rebound

the "i can't handle a relationship right now" line is the oldest play in the book for someone who wants the freedom to hook up without the guilt of hurting you. it feels like a personal attack on your…

The "and" theory... — I saw this a few days ago and started to implement it, I can't tell you how much it has allowed me to have more compassion for myself, create a clearer head and process my emotions. The and theory is…

Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …

Has anyone else felt anxiety relief from taking ibuprofen? — I have SUPER severe anxiety, and I also get migraines a lot. Recently I'm just getting over my fear of medication and I had a migraines 3 days ago, so I took tylenol and 600 mg if ibuprofen and zofran…

She’s back.. — My ex gf dumped me 6 months ago. She immediately rebounded with some younger guy at her work. We were together for 5 years, we moved across the country together and after she had dumped me I decided t…

The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…

Ex is back on dating apps looking for a ‘life partner’ 4 weeks after — He (33m) ended our 1,5 years relationship (34f) as he said he can’t commit to anything long term 4 weeks ago. Prior to that he asked me to move in and said how beautiful our kids would be… it was a co…

1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true — No, I do NOT want my ex back—like ever 😭 but I do have a story + some lessons from how everything played out. So basically, about 1.5 years ago, my ex randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. Like……

Rebound? — Recently, I have become closer to one of my friends. He's cute, and I think he's into me, but I suspect that he is using me as a rebound for his ex. I think he broke up with his gf of a year (maybe …

Can You Change a Toxic Relationship? - Is this the right place to post this? — Hello, I am a long-time lurker of this sub first time poster. I’m not sure how to even start this post all I can say is I am completely at a loss. I am so afraid to be alone. Actually, I am horrified.…

Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…

He got into a relationship the very next day!! — Hi, me and my ex were in a relationship for 5 years and know each other for almost 5.5 or 6 years now. We had a very loving and truthful relationship. We were genuinely very close, emotionally, me…

To the people who have rebounded after a break up why did you do it?

Should I apologize to my ex? and if so, is this a good way to do it? — About two weeks ago, my (18f) ex bf (18m) (we dated for a year) broke up with me for a variety of reasons, most of them being because he didn't have time anymore/was too busy/didn't have the emotional…

My ex hooked up with a literal model weeks after the break up. I still love her but I have no hope. — My ex of 1.8 years broke up with me in January, we both made our mistakes. Mid-January, she reached out, we kept seeing each other to make It work since she missed me but she said we couldn't be seen …

Does anyone else Scroll to escape anxiety, then Regret it later? — I've been catching myself doing this way too often. The second my anxiety starts building, even a little, I grab my phone without thinking. I'll just scroll anything. Reddit,reels, random stuff I don…

Is there a timeline for dating again? — Hi everyone! So I’ve been separated from my husband for 6 months now and I’ve already filed for a divorce back in January. Anyway, a friend of mine and I have expressed interest in each other last mon…

Long read but super chaotic — I really need some input because it just got even more confusing. I’ve been dating a girl for 3 1/2 years we’ve been on and off the whole time. We probably had 100 break ups and throughout that time w…

Six years gone and feeling left behind — F(24) and my ex is M(25) I’m three months post-breakup from a six-year relationship that started in senior high and lasted through college. To be honest, it still feels surreal. We grew up together an…

How do you accept that you may never get that final conversation? — My ex dumped me a month and a half ago after two years together. Shes already with someone else. She gave me such mixed signals about how badly this break up hurt her but I guess that means nothing be…

I know it's a bad idea, but I want a rebound — I just wanna be held and told I'm beautiful and have someone excited to see me. I want to wake up with another warm body next to me. To cook dinner with someone. I promised myself that I would wait to…

Sex drive completely gone — I am really concerned. It has been over a year since I last had sex with my ex partner, and since then my sex drive has gone from relatively high ...to next to nothing....Previously, I would say it wa…

F17 I’m confused about my feelings for my best friend M16 after everything that happened — Hi Reddit, I need some advice. I’ve been going back and forth in my head for months and I’m really lost, so I’m just going to lay everything out. I’ve had a male best friend, let’s call him Apple, fo…

Was I just a rebound? — This is long af but I need to vent. My ex and I broke up after I had lied to her and hid something I owned it I’m not going to fault her for that. Immediately after the breakup she got on dating app…

My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex when we were exclusive — So me (f20) and my boyfriend (m22) have been together only one week, however we have been talking for 8 months and decided to be exclusive after 1 month of talking. He and I used to talk the summer be…

Anyones ex left them for a polar opposite?! — Has anyones ex left them for someone that's not only extremely different to you, but also very different to who they are/what they want/like? My ex rebounded very quickly with a woman who's just... no…

When she left you for another man — You‘ve been kind to her. You listened when she was venting. You built her up when she was down. You did everything to be the man she stays with. And yet, she still left you for another guy. Here’s w…

How to stop envisioning a future with somebody even though they are already in a new relationship? — TLDR; It's hard for me to accept the outcome when the relationship problems were minuscule and could've easily been worked on. Nearly everything about it felt right, fulfilling, safe, effortless. I do…

I (F28) am still in love with a married friend(M29) and Idk what to do? — I (F28) had a year-long friendship with a guy (M29) that wound up turning into a casual/fwb dynamic for 8 months after he broke up with his long-distance wife. We talked and saw each other damn near e…

Should I greet him? — It’s my ex-boyfriend’s birthday this coming April 28, and I want to greet him so badly and send him my thoughts and hundreds of letters that I wrote for him for almost every single day. Should I? It’…

How do I come to terms with my ex talking/dating someone new — It’s been a little over 2 months since she dumped me after 2 years. She started talking to him around a month ago and now from mutual friends they can’t stop talking to each other. It hurts so much kn…

I dumped her, we reconciled but she rebounded with someone else... what do I do? — Ive been dating this woman for 8 months. She’s 12 years younger than me, I’m 37M shes 25F. It started off as a casual/hook up but she wanted more as it prolonged so we eventually started dating. I do …

Guys who rebounded immediately after a break up where you genuinely happy? — If you were broken up with or broke up with your partner and immediately jumped into a rebound relationship did you ever think of your ex or were you genuinely happy with your new partner. Did the dev…

What’s happening! Unable to cope up with this — Previous post: I’m looking for honest outside perspective. My ex and I have been in no contact for 30 days. We officially dated for a short time, but we had been seeing each other for a few months be…

What’s happening! I am unable to cope up — Previous post: I’m looking for honest outside perspective. My ex and I have been in no contact for 30 days. We officially dated for a short time, but we had been seeing each other for a few months be…

Does it still count as a reboud if you were never in love with your ex? — I've been going through a messy break-up. My ex had a lot of control issues, and anxiety about me doing normal things, and about me leaving him. I've been realizing I don't think I ever was in love w…

Am I (24F) Self-Sabotaging Our Relationship If I Recently Brought Up I Was Hurt My Boyfriend (44M) Flew 6 Hours to See His Ex (31F) 5 Months Ago — I’m seeking nuanced opinions. Do judge me. This is my first relationship. I am Southeast Asian. He happens to be way older, nomad, and liberal American. Maybe we have different ideas of relationships.…

I want to learn how to cope and accept everything in order to be functional — I know I'm catastrophizing. I know I'm so young (17) and I know I have so much ahead of me but at the same time these feelings are all I am right now and they consume me sometimes. It gets so bad some…

A harsh warning about the Avoidant discard: If you sacrificed yourself to be their safety net, burn the bridge the second it ends. — ​I just spent 5 years with an avoidant partner. I spent years acting as their emotional shock absorber and caretaker through endless life crises. In the process of constantly walking on eggshells, lac…

I break 10days of No Contact — I’ve read a lot of stories about no contact, monkey branching, and rebound relationships. They always say that going no contact and not asking your ex for closure is the best way. As a human being,…

Ex doing so much better without me — This is going to be a mess of a post because I'm currently spiraling rn I've (20M) been spiraling ever since my relationship with her (20F) fell apart. It's been more than a month since we last talke…

The sweet girl I knew is gone — I cannot seem to accept that. She was genuinely the sweetest girl ever, I loved everything about her, I was so into her and she was so into me during those 3/4 of our relationship it was genuinely the…

Hey, to the women here who were the ones to end the relationship and quickly moved on to someone new. do you ever regret it or still think about the person you left behind? — For context, it’s been 10 months since my breakup. I initially asked for space, and she was fine with it. I asked for space because she seemed distant and cold that day, but I still saw signs that she…

broke up with my ex about a month or two ago, felt like sharing it — preamble: i had known this person for around 6 months beforehand, we went to school together and kind of just knew each other. let's call her Lica(not her real name). now, lica was very much obsesse…

Am I the original rebound — Somewhat simplified story: Was in a situationship for 4 months. It was great, felt like we were dating, felt like we developed a deep connection. She was the first person I’ve been intimate and clos…

Reddit, decide for me — Options: A) leave her B) get contracts in place and work together C) divorce but date afterwards D) sue the shit out of her We met when we were 8. I moved away. We were close to being together w…

Why goth girls? — Before any of you come at me, YES I made a mistake in checking my ex’s Instagram. I am weak and I couldn’t resist. Ofc I shouldn’t have looked, but now I have and the damage is done. Anyways, and as …

Was I her rebound? — For context, she had two exes before me and she was my first. When we first met (friends set us up), I didn’t really feel a connection, but I decided to give it a try anyway because I had been single…

Rebound — Has anyone been rebounded to and trying to move on? It’s not right for her ex and you want a relationship with her but she’s also not ready too but yet acts like you’re in one already without the labe…

The final move — She’s found someone it seems like a rebound they’ve been seeing each other for a while but reposts about our relationship. I’m choosing to finally move on for myself it’s been 3 months after a 2 year …

My ex is pregnant from her rebound. — So my ex left 6 months after our son was born. Rebounded/monkey branch straight away. There was so much chaos and damage. It was actually very traumatic. Anyway She’s now pregnant wasnt even 10 months…

I smoke cannabis frequently and have heard about a rem sleep rebound when people stop smoking .I was wondering if I stop for about a month and have this rem rebound where I have more dreams then usual…

Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …

Yup I agree, happened with me with this girl, 9 months in and we had a very small disagreement on a few things and just like that she left me and said "we're friends" and at the time I didn't even kno…

Yeah, I think it hurts extra hard when you considered them a friend and knew what they were capable of acting like and just chose not to at a certain point. I’m aware that I was likely a “rebound” or …

I'm a dismissive avoidant. I've never broken off a long-term relationship. And being alone is not challenging in the slightest. This isn't a universal DA thing I don't think. APs and FAs rebound faste…

The first example is so hard. I feel like there’s no kind way to be like “I’m not interested in that [getting together]”. I don’t usually ignore people if they reach out, but I’ve definitely forgettin…

There’s probably a reason for the deactivation, like a boundary of yours was crossed or you felt disrespected or you think the relationship is moving too quickly— something like that. Imo the most i…

Yes, I also have a therapist now and I am doing online course from Thais. My ex? Found new rebound same week and ready to repeat the cycle over and over again in the search for "the one". I hope one…

Your post is a month old with 251~ comments. my reply is probably going to go into the wind. I'm gay so I can't really comment on dating women but I also feel avoidants is super common in the dating p…

TLDR: Seeking advice re: Dismissive Avoidant 50F dumped my Anxious-leaning Secure self (53M) but posts her upcoming travel to our once-shared calendar.  ..... Yes, it was the classical Avoidant's int…

Not sure if I'm supposed to answer these here? They have, and I tend to shut it down. Had a recent experience where someone I work with referred to me as her "friend"; minutes later I referred to her…

That was refreshing. I would welcome some elaboration (if you feel inspired) on the stages of grief when it relates to post-discard (after a year after her move out, and the end of a rebound relations…

As a guy, I've heard this question a lot (maybe not from 80% of matches, but close to that, though never as a first question). And yes, I've been a person asking that question or using "what about you…

When i feel like saying it.. I wait a month or 2. Because emotions come and go. When its still there after a monthish... it usually just gets blurted out. Maybe your not like me but if I say it and …

Sounds like a manipulative selfish person who just wants to bang without responsibility. He is not that into you and might just be looking for a rebound. There is no future with him.

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OP's issue seems to be that she was dumped and hasn't accepted it because this guy is intentionally non-communicative. OP, you have a 0% chance of a serious relationship with this man. Your situation…

Me (late 20s male, mother passed last year and my boyfriend (26M, currently unemployed) have been together 2 years. We live together and share pets that he loves. He was my main support during my moth…

Some people don't know what it's like to not be single or alone and a relationship frankly turns into this weird codependency trap. It sounds like he rebounded but is insecure.

I met my now fiance when he was just separated from his wife for 2 months and the same for me with my then husband. We are still together. Our divorces finalized two days apart a year later. I don’t s…

Dude hasn’t healed that’s a rebound for him

Minimum one year after the divorce is finalized for any relationship. Dating someone who’s just separated is usually a disaster. I’ve seen nothing but horror stories. Too often people end up being th…

You should take the opportunity and break up with her and when she asks why you say something along the lines of “I want to be with someone that respects our relationship and confident in being togeth…

It could be as well he’s using rebounds to fighting the pain / void left

This isnt just men. My ex is doing it as well. She was pursuing another guy days after the breakup. It tends to be a form of distraction/rebound whether they wanna admit it or not. The worst part is …

I do agree my ex was definitely an avoidant as all of his past relationships have been rebounds (ours included) which shows his emotional maturity. Anyway it’s gonna be a long journey for both of us s…

I was dealing with texts at the start and some calls, during the divorce when seperated. The reason she is texting is to get a reaction from YOU and know YOU are thinking about her. Its hardly abo…

Sounds like you've learned firsthand that rebound relationships often lead to more heartache than healing.

Yeah this is how I feel about mine. After I guess toxic 2 1/2yrs He jumped into a new relationship after we ended it’s been 5 months they are still together, he has intergraded her into his family an…

Totally get that, a rebound situation is a whole other level of messy.

This is completely legitimate, don’t let people who don’t know your circumstances dictate to you what you should be doing. Before some major negative changes at my job, one of our best perks was wha…

It really hurts and I wish I could tell you how to take the pain away but genuinely the best thing to do is go through it. He is using this new person as a crutch to avoid his feelings, it’s a distrac…

Speaking from experience...hate to break it to you bro, but you messed up. Now that she knows you are orbiting her she can do as she please. Breaking no contact this early, you just confirmed to her s…

You now see your ex as not bad because of nostalgia goggles and you probably made every women after her “toxic” because you were trying to heal through rebound relationships and they picked up on bein…

Dating someone can be dangerous. You could end up there rebound as they readjust to being single. Because the thrill of something new for married people after so many years is like a drug for them, go…

Not the case at all. To be very clear, I don’t think my ex is “not bad.” Objectively, she put me through a lot of bs, she was very emotionally manipulative, she cheated emotionally in the aftermath …

I can understand how and why you'd feel this way. You gave her everything and she was cheating on you. Watch for her emotional rebound when it dawns on her what she's lost, and then the full-court p…

Doing that a week prior to the breakup is tough. It shows that she checked out before she broke the news to you. It has taken me a long time to accept that my last breakup is now dating and im sure sc…

Its hard. I was still "friends" with my ex after the breakup and I was like everyone else..hoping I can find a way back in her life but she told me she is seeing someone else and going over to his hou…

That’s honestly really not enough time to get over the person they’re divorcing. It’s just a rebound. I’m speaking from experience. I was in the process of divorce with my first ex wife and began anot…

Hate to break it to ya but most often when people start hooking up with someone a week after the BU, they lined someone up to hook up with /rebound with. This goes for both men and women. This al…

Hate to break it to ya but most often when people start hooking up with someone a week after the BU, they lined someone up to hook up with /rebound with. This goes for both men and women. This also m…

The answer to your question is simpler than you think. How do you stop? Unfortunately you just do. How do you stop smoking? You make the decision to quit and deal with the agony after. But the best wa…

Thanks for your insights. I guess it's hard not to settle when someone seems like a relief in many ways compared to your ex. I think my compatibility is higher with this guy but we do come from very d…

Becoz ur 8th and 9th house lord is sitting in the 9H(if wrong then welcome to make corrections). ur 7H lord is in 5H and 5H lord is in 7H which eases the trouble of having such a cosmic combination in…

Some people just go through it like that. I just got broken up with by the LOML and honestly, I can't wait for her to call of text me. She's a DA and we were definitely moving too fast that she took a…

He's coping your loss with a rebound. Avoidant much?

My ex reached out after 3 months to hookup …. That’s it. He didn’t want to get back together then called me a weeks later and we basically made plans to meet up in the summer even tho he had a rebound…

Jeez I’m sorry 🥺I didn’t end the relationship tho, he did. So your situation does make sense I’m sorry he put you through that my ex is back to NC and completely feel off the earth. He’s soooooo qu…

i'm rebounding, ingesting more protein (mostly salmon while i can afford it), walking outside a lot, taking HRT (my skin looks 20 years old!) and a sleep and anxiety med. i almost feel human enough to…