separated.

OP, she may be straight up married and looking for a partner to exit with-- i.e., the husband has no idea they're "separated." That's what I was already suspecting before I read this comment.

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TIL both my parents harmed me, and they were divorced and separated. They both blame the other or me. Lovely. They’re dead to me, lost causes.

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Separated. In some countries you have to wait for a year before the divorce can be finalised.

I'd be curious if they are actually separated.

I dated when I was 5 months separated. It was a complete deal breaker for some women. Other women were accepting of it after learning that I was the one who left. I said I was planning on it for a fe…

Having said that, I think dating a separated person really is upto you and how comfortable you are. If they are separated and 100% planning to go thru the divorce, I think it’s fine. It may get messy …

I’ll share thoughts from the perspective of someone who went through a divorce and dated during that time. There are three scenarios that seem particularly risky to me. (1) People who very recen…

Separation takes *time*. Just the fucking shock of it all. Then negotiation for the split. I spent nearly two years fully separated, but the filing only took like a month through and through once w…

I started dating my husband when he was separated. 6 years and a kid later and I have to say it's worked out great.

Those people weren’t bad at dating because they’re newly separated. They’re bad at dating because they’re bad at dating. There’s already enough genuine red flags to navigate while dating. No need to…

I'll be in a semi similar boat, just on the others side of the pond so to speak. We won't be legally divorced but we will be legally separated. That process has been going on for almost a year. alt…

It’s a bad idea. This is coming from someone who is currently separated (~6 months) and just dipped my toes back into the dating pool. There’s a high chance he’s emotionally unavailable after just lea…

I dated a married man and I was told they were separated. They are African and for cultural/religious reasons they will never divorce. This was not communicated to me. While I love and respect this pe…

Leave man. Guaranteed now that she’s “single”, she’s seeing this other guy. She already went behind your back when you said block him. She’s definitely going behind your back now that you guys are sep…

That’s still pretty fresh, she should be careful. I’m actually madly in love with a separated man, but it’s been 6 years that they’ve been separated. We’ve been together 10 months, he put a 8 carat ri…

None of this would be reasonable to put down to mental illness or substance abuse. Someone in psychosis or active addiction would be unable to maintain normality consistently in person and only slip w…

We aren’t divorcing. We’re legally separating. Expecting to stay that way for the long term. Right now we don’t live together but we are not yet “legally separated.” FWIW my husband rubbed his affa…

It depends on the laws in your state. For example, where I am in NC you can date someone once you’re legally separated. However, you cannot have sex. It’s still considered infidelity. So maybe delet…

Did he have a relationship before it ended? This is what my ex did. Built a relationship with someone behind my back. Im kinda jealous because she doesn't have to grieve like I do. A week after sh…

We are all On different squares in the game of Life. I said the same thing when I was getting separated. Never going to marry again. Had a very nice year focusing on me and my kids. For the first …

I think you need to look at the pros and cons of what it would be like if you separated. If you feel your life would be better in most aspects remaining married to her, then maybe try to find a way t…

He had a love marriage when he was 25-26 which lasted not even a year as the first wife started showing psychotic behaviour (seeing ghosts, dark energies whatsoever). Thankfully no kids in that marria…

This happened to me, too. I did almost everything in our household and made more money than him, too, and he rebelled against me. It manifested in keeping a bunch of secrets, lying to me, and going be…

I had a very similar experience when my partner and I separated. I thought I knew them, and I knew that fantasy better than I knew myself. When the fantasy broke, I was shattered and completely lost. …

I agree it needs to be normalized. I'm friends with my ex-husband's high school girlfriend. They stayed friends and she and I like the same music, so we'd go to concerts. She and I got even closer w…

3 months separated. The first 2 months felt amazing as I was finally pain-free. This last month has been heavy, I feel like crying at random times. He never was the type to call and check in on me, I …

He resents you. You need marriage counseling or be separated. Updateme

She's barely separated. She thinks she's ready for a new relatioship, then she has it and it scares the shit out of her. So like a deer in headlights, she runs. It's not you. She just found out that s…

*I'm not poly*. Where is all this hatred coming from? Were you hurt by a poly person? If you're monogamous, nobody who's poly wants to date YOU either.  Yes, some poly people misrepresent themselves…

I’m in a similar situation where the week we separated, he met someone online who had also just separated. They were blending lives a few months in with plans to meet the kids. She doesn’t really kn…

Mine got someone pregnant 5 months after we separated. Their baby was born 3 months after our divorce was finalized. He never told me and I found out from our 3 year old after she mentioned she had a …

Yup... My ex-wife immediately moved in with her new partner once we told the kids. We had been separated for a few months, but still lived together and hadn't told the kids... We had separated a few t…

My exwife changed her relationship status on Facebook to "In A Relationship" a week and a half BEFORE the divorce was finalized - with the guy that moved into the house 3 weeks after we separated...

A little over 8 months divorced, 12 months separated. I have an actual social life now. I have time for hobbies again. I'm easily in the best shape I've been in since high school. I'm a better parent…

There is a chance he will see this different once you're both in your home countries and he misses you. But that's a big if. What I would do for your own sanity. Break it off now. Protect your own fe…

As someone who was just separated and not fully divorced while dating, and met my current fiancee, who was also just separated and not yet divorced; I'm one of the bigger "cheerleaders" in this sub ab…

My husband and I met when I was on an internship in the US. When it ended I went back to the UK to finish college. We agreed to break up since neither wanted to do LD. However we kept talking and he …

I've gone to court and judge signed off on our agreement. We now need to wait 120 days for us to be legally divorced. I am not going to start thinking about dating until the 120 days are up. That is…

🙋‍♀️Not divorced yet, just separated. I knew about 2 months into dating him. I’m an idiot.

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I'm definitely jaded right now. 9 months separated. I really only have been interested in 2 women I met in 9 months, and they weren't interested in me. All other dates have been duds, probably 20 o…

I hate to be the one to deflate the mood, but sometimes they do remain together with the person they left us for. I'm a firm believer some treat us poorly because they could never fully idealize us. …

As much as I would like to have my ex back, I'd rather see her happy. We were happy together but not happy with who we had become because of the relationship. I also did some horrible things that aff…

Thank you for this post. Same age, same amount of years smoking, same thoughts and feelings about it. I totally relate. My throwaway account isn’t old enough to make a post, but this comment section f…

i want to make things work with him more than anything. ik the love is there…the fear for him is just bigger right now. nothing has felt right since the day we separated. i’d do anything to come back …

I’m dying over here. I’ve never been married but I do date a bit and I must’ve heard this “recently separated” cliché several dozen times to my face recently, not to mention it’s also on a lot of wome…

You weren’t clear - has she provided (do you want) full disclosure? Even with full disclosure (I don’t think anyone ever gets FULL, but..), it’s natural to be on edge, hyper-vigilant, suspicious of s…

Together for over a decade. i was over it within 3 months after i asked for divorce. Granted, i was being heavily abused and finally realized it with therapeutic help and lots of reading. I did alot o…