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DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

Post and user flair are both required — Hello, User flair and post flair are both required to post in this subreddit. There is an auto-mod filter that removes all posts from non-flared users. This helps to prevent spam and bot posts, both …

Happy and healing but still need to be "chosen." Advice welcome — I have been on a healing journey for my anxious attachment for a few years now. I am in a secure relationship where I have found a deeply vulnerable and safe connection and also know that if it ends I…

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

Cure Avoidant Attachment by Watching TV — Can watching TV help treat a dismissing attachment pattern? In Dr. Dan Siegel’s book "Mindsight,” he presents a case study involving Stuart, a 92-year-old attorney with dismissing attachment. Stuart,…

Saw my ex after 4 months — Hello, just thought I’d vent here really quick. My ex (24F) and I (25M) broke up 11/15/25. We broke up over the phone and haven’t seen each other or spoke since. Today (3/20) I decided to go out with …

i have to fly 5 hours across country almost to see my boyfriend — i have somatic ocd and the overall fear of being stuck or trapped. traveling is something that’s really hard for me, especially lately and by myself. my boyfriend (we are long distance) flew up for a …

New method *Forceful- lucid dream — When you got to sleep, close and then roll your eyes upwards and focus on the middle of the forehead and don't strain much but keep them there, don't let go until last moment, when you start drifting …

O method O method O method O method — Everyday I see a post reminding me that someone is Jilling off, and an inevitable comment asking what it is despite the saturation of posts about it. It’s like Groundhog Day with this I’m gonna mani…

Are my mom and sister codependent? — ​ I really need some outside perspective because this situation is driving me crazy. I moved closer to my family recently, and ever since then, my relationship with my sister has gone downhil…

how to really manifest! you don’t need to “do” more. you need to live differently. — it’s not that deep!! i really want to help people with this and share what i know but it’s so so hard to put into words what im trying to say! it’s like it’s almost too simple to explain in words, so…

How do you rebuild your life after depression takes everything? — I’ve had a pretty rough life overall - lots of abuse and difficult experiences. I’ve done a lot of therapy and worked really hard to become a healthier person, and I feel like I’ve moved past a lot of…

Saw them together — D-day was Feb 7th. He’s shown no remorse, in fact according to him it’s actually all my fault our marriage is over, so I’ve moved our divorce along quickly. We should be divorced next week. I’m tryin…

I ran into someone who wronged me and almost lost my cool. How to handle this? — I am going to try to keep this brief. I had a hard time making friends as an adult. My best friend passed away in high school, and I know I romanticize a lot (as you will learn) but I swear I have ne…

My 18M bf broke up with me 17F because he got an A in maths — hi, im 17F and I'm dating 18M, we met in grade school and became high school sweethearts. It's been 4 years and we have been going on really strong, although he lives 30 mins away and goes to a differ…

The new girl comparison — People say the new gf isn’t “better” necessarily but I feel like it is the truth. Logistically my ex was with me years, loved me, knew me very well. Then broke up with me unexpectedly saying he still …

My dad (66M) started making sexual “jokes” about me (20F) after I turned 18. — I’m 20F and I live with my dad (66M). Something changed so drastically in the past two years. For context: he’s not a “bad father” in the traditional way. He’s responsible, financially and kind …

He asked for a divorce… after “upgrading” everything I owned — I’ve been married for 6 years, and out of nowhere, my husband tells me he wants a divorce. No buildup, no real warning... just dropped it like it’s nothing. What’s messing with my head is everythin…

Can any of you control regular non lucid dreams ? — Leading up to my first lucid dream, my dream recall got very good and I noticed a pattern in my dreams.... something would be happening and I'd think/feel to myself that I wish "XYZ" would happen in t…

It’s been 2 years and I’m still insanely stuck on her. — Right so it’s going to be a long one because I have no one else to talk to about it so just want to get it all off my chest. I knew this girl all throughout my secondary school and we ended up talking…

How to get over a break up — Its been a little over 3 months and I still feel sick to my stomach when I think about my ex. Im 17 we dated for 10 months this was the first serious relationship id had ever been in. I lost my best f…

“THE EARTH - A LIVING CREATURE!” This is the message of a brief video created from NASA satellite imagery. — I was a contact team coordinator for the CE-5 Initiative in Los Angeles from 1992 to 1998. “She is alive. She is awake and She loves us.” is the message that I received during of a kind of channel…

I broke up with my girlfriend today — I broke up with my girlfriend earlier today and I hated it so much. I still love her and I miss her so much. It just seemed that we were stuck in that anxious-avoidant trap and we would talk about our…

On incubi and sexual possessions — It’s been five years since I first began sensing invisible entities around me. I underwent psychiatric treatment throughout all that time, and my life eventually stabilized. I finally got a good job a…

what do orbs look like? — hello all! ive been an experiencer for a long time and had several contacts with nhi within my mind and dreams. previous to this ive only had one f2f where i saw nothing but experienced an intense act…

How to make a good conversation with someone? — I know how to make good conversations with people I know and people I’m close to. I’m also okay at making conversations with people I just met like I can just get to know them and that would give me a…

why are asian parents like this — ​ Me (filipino 20M) and my gf (italian 21M) we've been together for almost 3 years. We were both born and raised in Italy, and living in two different cities. We had some ups and downs during …

I experienced physical abuse from my parents and still cannot overcome it — Hello. I am 20(F). I can still remember my father hitting me brutally when i was just 5 year old for taking chips from someone else’s packet in my kathak class. She complained to my father who came to…

I(23F) feel my friend(26F) is becoming too attached to me — I met my friend last year during school. She's sweet and kind for the most part. She has a-lot of anxiety and she's quite traumatized from her abusive parents. She also has to worry for her siblings w…

I need help, is this the end. — I need help https://imgur.com/a/qfRDDXW Dated for two years, ups and downs here and there. Broke up once last year in January and got back together Felt like our connection was strong before the t…

Anyone else have their exes family member(s) add their previous ex to their social media shortly after you were blindside dumped? — I’m just posed this question as I’ve been thinking a lot for the past year after I was blindside dumped by my ex. I may be just paranoid or overthinking. But it all seemed so weird. I can give more de…

My (27F) partner (23M) is losing attraction to me due to weight gain. — We are approaching a year into our relationship. It has been fantastic thus far. He's so supportive, we help eachother grow, and it has truly felt like we take on everyday as though we are a team. I'v…

My best friend kissed me on the lips, after my boyfriend had set clear boundaries on that specific topic. Now i broke his trust, how can I fix this? — TLDR My (19F) boyfriend (20M) went to a gathering at my best friend's house(20F). We went there knowing things would get a little out of hand, we bought alcohol, we have truth or dare games planned a…

*Repost* Old OrionDirectorate post (prior username change) — Hello everyone, I found this success story interesting. I hope others do too, especially the ones seeking the financial aspects of manifesting. **For those new here, I'd like to clarify once more tha…

I'm the bad guy! And I admit it! But I'm growing. — TL;DR I did dumb shit but I've learned & grown & I want some insight from guys who've accepted accountability & made the best from the worst. So I'm gonna get this started with some backstory. STBXW …

The person (35M) who absolutely obliterated my heart texted me (35F) for my birthday, what do I say back? — Pretty much what the caption says, and this is my throwaway account. I’ve been heartbroken over this man for 3 years now, and we’ve been in no contact for 6 months. He was my best friend for YEARS, th…

After a break up — (20F) after a break up, am I supposed to be searching for new men on Instagram/snapchat or just wait for ppl to meet me naturally? My phone is so dry since loosing my ex and I feel like everyone aroun…

I don't even think I wrote this back then while going through a bullying wave in my class — \--- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- --- This year I'm about to leave seventh grade. I'm always the outsider, always watching from afar the laughter, the …

What have I missed? — I left this reddit about a year ago because of a too busy schedule and strict circumstances But what in the actual is SSILD and TILT method? What new methods are out there and what big breakthrough ha…

How the fuck do i process this level of medical trauma — Monday i had a medicine routine checkup on how my new meds were working with my doctor. I stopped taking my medication one week ago after only taking it a week because it made me feel worse and made m…

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf — So my boyfriend and I have been living together for a little over a year now and I'm finding it SO difficult to find dinner ideas for the two of us to enjoy together.... that's my big thing is I want …

First lucid dream after years… Why did my dream control completely fail? My new method backfired — # Notice \----- This post might contain some sentence blobs that may be large for those people who just want to skim through, so I wrote a summarizing “**TL;DR**:” after every few sentences! Additi…

My family pressured me to drop out of school so they could make me their personal ATM — title says it all I've (19f) always drawn since I was a kid and my family thought it was a useless hobby but relatively harmless. When I turned 16, my phone broke completely and I had no phone for a …

Considering leaving my long term partner due to mismatched libido. Am i crazy for throwing away a 20+ year relationship over this? — Context: My partner \[34F\] and I \[35M\] have been together for over 15 years, we met in highschool and have been through the ups and downs of life together. A couple of years ago i left my sedentary…

I love my mother; I do not like her. — My (20f) mother (42f) is the kind of person who thinks that talking poorly about someone is funny. The kind of person who thinks she can treat people however she wants. My whole life, I have heard my …

I’m tired. — I’m tired of confronting the trauma. I’m tired of having to go through a healing process every time I have a new memory unlocked of my traumatic childhood. I’m tired of having to bear the weight of …

I couldnt meditate deeply. — Im an new meditator 25-M, lately ive been meditating to get wierd dream like experience when i go to deep meditation state (may be its hallucinations idk). But the thing is after a few experiences, i …

that’s the thing: we’ve never had a fight. not even a single cross word between us. no breakups, no breaks, nothin. she’s just…I dunno. I am not good at navigating relationships anymore. It used to be…

Thank you for prioritizing those that need it most. I totally understand there to be doubt and criticism, but these spaces should also be fulfilling and uplifting. As a new member, it feels very muc…

Thanks for your response! I see where you're coming from, but I don't think she's being cruel, I think the thought is just somehow stressful for her. I don't really need therapy for myself either, I'…

Well there isn't really much else to add other than "read the index" which gets tiring lol. I often get people messaging me about an SP situation which are the toughest missions. The reality is the …

Sorry I must just be new to reddit and I am confused. I thought I just had to build karma by replying/commenting before I could even make a post. I did not know new members could make posts here that …

Sorry I must just be new to reddit and I am confused. I thought I just had to build karma by replying/commenting before I could even make a post. I did not know new members could make posts here that …

This is so true, and it's part of what is making my healing so confusing and difficult. I've spent my life investing so little in my own needs/boundaries that it's really hard to tell what is reason…

SP missions are very difficult due to high preexisting attachment and subconscious unbelief. And most people coming to the LOB are new to it, especially with SP missions. In LOB terms, failure is du…

So I thought I’d make a post here just for the heck of it. Curious what others have to say… I’ve been casually keeping in touch with someone for over 2 months now. There’s a reason why I say “keeping…

I was recently angry with an ex (2014 - 2023) who (likely - who changes their contact details after a decade?) chose to ignore my email and follow up texts to help me with a personal health assessment…

Seems like I was sent to a Ghost town 👻 And it looks like it's a Ghost week based on the comments from others here.  So I haven't heard from him since Tuesday. On Tuesday he sent me a message sayin…

So, it’s entirely up to you, because real talk…who cares… Old me might have said goodbye to try to illicit some response, that will just end it abruptly or draw out the inevitable… I would like to t…

Posting here as I am a new member and dont have enough karma for a post. The auto-bot said I could post here instead.  **(When?)/Should I disclose trauma history with a new partner?** Before I say a…

Probably the most involved in hobbies and other activities I've been since college or even high school (even to an extent it would seem uncharacteristic to someone who knew me back then). Dating in yo…

>don't understand why more states aren't implementing that anti-child influencer law Utah has that allows kids in these situations to be compensated via trust funds Cause legislators are all old peo…

If there's ever a time to leave, it's now. Start the process and do not be there for her emotional support, she has plenty of new men for that. For your own safety, never stick your dick in that ces…

I am in Germany, so the cuddle group my friend went to might not help you. I am pretty sure it does not belong to a bigger organization. If you confirm I will ask him tomorrow. Edit: existing as ano…

Mine doesn't either. She would actually say that I was very confident & "knows who they are", which was so far from the actual truth and I couldn't understand where she even got it from. But that ju…

39f, yep. Divorced 2 yrs, had a relationship shortly after because I was done with that marriage long before I finally quit. Love bombing liar who got worse the longer he knew me. The apps are trash, …

You're not playing their game, you're telling the truth. There's a difference. If you were playing a game you'd care about the outcome. If you're focus is on telling the truth and your story the outc…

I'm not necessarily disagreeing with your take here. But when you call a group as being underrepresented, it really implies that they qualify for something but are treated as if they weren't. In other…

Cancer-Capricorn as a sign gives a whole new meaning of the Saturn-Moon matrix theory. You might be surprised that the Chariot card in the Tarot (symbolic of Cancer) has two sphinges in front of it. S…

I have unusual sexual preferences, so the toughest part about dating new men is that they don't have the same sexual preferences as me. This makes me miss my exes.  My ex wants me back. But we broke…

Yes, I've been through many situations like the ones you mentioned. When I started university, my father gave me a car and said it was mine, that I should take care of it and fix it. The problem was t…

It is so hard figuring out the timeline of my life. years blend together, and people always ask how things went. It just is a fog sometimes. Naming years when things happened is hard. I myself cop…

Most of them, my favorites are the hypertension, attention, they all follow a similar format but provide a new message to imprint, calm is also another good one

Stop listening to the same music. Stop going to those places. Create new memories elsewhere.

The fact that you want to fix it means you do love him, maybe you’re just a little bored lol. Relationships go there boring seasons but that doesn’t mean you aren’t happy. My bf and I try to make our …

Make new memories. That's really it. I don't struggle with this problem because I always felt relieved when relationships ended lol, but I think if I were to find myself stuck on one, I would remov…

It’s very important you get to a stage where you decide enough is enough. You’ve been thinking about this for a year, accept that you have these thoughts but actively do things to create new memories,…

Totally agree about a second opinion, and lots of good possible reasons people have suggested. Just adding a weird one due to my experience on a particular med for blood pressure. It would trigger a…

For me, they already are dead, my parents at least. Now there’s toxic people that have the same last name as me, but when they die, it’ll be the same as someone in New Mexico dying - I’ll still get u…

Growing up, I felt exactly the way you do about my relationship with my mother. She was my best friend, the person I was the most comfortable with, who knew me the best. We had the same tastes, sens…

Is she medicated? Has she had a thorough diagnosis? Sometimes therapy is not enough. I am 36. I have been in therapy and medicated on and off since I was 16, and it took until *four months ago* for m…

This is an excellent post, especially when you talk about safety and protection. It was not there. When the choice is made to go towards safety by individuating internally from the trauma bond, whic…

Using new medications can also cause dry mouth as one ages, which is a new source of bad breath. I battled it for years before I finally found the combination of products that works for me. But yes,…

I get that… I guess I get worried that the person that “I’m supposed to be with” might be one of the others. Several years ago, I got so tired of the dating app and dating not leading to anything wor…

ooh wait wtf thats cool; did u start practicing new methods recently or something, howd u manage it?

Been there. I used to pride myself for being 'ambitious' when I was working tirelessly towards pointless achievements to feel some sense of being loved and accepted. When I did my best to be amazing a…

If you are present in the moment then it's mindfulness / awareness - not exactly meditation but excellent support for meditation. Awareness in everyday activities is the next step on the path for new…

Sometimes I envy them, mostly I don't though. Finding out my ex wife cheated destroyed me mentally. But I look back and realize that who I was mentally deserved to be destroyed. I was a doormat, I …

I'm not certain that my partner is an narc, I'm still evaluating. Heck I'm evaluating myself. But this posts did hit as a brick wall. My partner always tells me to open up more. I thought, and p…

I have done revision before on a painful memory and revising very painful memories are more difficult so I will try to help from my experience, first of all yes forgive yourself, I found that doing fo…

I think its wrong to compare yourself to other people, how much time passed and how long you were together. I had few breakups and you just learn to live with it tbh, occasionally they come up, either…

I’m a woman, been divorced 10 years, have introduced 2 men. Always given the courtesy to my ex to meet the new men, but other than that have not cared much about anything else. And neither should you!…

The reason I'm still in it- Those "small things" you take for granted are also extremely limited... some of them even more so. They will only ask for one more glass of water before bed 1,000 times,…

The number of people who have complimented my ring and or made comments about how much my husband must love me because of my large diamond ring... when I am not wearing a large diamond ring is hilario…

Amazing! Thanks for sharing!! 💕 Question 1: Does the head lift technique work during hypnagogic vibrations? Next Questions: Does this new method work even if we get up to go to the bathroom but ca…

Do you have your NRP? If so, literally move anywhere you possibly can. I was a brand new medic over 10 years ago and my starting pay was $21. You are not being valued or respected in your relationship…

Therapy once a week new medication and a psychiatrist. In terms of social things I did is I focused on gardening journaling and being on social media less