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My ex hooked up with a literal model weeks after the break up. I still love her but I have no hope.

the "i can't handle a relationship right now" line is the oldest play in the book for someone who wants the freedom to hook up without the guilt of hurting you. it feels like a personal attack on your…

r/BreakUpscomment4/1/2026
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

r/digital_marketingpost5/2/2025
LogWhisperer – AI-powered log summarizer that runs locally (no OpenAI keys, no cloud)

LogWhisperer – AI-powered log summarizer that runs locally (no OpenAI keys, no cloud) — I built an open-source CLI tool called **LogWhisperer** that uses a local LLM to summarize Linux system logs into human-readable summaries. It’s useful for triaging noisy logs, quick postmortems, or j…

r/DevOpspost5/6/2025
Ingo Swann, did anyone experience something similar to what he did?

Ingo Swann, did anyone experience something similar to what he did? — I want to be careful here because I’m not trying to promote pseudoscience. At the same time, I’ve had some dreams in my life that have turned into reality exactly as I saw in the dream, so I’m open-mi…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/10/2026
Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything

Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/10/2026
M30, no direction, no future. Just surviving on autopilot. Have I wasted my entire life

M30, no direction, no future. Just surviving on autopilot. Have I wasted my entire life — Hi everyone, M31. Since childhood I grew up in a dysfunctional family: my mother was always absent because of work, and when she came home she was stressed, irritable, angry at the whole world, and v…

r/selfhelppost3/27/2026
How to disconnect from sensory distractions, transforming external noise as preparation for AP

How to disconnect from sensory distractions, transforming external noise as preparation for AP — I want to share a perspective on sound and "noise" that might fundamentally shift how you approach the vibratory stage and the meditative stillness required for projection. Often, we view external sou…

r/AstralProjectionpost4/2/2026
Helplessly lonely and bitter

Helplessly lonely and bitter — Helplessly lonely and bitter Hi reddit! I’ve been around on reddit for a while now with different accounts, now made a throwaway to contact humans in some form and if not ask for help, at least dare…

r/selfhelppost4/6/2026
Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent

Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent — I (17f) keep flopping between whether i am a rotten abusive daughter who is ungrateful and my parents (50f) (54m) are the problem i absolutely hate them and wish the worst. soo yeah...... i guess i so…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/9/2026
Is there possibly a worse context to take psychedlics than a Western medical setting?

Is there possibly a worse context to take psychedlics than a Western medical setting? — I know people are experimenting with psychedlics inside the medical model, but it just seems wrong to me. The idea of doing psychedelics is to break in-built social paradigms, and the medical model is…

r/Psychonautpost4/10/2026
Fell asleep in 4 minutes to a hypnosis track my own AI wrote, it's an app

Fell asleep in 4 minutes to a hypnosis track my own AI wrote, it's an app — Ok, so a few months ago I got curious about hypnosis. Not the stage-show stuff. The boring clinical kind people use for sleep, anxiety, focus, whatever. I saw a hypnotherapist once and it was actuall…

r/LucidDreamingpost4/11/2026
My (27F) boyfriend (29M) makes me feel unattractive and I’m not sure what to do

My (27F) boyfriend (29M) makes me feel unattractive and I’m not sure what to do — MY (27F) boyfriend (29M) makes me feel ugly. We are together for 3 years. I mean I know I’m not a 10. But he keeps on making me feel ugly. And it’s not like he comes and tells me “you are ugly” but …

r/relationship_advicepost4/11/2026
💾 Why You Should Consider MinIO Over AWS S3 + How to Build Your Own S3-Compatible Storage with Java

Please note the following is my opinion only, YMMV. I like minio for homelab or developer use cases. When it comes to cost though, I'd argue that S3 is generally cheap enough for anything that is ei…

r/DevOpscomment5/7/2025
Decided it’s time to call out blatant misrepresentation regarding our sub

Dynamic Maturation Model, it's Crittenden's expansion on Ainsworth's original attachment model from the 60s. It's more focused on the concepts of information and emotional processing and distortion th…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/11/2026
r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
I'm deactivated right now and not sure it's worth trying to save my marriage

Something else came to mind for me, thinking about your situation. So, I am part of Mettagroup's attachment healing program and according to their model, it is much, much easier for a dismissive avoid…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/19/2026
How honest are securely attached people?

Patricia Crittenden’s way of understanding attachment behaviour really helps me with thinking about what security looks like. In her framework, avoidance is marked by privileging cognitive information…

r/attachment_theorycomment3/3/2026
A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil

Honestly asking myself "Why?" Hasn't help a thing. It's just sparked war within and almost spills out onto others. Why is a good investigative tool to understand what it is that's causing deregulation…

r/therapycomment3/8/2026
Am I invisible to men as a woman in mid 40s? I'm not dealing with aging well.

Yes, I didn’t take the prospect of turning 40 well at first, but honestly I’d never been in better shape and felt more confident while dating. Sure, I’m not turning heads like a 20 yo runway model, …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
Would you stay in a relationship with someone like this?

I’d never take a chance on a financially unstable partner again. I was lucky to leave my marriage without sharing in the unpaid debts of his business (that he lied to me about) or the six-figure tax f…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again?

Lmao? We are roughly the same height and you weigh less than me and you’ve had a child. I’m not a stick thin model, but I’m far from overweight. You could lose a bunch of weight by getting rid of …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
Female stand up comedian that support asian man.

This "two origins" theory is fringe and not credible, discredited decades ago. Austronesians (I think you meant to say) descend from the same African migration as everyone else. The dual-origin hypoth…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/12/2026
The way as a slave

For Epictetus, to be a slave is to be chained to bad judgment. One can be chained to bad judgment while living by the land on their own, or living in a busy city of ten million people. The good news i…

r/Stoicismcomment3/12/2026
This is harder than it should be. 🥸

When I dated, I used apps a total of about 5 or 6 weeks over the course of 8 or 9 years. During that time, I met lots of great guys that I would not have met had I not used apps. I also met people …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
unpopular opinion virtual therapy is better than in person

It is definitely more convenient. It does open up options for people in rural or small/close-knit communities and makes therapy a more viable thing for them- not everyone is going to feel comfortable …

r/therapycomment3/17/2026
The "Manosphere"

most men dont seem to want to be a positive influence on boys. and thats exactly my point. if you take a look at the coments regarding any news about boys being raped or groomed by a teacher, most men…

r/Stoicismcomment3/18/2026
Who else was "the lost child" in their dysfunctional family?

I was the eldest son - I had to be a role model, and a servant. Constantly eating shit sandwiches of responsibility and not rocking the boat. Couldn’t socialize or learn to date, because that would be…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/19/2026
You cannot build a future with someone who is incapable of repair

I always over function the heck out of repair with partners. I role model, I support and set up conversations. I hadn’t realised. No more. We’re human, it’s normal to make mistakes. You don’t fix. You…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/20/2026
How do I (M22) explain to my girlfriend (F20) that I have a substantial amount of money?

OP, take some advice from people who have no stake in this - keep your business to yourself. There is nothing good to come out of you disclosing your financials. Best thing you can hope for is “oh, th…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing?

Unless you're 6ft+, with a great physique and look like model, the majority of women between 18-30 arent going to match... even the ugly ones. This is how it is for 90% of men on the dating apps in A…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/23/2026
A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault.

They don't care man its the business model, prob want him to keep making appointments

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 23, 2026

Its been so disappointing lately, and even humiliating at times now. I'm sad and getting tired. Long stream of consciousness rant incoming. I'm giving myself 2 weeks from today for...idk SOMETHING t…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/23/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

There’s no agreed upon understanding of the mind, body, and spirit. There’s literally 2 industries of mental health and physical health, both broken and only benefit those making money off anything th…

r/CPTSDcomment3/24/2026
Do you get given gifts that prove how little they know about you?

My mother got me the generic, white, basic kitchenaid mixer. Great gift, but newer versions were out. I’d asked why not the larger one I’d asked for. The response was that she would never buy me anyt…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/24/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

Get a neurodivergent therapist if you can find them I know a bunch of them because I got diagnosed through a psychology group that does testing, and then I asked for somebody who is ND themselves and …

r/CPTSDcomment3/24/2026
Anyone else see what AP looked like and felt shocked at the “downgrade”??

My ex’s AP is older than me. I’m no super model, but I think I’m better looking than her. That said, I do believe that there’s more to feeling a connection with someone than just looks. In my case…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/25/2026
My issue with focus 12 problem solving

"This system of Focus Levels aligns with the concept of the phasing model, which offers a more dynamic approach to understanding consciousness. The phasing model suggests that instead of a rigid separ…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/26/2026
How to handle envy?

Any time! I highly encourage you dive into the wiki in the sidebar. It has great info that is directly related to your question. For instance, this is what I was trying to say but this is much more c…

r/Stoicismcomment3/27/2026
I have an Ai addiction and need help

"But it's taking away my creativity, my motivation to do things." How so? Sounds like you're dreaming of becoming an animator. What kind of stories do you want to tell? How can you tell them what the…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/27/2026
I have an Ai addiction and need help

I may actually be able to chime in here! I'm a software engineer and made a project demonstrating AI usage. I wanted to demonstrate how much fresh water was used each time you used the AI part of the …

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/27/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

CBT = good if you stubbed your toe once, or for treading water when life is otherwise normal without drowning too suddenly. If like most of us you are still in the mire, with instances or at least chr…

r/CPTSDcomment3/28/2026
Why are koreans so class/status conscious?

Thank you for being brave and opening up about your experience. I myself is a young first gen (or 1.5 gen, even though I personally dont really love that label) who was fortunate and privileged enough…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/29/2026
The new girl comparison

He broke it off with me for an Instagram fitness model, I felt so terrible and I feel the same way you do right now. It sucks so much.

r/ExNoContactcomment3/31/2026
Lucid dreaming vs astral projection - is there actually a difference?

I agree with what you're writing. A cool observer's mind and logic are essential, just like the ability to work with emotions -I've been learning that since childhood (thanks to LD). I've never ha…

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/31/2026
My husband(35M)wants me to quit job because I(36F)make more than him.I don’t know what to do?

Divorce! The kids deserve a better role model, not someone with such a sensitive ego that would even make Hitler giggle.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
Any Coda people read the new Lindy West book?

I have not, I am kind of considering it but a part of me feels like it will utterly depress me. I really enjoyed Lindy West's writing, and this has sent me down a terrible rabbit hole for several week…

r/Codependencycomment3/31/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 31, 2026

While I agree you have to be attracted to the person physically, if your bar is "ridiculously high" and you're not a) a model, or b) very wealthy then you need to find some realism. Also remember wha…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/1/2026
People that are passionate about something, were you born liking that thing or you forced yourself to?

It's a personality trait. Look up the five factor model, specifically the trait openness to experience. People who score high in this trait are interested in ideas and are passionate about things. …

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/2/2026
Specifically within this chart, is there an indication of a lack of prioritization and need for romantic partners ?

It may be, yes...the ruler of your 7th house Mars in is in your first house in Libra where he is in detriment. I always find Libra risings in some way fascinating because this Ascendant inverts the w…

r/AskAstrologerscomment4/2/2026
Does anyone else realize they were a weird kid because their parents did not teach them social skills?

Yes! My mother always argued with everyone and said mocking negative things, it wasn't until I got married and got to know my absolutely lovely MIL and finally had a decent role model, that I learned…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

I feel for you. I went through something very similar and it was hell. I also have ADHD, which made me blame myself for all my quirks instead of him for his behaviour. Eventually I fixated on the cy…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
The Scientific Dispute Over Near-Death Experiences - Part 2: The Temporal Lobe and Out-of-Body Experiences

Another great write up. One thing I see in NDE reports of OBEs, but not astral projection reports, is an experience of 360 degree vision. Also, enhanced perception. "I could see their hair follicles i…

r/AstralProjectioncomment4/4/2026
Has anyone else as a young kid assumed possible sexual intent from parental affection?

There is a topic called Ambient Incest or Emotional incest, also Covert Incest. I think some parents might not be actual paedophiles, but instead don't have healthy boundaries, eventually leading to …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/5/2026
Why Don't Quality Men Seem To Want To Be With Me?

I'm a 49yo M, and I totally agree. A woman doesn't have to be filthy rich or a model, but she has to have a good life in order. Otherwise, i have to plan to stretch my retirement to make up for her li…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Struggling with a repulsion: I love my partner but feel physically trapped and repulsed by intimacy.

Sorry for bad English, not main language. Really depends on the model, gemini has so much restrictions that is impossible to make a better suicide plan with him not highlighting any bad point that wo…

r/CPTSDcomment4/7/2026
Thought i(24F) had a low sex-drive, married a guy(30M) who matched it, found out i just had a hormonal imbalance for 9 years. Now our libidos don't match anymore, how can I resolve this?

I would ask.....if you can't/don't want to have sex what is the point of worrying about the hair loss? Plenty of professional men are bald. And, unless he's a model, probably won't challenge his perce…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Girlfriend (F24) wants threesome, I (M25) think it would be a terrible idea. How to proceed?

Deadass i thought about it, would have to get someone worse looking than her because she would get very insecure otherwise (even though shes literally a model, i simply cannot understand the lack of c…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
Cross-referencing DMT reports and the overlap is hard to explain

'Neural hardware' and 'culture' are not independent - they're inextricably interrelated. It's also pretty much impossible to separate experience as experienced from experience as remembered and relate…

r/Psychonautcomment4/9/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

If he is the way he is because of what his childhood and family was like, was what he saw every day, was what he learned to model, stop and think: Think very long and very hard about what *your* child…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Is there possibly a worse context to take psychedlics than a Western medical setting?

I'm very critical of the concept of "mental health" for the very reason that our minds are a complex interaction of our in-built personalities, our histories, and our social contexts. It is very much …

r/Psychonautcomment4/10/2026
Is there possibly a worse context to take psychedlics than a Western medical setting?

Isn't this interesting?  My first approach is to make the strongest possible argument for my case. Result? I'm labelled a radical extremist.  My second approach tempers my argument to seem more pa…

r/Psychonautcomment4/10/2026