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I'm learning myself

It's great you have self-awareness, that's a big step! In FAs, deactivation can come from both abandonment and engulfment triggers. It may be good to think about what goes through your mind before you…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment3/12/2026
a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition — lyrics: Who am I without wanting you? A shadow tracing something true There's a part of me that still holds onto you tight To every place you touched in my life I can't tell where you end, and I b…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost1/29/2026
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories.

NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…

r/experiencerspost3/13/2026
It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it matters WHO does it

It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it matters WHO does it — Lately I’ve been thinking about how working on yourself is actually really important when it comes to manifestation (and no, don’t immediately assume it’s something hard). The phrase “it doesn’t mat…

r/Manifestationpost3/23/2026
Just trying to gain closure on my own...

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
Healing

Healing — It’s been 3 weeks since we broke up. 5 years 3 months 2 days evaporated. You showed me your true colors right away with the lies, gaslighting, and cheating. I endlessly gave you the benefit of the dou…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/30/2026
Just keeps getting worst

Just keeps getting worst — I recently was broken up with a women I thought was different. It was about a month ago when we got into a small fight but that’s how she decided to end it. I did everything for her I loved her so muc…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
Do you regress when around them? I don't think regress is the right word but do you fall into a role that is truly not you around them? Like the real you falls apart?

Do you regress when around them? I don't think regress is the right word but do you fall into a role that is truly not you around them? Like the real you falls apart? — Nmom thinks I am such a dirty, unorganized person. They never taught me how to clean but I did teach myself and when I am elsewhere and in my own space I love keeping stuff clean and having a routine …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/7/2026
My last pebble from a broken penguin

My last pebble from a broken penguin — I am not sure if you will ever read this but if you do I’d want you to know I forgive you. when we first met everything was perfect. We connected like if we had knew each other in a past life. You wer…

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
The real you,

The real you, — When Neville Goddard speaks about SATS, that space that is not fully awake but not yet asleep, he is pointing to the gap between thoughts, where the personal mind has quietened down. You are no longer…

r/nevillegoddardpost4/9/2026
Analyzing Astrology (Natal) Charts

Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment1/18/2024
A Metaphor for Avoidance?

I will give my own experience as an FA. A lot of women will project who they want me to be onto me, even If I gave no indication of such from the beginning and even when I actively try to shatter pr…

r/attachment_theorycomment6/3/2025
Is deactivation the real her?

It’s the real her (confused, emotional, unstable) but the real you is shattering the fantasy version of you (not your fault). Her fantasy of how your relationship was going to go just got “real” now s…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/12/2025
Is deactivation the real her?

You say that you yourself are FA. Which one is the real you: the charming love-bomber or the cold, deactivated version of you? Understanding your own mind states and thought and behavior patterns and …

r/attachment_theorycomment11/18/2025
The fear of intimacy

AA is an insecure style for a reason. It expresses itself through that neediness, but what makes it insecure is its inability to fully sit with true connection. AAs claim to want intimacy, but want th…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/12/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

It’s difficult to find someone who sees you - not what they want to see - the real you. That woman never really saw you. She chose to pass on you instead. That’s not on you - that’s on her and that’s …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/25/2026
Growing my inner child feels like murdering my soul

It's just temporary because you're not used to being in real YOU, that unknowing what to expect is cause of the pain but that will go away. Once you turn back on time well spent (unlike some times in…

r/Codependencycomment3/9/2026
Are there really men out there that like bigger women?

I think a more valid question is do you want to date them? If a person passes you up for weight, that’s their own issue-not your’s. And as long as your photos reflect the real you the people who selec…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
I was going to be incredible

Your gifts are still there yet, waiting to slowly surface when you feel safe enough. When we begin to feel safe enough, we begin to awake from dissociation. Things can shift and change when we can beg…

r/CPTSDcomment3/13/2026
What are some of your best manifestation techniques? The ones you ACTUALLY swear by?

You don’t block them. You allow and accept them and then transmute them. I made a free meditation you can use - it’s on the Insight Timer App. You can access with a free account. search “The Library o…

r/lawofattractioncomment3/14/2026
All (That I Can Think Of) Asian Performers Currently Playing A Principal Role In a Broadway Musical!

i wish some people here would use the energy they reserve for hating asian women/mixed asians and channel it towards actually supporting real young male asian creatives that they vaguely gesture towar…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/15/2026
My last message to her

No. Basically if she is willing to block you completely out of her life, then you did not mean much to her. The fact that she would only accept “you” if you changed, means she was looking for someon…

r/BreakUpscomment3/15/2026
The Moment I Realized Astral Projection Was More Real Than I Ever Imagined

That was not AP twin you just dreamed that's all AP is much much different and surreal you just hallucinated

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/17/2026
I'm a rotten abuser and I can't forgive myself for it and I don't feel that I should.

I could have written this post at some point. Not now, but also not that long ago either. I still live with some shame, but I am much better now and so is my marriage. One thing that clicked in my hea…

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
Taking advantage of the neuroplasticity to remove insecurities

Yes, but don't even joke about gaslighting yourself. You can't gaslight yourself - a bad thing - into improvement - a good thing. The reason why I'm being pedantic is because the thing with using psyc…

r/Psychonautcomment3/18/2026
Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better?

It sounds very much like lack of interest. Introverted doesn't mean disinterested. And why would he change? After 7 months not wanting to get to know the true inner real you, it won't happen on month …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/21/2026
I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy.

To add to OP's explanation, and to reflect on your question - your "reality" is where you pay or spend your attention. Attention is like the currency of the imagination. Imagination is the reality and…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/21/2026
Anyone else feel like they’re going to be alone forever?

Its too hard to find someone could understand and still love you despite your weakness, and respest the real you, not idealized image.

r/BreakUpscomment3/22/2026
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

"Lets be real you got nothing done today"

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/25/2026
How I finally "tricked" my analytical mind and shifted from AP to Eversong Woods

Only hallucinations do that, psychic body is the mind body it can go out but also fake a experience and 99% you are just hallucinating like other people,, when it's real you will just know, you can de…

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/26/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 26, 2026

>I’m worrying about Okay listen, you don't need to filter how you are perceived. Be yourself and let things be real and authentic from the start. If they don't like your texting style and use that as…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/26/2026
I cheated on my husband (online) and want to leave this behind me.

Please go to therapy individually and as a couple. Strangers on Reddit cannot help you. But I will tell you this, your husband wants to stay because he actually loves and cares about you. The real yo…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/28/2026
porn and gore ruined my sense of self, i will never be normal. no matter how much you force me to.

I have recovered from porn addiction ( but still have fallback once in a long while) and consuming harmful media, like gore and other stuff. And let me tell you i was in your exact same position for a…

r/CPTSDcomment4/2/2026
Can I get a profile review please. It’s just the text I need feedback on - see link.

it feels insincere - i doubt this is your "talking" voice. Make it sound like you- the real you- your syntax, your slang, how you genuinely talk

r/datingoverfortycomment4/2/2026
Spoon bending with psychokinesis and next steps

Gateway tapes, can't be more honest than that. For anything PSI especially. Everything here is different, purpose and intention matters the most. The normal focused meditation where you return with yo…

r/gatewaytapescomment4/2/2026
If someone "hates small talk" why is that anyone else's problem?

Introvert here- when I see that phrase used, it’s not about “exciting” conversation. It means they don’t want their time wasted with talk about the weather. They want to get to know you- the real you-…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/3/2026
It's funny thinking back to when I first read Neville, it felt like everything could finally be better, like there was a way to live that wasn't how we doing it, because something always felt different.

You might not believe in your power but it doesn’t make it not true. If I have it then you do too. The world is at our fingertips but we’re spending too much time trying to undo something. If you sit…

r/nevillegoddardcomment4/4/2026
How to Create a "New Identity"?

Man, I actually really get what you’re saying here. That line “we don’t attract what we want, but what we are” hits hard because it kind of forces you to look at yourself instead of just wishing for s…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
What made you believe in manifesting?

Honestly, I really feel where you’re coming from. That “I want to believe but I just can’t” place is frustrating because it feels like you’re locked out of something that everyone else says is possibl…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
Is there still a chance?

Man… I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That kind of switch up, like one day everything feels normal and the next day she says she doesn’t love you, that messes with your head hard. I’ve been…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
What book has positively impacted your life the most so far?

I like this question a lot, it’s one of those where you can kind of tell where someone’s head is at based on their answer. So now I’m curious, what’s yours? If I had to pick one that really shifted t…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
Anyone else notice the more you focus on positive energy, the more good stuff kinda shows up?

Yeah I’ve 100 percent noticed that too, and I don’t think you’re crazy for questioning it. It’s one of those things where you don’t fully understand it, but you can’t ignore it either because you’ve s…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
Manifasting the “wrong way” worked.

This is actually really cool to read, and honestly kind of reassuring. You didn’t “do it wrong” at all, if anything you accidentally proved something a lot of people overcomplicate. A book that helpe…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
Am I being too passive?

I’m gonna be real with you, what you described actually sounds way more solid than you think. Like… you’re worried you’re being too passive, but the way you’re handling doubts and sticking to “it’s al…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
It can change in an instant if you let it.

Man this actually hit me a bit. The way you described those months, especially the part about not having proper meals sometimes, that’s real. And the shift you had wasn’t some forced “be positive” thi…

r/lawofattractioncomment4/5/2026
I think i need anxiety meds, how to cope without?

Please check out the podcast Disordered. It's very very accessible and you will learn a ton about anxiety. It literally was the helping hand out of my horrible anxiety pit when I was so afraid I would…

r/Anxietyhelpcomment4/5/2026
I’m new to shifting

It's whatever you want! You can go to any reality, so if you want to be at Hogwarts for real you can do that, or you could shift to a reality where you are on the set.

r/realityshiftingcomment4/6/2026
my mom is coming through my town briefly and wants to stay the night in my apartment and i don’t know how to tell her no

If you feel.uncomfortable saying no, or if you know that the consequences of saying no are going to be very stressfull, i hear you. I suggest you make up a bogus excuse. To make it real you could best…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/6/2026
My gf (F19) and I (M23) have cheated on each other. Would I be blinded by love if I stay with her?

If this is real you need to not date anyone for like a year or two get a hobby, lift some weights, start eating healthy, join a religion, a cult idk literally anything that isn't whatever this is.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality

This has to be fake. I'm so tried of these.  My GF wants X or will break up with me. If these are real you'd say ok cool good luck with your next partner not a giant wall of text. 

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
Quantum jumping/manifesting to a new country- help!

The quantum is aligning your energy with your consciousness/soul. This might seem like word play, but it isn’t.  You are consciousness’ already. You cannot learn it, you can’t study it, you can’t ge…

r/Manifestationcomment4/6/2026
I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card?

If this is even real you are out of your mind to put up with it.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
You all really helped me

Yes you are all saying différent stuff of course but you all says that the high school DxD univers and his characters are real you all told me that , is that right?

r/realityshiftingcomment4/6/2026
Stable node. Seeking advice.

How fantastic to be a universe that feels. To understand zen and the void which dreams you, you will need to accept all as it is, accept yourself as you are. The deep down real you is the whole thin…

r/experiencerscomment4/6/2026
Wife (31) complains / vents & is critical towards me (husband, 33) and we get stuck in a loop

i’m gonna be real you’re not “screwed” but you are in a cycle you’re both feeding she vents because she feels disconnected you pull back because it turns you off which makes her feel more disconnected…

r/relationshipscomment4/7/2026
Time is fake; there is nothing but you.

The core claim of this post can be summarized like this: "You already have what you want. The real you has already arranged everything, so there is nothing to do, and failure is impossible." Under on…

r/nevillegoddardcomment4/7/2026
Men attraction to filters?

Hard no, and hard pass! If you can't show the real you, I'm not interested. I look like my pictures, and I expect women to look like theirs.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Men attraction to filters?

I've said it before, filters are a pore substitute for the real you.

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026