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7 Months Post BreakUp - The Update — My ex and I were together for 8 years. I had left after he had finally admitted that he did not want to get married, or have kids. We had gone engagement ring shopping. But sounds as if he had no inte…

Site review and feedback requested — Hi there, I am new to the e commerce space but have been a crafter/sewist for a long time. With Joann's craft and fabric stores closing in the US, I made an ecomm site focused on subscription boxes fo…

Took the stock advice and joined social activities to meet people. Here are my results. — I (37M) decided to conduct an experiment and went out to the types of boilerplate events/gatherings/functions people suggest. Book clubs, sports, volunteering, etc. I joined a public book club throug…

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…

What are your social lives like? — Recently I saw a few comments here like “I have weekly activities scheduled every day of the week” and “this guy could only meet me one a month because of social obligations” and… I know I’m more of a…

Histories of Native American Treaties and Anti-Chinese Violence Win Bancroft Prize — Emilie Connolly’s “Vested Interests: Trusteeship and Native Dispossession in the United States,” published by Princeton University Press, examines the financial aspects of many U.S. government treatie…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

Am I (50M) Widower With A 7 YO Just Doomed To Be Alone? — Delete if this doesn’t fit the theme of the sub. I was 35 when I met my wife, she was 10 years younger than I was. Married at 38 and had trouble conceiving. Our miracle/rainbow baby was born in 2018 …

My mom cheated. She refuses to understand why we are upset at her — # Trigger warning for suicidal content My mom cheated. Looking back, I’m not entirely sure I’m surprised that she did, but I was still so shocked when I got the news. For most of my adult life, my …

16M mental health declining — I think that really, there are around 4-5 things I can think of that contribute to my mental health declining,mostly rooted in isolation, so this might drone on. Firstly, in the about year & a half i…

Swingers clubs .. — This is my first Reddit post! Sorry if it’s all over the place!! but I needed some insight from others who know what goes on in swingers / sex/ or “lifestyle” clubs… I’m dating a guy in his 30s, & we …

What I have learned through psychedelic mushroom usage + yoga — With the mushroom trips I have done throughout my life with lots of intention there were some good and bad trips. The good trips left me with a very grateful and happy attitude for life and the people…

My(32M) Ex wife(32F) might be stalking my wife(27F). Is it enough to be concerned? — A little bit of history between us. I was married to my ex wife let’s call her Jenn for 3 years and together for 5 (high school sweethearts). We both went to college at separate schools, but made our …

Help figure out who I am outside academia — I’ve always been alright at school, and a year younger than all my peers, so I’ve felt I’ve had to compensate for it. So I’ve thrown myself into advanced classes and many clubs. I always thought that …

Genuinely hate him — I've hated a few people in my life. My bullies, my ex friends who befriended my bullies, etc. I was quite rageful a good few years back. Then it was just numbness. I don't hate anymore. It's exhaustin…

How to deal with conditional support no glue no borax — I’ve been really frustrated with my parents after my college decisions and I’m not sure how to handle it. For context, I applied to a mix of UCs, publics, and some private schools (no Ivies). I was r…

Where do Asian Americans in the DMV area hang out these days? — please remove if this question is inappropriate for this sub, I don’t use reddit and just made an account to ask I moved back to NoVA recently after a decade away, and made the mistake of renting in …

How to overcome social isolation? — Long story ahead. If you can relate, let me know. I’m 27 now, and I haven’t had a single friend since elementary school. I moved to a different area at the start of middle school, wasn’t able to quit…

22F - I am a student in canada, facing a lot of problems on career and personal front please help me — I am a student in canada studying CS. I try a lot to get good coops (internships) but am constantly rejected .... inspite of having good grades and being president in various clubs .... these rejectio…

Guys idk what to do — this might seem silly or stupid but I'm literally pouring out half of my thoughts.. I can't take this anymore.. where did i go wrong?.. after Covid struck I got fat like really fat.. I was 80 kgs then…

I feel like I'll never be able to live normally after being cheated on. — I need some support. I(21F)'ve been with my boyfriend(26M)for a year and a half and we planned future together. More than two months ago I had the opportunity to go through his phone after big fight.…

When is it enough? (19m + 20f) — So I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just about 1 year and a half now. It is the longest relationship I've ever had, and by far the most intimate and close I've ever felt with someone.…

23 year old college grad AuDHD son will not stop going on about how we "drugged him up and weaponised therapy to ruin his life" — He went to UW. Graduated with a degree in computer science. We're all so very proud of him. Yet he just won't stop bringing up the past and how we "ruined his life and threw away his mental health". Y…

I (18F) want to explore, but love my bf (19M) — Hi! I’m 18F and my boyfriend is 19M We’ve been together for 3 years. Which is quite a lot for people our age. To put it bluntly. I really really love my boyfriend. But i feel like im missing out on…

I’m re-explaining my situation after everyone on this subreddit said I was the shittiest person alive — Hi everyone I know this is super long but please read all of it. So yesterday I posted this: “I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted and don’t know if I crossed a line or if this break…

Trust issues, how do I deal with them? — My boyfriend (22M) and I (23W) have been together for a little more than half a year now. Before that, we were best friends for years, which means we actually have a pretty solid foundation for our bo…

I (18M) hooked up with a friends friend (19F). Should I keep messaging — I (18m) was drinking with some friends last Saturday and got quite drunk. We had been drinking most the day and ending up going out to some bars and clubs. In one of these bars/clubs I met my friend’s…

Trying to specify my academic/life goals — I'm a freshman currently in my second semester of uni and I've started to question my life goals. Throughout my life, I've always been fascinated by space, so as a kid I figured I could be an engineer…

Anyone else have parents that are constantly changing the goal post(s) to put you down?? — My parents were upset I was hesitant about going to college, then upset I'm at college. Upset I'm not married yet, upset when I'm thinking about dating. Upset I'm unemployed, upset with the job I …

How do i move on? — Hey guys, i have a slight dilemma. Let me just say my entire story. When I was 17 i was w my partner for almost 5 years. I love him but it became toxic, he cheated and what not. I fully trusted him he…

How do people manage everything? — I just don’t get it. Not only do I feel like I’m wasting my life away and not doing enough for jobs (internships, clubs, classes, etc.), but I’m also wasting so many opportunities to just live life (t…

Why do I (26m gay) feel like being sexually abused after experiencing some minor trauma? — I (26M) was bullied as a gay boy when I was in primary school, and it continued after. Other boys called me names and sometimes they engaged into physical abuse. I remember having a dream as a kid of …

Overthinking like crazy right now — A friend invited me to join a cultural club at my school but I'm not a part of that culture. I know they do accept people from different cultures, but I feel like I may not fit in because I won't blen…

Engaged in the middle circle activity and hid it from the partner — I'm 26M gay, sex addict. 4 months sober from the actual acting out. Yesterday I had a bad day. I woke up and felt very triggered. I opened my phone (where I have all the filters installed and can’t l…

What do I do after getting cheated on? — Me and my boyfriend have been together 7 years and I just found out he was living a double life the whole time during our relationship. When we first started dating it was agreed we were in a closed …

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I…

I (21F) can’t get over my ex (21F) while also being in a relationship (21F) — Okay so this is my first post…. I just need some unbiased advice!! I (21F) have been in a relationship with a girl (21F) who we can call L for about 8 months. I met her on hinge and we immediately hi…

I (20M) am dating a girl (18F) who has been hiding that she smokes, what next? (sorry for bad english) — I recently got into my first relationship about 4 months ago, we are from the same university and share some classes, she has been pretty vocal about her abusive ex who smokes, (i will not share detai…

Tired of feeling like I’m cheating. — Any kind of movement towards moving on since the breakup just makes me feel like I’m cheating. New boy on my best friends list? cheating. Someone approaches me at the clubs? Cheating. Catching up over…

I (22F) don't know if I should break up with my girlfriend (22F) because of her chronic illness — I've been with my girlfriend for a bit over a year (my first relationship, she's had a few before this), and she's always had physical health issues, but recently it's become more difficult for me to …

1 Month NC. He sent an IG request but I know he's still hooking up. The urge to break NC is destroying me. — ​I met for a hookup a guy (24yo) but it turned into something much deeper and we both caught feelings. We spent over two months constantly together, with him initiating about 90% of the contact. He wa…

Loneliness is a major part of my depression, and I need help finding friends — Hope this is appropriate for this forum. I am in a lot of pain every day. I have been completely alone for many years. I have no friends at all, for over ten years but more generally all of my life. I…

my (26f) partner (25f) is concerned about my social life, how can I get better at making friends? — it feels silly to type this all out, the title doesnt even fit that well but it's all ive got. I'll start off by saying my relationship is really good and healthy. before we got together (it's been 5…

Am I an abuser? How can I make a change? — It’s hard to live with the fact that you might be an abuser, or, are an abuser. I’m not sure if it’s the same, being an abuser or doing an abusive thing, but at this point the labels don’t matter, I’m…

Bf (33M) upset because I (27F) “never plan anything” — Been knowing my bf for 3 years, dating for about 2. Today while we were on the phone he expressed that he was upset because he is bored and that I “never plan anything”. He also said that he felt like…

He's going to another college over 2,000 away and that's why I might have to end things. — I really don't want to and I dont really know if this is the right subreddit to post on since we're still together. We've (18F)(18M) known each other since freshman year and we've been dating almost 8…

He's going to another college over 2,000 away and that's why I might have to end things. — TL;DR: I really don't want to since we're still together. We've (18F)(18M) known each other since freshman year and we've been dating almost 8 months. Although 8 months doesn't sound that long, we've …

CPTSD — Trauma is taking me forever to get rid of — hey guys, i wanted to share my story, vent, and get some advice. so growing up, i have felt depressed/severely anxious almost my whole life! people surprisingly call me one of the happiest people …

How do I find out what I wan to do? — (I had to repost this because I put my age 😅) I know the title sounds dumb but I didn’t know what else to put. I’ve been struggling with a thought I’ve had for like a year. My friends do school cl…

I do a lot of masking at work (black, female, young, autistic) and I feel like my very being is not aligned with what profressionalism demands. Even the natural hair I'm born with is not seen as work …

Hope someone can tell me what i did wrong or misread. I’m in my 30s, Mikaylah is in her early 20s. i transferred to her department last July. At first i wasn’t interested in her as anything more than …

this didn’t get any traction in the previous thread so i’m hoping this one might get me some advice. i have to go back to work on friday so any help would be appreciated. Hope someone can tell me wh…

Board game clubs! A good mix of men/women where I am.

Yeah, we have Hinge, Bumble, Tinder and OKCupid in the UK. By cozy gaming, I'm guessing you mean games like Stardew Valley and so on? Music might be a no-go as I get sensory overload at gigs/festival…

Having learned from my dad, I enjoy an occasional round of golf, but I totally get why it turns people off, especially women. For me, it's not golf the sport, but golf the culture: the private clubs, …

I at least have social hobbies (dance, ice staking, run clubs when it's warmer, and other activities). Otherwise, I'd probably be like I was a few years ago: feeling sorry for myself regarding my life…

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Taking up dance and other new hobbies have helped me with talking to women (especially compared to where I was 3-4 years ago, but I 100% agree that people have no perspective. I have no idea how to me…

I’ve always been team join clubs and volunteer for causes you care about, not just to meet women. I know if I was doing something I cared about and was genuinely interested in, it would be very easy t…

bro you should join hobby clubs based on your interests, not based on intentions to find a mate.

Based on my experiences, I’d say you maybe went about it wrong. You certainly joined the wrong sport, if nothing else- rather than writing the idea off (and saying people with different experiences do…

Go to activities where your type might be. I heard running clubs and sauna clubs are the new tinder (here in Copenhagen) You’ll likely meet more singles and younger ones in a big city.

I’ve met pretty much all my friends through these types of clubs and those friendships have been invaluable throughout my single life. Their fun, friendship snd social support make being single enjoya…

IHO, people, who join clubs just to get themselves a partner, are a huge red flag. The whole point of "find new social hobbies" advice is to 1. Make your life more diverse and therefore interesting.…

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you're middle-aged yourself. Keep checking out clubs and activities, not every woman there is going to be a wife.

It’s definitely possible but I agree that it’s difficult. It’s more effective as “do a bunch of things, join clubs and communities for social interaction, and dating may be a byproduct, more than do i…

That’s where you messed up… you have to join these clubs in areas where there are people around your age, I.e. big urban cities and colleges. I also don’t see you mention anything about a run club or …

i think you're misunderstanding the advice. when i tell people to join clubs it's to meet new friends and get experience with socializing, and then the finding a partner comes later when the person ga…

People miss the entire root of this advice: You go to clubs to make friends. Then, either those friends invite you to other things, OR, you host things and invite your new friends to bring their fri…

You’re kinda missing the point. You didn’t join real life dating apps. People aren’t participating in activities, clubs and sports with the purpose of dating. They do it because they enjoy it. Join …

I feel like that advice is more about increasing the amount of potential partners you're around and getting more comfortable around them. It's not a magic bullet and generally isn't going to happen qu…

One visit to one or even many clubs does not a true evaluation make. 

Three events isn't an experiment, it's a bad week. Nobody's saying go to one book club and meet your wife. The point is to become a regular somewhere so you're seeing new faces over months, not auditi…

also, to pile on what someone else said, if you’re passionate about a book club but are not thrilled about the people in your current book club, you can always ditch it and find another until you find…

it’s why I stopped run clubs for the most part. it’s just a dating scene in my city, kind of waiting for the trend to die down before I join up again. just been running solo/with some friends for a bi…

And none of these married couples have single female friends who they could introduce you to, you couldn’t go for drinks with the guys to a bar that single women go to and meet some new people, and no…

The people saying you need to practice making friends is crazy. What no one tells you is that the overwhelming majority of people are below average and pretty boring to be around. It’s very hard to ma…

Just my experience but I had the exact same experience. I have gone to COUNTLESS clubs, sports, activities of all types and genres over 10+ years in different places and have never once met someone wh…

Run clubs have to end. I’m sick of getting mowed down by these packs of smelly people (and I say that as a singular smelly girl). I cannot even understand how this is conducive to meeting anyone! I’m …

the thing with Reddit is, its mostly socially awkward people telling other socially awkward people how to do things that they themselves have no idea how to do its the blind leading the blind. Joini…

Go to singles events and join clubs for singles who want to find partners. They are out there. At least then the odds of meeting eligible women will go up.

The reason I give this advice over and over is that you should be living authentically and doing things you love anyways. When we do that, we build community that reflects who we are. I never give thi…

100% this. Joining social clubs and activities are something you do because they enrich your life in general, not JUST to try and scout romantic partners. Ideally you meet a variety of cool and intere…

this is the right way to see it, events and social clubs MUST never be treated like dating apps, it's about building connections and this only works in the long term

Are there major cultural differences between your home country and the US? Since you're pretty solid "on paper" in terms of looks and financial stability, there must be something else that's become a …

I just endured Hinge. I ended up caving and paid for premium, but it worked.  Besides that, you'll get the advice to join clubs, activities, and/or do volunteer work to hope you meet someone or meet…

I have heard is is mostly running clubs now.

Hi everyone! I'd like to know if anyone has any fresh perspectives or advice on my situation. I'm a 36-year-old man, diagnosed with autism. Never had a girlfried, neither my first kiss or hug  I…

I think it helps having a good read on whether or not someone is likely to be receptive. And if you have found yourself interested in two separate women at the same place, it seems you're not selectiv…

I used to have this problem a few years ago when i was super introverted and had chronic anxiety at 20. But I did a lot of cool exercises/games that built up a skill where I could talk to most beaut…

I feel like my ascendant Leo was more dominant before I turned 30. I was an absolute social butterfly and loved going to parties and clubs and brunches. I’m probably closer to my cancer sun now at 34.…

I'm a local, but I just came back after spending 12 years abroad, so I did have to rebuild my social connections from nearly zero. In order to make friends, my suggestion is to join group activities…

I have a few thoughts here. So I think you are starting with a baseline assumption that is not always correct. Not everyone cares about being “presentable” or “attractive.” There are also some reg…

I think I’ve been trying too hard when it comes to dating. For the past 2 years I’ve gone to social events, cold approached women, used r4r, joined clubs/meetups, singles mixers, and speed dating even…

I’m not looking forward to the end of experience. It seems like whatever hostile thing is directed at me wants me to become pure bliss so it can extract it from me. I just want an end to suffering. Th…

Like lots of us, the apps probably won’t work for you. Get yourself in a position where you meet people and you won’t be setting yourself up for the rejection that you fear. Do you have Meetup in Aust…

Big lesson I can say is to also read the room and go with the flow of that. Looks do play a part, but definitely the more subtle cues will do a LOT. Things like how you're dressed does definitely pl…

First thing's first -- do I think you'll be able to find someone? Yes, absolutely. Call me a hopeless romantic, but I believe there is someone for everyone out there. Life is not a race so if you find…

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