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Fyi there's a lot of evidence supporting that CPTSD and Autism can present VERY similarly in people. You aren't screwed and it will probably actually get easier as you age. Highschool is when we form…

Needing answers but knowing I'll probably never get them — This is not like me to post on here but this sub has been so helpful so I figured I would. I'm really struggling right now with the end of my relationship. My ex (M27) and I (F26) were together 2.5 ye…

First Connection After — Not quite divorced yet, 9 months into a 12 month waiting period, but had my first new emotional connection recently. Man it has fucked me up. While I think I have been ok with the divorce for a while …

Is preventing your teen from dating considered abusive? — my mom didn't allow me to date. she was often dismissive of my feelings towards girls when I was a teenager, saying it was just, "puppy love." She even screamed at me and best me when I said I wante…

Meeting people when you're over 30 seems impossible — Basically, I have low af self-esteem and it's difficult for me to meet women. I've tried to improve myself physically...I run and exercise 5x a week, I groom, I have and skin routines, I dress well, I…

I'm(29-FtM) thinking about breaking up with my BF (31-M). How do I know thats the right choice? — TLDR: I (29-FtM) and my boyfriend (31-M) have been together for the past 10 years and shared our friend groups and families with eachother. After some tragedies in my life, I am considering a breakup …

My nMom passed away. I handled her final days, funeral, and possessions. — ​ Growing up, I was always told that I looked exactly like my mother. I was her “spitting image.” I sounded like her, had her mannerisms, her laugh—everything. My younger brother also looked …

I [32F] found my husband’s [30M] hidden Snapchat account that he has been using to message other women — Throwaway account because my husband follows my main account. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. Married for 7. I had trusted him with my whole being. Not once did I ever consider anyt…

I also get very anxious. I try to act secure but my brain is going insane. Always overanalyzing, preoccupied, I genuinely cannot tell when I am overreacting and when I am right, so I always override m…

Surely there's a few adjacent hobbies to mine that could be an overlap? I'm just trying to think of anything that could expose me to more nerdy women if that makes sense. I just worry that I'll take …

You don't come across as too intimidating or too weird at all. I don't think the selfie first vs. last thing is going to make too much of a difference. If there's any problem with your photos, we can'…

I like it, caveat is I'm also a ambitious nerdy, active, and nature person. I like both prompts too. The green flags I suppose I understand other people's perspectives that maybe it doesn't tell the o…

I met a beautiful woman at a board game store over the weekend, I struck up some small talk with her and got her instagram. I sent her a message asking if she'd like to go on a date with me. She's tak…

I can feel this... But, if you are gonna give up on a match that is seemingly real... Why not just YOLO it? Strike up a conversation/question about something you would want someone to respond to? …

I have a date on Saturday. She's cute and nerdy and likes folk horror. There's been very little chatting, so I'm not really sure what to expect, but her vibes are fun. This'll be first date since g…

Sigh... I'm stupid. Delusional even. I guess with my 33rd birthday fast approaching, I'm naturally in a morose state thinking about my utter lack of success with romance. And somehow mulling about mis…

Hey thanks for the extensive advice. I really appreciate it. You hit a lot of good spots, and are clearly pretty smart. Although it would make me feel a lot better about myself, I doubt it is bugged b…

As before my issue with the comment and with this post also is that you're attempting to project and push your personal preferences onto the rest of society. You're moving things from "this is what I …

Definitely recommend moving to a bigger city if possible.  Either way, from what you say here and peeking at your posting history, it sounds like you’re an introverted nerdy guy. I’m not going to lie…

Hi. So let me start by saying I'm almost 40 and I've been where you are. It was hard. But after time I healed. I thought I lost my person when my (at the time fiance) left me. Out of the blue. Kicked …

Sun conjuncts Jupiter and Venus and Mercury in Scorpio here. Big personality, and in the 10th house even... Have had a bit of trouble with humility at workplaces. Or rather, they have trouble with…

This is only a problem for Asian diaspora that are struggling with identity and whites with white guilt. People with a sense of identity call it whatever the holiday name is. Lunar new year, latinx, f…

Masculine asian men in gaming? wut? One of the most well known esports player is faker. I dunno about you but he seems to fit the nerdy asian stereotype to a T. Not really knocking on him though when …

First, there is Sung Kang, the Korean American actor best known for portraying Han Lue in the Fast & Furious series. His character became a fan favorite for his calm presence and understated charisma …

I pretty much only date geeks too* because I'm pretty nerdy but I'm not having good luck with gamers. ETA its not about loving games, it's about all the personality and hygiene stuff that comes with …

Man, I feel like you're speaking my language! What hurts the most is the time she told me in a really loving moment 'I know you're not the average person...but that's what I love about you. Like, you…

And especially “nerdy industries” too, like video game companies

Some people have types, some people don't, some people's types depend on personality, or humor, or ambition, or physical traits... for example I love nerdy women, but I think it shows very little of a…

Okay, you’ve got so much of it down already. If there’s anything I would add, it’s CBT. Nerdy, I know but it just really helps, also paying attention to your breath and relaxing your body since I tend…

Not to even mention that quite a handful of those quiet nerdy Asian guys have absolutely hot Asian girlfriends too. One can blame a subset of Asian females for having a serious unhealthy racial bias i…

Men have zero understanding of what women find attractive. Most of them want a guy who looks a little pretty. Which is most Asian guys, but not all, women don't want a this Rambo / GI Joe aesthetic Am…

Yea permed hair after the first month does not look good so let it grow out and then retake photos. Also, heavily agree with getting contacts, as glasses make you look more nerdy than anything.

This made me laugh out loud but it doesn't have to be anything "that interesting" for me to be interested, for example my sister loves gardening and I expend hours on end hearing her talk about that b…

You mention you are neurodivergent and I see that you have Uranus and Neptune opposite Mercury, which can speak to that. Thinking and perceiving differently. Having specialist interests perhaps. That …

Different person but also an "only child / lost child". I did have friends through 6th grade (11/12 years old). After that, I was still a child emotionally/socially speaking while other kids were actu…

I think your Saturn in Leo in the 1st house (I always use whole sign system) may counteract your 5th house placements. Yes, Sagittarius is expansive and it's connected to optimism, but Saturn in the 1…

Hey bro, u actually don't look bad physically. Just some fine tuning and you'd kill. But these pictures gives off friendly and kinda feminine energy. Not trying to shade you. I know for a fact you'd p…

You're in Miami so try to look the part. It's, unfortunately, a superficial city so you gotta give off Tony Montana / Miami Vice vibes and look like you are some big shot. Diet and Weights are non-ne…

People always put their own pathology into it, and here I am weighing in, though I wish to take another route. These exact frustrations are why I went in and out of dating through the years. What pe…

I think it’s really important to establish that kind of social connection at a young age. My parents unintentionally did it to me (more so my mom). My dad had most of his friends in the Philippines …

So are you SURE you I don't have the same Nparent? Because these hit me in my chest: -“none of your friends are really your friends.” I've actually LOST more friends over the years when I was forced …

ngl ur sides look better than front ur face just has fat, cut, lean bulk, cut, lean bulk , cut you should look better after a few cuts and lean bulks i went form a nerdy skinny fat face to a sexy…

I'm trying a different tactic for online dating. I've been on and off the apps (Bumble, Hinge, FB Dating) for years, and each guy that I've met through an app hasn't worked out. I tend to go for the g…

You're talking yourself out of dating. Try Hinge or Bumble. It doesn't hurt to try. Do some research about what photos to use and how to fill out your profile in a generally appealing way. Plenty of…

Interesting. You’ve got some good insight there. He’s conventionally moderately attractive (but nerdy, which I like) and I believe has quite a bit of money, but quickly became stingy suggesting only f…

A key point of this article is how they define passing heritage culture, because it’s a vague term. Heritage culture can mean simply drinking boba tea or onsens in isekais, or it could mean explainin…

Asians were *generally* shorter than whites, but that was due to generational poverty and famine. Millennials and Gen Z in Korea and China are much taller than their parents, as are Asian diaspora in …

most east asian men probably arent masculine enough for white women , when watching asian movies . I noticed a lot of asian men try to look so soft / boyish / pale complexion like a woman , white wome…

>asian men need to stop looking so soft / nerdy with colored hair . soft hands / pale complexion Celebrities aren't a great representation of the general public, and Asian-American beauty standards …

Just summarizing another part of the article The following average heights are for both men and women mixed. They are projections/approximations of how tall 19 year olds are now based on existing dat…

I don't know. Seems worth a try at least. I wonder if I should try too. I'm a nerdy autistic computer guy in the SF Bay Area. Dating is hopeless here but I don't know if it's because I'm competing wi…

L O L absolutely not. My tall software engineer nerdy husband loved my nipple, septum and nose piercing. What he’s doing is called projecting his insecurities onto you. His loss. Never change yourself…

The most painful part for me is she went back to her previous ex's, and talks to them and her babies father frequently. But me, the guy who treated her better than all of them (I spoke with a large am…

To be clear the majority of non-Asian male partners of ESEA women I know of in the PNW are still white. I just happen to have met nerdy/geeky Black/Latino men as an adult who are probably sociological…

“Anime” is frequently focused around not only sexualizing, but fetishizing *little girls*. Women do not speak, behave, or look, (or exist solely for the entertainment of MEN) the way that these wildly…

Yup. Was in a situationship with a guy for a year and a half.. he love bombed the hell outta me, relied on me for almost everything, I took care of his daughter, paid his bills, helped him with money,…

The moment they start targeting us is the moment they can kiss our nerdy Asian tech, health, finance, etc. 6 figure salaries, and those juicy fat taxes, goodbye! I'm more than happy to go back home i…

I'm the friend that women aren't attracted to in that way, so I'm seasoned in receiving this kind of rejection. These friends handled it beautifully. When I expressed my interest in potentially buil…