half year, on one more crossroad of my life. Last year I went through getting fired, moving c…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

need help protecting + restoring — so due to a family emergency about a year and a half ago, my partner, 2 kids and i moved in with his family. he’s always lived in a multigenerational home—culturally the norm. i’ve been so anxious &…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …

The one trait that predicts narcissism more reliably than anything else — I spent years trying to figure out why some people drain everything around them while others don't. After a lot of research and painful personal experience, I found one principle that predicts it more…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…

My (26M) brother (35M) has impregnated my ex wife(F27) and is engaged to marry her. How do I move on going forward? — I started dating my ex wife(key) when I was 14 and she was 15. Her parents were shitty so we lived together with my family throughout our relationship(my mom, older brother(jay) and older sister) so h…

Thinking More and More About Just *How* Boring They Were — One of the things that really boggles my mind looking back on my childhood is just how little my parents ever entertained any ideas of direction or progress within their own lives. My father worked t…

When in doubt, return to I AM — When we have doubts or moments of fear about the "What if" or "How would', we must return back to I AM. I AM is not a word or affirmation. I AM is a present tense feeling of being. The awareness that …

Why does it feel like "kind people" suffer the most while "toxic people" thrive? — I’ve been reflecting on a very painful pattern lately and I wanted to hear your thoughts.​It seems like people who are genuinely kind, who mean no harm and just want to live in peace, are often the on…

Wish it had gone different — A few months ago I put myself out there after ending a very long marriage. Messaged with a guy a few years older, it turned sexual pretty quick. I hadn’t had anyone make me feel wanted, nor had I been…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Dealing with an energy vampire parent? — I'm pretty sure my dad's an energy vampire, anytime i'm around him i get sick, ALL the time. Which never happens on the months he's gone for work. I feel down, lazy, i don't want to get out of bed, ev…

How to date seriously when you are in a city you dislike — I have been in this city* for 7ish months and know that it is not for me. I was born here, moved away happily and due to unfortunate circumstances, I am back. I am also a woman who wants marriage and…

The mechanics of EIYPO — Today it finally clicked after 6 months of travel in a new state and returning home to where the old state stayed. Everything was his, and nothing was mine, the detachment was amazing and it eventuall…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

It's never too late — After 33 years of marriage, I just hired an attorney. I am divorcing my narc. After years of being on this sub, I always thought my circumstances were too complicated to ever be free of him. I didn't…

It Worked OVERNIGHT! — I’ve been living the Law of Assumption for years. I’ve seen it play out in my life over and over, growing my Instagram to 85k, TikTok to 25k, YouTube steadily climbing, social media success etc. But…

Tired of toxic connections.. can my birth chart help me finding the right people? — I’ve been trying to understand how to not stay stuck in what hurt me + somehow still find people I actually feel aligned with. I also wonder if some of these patterns make sense through my chart, lik…

How can I attract genuinely aligned friendships? (my NN is in the 11th but I have a very hard time with it) — Hi! I’m very interested in the insights of this sub bc I’m not very experienced with astrology but even less with the whole sign system. Just right now while transferring my chart in whole sign notice…

BE OPEN TO RECIEVE! (Manifestation tips + encouragement.) — I'm going to cut right to the chase (forgive my English, I'm not native, and I refuse to use AI.) I've always been a natural optimistic person from myself. Even when life hit me with the worst situat…

How I landed my dream job with robotic affirmation — Hey all, In January of 2025, I lost my job as a software engineer. For 6 months, I applied constantly with very little luck. Sometimes I made it to final rounds, but ultimately I couldn’t clinch an o…

07/2013 — I may have finally found a place to talk about my experience, but if this doesn't belong here, I'm sorry and please point me in the right direction to another thread. First, thank you to anyone who …

I think manifestation has clicked for me — So basically, we are the source of our reality, everything within it is generated from within us (and we are consciousness/energy). So in order to change the 3D, we have to change our inner state an…

How Neville Manifested His Marriage - Do Not Meddle In The Middle. — **For Those Who Need...** From Neville's Audio Lecture. The verbatim from Neville's Lecture (*Updated*) : *“When I decided to marry the lady who now bears my name I applied this principle. At the t…

Manifested 10k in weird circumstances — About 3 years ago i discovered manifestation thanks to reddit. At the time i made a list of things i wanted to manifest. I wanted to be debt free and i assumed that manifesting second job will make th…

Good idea? Advice wanted — I’ve recently came to some deep realizations about the past 7 years of my life. Since I was a child, I’ve had questions that I couldn’t quite find answers for, however I was raised southern Baptist an…

I was neglected from birth till, well, now, and have CPTSD for 28479227392 reasons related to my parents and to other experiences. I don't think focusing on blame is useful. I can't blame my one paren…

Hey there’s a Z code in the DSM 5 for emotional neglect, I’m sure. I haven’t looked but there’s a lot of different Z codes to help identify life circumstances, to give a bigger picture to the F code d…

Getting your medicine right will make a big change. It didn’t cure my sadness and grief and fear and all the things that came with my new circumstances but when I finally got on the right dose of the …

1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…

I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…

I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…

This is not a competition who is far less irritating or who is more evil than the other. Its about both parties should be taking accountability. I am more than agree with you that AP’s biggest challen…

$300k, $600k, or 10m doesn't really matter. Each successful person finds some sort of opportunity and pursues it. Then they create a system that helps them pursue it because you can't do it by yours…

I own a business. I started with zero. I had a job, but then through interesting circumstances ended up being a business owner. I worked hard for many years. Last year I made 380k. The year prior…

Did leaving this comment make you feel better or stronger? Because I don’t really see a point in coming under a post where one DA asks other DAs about their experience. Your lack of empathy and knowle…

I can say absolutely the same about anxious-attached people, but you don’t see me doing that? You ripped my words out of the context. Do I know that I’m avoidant? Yes. I used to be real bad as a teen.…

Sorry to hear you’re struggling. You must be experiencing challenging circumstances. I’ve said this over and over again. Our parents can’t teach us these skills if they haven’t learned them themselv…

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

The same can be said with anxiously attached and codependent individuals though? Some people cant handle boundaries and in turn label them as neglect or avoidance when in reality time is required to p…

So maybe the best strategy is to set some rules for dating. Here's some suggestions: Make it clear on the first date that dating for you is an exclusive engagement. While you are dating one person, y…

Hey i did comment on her video, a few hrs ago. Checked now the comment is not there.. she deleted it i guess. I am sure she is ignoring you in the pretext of changing the circumstances and making th…

Thanks. I may have had a similar set of circumstances in the past. Without the happy end.

I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…

I hear you. And appreciate what you're saying. Thing is, DA's have a bad habit of ignoring an expressed need from a partner or hearing it as "neediness" or clinginess. Expressing a need can be seen …

This is really interesting. I’m (DA) on an SNRI, and I have no plans to come off it because I can’t risk becoming depressed again. I was always very DA, even as a toddler. I felt nothing way before I…

Tell me if this works for you: For your first problem, I you might want to wait around for the person who seems to say the things that occur in your own head. Bonus points, if they say it at the same…

I'm sorry for the stress you feel and everything about it. It sounds like your life now revolves around him: \- You continue to have regret and remorse about the past. \- You are actively checking…

I'm a bit torn on this one because on the one hand, it feels like I'm missing a lot of context. But on the other hand, if you're in a committed relationship with someone, you are committing to carving…

From what you've said, it sounds like you think of life to be pointless when lived alone, and seem to be valuing romantic relationships specifically a lot. I would like to posit that it is this excruc…

You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sys…

If you would rather die than be single, something is very wrong with your perspective. It's not wrong to want a relationship either so I won't say things like "be happy being alone" (although you shou…

Completely different circumstances of course but I’ve also become socially isolated because of choices I made. I’m also working on learning to enjoy things on my own but damn, it’s hard. We’re socia…

>You are unconsciously putting distance between yourself and others and it's tricking your brain into thinking love isn't possible. You probably need therapy to learn to be vulnerable, as avoidance sy…

I mean, it’s not about imaging that life… it’s just about imagining in your body how you wouldn’t literally die. In fact trying to imagine a life without him that’s ok would be more mentally masterbai…

Your placing way too much on him. You are in control of your own health and your own decisions about how to deal with that. That is on you. If you are unconscious then yes, I am sure he would call an…

Maybe i can add another view there… My sex drive and a good sex life has been important to me since puberty.  Because of this selfset value, i learned and looked out for ways to keep it up. It‘s prett…

I second this. Writing a letter for self-reflection is one thing. It ceases to be self-reflection when I am extending the potential for interaction with another person. I think it's very important to …

You have a very interesting perspective that I appreciate. I’m AuDHD which I feel has also affected my attachment style. I’ve been anxious and flipped around from avoidant and fearful avoidant based…

Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…

This is really important to know about yourself! There are circumstances that can and will push even securely attached people into anxious/avoidant attachment. What’s funny is both attachment styles s…

They do come back from this but it's so so so hard 💔 I went through an avoidant discard. There was no writing on the wall, 2 very happy years. He used to say he sees us being together forever becau…

Fuck I just want to rage and scream at how fucking unfair this is. Just like the cosmic fucking joke that we were so deeply in love but what felt grounding to me felt destabilizing to him. I would beg…

My CM thoughts have changed to worse, along with the situation. If this is some Neville it gets the darkest before dawn bullshit, I wasn’t expecting it to get that dark in this situation (or for it to…

Makes sense. I won’t quit now especially because sessions still make me feel good but with how bad the circumstances are getting it’s quite hard to believe anything good it’s going to happen out of th…

I don't really know the trigger (though I think circumstances were generally favorable, reduction in stress levels), it was just like I had a moment of clarity where I evaluated my life, saw that my m…

I think it's going to be really hard to say this *for sure* because how quickly or slowly a couple moves forward can vary wildly depending on individual preferences, circumstances, culture, etc. In th…

It depends on a lot of things to interpret a behavior. The social programming in childhood, current social environment, individual values For example, in Sweden or Norway, gender equality is ingraine…

Not serious about same person. Just very similar circumstances. Wondering how long you have been hanging on to hope....

Tldr seeking advice for an anxious attachment whose my boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with depression Sorry it’s a little long! So basically at the beginning of last year I (27 F) started not…

I was trying your method once. About a year back, gf was travelling and did not tell me about it. Got to know from other person. We used to talk everyday and suddenly she stopped talking for 6 days. I…

Well during my very first manifestation, it was before I found this sub or even knew about JM and his book POTSM. All I knew was Neville and LOA Porn “coaches”. The techniques I mainly did were Men…

Assessing Adult Attachment by Dr. Crittenden was a really validating book for myself personally. It isn’t really a self-help book though. But if you have a curiosity on attachment that is more in ali…

I did in fact worry I’d be permanently jaded from it. In our case, it wasn’t so much a situation of anxious/avoidant cycles, it was just the abuse cycle. She was extremely controlling, jealous, would …

Aww, boo. Someone got sick so I had to cancel my murder mystery dinner party that's tomorrow since the game requires that all people are present. And that someone is -her-. And while I don't mind a c…

Ok so basic thing to understand, no astro experience necessary, is that eclipse seasons happen twice a year. Our first eclipse season is basically the entire month of February. The next one is Augus…